CPTSD Medicine Podcast (Dr. Tanner Wallace)

Eliminating Stress and Toxic Patterns in Marriages: A Personalized Approach

In this first episode of Season 2, Tanner provides tailored support for high-achieving women, helping them bridge the gap between professional success and personal fulfillment through a unique transformation journey. This journey includes building a supportive community where women can share experiences and gain clarity and wisdom in their relationships. Dr. Tanner Wallace's 19-week "Marriage is Hard" podcast series aims to empower women by providing educational insights and encouraging personal growth, leveraging past challenges as sources of motivation. This 19-week program focuses on eliminating stress and toxic patterns in marriages, offering customized learning activities for personal relationship enhancement.  Tanner emphasizes the importance of creating "love houses"—safe, fulfilling spaces within marriages—and encourage self-reflection and intentional growth for high-achieving women seeking healthier partnerships.

In today's fast-paced world, high-achieving women often find themselves excelling in their careers and personal pursuits, yet they may encounter challenges in achieving fulfillment within their intimate relationships. Tanner offers a unique perspective on this by providing tailored support that bridges the often-encountered gap between professional success and personal contentment. Her insights are shaped by the understanding that these women, despite their numerous accomplishments like choosing their partners, earning advanced degrees, and building successful careers, can still struggle in their personal lives. Tanner emphasizes that their high level of competence in professional settings should be mirrored in their personal relationships, and she aims to guide them through a transformation journey that harnesses past challenges as sources of motivation. By building a community of empowered women who embrace connection and intentional growth, Tanner hopes to foster environments where strong, loving relationships can thrive.

00:00:01 - High Achieving Women Support

Tanner highlights the exclusive support tailored for high achieving women, acknowledging their professional competence but recognizing the personal struggles they may face. The transformation journey she offers is a gifted and talented version of marriage support designed to bridge the gap between professional success and personal fulfillment. Through her understanding of the unique challenges high achieving women encounter, Tanner aims to guide them in building strong foundations personally while excelling professionally. By prioritizing high-level coaching and encouraging commitment to the journey, Tanner empowers these women to overcome past failures and struggles, using them as a source of wisdom and motivation for transformative growth.

00:00:45 - High Achieving Women Community

Tanner aims to build a community of empowered, high-achieving women who support each other through a transformation journey. Tanner emphasizes the importance of creating a Love House filled with love, connection, and belonging, highlighting the significance of well-being in one's primary partnership. This exclusive journey for high-achieving women focuses on moving from confusion to clarity, guided by Tanner's personalized approach tailored to individuals who excel professionally but struggle personally. Through relationship coaching, Tanner aims to help women achieve their desired love house life by leveraging past failures as a source of wisdom and motivation.

00:03:10 - Educational Series on Marriage

Dr. Tanner Wallace has launched the Marriage is Hard podcast platform as a 19-week educational series for high achieving women looking to improve their marriages. By sharing her personal experiences and educational background, Dr. Wallace aims to help women overcome relationship challenges and build fulfilling relationships. She encourages listeners to join the Instagram community @cptsdmedicine, follow the content, and subscribe to the podcast for weekly transformational episodes. Dr. Wallace's dedication to empowering women to prioritize their well-being and relationships highlights the importance of creating a supportive network to navigate the complexities of marriage.

00:15:52 - Transformation Journey

Tanner introduces a 19-week Transformation Journey program focused on eliminating the root causes of destructive stress and toxic fight patterns within marriages. The program offers scaffolded learning activities to provide participants with a customized knowledge base for daily application. Participants gain clarity and wisdom about their relationships, aiming to make informed decisions and improve their marriages. The program targets high-achieving individuals looking to transform their personal lives and create healthier partnerships.

00:22:27 - Intimate Relationship Coaching

Tanner highlights the importance of intimate relationship coaching for high achieving women, emphasizing the need to build Love Houses and connection in their marriages. She acknowledges the hard work these women have put in various aspects of their lives but points out that their intimate relationships may be the one area they struggle with. Tanner offers a transformation journey tailored specifically for high achieving women, providing them with the tools and support needed to navigate their relationships successfully. By committing to the 19-week journey, these women can gain clarity, wisdom, and ultimately, create the love-filled connections they desire.

00:40:01 - Preparation for Transformation Journey

Tanner emphasizes the importance of preparations and slowing down to create space and time for embracing the transformation journey. In episode two of the podcast, Tanner encourages listeners to engage in self-reflection and journaling. Listeners are instructed to document their journey through colors and selfies, while also starting a journal to explore confusion within their marriages. By providing prompts and guidance, Tanner sets the stage for a transformative experience, highlighting the value of introspection and personal growth in building fulfilling relationships and well-being. Participants are urged to invest in themselves and their journey towards clarity and wisdom in their marriages.

Actionable Take Aways:

Prioritize high-level coaching for personal and professional growth

- Encourage commitment to the transformation journey

- Leverage past failures as a source of wisdom and motivation

- Create a supportive network to navigate the complexities of marriage

- Engage in self-reflection and journaling for personal growth

- Invest in the journey towards clarity and wisdom in relationships

What is the dynamic between protective and wounded Parts in trauma survivors?

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a therapeutic model that explores the interplay between various "parts" or sub-personalities within an individual, aiming to foster self-awareness and healing. Tanner, a trauma survivor who transitioned from academia to coaching, offers a unique perspective on IFS, shaped by her personal journey and professional development through Level 1 IFS training. She views IFS as crucial for understanding the protective and wounded Parts that trauma survivors develop, which can lead to seemingly inconsistent behaviors. Tanner emphasizes the significance of recognizing and working with these parts to achieve emotional relief and self-discovery, particularly highlighting the role of the Self-like part in connecting to one's core self for deeper healing in complex trauma recovery.

Key TakeAways

- Tanner's professional growth and personal healing journey led to a newfound sense of liberation and authenticity in her professional life.

- Trauma survivors develop protective parts of their personality to safeguard wounded younger parts of themselves, resulting in different behaviors and survival strategies.

- Reparenting Protective Parts is crucial to accessing one's True Self beyond trauma distortions and survival codes.

- Complex Trauma survivors can benefit from recognizing Protective Parts and connecting with a true Self-like part for healing.

- Tanner highlights the importance of building a knowledge base on trauma healing, emphasizing the journey of healing as transformative rather than waiting for complete healing to start living fully.

Actionable Insights

- Understand the interplay between protective and wounded parts for healing and self-awareness

- Reparent protective parts to access true self beyond trauma distortions

- Recognize and connect with self-like parts for transformative healing in trauma survivors

- Build a knowledge base on trauma healing to create an effective recovery strategy

- Start the healing journey to transform lives, rather than waiting for full healing

What is the role of energy work in CPTSD Recovery?

Energetic stewardship plays a pivotal role in the recovery from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), offering a pathway to healing by focusing on the management and alignment of personal energies. This approach involves key recovery tasks such as unblending, unburdening, integrating, and embodying, which are essential for sustainable healing and achieving a harmonious life. Tanner, who has a background in educational research, emphasizes the significance of energetic stewardship in conjunction with Parts Work to address the manifestations of CPTSD in everyday life. She advocates for a structured framework that guides individuals through their recovery journey, highlighting the importance of clarity and progress assessment. For Tanner, unblending is a crucial early step that allows individuals to differentiate their true self from protective parts and trauma responses, leading to a deeper understanding and stewardship of one's energetic signatures.

Key TakeAways

- Energy work plays a crucial role in CPTSD recovery by unblending self-energy from protective parts and legacy burdens.

- Financial stewardship involves identifying energy leaks, releasing fear-based frequencies, and aligning actions with self-love for efficient management.

- Aligned Action entails making decisions in alignment with Self Energy to avoid unnecessary repairs and unwinding in the future.

- Recognizing one's natural gifts and abilities helps in selecting a calling that aligns effortlessly, leading to a harmonious and fulfilling life.

- Integration in CPTSD recovery involves moving towards a holistic approach that prepares the system for further growth and healing.

Actionable Insights

- Recognize and address Protective Parts, legacy burdens, and wounded younger Parts in CPTSD Recovery

- Identify and release fear-based frequencies in financial management for better stewardship

- Take actions aligned with Self Energy to avoid rumination and wasted time

- Recognize and leverage natural gifts and abilities in selecting a fulfilling calling

- Integrate holistic approaches in CPTSD Recovery for sustainable healing

Quotes:

“[My] purpose [and] mission, at this point in time, is to create an efficient, effective, holistic, CPTSD Recovery curriculum that you can drop into for two or so years and arrive out on the other side ready to live the life of your dreams.” — Tanner  [0:02:30]

“If we want to recover from something as complex and multidimensional as CPTSD, we need frameworks.” — Tanner [0:04:15]

“In my personal opinion, CPTSD Recovery hasn’t even started until you’ve experienced Unblending.” — Tanner [0:07:17]

“[Unburdening work] is so sacred. And this work is so profound, I know that there is something larger than the human experience at play.” — Tanner  [0:14:56]

“Fear. When we are making decisions out of fear and not love, it is always something that is going to need to be unwound or undone in the future. When we are showing up in love everything just unfolds.” — Tanner  [0:30:25] 

“Just because I’m gifted at something doesn’t mean I answer the call. I answer the call because I want to.” — Tanner  [0:33:14]

How can resistance be viewed as an opportunity for growth in trauma recovery?

The journey toward resolving complex PTSD (CPTSD) is a transformative and deeply personal endeavor that requires resilience, commitment, and a willingness to confront the messy and non-linear nature of trauma recovery. Tanner, drawing from her own experiences and insights, emphasizes the critical importance of not allowing past inefficiencies and failures to deter ongoing investment in one's healing journey. She acknowledges the inevitable resistance and challenges encountered along the way, advocating for persistent effort and dedication to break free from the cycle of intergenerational trauma. Tanner posits that individuals who successfully navigate the complexities of healing from CPTSD not only undergo profound personal transformation but also contribute significantly to the broader evolution of humanity, as their journey cultivates essential leadership capacities rooted in understanding, growth, and empowerment.

Key TakeAways

- Creating spaces for trauma healing is essential for individuals to feel understood and supported on their healing journey.

- Healing from complex trauma involves messy and non-linear progress, emphasizing the importance of resilience and learning from past inefficiencies.

- Personal commitment to healing and self-worthiness are foundational steps towards addressing complex trauma.

- Resistance in trauma healing is an opportunity for deeper exploration of underlying fears and concerns.

- Shifting towards embodied confidence through internal exploration and action helps individuals cultivate courage and self-leadership.

Actionable Insights

- Create spaces for trauma healing by sharing personal experiences and struggles with trauma

- View inefficiencies and resistance encountered in trauma healing as necessary components of the transformative journey

- Explore underlying fears and concerns when facing resistance in the healing process

- Shift from a fear-based perspective to embodied confidence through internal exploration practices

- Embrace resistance as a treasure that propels individuals towards growth and productivity

Why is it important to identify Protective Part frequencies for personal empowerment in complex trauma recovery?

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) is a multifaceted condition that encompasses a range of symptom categories, often stemming from prolonged exposure to traumatic experiences. These symptoms can include a pervasive loss of meaning, feelings of betrayal, and the presence of protective parts that obstruct personal growth. Tanner, in season eight of this podcast, offers a fresh perspective on CPTSD symptom categories, arguing that they fail to encapsulate the true complexity of the condition. Tanner's approach is deeply influenced by her belief in the transformative power of spiritual and soul-level healing, emphasizing the necessity of Unburdening oneself from external energies to amplify Self Energy. She advocates for a restorative reframing of thoughts as a pathway to personal empowerment and Self Leadership, viewing this as a crucial step in overcoming the challenges posed by complex trauma.

Key TakeAways

- Understanding and addressing the loss of a meaning system is crucial in CPTSD recovery

- Reframing thoughts is essential for restoring access to self-energy and personal power in complex trauma recovery

- Identifying Protective Part frequencies is key to Unburdening non-native energy and enhancing Self Energy

- Shadowy Protective Parts play a significant role in personal growth and trauma recovery

- Love-based frequencies and self-energy are important in healing trauma without external validation

- Affirmations are powerful tools for connecting with oneself and promoting healing in a collective community

Actionable Insights

- Address the loss of a meaning system experienced by individuals with CPTSD

- Reframe thoughts in CPTSD recovery for restoring self-energy

- Identify and address Protective Part frequencies for personal empowerment

- Recognize shadowy Protective Parts to navigate trauma recovery

- Use love-based frequencies to heal trauma and increase self-energy

- Discover and connect with affirmations that deeply resonate for healing

Quotes:

“The idea that the Protective Parts of us don’t have a meaning system is wildly inaccurate. In fact, they have developed a very well-articulated, well-versed meaning system around [the idea that] ’something is wrong with the human I inhabit.’” — Tanner  [0:03:02]

“The one task you have in recovery from complex trauma is to unburden your system of all non-native energy such that you can amplify your self-energy, which allows you to be in a place of personal power and self-leadership to make all the decisions in your life.” — Tanner  [0:12:02]

“We’re not flawed. We’re not broken. We’re running about 18 different energies [depending on what] time of day it is and whoever is in our relational field. Cleaning this up is a matter of amplifying self-energy.” — Tanner  [0:28:56]

“Love is what transmutes trauma. Love heals trauma.” — Tanner  [0:32:46]

What role does self-compassion play in healing from trauma?

Softness plays a crucial role in the healing journey from complex trauma, offering a path to self-compassion and profound internal transformation. According to Tanner, softness is vital in trauma healing as it signifies a release from trauma-induced responses, allowing individuals to connect with their true selves. Drawing from her experiences, Tanner underscores the significance of embracing softness and vulnerability, viewing it as an act of immense strength and courage. She points out the challenges of shifting from aggressive power dynamics, often learned in childhood, to fostering gentler, more compassionate relationships both with oneself and others. Through this approach, Tanner advocates for the importance of letting go of protective mechanisms to cultivate a nurturing environment for healing.

Key TakeAways

- Softness and self-compassion are essential in trauma healing journeys

- Protective Parts can hinder access to one's true self and prevent the experience of softness

- Recognizing and befriending protective parts is crucial for healing and rediscovering one's true self

- Cultivating self-compassion and opening up to safe individuals play a crucial role in healing from trauma

- Exploring protective parts in the parts work journey helps navigate our internal system and cultivate resilience

Actionable Insights

- Practice self-compassion and softness in trauma healing journeys

- Recognize and unblend with Protective Parts to access True Self

- Cultivate a sense of softness and vulnerability for healing

- Open up to safe supporters for care, love, and guidance

- Explore and befriend Protective Parts for inner healing

Why is it important to align with the right frequency and potency in healing?

The concept of the 5 ircuits of Healing Power offers a structured approach to addressing and healing trauma, particularly complex trauma that involves deep-seated attachment and ancestral wounds. Tanner approaches this framework as a flexible model that adapts to individual experiences and outcomes, underscoring the necessity for personal refinement in defining and navigating each Circuit. Her perspective is shaped by a deep commitment to healing, influenced by the positive transformations he has witnessed in others. As Tanner progresses through these Circuits, her focus has shifted towards a more grounded and integrated form of healing, particularly emphasizing ancestral healing and the purification of Self Energy in Circuit 5. This evolution marks his journey from an initial state of celebration to a more profound, rooted approach to achieving wholeness and support for trauma survivors.

Key TakeAways

- Aligning with the right frequency and potency in healing is crucial for rapid progress.

- Connecting with others doing similar work can be transformative and supportive in healing.

- The Circuits program focuses on deepening integration and ancestral healing.

- Tanner emphasizes the importance of addressing attachment wounds, gaslighting wounds, and ancestral healing through the Circuits.

Actionable Insights

- Align with the right frequency and potency for rapid progress in healing

- Connect with others doing similar work to support growth and healing

- Address attachment wounds, gaslighting wounds, and ancestral healing through the Circuits

- Strive to enhance and deepen understanding of healing practices through continuous refinement

What is the impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships?

Tanner discusses the profound impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships, particularly emphasizing the need to regulate one's nervous system to avoid perpetuating trauma. She refers to Pete Walker's book, which outlines how trauma history can dictate survival strategies and defensive styles, such as Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn, ultimately affecting relationship dynamics and well-being. Tanner stresses the significance of self-awareness and coping mechanisms to escape dysfunctional attachment, advocating for practices that increase emotional tolerance and facilitate mindful responses. She highlights the importance of acknowledging and processing emotions physically within the body, which can lead to greater self-awareness and emotional regulation. Journaling is recommended as a powerful tool for exploring emotional responses, fostering emotional healing, and expanding one's tolerance for intense emotions, especially for those with a traumatic past.

Key TakeAways

- Childhood trauma can significantly impact adult relationships and development, shaping coping mechanisms and responses to stress.

- Survival strategies and defensive styles develop over time based on trauma experiences, leading to maladaptive responses.

- Being aware of emotional state and learning to feel strong emotions without becoming overwhelmed is crucial for emotional healing.

- Witnessing emotions in the body helps in understanding and addressing negative feelings such as sadness, anger, and fear.

- Journaling emotions is a foundational skill for individuals with a history of childhood trauma to expand their window of tolerance and handle intense emotions.

Actionable Insights

- Regulate your nervous system to prevent perpetuating trauma in relationships

- Increase your window of tolerance and practice emotional awareness to navigate intense emotions in relationships

- Recognize and address defensive styles developed from childhood trauma to break maladaptive responses in relationships

- Create a space between triggers and reactions to choose more mindful responses in relationships

- Journal emotions to cultivate awareness, understand physical sensations, and build skills for emotional healing

00:08:17 - Trauma's Impact on Relationships

Tanner talks about how childhood trauma can significantly affect adult relationships, emphasizing the importance of regulating one's nervous system to prevent perpetuating trauma. She references Pete Walker's book, which explores how trauma history can shape survival strategies and defensive styles, impacting interactions in relationships. Tanner emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and coping mechanisms to break the cycle of dysfunctional attachment and dysregulation, particularly in parenting. By increasing one's window of tolerance and practicing emotional awareness, individuals can navigate intense emotions and make productive decisions in relationships.

00:10:53 - Defensive Styles

Survival strategies and defensive styles develop over time based on trauma experiences, leading to maladaptive responses. Childhood trauma can significantly impact adult relationships and development, shaping coping mechanisms and responses to stress. Pete Walker's book delves into the four basic survival strategies and defensive styles that individuals may adopt in response to trauma, such as Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn. These styles can become ingrained as part of one's personality, impacting relationships and overall well-being. It is important to recognize these defensive styles and implement tools to regulate emotions and break the cycle of maladaptive responses.

00:15:06 - Emotional Responses Lasting 90 Seconds

Tanner explains that initial emotional responses typically last around 90 seconds, but can be prolonged by rumination or adding secondary stories. She emphasizes the importance of being aware of one's emotional state and learning to feel strong emotions without becoming overwhelmed. By creating a space between a trigger and a reaction, individuals can choose a more mindful response, breaking habitual patterns. Tanner suggests journaling to explore physical sensations of emotions and any attached stories, as a way to cultivate awareness and build skills for emotional healing.

00:22:15 - Witnessing Emotions in the Body

Witnessing emotions in the body is crucial for understanding and addressing negative feelings such as sadness, anger, and fear. These emotions manifest physically in the body, with sadness feeling heavy, anger igniting in the belly and rising up through the throat, and fear often causing butterflies in the chest or belly. By being present with these emotions without trying to fix them, individuals can identify patterns and connections, leading to greater self-awareness and emotional regulation. These insights emphasize the importance of recognizing and processing emotions in the body to navigate challenging experiences and foster personal growth.

00:33:09 - Journaling Emotions

Tanner emphasizes the importance of journaling emotions by writing down physical sensations, spin-off responses, and stories about emotional responses observed in the body as foundational skills for transformation. These practices are crucial for individuals with a history of childhood trauma, as they help in expanding one's window of tolerance to handle intense emotions. By being present with the body and understanding emotional responses, individuals can gain clarity on how to respond productively in challenging moments. Tanner emphasizes that while journaling emotions is not a standalone solution for transformation, it serves as a fundamental skill that can pave the way for healing and growth.

How can personal responsibility and commitment aid in the transformation journey?

Tanner discusses strategies for high-achieving women to gain clarity and make informed decisions in life and relationships. She introduces a data-based framework that emphasizes experiential learning to build strong partnerships and overcome past traumas, while highlighting the importance of surrounding oneself with safe, trustworthy individuals. Tanner stresses the significance of personal responsibility and commitment in the transformation journey, advocating for self-care and empowerment to achieve stable relationships and a fulfilling life. Tanner also emphasizes accountability, urging individuals to engage in activities like journaling and forming support networks to aid personal growth. Additionally, she provides insights on selecting the right therapist, especially for those dealing with childhood betrayal trauma, emphasizing the need for specialized knowledge and secure emotional experiences.

The therapeutic relationship is a crucial component in the journey of healing and personal transformation, serving as a foundation for individuals to explore, understand, and overcome their challenges. Tanner, drawing from his own less-than-ideal experiences with therapists, underscores the importance of cultivating a strong therapeutic bond characterized by empathy, emotional attunement, and open communication. He advocates for individuals to take an active role in selecting a therapist who can provide corrective emotional experiences and act as a secure attachment figure, which is vital for recovery and well-being. Tanner also emphasizes the importance of thorough research and personal accountability in the therapeutic process, encouraging people to prioritize safe and trusting relationships that facilitate healing and transformation.

Key TakeAways

- Taking ownership of one's learning process is crucial for success on a transformation journey.

- Building a customized actionable knowledge base about improving partnerships is essential.

- Partnering with safe individuals is important for building a successful and fulfilling life.

- Self-care and empowerment play a significant role in the healing and transformation journey.

- Accountability and personal responsibility are key in the transformation process.

- Completing homework assignments aids personal growth and transformation.

- Finding a therapist specializing in childhood betrayal trauma is crucial for proper treatment.

Actionable Insights

- Take ownership of your learning process to succeed in your transformation journey

- Build a circle of safe, healthy, validating, and trustworthy individuals for wise decisions and fulfillment

- Commit to consistency, perseverance, and self-care in your healing and transformation journey

- Completing homework assignments aids personal growth and transformation

- Find a therapist specializing in childhood betrayal trauma for safe and secure emotional experiences

- Choose a therapist based on specialty, training, licensing, fees, insurance, empathy, and personal therapy experience

- Engage in evidence-based therapeutic practices and take ownership of your therapeutic journey

00:01:51 - Transformation Journey Methodology

Tanner shares a data-based methodology to help high-achieving women gain clarity, make wise decisions about marriages, and build a fulfilling life. Through her experience with two marriages, she emphasizes the importance of taking ownership of one's learning process to succeed on a transformation journey. She teaches a holistic data-based methodology that equips individuals with a repeatable framework to build a customized actionable knowledge base about improving partnerships. By emphasizing experiential learning and hands-on activities, Tanner aims to guide women towards building a fulfilling life through clarity and wisdom gained from overcoming past traumas and making informed decisions.

00:06:55 - Safe Partnerships

Tanner emphasizes the importance of partnering with safe individuals, especially for those who have experienced childhood betrayal trauma, in building a successful and fulfilling life. Safe people do not manipulate with negative emotions, do not abandon you during challenges, ask open-ended questions, and prioritize understanding your experiences. Building a circle of safe, healthy, validating, and trustworthy individuals is crucial for making wise decisions and achieving fulfillment.

00:14:01 - Self-care and Empowerment

Tanner emphasizes self-care and empowerment in the journey of healing and transformation, emphasizing the importance of taking ownership of one's healing process. By committing to consistency and perseverance, individuals can strive for stable relationships and a sense of purpose. Tanner suggests creating a "Safe Peeps committee," being mindful of emotions, and investing time and energy into actions for personal growth and clarity. Taking charge of the learning process and actively seeking healing can empower individuals to make informed decisions and achieve transformation.

00:20:41 - Accountability and Doing the Work

Tanner emphasizes the importance of accountability and personal responsibility in the transformation journey. Individuals must commit to doing the work independently to achieve clarity and wisdom. Engaging in homework assignments fosters personal growth and understanding. Tanner encourages her audience to take ownership of their goals and challenges them to show up and do the work, highlighting the significance of self-initiated learning and understanding in the transformation process. By creating a private accountability group and offering additional support, Tanner aims to guide individuals towards healing and empowerment, emphasizing that true transformation requires personal commitment and effort.

00:24:44 - Homework Assignments for Transformation

Tanner emphasizes the significance of completing homework assignments to aid personal growth and transformation, such as journaling, photo documentation, forming a safe peeps committee, and improving emotional awareness. These tasks help with self-reflection, expressing internal changes, establishing a support network, and understanding emotional reactions. By actively participating in these assignments, individuals can achieve clarity, make informed choices, and ultimately improve their lives. Tanner's dedication to offering guidance and support highlights the importance of taking responsibility for one's path to healing and growth.

00:29:37 - Therapist Selection Criteria

Tanner provides recommendations on finding a therapist specializing in childhood betrayal trauma and emphasizes the importance of therapists offering safe, secure emotional experiences. She highlights the significance of selecting a therapist with expertise in this area, as it requires specific knowledge for proper treatment. Tanner also stresses the need for therapists to provide corrective emotional experiences and serve as secure attachments for individuals seeking healing from past traumas. By outlining evidence-based therapeutic practices that are likely to be helpful for those with childhood betrayal trauma, Tanner offers valuable insights for individuals in need of therapy.

00:35:15 - Choosing a Therapist

Tanner emphasizes the importance of choosing a therapist based on factors like specialty, training, licensing, fees, insurance, empathy, and personal therapy experience. She shares negative therapy experiences to highlight the importance of finding a therapist who is emotionally attuned, willing to engage in conversation, and capable of modeling vulnerability. Tanner also discusses evidence-based therapeutic practices for individuals with childhood betrayal trauma, encouraging thorough research before making a decision. Ultimately, he stresses the need for individuals to take ownership of their therapeutic journey and choose a therapist that best fits their healing process.

Why does Tanner emphasize individual healing before making relationship decisions?

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) recovery frameworks are essential tools for those navigating the intricate and often tumultuous path of healing from deep-seated trauma. Tanner Wallace, a leader in this field, has crafted unique recovery frameworks utilizing parts work and Internal Family Systems as foundational practices to facilitate transformative healing experiences. Drawing from her background in social research, Tanner's approach underscores the messy and nonlinear journey of recovery, advocating for individual unburdening and integration as critical steps. She critiques mainstream relational advice for inadequately addressing CPTSD's impact on relationships, reflecting on her own challenges with publicly navigating recovery and marriage. Tanner emphasizes the need for personal healing before making relational commitments and promotes shared responsibility and dedication in partnerships, challenging traditional narratives that label one partner as the "problem."

Key TakeAways

- CPTSD Medicine focuses on developing frameworks, modules, and curriculums to help humans permanently heal from CPTSD using parts work as a foundational practice.

- Tanner emphasizes the importance of embracing a messy, nonlinear healing process while highlighting the significance of individual and relational healing in the recovery journey.

- Tanner reflects on their healing journey within her marriage, acknowledging the challenges of navigating healing publicly and guiding others.

- Tanner discusses the challenges of navigating CPTSD recovery within a relationship, emphasizing the importance of individual healing before making collective decisions.

- Tanner stresses the importance of being dedicated, showing up for the work, and making clear decisions regarding the future of a relationship based on groundedness and courage.

Actionable Insights

- Embrace the messy and non-linear nature of healing from CPTSD

- Prioritize individual healing before making collective decisions in relationships

- Recognize that both partners co-create relationship issues and are responsible for solving them

- Invest time, dedication, and effort in relationships for deeper connections and clarity

- Make decisions in relationships based on groundedness and courage

Quotes:

“The sexual stuff, the sexual connection, the intimacy is simply a symptom of much deeper stuff that’s happening underneath.” — Tanner  [0:10:54]

“In my healing, I now understand CPTSD [and] healing it doesn’t make logical sense. You just gotta run with what’s happening. You’ve got to lean into the flow.” — Tanner [0:13:13]

“What’s so powerful about the ‘It’s ending’ or ‘I’m staying’ decision is it’s squeaky clean and it ends the ambiguity.” — Tanner  [0:16:58]

“You cannot arrive at the final result — that squeaky clean ‘yes, no’, when you have an exit door wide open; that you’re in.” — Tanner [0:20:29]

Why is daily commitment and accountability essential for emotional healing?

Emotional liberation and trauma healing are vital processes that allow individuals to break free from the chains of past pain and manipulation, reclaiming their narratives and empowering themselves to lead authentic lives. Tanner, an advocate for these processes, believes in the transformative power of confronting and sharing one's story as a means to reclaim and rewrite narratives marred by childhood trauma. Tanner’s perspective is shaped by an understanding of the profound impact psychological abuse can have on a person’s perception of reality and truth, often leaving them grappling with fear and voicelessness. She emphasizes the critical role of community support and the daily commitment required in the journey towards emotional freedom, advocating for a collective effort to overcome past abuses and step into one’s truth without fear or shame.

Key TakeAways

- Having a safe person for validation and support is essential in recovery.

- Community support is crucial in reclaiming one's story and achieving emotional liberation.

- Childhood trauma can lead to fear, voicelessness, and struggle to speak one's truth.

- Daily commitment and accountability are important for emotional healing and growth.

Actionable Insights

- Have a safe person by your side during recovery for support and validation

- Reclaim and rewrite your story from past trauma with community support

- Assess the cost-benefit of speaking your truth for emotional liberation

- Commit to daily accountability in emotional healing and growth within the community

Why does treating complex trauma require a longer and more in-depth approach?

Dr. Frank Anderson is a psychiatrist and psychotherapist renowned for his innovative approach to trauma treatment, emphasizing the healing power of love and source energy. As an advocate for the efficient and effective treatment of complex trauma, he integrates personal experiences with his professional practice, believing in the transformative cycle where trauma blocks love and love heals trauma. Anderson has contributed significantly to the expansion of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, tailoring it to address the nuanced challenges of trauma. His work is characterized by a deep spiritual perspective, viewing himself as a conduit for healing messages, and he is committed to helping individuals unblock their source energy to facilitate healing.

Finding therapists who specialize in complex trauma is notably difficult, as Tanner highlights the scarcity of professionals adept at managing such intricate cases. Frank Anderson stresses the need for more therapists trained in this area, emphasizing that treating complex trauma requires a more profound and prolonged approach than traditional therapy. The interplay between trauma and love is pivotal; while trauma can block love and sever connections, love has the potential to heal, reconnecting individuals to themselves and others. Anderson explores the dynamics of attraction and relationships in the healing process, noting that true healing emerges from within, necessitating self-responsibility and internal work. He also underscores the importance of understanding the neurobiology of PTSD, destigmatizing dissociative identity disorder, and promoting a collective healing approach where survivors unite to share their experiences and support one another.

Key TakeAways

- Finding therapists who specialize in complex trauma is challenging due to the scarcity of professionals available for specialized care.

- Trauma blocks love, but love has the power to heal trauma and reconnect individuals to themselves and others.

- Attraction can be a way to heal wounds through relationships, as individuals are often drawn to those with similar wounds for mutual healing.

- Healing traumatic wounds involves self-responsibility and self-connection, emphasizing that true healing comes from within.

- Understanding the neurobiology of CPTSD and the collaborative process of medication management are crucial aspects of the healing journey for trauma survivors.

- Individuals with dissociative identity disorder have typically experienced severe trauma, resulting in the development of self-like parts as a coping mechanism.

- Survivors uniting to share experiences and support each other is crucial for empowerment and fostering a sense of community among those who have experienced trauma.

Actionable Insights

- Find therapists who specialize in complex trauma for specialized treatment

- Understand that treating complex trauma requires a longer and more in-depth approach

- Recognize the healing power of love in overcoming trauma and reconnecting with oneself and others

- Take responsibility for your own healing and self-connection

- Embrace the presence of different parts within oneself as a coping mechanism

- Understand the neurobiology of PTSD and collaborate on medication management

- Unite with other survivors to share experiences and support each other in the healing journey

What is the significance of unburdening trauma energies in CPTSD resolution?

The CPTSD Medicine Podcast serves as a valuable resource for those on the journey to recover from complex PTSD, focusing on the transformative power of commitment and personal evolution in healing. Tanner passionately advocates for making CPTSD Medicine a top priority, urging listeners to fully engage with the podcast and its community to transition from novices to experts in the field. Drawing from their own experiences, Tanner acknowledges the challenges of creating the podcast but eagerly anticipates reconnecting with the audience each season, highlighting the podcast's transformative potential and its role in ongoing personal and community growth. Their insights underscore the importance of patience and dedication, fostering a supportive environment where listeners can achieve long-term healing and self-discovery.

Key TakeAways

- Unburdening trauma energies is key to CPTSD resolution, bringing new perspectives, personal empowerment, and alignment with our true self.

- Individuals evolve and gain a deeper understanding of reality by unburdening themselves from past traumas and conditioning.

- Trusting oneself in CPTSD recovery involves recognizing doubts and uncertainties, softening internally, and taking leadership in decision-making and investments.

Actionable Insights

- Unburden trauma energies to resolve CPTSD

- Develop a unique language for trauma resolution

- Trust oneself in CPTSD recovery by taking leadership in decision-making

- Commit to a long-term dedicated healing journey

- Embrace community engagement for transformative healing

Quotes:

“The origin of shame [is] that a part of you or an entity within you thinks that the bad event or the uncomfortable emotion is happening because something is morally incorrect about you.” — Tanner  [06:21]

“It’s not that we are becoming a different human, instead we are accessing who we were meant to be without all the trauma and conditioning. It’s not a becoming process, it’s a restoring process.” —  Tanner[11:41]

“Without awareness, without evolution, without transformation, there are no lessons.” — Tanner [13:13]

“It can’t be a mistake if we learned something.” — Tanner [17:16]

“When we start to release shame around lessons, we are more able to access a deeper intuition.” — Tanner [18:16]

How can complex trauma impact individuals?

Childhood trauma can have profound and lasting effects on individuals, often manifesting in complex ways that impact emotional and psychological well-being. Tanner sheds light on the often-overlooked intergenerational trauma hidden within seemingly successful families, where unresolved toxic dynamics and inadequate caregiving create cycles of emotional distress. With a focus on the subtle yet damaging forms of trauma, Tanner emphasizes the significance of recognizing emotional abuse and the lack of emotional processing that can occur even in high-functioning families. Her perspective is shaped by the understanding that these deep-seated issues contribute to struggles with intimacy and Self-worth, advocating for the crucial need to address and break these cycles to foster healthier family dynamics and promote emotional intelligence in parenting.

Key TakeAways

- Intergenerational trauma can be passed down through generations and manifest in families with degrees, wealth, and other external indicators of success.

- Complex trauma can lead individuals to unknowingly perpetuate intergenerational trauma, impacting their coping skills and ability to break free from harmful cycles.

- Inappropriate parenting behaviors such as neglect and emotional abuse can result in serious developmental challenges and emotional distress in children.

- Children growing up in dysfunctional households may internalize blame for their family's issues, leading to a distorted self-concept rooted in trauma.

- Parents who fail to reduce the gap between their children's coping skills and the stress of the environment risk contributing to complex trauma, perpetuating a cycle of suffering until intervention occurs.

Actionable Insights

- Recognize and address intergenerational trauma in all types of families

- Focus on emotionally intelligent parenting to help children develop resilience

- Understand and address traumatizing family dynamics for proper coverage and support

- Minimize the gap between children's coping skills and environmental stress to prevent complex trauma

- Intervene to break the cycle of trauma and suffering in families

What is the importance of stepping outside the trauma ecosystem for healing?

The process of Attachment Restoration is an intricate journey that involves addressing the complex interplay of emotions, especially for those who have endured childhood trauma. Tanner offers a compelling perspective on this process, underscoring the critical roles of accountability and resilience in cultivating lasting change. Drawing from her own extensive investment in personal healing, she highlights the necessity of engaging deeply with one's inner work and the transformative potential it holds. Tanner advocates for a holistic approach, integrating various therapeutic modalities and life experiences, to ensure a comprehensive healing process. He passionately encourages individuals to embrace honesty, self-reflection, and community support, emphasizing the importance of these elements in achieving true transformation and restoring secure attachments.

Key TakeAways

- Trauma ecosystems can hinder healthy attachments and true healing by perpetuating negative feelings and narratives rooted in survival mode parenting.

- Relational healing is essential for trauma recovery, attachment restoration, and creating secure attachments with non-traumatized individuals.

- Stepping outside the trauma ecosystem, facing fears, and engaging in relational healing are crucial for lasting transformation and recovery from complex trauma.

- A trauma recovery paradigm that includes transformative coaching and attachment restoration offers the promise of rebirth and permanent healing.

- Survival mode driven by trauma distortions can prevent true healing and attachment restoration, requiring guidance and support to overcome.

- Negative childhood experiences can lead to trauma ecosystems that impact adult relationships, perpetuating reactive behaviors and fear of abandonment.

- Shifting from survival mode to focusing on recovery, restoration, and setting boundaries is key to transformative healing and achieving attachment restoration.

Actionable Insights

- Invest in therapy, workshops, and self-care practices for trauma recovery

- Step outside the trauma ecosystem to address root causes of trauma

- Face fears and risks associated with trauma recovery for permanent healing

- Create stable attachments with non-traumatized individuals through relational healing

- Invest time, resources, and commitment in a holistic framework for healing

- Extricate oneself from trauma ecosystem to break cycle of trauma in adult relationships

- Shift focus from survival mode to recovery and restoration by reducing behaviors that maintain survival mode

What are the key steps towards living a limitless life according to Tanner?

The journey of trauma recovery is a profound process that involves healing, self-expression, and personal growth, ultimately guiding individuals toward a life unencumbered by past pains. Tanner, a proponent of this transformative path, posits that the true essence of resilience and mental fortitude emerges when one has faced rock bottom and still chooses to strive for improvement. Shaped by her personal battles with trauma and relationship difficulties, Tanner’s unique perspective centers on the creation of a global community of trauma survivors dedicated to transcending intergenerational trauma and living boundlessly. She underscores the importance of self-leadership and open-heartedness, advocating for a reprogramming of the mind to unlock hidden capabilities, thus enabling trauma survivors to become empowered leaders and catalysts for positive change in society.

Key TakeAways

- Tanner emphasizes the importance of working towards trauma recovery, human development, and self-actualization.

- Empowering trauma survivors to become leaders involves healing wounded parts, breaking intergenerational trauma cycles, and accessing internal power.

- Andrew discusses the importance of self-energetic healing in facilitating transformation in one's recovery journey.

- Transformation through openheartedness empowers individuals to embrace open-heartedness, self-leadership, and inner wisdom in their recovery journey.

Actionable Insights

- Take accountability for your inner world and work on healing wounded Parts

- Reprogram your brain to break free from intergenerational trauma cycles

- Embrace open-heartedness and stay energetically open for healing

- Cultivate Self Energy, embody a courageous mindset, and practice self-leadership in your recovery journey

Why is it important for partners to understand the protective instincts in trauma survivors?

The CPTSD recovery apprenticeship introduced by Tanner offers a novel approach to healing for survivors of childhood trauma, integrating the 5 Circuits of Healing Power and five Directional Callings of the CPTSD Wheel of Life. This comprehensive curriclum is designed for those seeking leadership within the CPTSD recovery community, emphasizing the empowerment of individuals to draw on their own wisdom rather than depending on outside experts. Tanner views this apprenticeship as a transformative journey that not only aids in personal healing but also has the potential to influence the trajectory of human evolution. Having experienced the profound impacts of deep healing work, Tanner stresses the significance of rebuilding within intimate partnerships, which often mirror the attachment contexts crucial for recovery. CPTSD Medicine is dedicated to creating a paradigm shift in mental health services, where reclaiming personal wisdom becomes the cornerstone of lasting healing.

Key TakeAways

- The apprenticeship is designed for CPTSD survivors actively recovering from childhood trauma, aiming for permanent healing and leadership roles in the CPTSD recovery community.

- Protective Parts in individuals recovering from trauma are survival instincts deeply intertwined with trauma, making it challenging to unravel them.

- Partners of trauma survivors must navigate and support protective parts, as individuals work towards releasing survival coding and discovering their true selves.

- Recognizing and supporting partners in 'I must' energy is crucial, offering assistance and collaboration to help them feel supported, leading to intimate connections.

- Partners should address the 'I can't' Protective Instinct with compassion, as reacting negatively can plant seeds of disrespect and unworthiness.

- Creating a supportive environment with boundaries and accountability in relationships is essential for partners to engage in healing work and contribute to collective healing energy.

Actionable Insights

- Recognize and support a partner in 'I must' energy by offering assistance and collaboration

- Differentiate between survival instincts and True Selves for healthier relationships

- Address 'I can't' Protective Instinct with compassion to restore dignity and emotional healing

- Create a supportive environment with boundaries and accountability in relationships for healing work

- Provide a safe space for partners to engage in healing work while contributing to collective healing energy

- Navigate and support protective parts in relationships as loved ones work towards unburdening and releasing survival coding

Quotes:

“It’s very hard to change behavior, especially if it was an adaptive strategy or something that you inherited or were socialized to believe is the way from your family of origin.” — Tanner [11:02]

“Working on our partnership directly affects our children as well.” — Tanner [17:29]

“You’re keeping the path clear for your partner to do the healing work, but you’re not doing the work for them. You’re simply keeping everything open and clear so that the work is easier to do.” — Tanner [42:44]

“If you weaponize Parts Work, you are creating an unsafe experience for parts of each other to feel that they can trust to be vulnerable.” — Tanner [45:24]

In what ways can Unburdening help in healing from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD)?

In complex PTSD healing there is a "meeting yourself for the first time" stage that includes the intricate process of reconnecting the Mind, Body, Heart, and Spirit to facilitate healing and personal growth. This stage emphasizes radical honesty and embracing all facets of oneself, especially those influenced by past traumas, to foster self-awareness and empowerment. Tanner views this journey as essential for comprehending and accepting one's internal milieu, advocating for a genuine encounter with oneself that is free from the need for external validation or solutions. She stresses the significance of facing internal distortions and misunderstandings, suggesting that by doing so, individuals can discern between their Self Energy and the energies of other internal parts. This introspective approach not only aids in building trust with one's inner self but also leads to a more profound understanding of one's internal landscape, paving the way for integration and authenticity.

Key TakeAways

- By recognizing and understanding protective parts within ourselves, we can facilitate unburdening effectively.

- Acknowledging and accepting all parts of ourselves is essential for achieving inner harmony and healing.

- Self-discovery and radical honesty are emphasized in Circuit Three for internal exploration and healing.

- Unburdening is crucial for healing from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and requires consent from all parts of oneself.

- Emotional regulation and self-connection are key to building trust with inner parts and staying connected to self-energy for growth and healing.

- Engaging in intentional parts work daily helps build trust within oneself and leads to healing by releasing powerful energies.

- Consistency in unburdening work is vital to expanding energetic capacity and holding space for all aspects of the self.

Actionable Insights

- Acknowledge and accept all Parts of yourself, regardless of familiarity, love, hate, or origin

- Honor internal projections and distorted sense-making for navigating internal complexities

- Engage in daily intentional Parts Work and Unburdening for healing

- Practice emotional regulation and self-connection for growth and healing

- Recognize the interconnectedness of Mind, Body, Heart, and Spirit in unburdening work

- Tap into Divine archetypal resonances to strengthen Self Energy and healing

- Initiate the communication process to restore internal attachment and trust-building

Quotes

“Parts [of us] can show up mostly in our mind but they also have a body, heart, and spirit imprint as well, but some of those are harder to access depending on the part.” — Tanner  [10:34]

“No one wakes up and cheers you on. You have to somehow find something inside of you that is so deep, so raw, and so convicted that you wake up and reconnect with nature and your body, and you say to yourself, ‘Okay, begin again.’” — Tanner  [25:00]

“The more challenging it gets the closer I will come to myself. This is a period of the journey that is absolutely solo work.” — Tanner  [34:17]

“You are not separate from your system.” — Tanner e [36:31]

“True Self is not just Self Energy in my experience. True self is an amalgamation of all sorts of things.” — Tanner  [42:18]

Why is embracing darkness and shadow important in healing environments?

Nicole Casteel is a multifaceted healer who integrates breathwork into her diverse practices as a sound healer, songstress, and ritualist, focusing on deep connections to one's inner truth and frequency. She views breathwork as a transformative tool that taps into the body's wisdom, enabling individuals to address deep-seated patterns that traditional mindset work might overlook. In her sessions, Nicole combines music to create a ceremonial environment, enhancing personal resonance and facilitating profound self-discovery and empowerment. She emphasizes the importance of community and self-worth in the healing process, advocating for self-awareness and the integration of shadow work to foster holistic growth.

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Key TakeAways

- Breathwork facilitates deep healing by rewiring patterns at the subconscious level and supporting individuals in reconnecting with their bodies and innate healing capacities.

- Incorporating music in breathwork sessions creates a ceremonial space for individuals to drop into themselves and facilitates deep personal openings and connections.

- The conversation explores the complexities of gender identity and the significance of allowing individuals to express themselves authentically, free from societal pressures.

- Truth is about resonance and deep knowing, surpassing external expectations, and aligning with one's inner frequency to access authentic truth.

- The transformative power of relationships and community in fostering personal growth and self-acceptance is emphasized.

- The importance of proper guidance and self-awareness when delving into psychedelic experiences to avoid potential fragmentation and psychological challenges is highlighted.

- The necessity of embracing darkness and shadow in healing environments without judgment, as well as the importance of discernment in choosing healing spaces that allow for the integration of all aspects of oneself.

Actionable Insights

- Embrace darkness and shadow in healing environments without judgment

- Choose healing spaces that integrate all aspects of oneself

- Engage in inner child work and shadow reclamation for effective healing

- Tap into deeper frequency that resonates with one's truth

- Lean into communities and relationships for support in the healing process

- Seek proper guidance and self-awareness when working with psychedelics

- Recognize the transformative potential of breathwork in facilitating deep healing

Quotes:

“There’s something that —I feel happens with breathwork where you can really tap into that body level awareness of your own power. That, to me, feels like where all of the healing comes to completion.” — Nicole Casteel [8:57]

“The body is the densest, most challenging part where we hold all of our patterns. It is the subconscious mind, so to get to rewire that through embodied practice like breathwork is really the key.” — Nicole Casteel [9:11]

“Music is — the heart of what I do and it really is about creating a space for people to be able to drop into themselves.” — Nicole Casteel [11:45]

“I’ve really been able to tap into my own intuition through the healing I’ve done through breathwork. It’s like I really become this intuitive channel in the breathwork sessions.” — Nicole Casteel [14:08]

“We don’t heal in a vacuum. We have to do the personal process but we also have to have community in order to heal.” — Nicole Casteel [28:23]

How can separating past trauma from present reality lead to genuine healing?

The trauma recovery process is a multifaceted journey that involves unraveling the deep-seated impacts of past experiences to foster present-day healing and well-being. This transformative path is highlighted in the Relational Healing Lab's REVEAL program, which underscores the significance of understanding and integrating past traumas to facilitate meaningful recovery. Tanner offers a unique perspective on this process, shaped by her belief that recovery necessitates recognizing how past traumas influence current perceptions and behaviors. She distinguishes between healing journeys and recovery processes, advocating for discernible outcomes such as joy and fulfillment. Moreover, Tanner critiques the traditional medical model of trauma treatment, arguing that it often perpetuates suffering by re-enacting terror, and emphasizes the importance of separating past experiences from the present to access and heal inner wounded parts.

Key TakeAways

- Understanding past trauma is critical in shaping present interpretations of reality for survivors.

- Recovery planning focuses on outcomes such as joy, peace, and fulfillment beyond traditional healing approaches.

- Advocating for fundamental changes in how trauma is treated in society is important for an empowering recovery process.

- The impact of childhood trauma on adult survivors and the development of sub-personalities are key factors in shaping present experiences.

- Recognizing and embracing protective parts in trauma recovery is vital for integration and restoration of one's True Self.

Actionable Insights

- Understand the impact of past trauma on present interpretations of reality

- Acknowledge the role of protective sub-personalities in trauma recovery

- Advocate for fundamental changes in how trauma is treated in society

- Separate past trauma from present reality for genuine healing and transformation

- Foster integration and wholeness in the recovery process from childhood abuse and neglect

How can self-leadership contribute to personal transformation?

The topic of CPTSD medicine and training grounds explores the innovative approaches to complex trauma recovery, emphasizing profound personal transformation rather than merely managing symptoms. Under the guidance of Tanner, the CPTSD Medicine Podcast introduces a transformative treatment protocol and a structured training program launching on June 21st, designed to empower individuals and foster community change. Tanner, drawing from her own experiences, advocates for viewing life events as training grounds—opportunities for growth and mastery in the journey of recovery. He believes in the transformative power of the CPTSD medicine protocol, encouraging individuals to embrace challenges as initiations towards self-leadership and empowerment, ultimately leading to significant shifts in perception and healing.

Key TakeAways

- Tanner emphasizes the deep, soul-changing nature of complex trauma recovery work beyond symptom management.

- The CPTSD Medicine training program offers a structured approach for personal transformation and becoming CPTSD Medicine providers.

- Viewing challenges as opportunities for growth and mastery of CPTSD medicine milestones is crucial in the healing journey.

- The importance of community and breaking cycles is stressed for collective evolution and personal growth.

- Internal healing and self-leadership are highlighted as ways to reclaim personal power and sovereignty for healing and growth.

- Embracing vulnerability and connectedness is essential for personal and collective growth in the journey towards self-discovery and healing.

Actionable Insights

- View initiations and challenges as opportunities for growth in complex trauma recovery

- Recognize the ongoing nature of the healing process in CPTSD recovery

- Engage in self-leadership and empowerment for personal transformation

- Embrace community and break cycles for collective evolution

- Practice introspection and confront deep-seated wounds for healing

- Embrace vulnerability and connectedness for personal and collective growth

Quotes:

“One of the key hallmarks of complex trauma is this inheritance of not only hurt, but fear.” — Tanner  [12:48]

“I heal all wounds. I don’t give my power over to time and wait. I have reclaimed my sovereignty, my leadership, my value.” — Tanne [23:11]

“All of us are exquisite, important, and matter. We are not the same without each other.” — Tanner  [24:07]

“Everything happens in a relational context.” — Tanner [32:18]

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Tanner has rebranded this podcast from "Marriage is Hard" to "Relational Healing," reflecting a profound shift towards exploring the intricacies of healing and recovery through relationships. This new focus emphasizes trauma recovery and the restoration of attachments, catering especially to individuals who have endured childhood trauma. Tanner views relational healing as a transformative approach to overcoming trauma, a perspective deeply rooted in both her research and personal experiences. By highlighting the mechanisms of healing rather than the pain itself, she aims to empower listeners to reclaim their innate goodness and break free from intergenerational trauma cycles. Through this rebranding, Tanner aspires to create a guiding light for listeners, offering essential insights and fostering emotional freedom on their path to recovery.

Key TakeAways

- Relational healing focuses on healing and possibility, providing a pathway towards emotional freedom and transformative confidence.

- Childhood trauma often leads to relational violations, making it challenging to form secure attachments and feel connected.

- Stages of relational healing include mapping inner worlds, experimenting with vulnerability, and internalizing safety.

- True Self is emphasized as the center for balance, harmony, and transformative qualities in relational healing.

- Proactive and reactive protectors in our internal system aim to shield vulnerable parts from emotional pain.

- Restoring attachment between self and protective or injured parts is crucial in internal attachment restoration.

- Relational healing is defined as recovering a sense of safety and security in intimate relationships, breaking intergenerational trauma cycles.

Actionable Insights

- Focus on exploring components of relational healing in-depth

- Restore a sense of safety and trust in intimate relationships with oneself and others

- Experiment with vulnerability and internalize safety as stages of relational healing

- Address both external and internal layers of attachment for comprehensive healing

- Track progress and use data collection tools for monitoring

- Recover a sense of safety and security in intimate relationships through true self concept

- Restore attachment between self and protective or injured parts for internal attachment restoration

How can practicing new relational skills contribute to emotional healing?

This episode highlights the critical role of addressing childhood wounds and attachment issues to move from confusion to clarity in life, emphasizing the development of emotional intelligence as a foundational tool for healing and improving relationships. Tanner discusses the importance of self-awareness, self-regulation, social awareness, and social skills in enhancing emotional intelligence, which is crucial for effectively managing emotions, understanding triggers, and maintaining healthy relationships. Tanner provides a personal perspective on the impact of unprocessed trauma and the power of authentic communication in releasing shame and fostering deeper connections. She underscores the value of emotional intelligence in recovering from childhood trauma, allowing individuals to be vulnerable and authentic in safe relational contexts. Overall, the takeaways stress the significance of self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and authentic communication as pathways to personal growth and relational healing.

Emotional intelligence is an essential skill that enables individuals to navigate the complexities of human emotions, fostering personal growth and healthier relationships. Tanner views emotional intelligence as a vital tool for regulating emotions and collaborating effectively with others, especially in partnerships. Her perspective is shaped by a focus on self-awareness, self-regulation, social awareness, and social skills, emphasizing the importance of understanding and managing one's behaviors and thoughts to enhance awareness. Tanner further highlights the ability to handle difficult people with tact and diplomacy, remaining calm in stressful situations, as crucial components of emotional intelligence, which he sees as instrumental for healing from past traumas and building a nurturing "Love House."

Key TakeAways

- Healing from childhood trauma involves addressing attachment issues and practicing new relational skills.

- Emotional intelligence allows individuals to shift mindset from feeling permanently flawed to recognizing areas for improvement.

- Recognizing emotional triggers is important for growth and inner healing.

- Self-awareness, self-regulation, social awareness, and social skills are key components of emotional intelligence.

- Authentic communication leads to understanding, connection, and healing in relationships.

- Developing emotional intelligence is vital for building deeper connections and personal growth.

Actionable Insights

- Address childhood wounds and attachment-based thinking for healing from trauma

- Practice new relational skills in real-life interactions for emotional healing

- Shift mindset from feeling permanently flawed to recognizing areas for improvement

- Develop self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and accountability for progress

- Recognize emotional triggers for growth and inner healing

- Engage in authentic communication for understanding, connection, and healing

How can engaging in Parts Work help individuals understand their sub-personalities?

Reflecting on childhood experiences is a crucial process that can significantly impact adult life, shaping behaviors, beliefs, and emotional responses. Tanner offers a nuanced perspective on this topic, emphasizing that healing from complex trauma requires more than just focusing on one's inner child; it necessitates addressing the Protective Parts that have developed as survival mechanisms over the years. Her viewpoint is informed by personal experiences, including seeking support during his youth that did not always provide the relief she needed, which has profoundly influenced her understanding of trauma healing. Tanner advocates for a comprehensive approach that involves acknowledging and working with both Wounded Younger Parts and protective mechanisms to achieve true, lasting healing.

Key TakeAways

- Music can access and speak to Wounded Younger Parts in trauma recovery by bypassing protective parts.

- Engaging with music and creative pursuits can aid in the healing process by tapping into the parts of the brain affected by trauma.

- Addressing Protective Parts alongside inner child healing is crucial for lasting recovery from complex trauma.

- Protective Parts can hinder progress in healing Wounded Younger Parts if not acknowledged.

- A survivor-to-survivor approach can offer unique relational healing experiences focused on healing complex trauma.

Actionable Insights

- Engage in Parts Work to identify sub-personalities affecting behavior and beliefs

- Tap into Wounded Younger Parts through music and creative pursuits for deeper exploration of past traumas

- Address Protective Parts alongside inner child healing for permanent recovery from complex trauma

- Process childhood and adolescent stories to understand how they shape adult behaviors and experiences

- Establish a survivor-to-survivor approach for experiences focused on healing complex trauma

How can I prevent passing trauma down to my children?

CycleBreaking parenting is an empowered and intentional approach that focuses on healing past wounds and fostering deeper connections with children to prevent the perpetuation of generational trauma. Tanner believes that parents wield the power to disrupt unhealthy cycles handed down through generations by adopting self-awareness and intentional parenting strategies. Her perspective is shaped by the conviction that being mindful and deliberate in parenting can forge a healthier environment for children, effectively halting the cycle of dysfunction. Tanner views cycle-breaking parenting as a transformative tool, instrumental in cultivating positive change and dismantling the chains of generational trauma.

Key TakeAways

- Conscious parenting involves actively engaging with children through attunement and presence.

- Cycle-breaking parenting involves healing attachment wounds to prevent trauma from being passed down to children.

- Creating a secure environment for children to interact positively with peers is essential.

- Parents can support their children's emotional expression by working through their protective instincts.

- Trauma survivors often face unique challenges when parenting young children.

- CycleBreaking Parenting involves breaking the cycle of behaviors passed down through generations and consciously approaching parenting in a way that is different from what was experienced in one's own childhood.

Actionable Insights

- Practice conscious parenting by being fully present and attuned to your child's needs and emotions

- Heal your own attachment wounds to prevent passing trauma down to your children

- Establish clear rules, consistent supervision, and positive reinforcement to create a secure environment for children to interact positively with peers

- Support your children's emotional expression by creating an environment that promotes emotional openness and understanding

- Seek therapy and support groups tailored for trauma survivors to address challenges in parenting as a trauma survivor

- Break the cycle of behaviors passed down through generations by consciously approaching parenting in a different way and working on healing attachment wounds

How do trauma distortions affect relationships?

Trauma distortions in relationships refer to the unconscious adaptations that individuals develop as a response to past traumas, which can significantly impact the authenticity and health of their connections with others. Tanner, an advocate for healing and authenticity in relationships, views these distortions as a significant barrier to genuine connections. She believes that these distortions result in the creation of inauthentic personas that attract similarly wounded individuals, perpetuating cycles of unfulfilling and toxic relationships. Drawing from her understanding and experiences, Tanner emphasizes the importance of dismantling these trauma-induced distortions to rebuild relationships from an empowered and authentic standpoint. She acknowledges the inherent challenges and potential disruptions in this healing process, including the possibility of ending certain relationships. However, Tanner underscores the necessity of renegotiating relationships with trust and courage, ultimately fostering connections that align with one's true self and pave the way for joy and abundance.

Key TakeAways

- Survivor healing can disrupt relationship dynamics by challenging original terms and renegotiating contracts.

- Trauma distortions create an inauthentic persona in relationships, leading to toxic interactions and disrupting identity and purpose.

- Establishing authenticity in relationships involves dismantling trauma distortions, rebuilding trust, and aligning with one's true self.

- Deconstructing trauma distortions can result in challenges like relationships ending or partners struggling with authentic changes.

- Renegotiating relationships to live authentically requires trust, faith, and courage, leading to a life filled with joy, love, and abundance.

Actionable Insights

- Deactivate survival codes in relationships to prompt renegotiation of terms and establish new boundaries

- Strive for authenticity in relationships by dismantling trauma distortions and attracting genuine connections

- Acknowledge the need for trust, faith, and courage when rebuilding after trauma and aligning relationships with true selves

- Deconstruct trauma distortions to live authentically and create connections based on energetic signatures

- Renegotiate relationships by shedding trauma distortions and establishing healthy emotional connections

Why is seeking support and connecting with others crucial in healing from past relational betrayals?

Complex trauma recovery is a multifaceted journey that involves addressing the deep-seated effects of unresolved childhood trauma and pain. Tanner, an advocate for holistic and survivor-led approaches to healing, emphasizes the importance of personalized recovery plans that incorporate attachment restoration. With a background in human development and learning sciences, Tanner draws from her own experiences of overcoming complex trauma, utilizing methods like Internal Family Systems and somatic experiencing. She encourages consistent effort and personal accountability, likening the recovery process to carrying a heavy backpack, where one must remain committed to the transformative yet challenging path of healing. By promoting a shift away from traditional medical models, Tanner advocates for real-world interactions and continuous dedication as essential elements in regaining one's True Self.

Key TakeAways

- Attachment Restoration for Recovery is a method for processing unresolved childhood trauma and pain in everyday life

- Connecting with others, sharing experiences, and seeking support are crucial for healing from past relational betrayals

- Recovery from complex trauma is a challenging but transformative journey that requires dedication and perseverance

- Committing to the recovery process daily is essential, and survivors need to prioritize recovery even amid life's demands

- Shifting towards survivor-led trauma recovery focused on real-world interactions and holistic healing is advocated for

Actionable Insights

- Prioritize recovery from complex trauma daily

- Commit to the healing process with dedication and perseverance

- Connect with others, share experiences, and seek support for healing

- Create personalized recovery plans aligned with attachment restoration

- Shift towards survivor-led trauma recovery focused on holistic healing

Why is it important to acknowledge and celebrate progress in recovering from complex trauma?

Healing complex trauma is a multifaceted journey that involves understanding and addressing deep-seated emotional and psychological wounds. Tanner offers a perspective that emphasizes the necessity of exploring both the conscious and unconscious aspects of the mind to truly address the root causes of trauma, rather than merely alleviating symptoms. With a background that highlights the complexity of trauma, Tanner advocates for a holistic approach, integrating diverse therapeutic modalities to foster healing. Fundamental to her perspective is the creation of a safe and supportive environment, enabling individuals to process their experiences and gradually heal.

 Key TakeAways

- Progress should be acknowledged and celebrated, as it signifies growth and healing

- Creating a safe and supportive environment for individuals dealing with complex trauma is key

Actionable Insights

- Celebrate progress in your recovery rourney

- Engage in concrete activities for healing from complex trauma

Quotes 

“So many of us have had to do so many hard things along the way that we don’t often step back and look at how much we have actually laid down in the name of recovery.” — Tanner  [00:53]

“All of this knowledge that you’ve gained about the ‘how’ of recovery from complex trauma is the ultimate guidebook to human evolution.” — Tanner [03:31]

“Celebration can be a practice that starts to tap more into the frequencies that we desire most, moving us from not so fear-based into more of a love-base.” — Tanner [07:52]

Why is inner child healing important for Unburdening past experiences?

Inner child healing is a transformative process that involves reconnecting with the youthful essence within us to address and heal past traumas. It is a practice that fosters self-compassion and encourages the integration of all parts of oneself, paving the way for emotional release and personal growth. From Tanner's perspective, inner child healing is crucial for those recovering from complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD), as it allows individuals to reconnect with their core innocence and innate power. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and processing past traumas, which often have been buried or denied, in order to align with one's True Self. Through practices that encourage being present in the body and emotions, Tanner advocates for the release of suppressed emotions and the integration of both dark and light experiences to achieve healing and transformation.

Key TakeAways

- Healing trauma involves reconnecting with past burdened parts through inner work and self-compassion.

- Embracing vulnerability and engaging in somatic experiences are key for trauma recovery and transformation.

- Inner child healing and forgiveness play a crucial role in the process of unburdening and restoring lost innocence.

- Integrating different parts of oneself into a cohesive inner community is essential for healing past traumas and creating a unified sense of self.

Actionable Insights

- Embrace vulnerability for healing and transformation

- Engage in somatic experiences for healing

- Connect with and offer forgiveness to your inner child

- Create a safe space for healing and inner alignment

Quotess:

“CPTSD recovery as a journey is about the restoration of innocence. Inno-cence. It is an inner sense of the innocence [or] what we have lost along the way.” — Tanner  [0:04:57]

“I am whole. I am complete. I am worthy. I am beautiful. I am magnificent.” — Tanner  [0:07:15]

“Whatever happened, however long it [happened for], that is not you!” — Tanner  [0:17:48]

What is the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model?

The Internal Family Systems (IFS) framework, as explored by Tanner, offers a fascinating lens through which we can understand the many facets of our internal world, particularly in relation to trauma recovery. This model identifies various internal parts, such as Protective Parts, Wounded Younger Parts, proactive manager parts, and reactive firefighter parts, which play critical roles in managing emotional pain and facilitating healing. Tanner believes that recognizing these parts is crucial for addressing trauma, emphasizing the importance of understanding their distinct roles and functions. With a background in exploring complex trauma, Tanner highlights the necessity of engaging with these parts courageously and compassionately, viewing the IFS framework as a vital tool for navigating our mental landscape and fostering personal growth.

Key TakeAways

- Understanding the different types of parts in the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model is crucial for healing and growth.

- Protective parts, such as proactive manager parts, aim to prevent emotional pain from becoming overwhelming.

- Working with Protective Parts is essential in trauma recovery to address and unburden the shame and pain carried by wounded younger parts.

- Recognizing protective parts can be challenging, but misaligned actions may indicate their presence.

- Communicating for parts, rather than from parts, helps differentiate between protective parts and true self energy.

- Developing skills to tap into self-energy is crucial for working with protective parts and facilitating healing and growth.

Actionable Insights

- Understand and communicate with internal protective parts for healing and growth

- Recognize toxic masculine energy as a manifestation of Protective Parts strategies

- Develop skills to tap into self-energy when working with protective parts

- Communicate for parts, rather than from parts, to differentiate between protective parts and true self energy

- Recognize default behaviors that indicate the presence of protective parts

- Establish trust with Protective Parts to navigate the unburdening process effectively

How can safe healing environments facilitate unburdening and self-leadership?

The journey of recovering from complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) is a deeply personal and transformative process that involves understanding and integrating past traumatic experiences and fostering a compassionate relationship with oneself. Tanner, an educator with extensive experience in this realm, provides a nuanced perspective on CPTSD recovery, viewing it as a developmental pathway that requires not only structure and progression but also a communal support system. She emphasizes the importance of not dwelling on forgotten details of the past but rather focusing on the decisions made during survival mode and the unexpected aspects of the self that emerge in healing. Through her work, Tanner advocates for creating a shared knowledge base within the CPTSD community, which is essential for enhancing communication, precision, and collective support, ultimately leading individuals from a place of darkness toward embracing future possibilities.

Key TakeAways

- Recognizing survival decisions made in survival mode is crucial in healing from complex trauma

- Embodying truth resonance is essential for aligning with one's true self essence in the healing process

- Full permission is key in expressing all emotions and energies in safe healing spaces

- Creating strong and trustworthy healing containers is vital for authentic expression and unburdening

- Rewriting our stories and honoring the journey towards CPTSD recovery leads to transformative healing

Actionable Insights

- Recognize survival decisions made in survival mode in the healing process

- Work towards embodying one's true self in CPTSD recovery

- Express truths in healing spaces to unburden all aspects being stewarded

- Create strong, trustworthy, and potent healing containers for full permission practice

- Rewrite stories and author the next chapter of life by acknowledging past experiences

Quotes: 

“You cannot make it through unburdening every Part, Energy, and Entity without mastering the milestone of full permission.” — Tanner [09:41]

“In the CycleBreaking frequency, we want to show up grounded, radiating Self Energy. In our healing containers, we want to understand what the blocks and barriers are to full expression of the truths, Parts, Energies, and Entities.” — Tanner [15:50]

“Once things can be vocalized, Parts, Energies, or Entities can be expressed, there’s permission to channel Parts in safe, structured – healing containers, you [start] to move and soften blocks. What needs to be spoken out loud can be witnessed.” — Tanner[19:05]

“What are the emotions and energies that constrict or constrain full permission in healing containers? Can I get curious about this? What does this show me and all me about [the next things I need to] to explore in my CPTSD recovery?” — Tanner [27:19]

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What role does reparenting play in healing from developmental trauma?

Jean Cheng is a clinical psychologist based in Singapore, who specializes in helping individuals heal from trauma through the process of reparenting. Trained in Melbourne, Australia, Jean shifted from a background in media communications to psychology, a field she found more fulfilling and natural. Her practice is dedicated to providing a profound and sacred space for clients to explore and share their deepest experiences. Despite early challenges such as imposter syndrome, Jean's passion for understanding and connecting with people has driven her successful career. 

Authenticity and honesty are fundamental in therapy, especially when working with trauma survivors, as they foster trust and empower healing. Tanner and Jean Cheng emphasize the importance of therapists being genuine and empathetic, which facilitates trauma survivors' reconnection with themselves. Cheng highlights creating a sense of safety and containment in therapy, guiding clients to recognize internal and external safe resources, thereby enhancing their empowerment and decision-making. Tanner discusses the sacred process of helping individuals reclaim marginalized parts of themselves, which involves nurturing inner wisdom and achieving wholeness through empathy, compassion, and creativity. Jean Cheng introduces reparenting as a healing tool for those with developmental trauma, emphasizing self-compassion and nurturing unmet emotional needs, while also offering a message of hope and resilience to those experiencing hopelessness.

Key TakeAways

- Authenticity and honesty are essential in therapy when working with trauma survivors to build a safe and trusting relationship.

- Restoration after trauma involves reclaiming marginalized parts of oneself and witnessing the journey towards healing.

- Establishing safety and containment for trauma survivors in therapy is crucial for their recovery journey.

- Creating a safe and confidential space in therapy involves guiding clients to share at a comfortable pace.

- Therapy equips individuals with tools to access their own wisdom, make decisions based on internal reflections, and restore clarity of mind.

- Reparenting is a way to heal from trauma by addressing emotional and relational needs similar to comforting a distressed child.

- Reparenting involves understanding the needs of the wounded inner child in specific situations and making decisions aligned with effective reparenting practices.

Actionable Insights

- Be genuine and transparent in therapy to build a safe and trusting therapeutic relationship with trauma survivors

- Validate suffering that has been denied or dismissed by others in the healing process

- Guide trauma survivors to recognize safe relationships and resources within themselves and their environment

- Help clients pace themselves in sharing and reflecting on their feelings to establish safety in therapy

- Equip individuals with tools to navigate inner struggles, access inner wisdom, and make empowered decisions

- Practice reparenting to heal from trauma by tending to emotional and relational needs with self-compassion

- Address emotional needs in challenging situations by considering the wounded inner child's feelings and responding with compassion

How does witnessing in survivor communities counter emotional gaslighting?

Witnessing is an essential component in the process of trauma recovery, providing survivors with validation and support that helps them feel acknowledged and counters the emotional gaslighting they may have endured. Tanner underscores the transformative power of witnessing, which allows survivors to express their authentic emotions without the fear of invalidation, thereby fostering relational healing and enhancing self-leadership capacities. Drawing from her insights, Tanner stresses the significance of understanding the different stages of the healing journey, where witnessing evolves to help survivors manage triggers and navigate challenging situations within a safe and supportive community. He believes that witnessing is a vital element in achieving profound and lasting healing from trauma.

Key TakeAways

- Witnessing is essential in trauma recovery communities, offering survivors validation and support.

- Acknowledging survivors' emotional states without judgment is crucial for healing.

- Validation in trauma healing involves recognizing and accepting survivors' experiences.

- Creating specific containers for truth telling and healing parts is important in trauma recovery.

- Witnessing in survivor communities serves as an antidote to emotional gaslighting, promoting relational healing.

Actionable Insights

- Acknowledge survivors' emotional states without judgment

- Create specific containers for TruthTelling and Unburdening Parts

- Foster lasting trauma recovery through secure attachment connections with others

- Validate survivors' experiences without dismissing or attempting to solve their struggles

- Enhance Self-Energetic capacity to lead internal system

What is reparenting and how does it purify Self Energy?

Reparenting after developmental trauma is a transformative journey that seeks to heal and nurture the inner child, addressing the unmet needs and unresolved wounds from one's past. Tanner views this process as essential for healing childhood trauma, emphasizing the importance of showing up for ourselves and the Parts of us that have been stunted by incomplete developmental milestones. Influenced by her understanding of attachment wounding, Tanner believes that reparenting involves deactivating survival codes ingrained in protective and wounded younger parts. Through mentorship, collaboration, and spiritual connection, she advocates for guiding these parts towards healing, growth, and liberation from generational trauma and fear-based frequencies, ultimately fostering a path of self-discovery and transformation.

Key TakeAways

- Reparenting is a process that involves purifying self energy and disconnecting from legacy burdens.

- Building trust, respect, and self-leadership is crucial in the healing journey through reparenting.

- Internal Family Systems therapy is essential for unburdening protective parts and facilitating healing breakthroughs.

- Self-energy and courage play a significant role in dealing with fear-based frequencies and constraints within internal systems.

- Generational trauma affects subconscious patterns and relationships, requiring unburdening processes and spiritual connections for healing.

Actionable Insights

- Engage in Reparenting to purify Self Energy

- Establish trust internally and respect externally through reparenting Parts of you that missed achieving key developmental milestons

- Utilize Internal Family Systems therapy for Unburdening Parts

- Address generational trauma through opening up to spiritual connection you may have with your lineages

What are Healing Containers and how do they support transformation and healing?

Healing containers are uniquely crafted environments designed to facilitate profound personal transformation and healing. These specialized spaces allow individuals to safely release shame, reconnect with their authentic voice, and engage in self-energetic practices that promote true alignment and free exploration beyond historical constraints. Tanner views healing containers as essential to life transformation, as they create an accelerated pathway for reparative work and personal growth. Drawing from her experiences, Tanner highlights their ability to compress the time needed for healing by effectively addressing parts masquerading as personality and past traumas. He stresses the importance of finding a mentor capable of energetically holding the space, which is crucial for optimizing healing within these transformative environments.

Key TakeAways

- Healing Containers provide a safe environment for individuals to release shame, reconnect with their voice, and incorporate self-energetic living practices into their lives

- Interacting in a Healing Container setting can lead to faster and more efficient healing processes compared to traditional therapy settings

- Healing Containers are foundational for addressing trauma ecosystems, building healthier relationships, and progressing towards personal healing and wholeness

- In a Healing Container, individuals can speak for parts instead of from parts, shifting the narrative from fear-based prophecies to stories of compassion and courage

- Reparative relationships in healing and self-attunement are crucial, allowing for growth, understanding, and quicker cycles of repair and transformation

Actionable Takeaways

- Create dedicated Healing Containers for transformation and healing

- Focus on releasing shame, reconnecting with voice, and true self alignment

- Interact with others in Healing Containers for faster healing processes

- Emphasize the importance of reparative relationships in healing

- Promote exploration and personal development in Healing Containers

Why is it important to prioritize healing practices over non-essential activities?

The Internal Family Systems (IFS) approach to trauma recovery offers a compelling framework for understanding the complex inner dynamics that influence healing. This therapeutic model views the mind as composed of distinct "parts" that have developed over time to protect and support the individual, particularly in response to traumatic experiences. Tanner, an advocate of this approach, draws from her background in working with trauma survivors to stress the importance of identifying and engaging with these Protective Parts. She underscores the necessity of addressing parts that originated in early childhood, which often act as surrogate caretakers, providing comfort when actual parental figures were unavailable or ineffective. For Tanner, the IFS approach is not just about understanding these parts but actively unburdening them, which she believes is essential for enabling self-leadership and fostering transformative healing. Her perspective highlights the need for dedicated and compassionate reprogramming of the brain, where the commitment to understanding and healing these parts plays a pivotal role in achieving meaningful recovery.

Key TakeAways

- Committing fully to the recovery journey leads to exponential growth and results.

- Internal Family Systems approach focuses on protective parts developed in infancy for trauma recovery.

- Unburdening shame associated with parental protective parts is crucial for healing.

- Consistent daily commitment leads to significant shifts and breakthroughs in recovery over time.

Actionable Insights

- Commit fully to the recovery journey for exponential growth and results

- Prioritize healing over non-essential activities to intensify commitment

- Unburden the shame associated with parental protective parts for healing

- Consistent daily commitment to healing leads to significant shifts in recovery

What is Co-Regulation and why is it important in managing emotional difficulties associated with complex trauma?

Co-regulation is a vital concept in trauma recovery, especially when dealing with the emotional challenges of complex trauma. It acts like "training wheels" for emotion regulation, supporting individuals, much like how adults help children until they can self-regulate, thus disrupting the cycle of trauma and promoting emotional stability. Tanner, who explores this concept, believes that self-regulation is key to trauma recovery, while acknowledging the supportive role that friends and partners can play. Her perspective is shaped by the idea of "parts" within oneself—fragmented neural networks formed in childhood—that may impede emotional control in adulthood. By advocating for both internal and external co-regulation dynamics, Tanner highlights its importance in nurturing healthy relationships and fostering self-leadership to break cycles of trauma.

Key TakeAways

- Co-Regulation is crucial in the healing journey from complex trauma, offering a pathway towards internal coherence and emotional stability.

- Distinguishing between emotion regulation and Co-Regulation is important in trauma ecosystems to break cycles of trauma.

- Co-Regulation can result in valuable outcomes in partnering interactions with trauma survivors, offering tools for healing and recovery.

- Co-Regulation involves self-energetic ways to support oneself or others in activating parts and building trust through shared experiences.

- Emphasizing co-regulation leads to a new way of showing support through collective consciousness raising, nurturing coping skills, and reducing stress.

Actionable Insights

- Emphasize the significance of Co-Regulation in the healing journey from complex trauma

- Distinguish between emotion regulation and Co-Regulation for effective parenting and breaking cycles of trauma

- Seek co-regulatory support from others to enhance emotional regulation and change relational dynamics

- Tap into Self Energy and navigate through different energetic signatures for harmonizing protective instincts

- Increase awareness to control emotions through collective consciousness raising and nurturing coping skills

Quotes 

“Co-regulation is a really important aspect of being human.” — Tanner  [03:19]

“We run out of options when we become an adult for really deep ongoing consistent co-regulatory support.” — Tanner  [09:47]

“As an adult, you have difficulty controlling your emotions because you likely have 7 to 10 protective parts of you that are responding to any emotions in your relational field, both inside and out, with pretty well-developed survival instincts.” — Tanner [11:24]

“It’s not the emotions that are difficult to control, it’s the fucking Protective Part energy that thinks the emotions of ours or somebody else are literally going to kill us. And that’s what’s difficult to hold.” — Tanner [14:01]

“Ultimately on a healing journey, we’re separating our emotions from fear, from survival instinct.” — Tanner  [15:38]

“That’s a large portion of the [healing] journey is just to arrive in your Power Core where you recognize ‘This Is Me’.” — Tanner [20:20]

Why is ancestral healing important in reclaiming gifts from lineage and connecting to heritage?

The energetic stewardship workshop offers an innovative approach to healing, particularly for those recovering from complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). This three-day event, led by Tanner, shares seven Divine Archetypal Resonances and focuses on the transformative power of intentionality, planning, and structure in personal healing. Tanner, a participant and advocate of the workshop, views it as a critical tool for organizing daily CPTSD recovery through parts work. Her perspective is shaped by the belief that the workshop provides a structured framework and an embodied experience, empowering individuals to lead their own unburdening sequences beyond therapy sessions. With a focus on intentionality and pushing personal boundaries, Tanner sees the energetic stewardship workshop as a vital opportunity for participants to engage deeply in their healing journey and achieve profound personal transformation.

Key TakeAways

- Participants were able to explore various domains of life, work with protective energies, and facilitate their own healing processes.

- By leaning into personal edges across all 5 Circuits, individuals with CPTSD can successfully unburden, integrate, and transcend past trauma, leading to deepened embodiment and healing.

- This framework offers a structured approach for CPTSD recovery, empowering individuals to navigate trauma-related energies effectively.

- By actively stewarding different energies, individuals can positively contribute to their healing journey and potentially impact the collective evolution of humanity.

- By engaging in Parts Work and inviting ancestors to release burdens, individuals can transmute fear-based frequencies and offer healing to their ancestral line.

- Through integrating Source Energy with Self Energy, a new realm for Attachment Restoration is opened up, facilitating deep healing and transformation across various timelines and realms.

Actionable Insights

- Engage in Unburdening sequences for CPTSD recovery

- Find and lean into personal edges across various Circuits for healing

- Take responsibility for releasing different energies consciously in CPTSD recovery

- Explore ancestral healing and transmute fear-based frequencies

- Integrate source energy with Self Energy for Attachment Restoration

- Create empowering spaces for personal growth and transformation

Quotes:

“Recovery happens in real-time, in our real life. And, we can hasten that process or create stimulations to increase the likelihood that we’ll have opportunities to do deep, unburdening work when we are finding ourselves at our own edge.” — Tanner  [02:03] 

“Instagram, as I experience it, is a very, very potent, helpful guide and structure when you consume it with Self Leadership.” — Tanner  [10:41]

“There are patterns that keep repeating in my life that I don’t even fully understand.” — Tanner [26:29]

“It’s not just turning down the fear-based frequencies; it’s that and transmuting them, alchemizing them, and releasing and integrating the gifts — this is legacy work.” — Tanner  [38:07]

“I am not here to provide you [with] all the answers. I’m here as a guide to open up spaces for you to see, ‘Oh! This is what is possible; this could be my next aligned action; this could be my level up; this could be a space that I play.’” — Tanner  [39:03]

What role does self-love play in healing past traumas and attachment wounds?

Victor Granville, known as the Real Love Strategist, is a leading figure in the transformative process of healing through self-love. He champions the idea that genuine healing emerges from fostering a deep and authentic love for oneself, which in turn equips individuals with the capacity to share love with others. Granville advocates for the daily practice of self-love, urging people to rewire their mindsets to transcend conditional or counterfeit versions of love, thereby nurturing a fuller and richer experience. His perspective aligns with the notion of reconnecting with something greater than ourselves, facilitating profound self-acceptance and emotional wellness for countless individuals.

Key TakeAways

- Self-love is crucial in healing past traumas and attachment wounds.

- Prioritizing self-compassion over self-judgment is essential for emotional healing.

- Accessing a spiritual component can aid in healing attachment wounds and nurturing self-love.

- Acting from a place of wisdom, love, and connection is important in overcoming limited programming.

- Loving oneself without agendas and accessing unconditional love within is crucial for healing.

- Adopting one's inner child through writing an adoption letter can lead to self-discovery and healing.

- Choosing the intention to learn about self-love and love towards others can lead to a more fulfilling life.

Actionable Insights

- Acknowledge the impact of past experiences on present emotions and behaviors

- Work internally to address fears and false beliefs

- Prioritize self-love and heal attachment wounds through inner bonding

- Be the first responder to your feelings, address core pain, and choose compassion over self-judgment

- Access a spiritual component for love, compassion, and kindness to heal attachment wounds

- Learn to love oneself without agendas and access unconditional love within

- Treat oneself as one would a real child in challenging situations to nurture and care for the inner child within

How can understanding individual values improve money management within relationships?

Healing through money work is an intriguing and transformative concept that addresses the intersection of financial behaviors and emotional well-being. Tanner, an expert in trauma recovery, offers a unique perspective on this topic, shaped by his extensive work with the 5 Circuits of Healing Power and the CPTSD Wheel of Life. She advocates for a structured approach to understanding how trauma affects financial decisions and emphasizes the importance of aligning financial goals with personal values. Tanner's teachings encourage participants to be honest about their relationship with money, practice gratitude, and recognize money as a powerful energy that can foster deep personal growth and long-term healing when managed with intention and mindfulness.

Key TakeAways

- Tanner teaches about the 5 Circuits of Healing Power and the CPTSD Wheel of Life for healing from complex trauma

- Season 11 of the CPTSD Medicine Podcast focuses on topics like parenting, money, sex, and extended family dynamics for healing and growth

- Tanner discusses trauma responses related to money in relationships and the importance of understanding individual values

- Practicing gratitude and aligning with personal values can enhance money management and lead to a more fulfilling approach

Actionable Insights

- Delve into the 5 Circuits of Healing Power and the CPTSD Wheel of Life for a deeper understanding of trauma experiences

- Engage in Tanner's guided group sessions to explore concepts in a structured and supportive environment

- Listen to Season 11 of the CPTSD Medicine Podcast to gain insights on parenting, money management, sex, and family dynamics

- Address trauma responses related to money in relationships to improve partnerships and long-term prosperity

- Practice gratitude for current possessions and align with personal values to enhance money management

Quotes:

“Everything you need to heal is already inside of you, you just need some facilitation, structure, understanding, and practice to know how to access it consistently.” — Tanner [01:13]

“Money is associated with a particular survival mode [for people with CPTSD].” — Tanner  [21:01]

“[Use] these money conversations as the healing, not [standing] in the way of the healing.” — Tanner  [29:57]

What sparked Tanner's commitment to healing and trauma recovery?

The journey of recovering from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) is a deeply personal and transformative process, encompassing a range of emotional, psychological, and spiritual dimensions. Tanner's perspective on this journey has been significantly shaped by her passion for learning and self-improvement, which led him to explore various transformative systems and processes. Inspired by Pete Walker's insights on complex trauma, Tanner embraced a holistic approach, integrating developmental insights and Attachment Restoration with both conscious and unconscious efforts. Her dedication to understanding the multifaceted nature of trauma inspired him to create the "5 Circuits of Healing Power," a curriculum that combines spiritual practices and self-discovery, aiming to guide others in aligning with their true selves. Through this comprehensive framework, Tanner not only navigates her own path of healing but also offers coaching and mentorship to those seeking to reclaim their spiritual and emotional well-being.

Key TakeAways

- Recognizing and addressing trauma in life can lead to pivotal moments of realization and change

- A multi-pronged approach to trauma recovery is essential over time

- Developing a curriculum based on personal trauma recovery experience can guide others in their healing journey

- Embodying self-energy and restoring soul-spirit connections are crucial in trauma recovery

- Integrated trauma energy transmutations can align individuals with their True Selves

Actionable Insights

- Recognize the root of personal struggles for effective recovery

- Focus on addressing internal and external attachment restoration in trauma recovery

- Develop a holistic intervention approach for comprehensive healing

- Explore spiritual practices and self-discovery in the healing journey

- Offer coaching experiences and guidance based on personal recovery experiences

Quotes

“Life and my trauma interrupted a lot of that curiosity, a lot of those open-ended expansive pursuits of knowledge, and were replaced by a more performative drive to accomplish, achieve, procure validity and status in the scientific community.” — Tanner [02:55]

“When you’ve grown up in a constant state of survival physiology activation in a trauma ecosystem, chaos, stress, [and] dysregulation all feel so normative.” — Tanner  [05:17]

“Divine archetypal resonance, the Elemental Medicine, the activation sequence of the Gene Keys, the understanding of Human Design, lineage journeying, these realms across timelines and time-based experiences moving into the spiritual realm; this has been a huge focus of my journey.” — Tanner [25:35]

“Season 9 is a chance for me to open up a window, a portal, and pull the curtain open and show you the energy, the minds, the bodies, the voices, the inspirations, the knowings, the wisdom, the designs, the gene keys behind the humans who have supported my own journey.” — Tanner [30:33]

“Having to heal yourself from the inside out and alchemize the energy of trauma, gives you really pristine, pure, potent ways of showing up in your life.” — Tanner Wallace [33:46]

What is the CPTSD Medicine Podcast about?

The CPTSD Medicine Podcast, introduced by Tanner, aims to provide valuable insights into the recovery from complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) and is geared towards the ultimate publication of the CPTSD Medicine Healing protocol by October 2024. Through a heart-centered approach, the podcast—along with its community on Mighty Networks—seeks to guide individuals through various stages of their healing journey, emphasizing personal empowerment and the dangers of relying solely on external sources for help. Tanner, whose enthusiasm for connecting with listeners is evident, brings a perspective shaped by a commitment to building a community that supports lasting trauma resolution and contributes to the evolution of human understanding of mental health. Her xperiences highlight the importance of allies and self-agency in trauma recovery, underscoring the significance of co-creation and independence, particularly in parenting strategies that cultivate self-leadership in children. Tanner's dedication to sharing their knowledge aims to foster a transformative environment for those on the path to overcoming complex trauma.

Key TakeAways

- The podcast aims to share insights on CPTSD recovery and lead to the final publication of the CPTSD Medicine Healing protocol in October 2024.

- Building a community for individuals seeking CPTSD recovery is essential for providing support and guidance.

- Allies play a crucial role in the healing process by promoting personal growth and understanding.

- Cycle breaking parenting empowers children to lead themselves through healing processes.

- Divine Archetypal Resonances guide individuals to specific frequencies to release trauma energies and gain clarity.

- The CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol focuses on working on trauma energies and provides guidance for healing at different stages.

Actionable Insights

- Build a community on Mighty Networks for support in CPTSD recovery

- Focus on the role of allies in healing and avoid seeking help externally

- Empower children through cycle breaking parenting to lead themselves through healing sequences

- Utilize Divine Archetypal Resonances to release trauma energies and gain clarity

- Work on trauma energies and be protected within a community of individuals at different stages of recovery

- Promote self-leadership and empowerment in healing from complex trauma through gene keys and self-energetic frequencies

Quotes:

“We need a community. I’ve held a lot of this on my own for a long time and that’s all part of the process but I’m reaching a point where I’m no longer willing to hold this all on my own. – I hope you feel my love and my sincerity in my words and in what I’m trying to communicate in this very heart-centered, grounded place.” — anner [11:37]

“Everything you need to heal is already inside of you.” — Tanner [19:57]

“I tune into the distress, not the forward-presenting manifestation of that distress.” — Tanner [22:56]

“[Bridging] creates independence; creates co-creation; avoids codependency; [and] avoids power dynamics and overpower and hierarchy. It’s such a critical, foundational concept, both for our personal healing but then also for the health of the CPTSD Medicine mission.” — Dr. Tanner  [27:31]

“When we have a bridge to intentionally amplify specific frequencies of Self Energy, we’ve helped ourselves [to] really develop the potency of Healing Power required to be a CycleBreaker.” — Tanner  [35:44]

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How can acknowledging and confronting past mistakes benefit personal growth?

Personal growth is often a journey marked by the mistakes we make along the way, serving as pivotal learning opportunities that shape our character and resilience. Tanner posits that childhood mistakes are not only inevitable but crucial for development, advocating for the role of parents in guiding their children through these errors to prevent them from becoming burdensome. Her perspective is molded by the belief that confronting and rectifying mistakes is essential for healing and personal evolution, fostering a deeper self-understanding and empowerment. By encouraging responsibility, open communication, and the fortification of one's inner strength, Tanner underscores the transformative potential of embracing mistakes as steps toward self-improvement and relational healing.

Key TakeAways

- Childhood mistakes can impact an individual's growth and lead to internal and external shame.

- Proper parental guidance is crucial in navigating childhood mistakes.

- Facing mistakes and working through their repercussions is crucial for healing and personal growth.

- Embracing relational healing and internal attachment restoration is significant for stable relationships.

- Recognizing the interchangeability of relationships and focusing on internal attachment restoration work are essential for personal growth.

Actionable Insights

- Acknowledge and confront past mistakes for personal growth

- Embrace the relational healing process to rebuild internal trust

- Recognize the interchangeability of relationships and focus on internal healing

- Commit to growth in personal relationships and leave room for potential reconciliation

- Navigate evolving connections with grace and Self Compassion

How do childhood experiences shape current relationship patterns, and what toxic behaviors should be identified?

The key takeaways emphasize the significant role of understanding relationship dynamics in healing trauma and fostering personal growth. Tanner stresses the importance of examining interactions and recognizing patterns within relationships to navigate the healing journey effectively. Viewing conflicts as opportunities for growth and clarity is crucial, as is maintaining a focus on the healing process rather than just outcomes. Tanner explores how childhood experiences shape current relationship patterns, identifying toxic behaviors and emphasizing self-awareness and accountability to enhance communication. By developing relationship skills, practicing self-compassion, and committing to change, individuals can overcome maladaptive patterns, leading to more fulfilling connections and improved communication.

The journey of healing for trauma survivors is a complex and transformative process, emphasizing the importance of understanding relationship dynamics to foster personal growth. Tanner's perspective highlights the ingrained interaction patterns that trauma survivors often develop from childhood, which can manifest as maladaptive behaviors in their adult relationships. Drawing from her own experiences, Tanner stresses the importance of self-awareness and accountability, encouraging survivors to view conflicts not as setbacks but as opportunities for growth. By adopting a mindset focused on learning and practice, and employing a data-driven approach, survivors can navigate their healing journey more effectively, ultimately leading to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

Key TakeAways

- Understanding relationship dynamics is crucial in healing trauma and fostering growth.

- View conflicts and disagreements as opportunities for practice and gaining clarity.

- Study relationships, track interactions, and recognize the significance of the healing process.

- Childhood experiences can impact current relationships and interactions.

- Developing relationship skills and being mindful of emotional state can greatly influence communication.

- Reframing maladaptive behaviors requires self-compassion, commitment to change, and reflection on experiences.

Actionable Insights

- View conflicts as opportunities for practice and gaining clarity

- Study and track interactions in relationships

- Develop relationship skills like expressing needs directly and staying present

- Recognize and address negative interaction patterns stemming from childhood trauma

- Practice self-compassion and reflection on experiences

- Separate thoughts, actions, and words from the core sense of self in relationships

00:01:41 - Relationship Dynamics

Tanner emphasizes the importance of understanding relationship dynamics in healing trauma and fostering growth. She highlights that interactions, exchanges of information, and patterns in relationships are crucial in the healing process. By viewing conflicts and disagreements as opportunities for practice and gaining clarity, individuals can navigate their healing journey more effectively. Tanner encourages listeners to study their relationships, track interactions, and recognize the significance of the healing process rather than solely focusing on the outcome.

00:02:45 - Trauma Survivor Healing Journey

Tanner helps trauma survivors heal by exploring interactions, identifying patterns, gaining clarity, and making wise decisions to build a better life. By studying interactions and using a data-based approach, individuals can understand how their childhood experiences affect their current relationships. Tanner promotes a mindset shift to view conflicts as chances for growth and self-awareness. This process helps trauma survivors heal, gain clarity, and make informed decisions for a fulfilling life.

00:09:41 - Toxic Childhood Influences

Tanner explores how childhood experiences can impact interactions in relationships, focusing on five toxic patterns stemming from childhood betrayal trauma. These core responses of flight or fight can impede communication and distort information processing. Tanner compares the experience to navigating a funhouse of optical illusions, highlighting the difficulties trauma survivors encounter in communicating effectively with their partners. She stresses the significance of self-awareness and accountability in identifying and overcoming these toxic patterns to enhance communication and relationships.

00:13:12 - Developing Relationship Skills

Tanner emphasizes the importance of developing relationship skills, like expressing needs directly, staying present in difficult situations, and understanding the impact of mood on interactions. She points out that these skills can be learned and developed over time, rather than being fixed traits. By separating thoughts, actions, and words from the core sense of self, individuals can work towards improving their relationship dynamics and breaking maladaptive patterns. Tanner also highlights the role of mood in interactions, noting that being mindful of one's emotional state can greatly influence communication and behavior in relationships.

00:24:51 - Trauma Survivor's Interaction Patterns

Tanner discusses how childhood trauma can impact a person's interaction patterns, resulting in negative behaviors like using negative emotions to manipulate situations, resorting to aggression to meet unmet needs, struggling to self-manage during distress, dissociating from emotions, and displaying mood-dependent responses. These patterns can hinder the ability to connect with a partner, causing inconsistency in interactions based on one's current emotional state. By recognizing and addressing these negative patterns, individuals can improve their communication and relationships with others. Tanner suggests visualizing past negative interactions and actively choosing to respond differently to break these harmful patterns.

00:33:49 - Reframing Maladaptive Behaviors Through Self-Compassion

Reframing maladaptive behaviors requires self-compassion, commitment to change, reflection on experiences, and planning for future interactions. By recognizing past trauma, understanding its impact on behavior, and taking steps to change through self-compassion and commitment to growth, individuals can begin to break maladaptive patterns.

What are some tips for reclaiming personal power?

The CPTSD recovery movement is gaining momentum as a collective effort to heal complex trauma through self-sustaining networks and shared knowledge. This initiative utilizes digital platforms such as Instagram, YouTube, and their CPTSD Medicine podcast to spread awareness and nurture a supportive community. Tanner's perspective on the movement is deeply rooted in the belief that true transformation and healing from complex trauma come from within, emphasizing personal agency and self-healing. Her views are shaped by his personal journey of reclaiming personal power and finding resilience despite public criticism, underscoring the importance of interconnectedness and mentorship within the trauma-focused community. Tanner envisions the movement as an empowering, collective endeavor where individuals are encouraged to lead themselves out of survival mode, fostering a community that supports active recovery and future healing journeys.

Key TakeAways

- The collective movement of CPTSD Medicine aims to end complex trauma through recovery and building a supportive network.

- The CPTSD Medicine Training Program focuses on creating a self-sustaining network for the treatment of complex trauma and sharing knowledge within the health industry.

- Trauma energies can affect self-identity, and true transformation comes from within, not external validation or circumstances.

- Facing backlash and criticism on social media exposed Tanner's vulnerabilities and fears, leading to self-reflection and support from mentors and peers.

- Recognizing personal power and not giving it away to external circumstances is crucial for stability and trust in oneself.

Actionable Insights

- Subscribe to CPTSD Medicine channels and participate in live gatherings

- Engage in daily practices to recognize and nurture personal power

- Shift focus from external validation to internal healing and empowerment

- Reclaim personal power and break free from retraumatization

- Contribute to collective healing through self-discovery and internal work

- Support CPTSD Medicine by leaving reviews and referring others

Quotes:

“It is my intention that something lands, from what I say today, that completely changes your life. That is the standard we set in the CPTSD Medicine universe.” — Tanner  [00:36]

“I loved the authenticity of the scientific process; I loved the co-creation of knowledge in small groups.” — Tanner [11:00]

“I remember Nicole [Casteel] saying to me in some form or another, ‘This is an opportunity for you to learn where your power is sourced.’ And when she said that to me, it brought me to my knees.” — Tanner [25:30]

“Everything you need to heal is already inside of you.” — Tanner[28:02]

“If your Identity Center or G-Center is defined, then you know who you are; you always have since birth, and it’s just a matter of owning that identity without compromise, and not entering into implicit contracts with other humans who want you or need you to be somebody different.” — Tanner [32:23]

“When we have access to pure Personal Power, everything becomes more stable.” — Tanner [34:32]

Why is open communication about sex important in relationships?

Sexual exploration and knowledge play a pivotal role in personal empowerment and relational dynamics, offering individuals a pathway to better understand themselves and their partners. Tanner, a proponent of this concept, views sexuality as an expression of life force, creativity, and personal satisfaction rather than mere physical interaction. Their perspective is deeply shaped by the belief that understanding one's own desires and fantasies is integral to achieving a balanced power dynamic in relationships, irrespective of gender identity. Tanner advocates for open communication and vulnerability, suggesting that a detailed understanding of personal pleasure serves as a cornerstone for mutual respect and fulfillment in intimate connections.

Key TakeAways

- Discussing sex in relationships can evoke complex emotions and indicate deeper issues.

- Understanding one's own sexual desires is a source of personal power in a relationship.

- Open communication and understanding are crucial in achieving mutual sexual fulfillment.

- Healing trauma related to sexual abuse requires clear communication and mutual understanding.

- Partners need to take responsibility for their desires and support each other's healing journey.

Actionable Insights

- Approach discussing sex in relationships with maturity

- Understand your own pleasure and fantasy spaces for personal power

- Encourage open communication about sexual desires and boundaries

- Align fantasy spaces with your partner for mutual sexual fulfillment

- Take responsibility for addressing trauma related to sexual abuse in partnerships

Quotes:

“Sex, sexuality, sexual satisfaction, sexual connection, and intimacy are so wildly nuanced.” — Tanner  [0:02:39]

“Our sexuality, sexual connection, [and] sexual expression in the context of a long-term partnership is non-negotiable. Sexual satisfaction, sexual expression, sexual fulfillment is a basic core human need.” — Tanner  [0:06:45]

“Anything but neutral curiosity is an indication that there’s some work to be done here.” — Tanner [0:09:05]

“Waiting until you are healed to deal with your sexuality [and] sexual issues is avoiding a beautiful, sacred, profound training ground that is only possible in a partnership. There is no other space where this particular thing can be held.” — Tanner  [0:30:44]

Longer Quotes:

“Our sexuality is not just practical. It’s not just transactional. It’s truly about life force activation. It’s about primal, deep, body energy. It’s about creativity, it’s about expression, it’s about release, it’s about satisfaction. It’s about flow states and transcending our human experience. It is truly about — [unlocking] experiences beyond what our human brain can comprehend.” — Tanner  [0:15:17]

How does integrating Self Energy with Source Energy contribute to healing from complex trauma?

The co-creation process in healing involves a collaborative effort between individuals and external energies or entities to foster personal transformation and recovery. Tanner, an advocate for this approach, believes that co-creation is vital for deep healing and growth, especially for those recovering from complex PTSD. Her perspective is shaped by his own journey of shifting from a reliance on external leadership to embracing self-nourishment and personal empowerment. Tanner acknowledges the challenges within trauma ecosystems, where not everyone is open to co-creation, but she emphasizes that connecting with The Universe and Source Energy can help release emotional burdens and facilitate healing. Through a blend of spiritual practices and Self Leadership, Tanner underscores the transformative potential of integrating Self Energy with universal energies in the healing process.

Key TakeAways

- Co-creating with The Universe empowers individuals and helps release gaslit parts.

- Seeking validation and leadership from others is crucial in the healing journey of those with CPTSD.

- Transitioning from manager parts to true healing leads to self-nourishment and a deeper understanding of healing ecosystems.

- Acknowledging responsibility in the collective healing process is essential for personal growth and self-leadership.

- Working with parts and validating negative self-views are important aspects of healing from complex trauma.

- Integrating Self Energy with Source Energy through spiritual practices is key to healing from CPTSD.

Actionable Insights

- Open up to Source Energy and Divine connection for personal empowerment and healing

- Seek validation and leadership from others in the healing process

- Transition from being driven by manager Parts to embody true healing and self-nourishment

- Acknowledge personal responsibility in the collective healing process

- Work with Internal Family Systems to validate and witness negative self-views

- Integrate Self Energy with Source Energy for healing from complex trauma

Quotes:

“Those that are healed enough grant opportunities for refinement, clarification, revision, improvement, modification, adaptation, opening, beginning, clearing, and reimagining.” — Tanner  [01:26]

“We move through life in an unfolding act of co-creation.” — Tanner [01:45]

“Living in that ‘I am’ energy is the healing, is the journey, is the process.” — Tanner [02:49]

“Learning how to do co-creation with the universe as an anchor is such a foundational part of how I view complex trauma recovery.” — Tanner  [06:57]

“Through my own experience, Self Energy couldn’t convince or collaborate or fully unburden my most severely gaslit parts.” — Tanner  [29:17]

“There is no sidestepping Self Leadership in the healing of CPTSD.” — Tanner [36:40]

What are the essential energy work practices for improved Self Energy and inner alignment?

Protective Part energy is a fascinating concept that explores how our inner mechanisms shield us from perceived threats, often at the cost of obscuring our true selves. Tanner, an advocate for integrating energy work with parts work, delves into this topic through the lens of Human Design and other energetic practices to address complex trauma. With a focus on the nine Energy Centers, Tanner underscores the primal survival instincts that give rise to protective parts, manifesting as energetic patterns like 'I must' and 'I won't.' His perspective is shaped by the understanding that these shadowy survival energies, including feelings of disempowerment and rage, can be both personal and inherited. Tanner’s experiences highlight the necessity of recognizing these energies to unburden protective parts, thereby achieving healing and self-alignment.

Key TakeAways

- Energy work practices incorporating the nine Energy Centers in Human Design, elemental medicine, Divine Archetypal Resonance, and visualization are essential for improved self-energy and inner alignment.

- Incorporating energy work alongside Parts Work is crucial in healing processes to address complex trauma.

- Protective Parts connected to survival instincts exhibit energetic signatures that fuel strategies and survival energy, playing a crucial role in our survival instincts rooted in experiences of trauma.

- Understanding and working with Protective Parts is key to starting the healing journey by befriending and collaborating with these Parts to uncover the true self undamaged by trauma.

- The Unburdening process in healing involves a sequence of steps to balance Protective Parts with Self Energy and avoid unconscious control by Protective Parts, leading to consistent recovery for individuals with CPTSD.

Actionable Insights

- Incorporate energy work alongside parts work in healing processes for complex trauma

- Explore and integrate energy practices for improved self-energy and inner alignment

- Release and integrate Protective Parts back into the true self or transmute them into other energy

- Understand and collaborate with Protective Parts to uncover the True Self undamaged by trauma

- Differentiate between traditional Protective Parts and punishing/despairing parts in healing

Quotes

“I don’t think, for CPTSD, self-energy alone is sufficient. At some point when you get to some of the most gaslit, injured, lineage-related, collective-trauma-related parts, energies, or entities inside of us, self-energy alone — is not adequate in its potency to help soften some of those parts.” — Tanner  [0:04:42] 

“I think, and this is what is so powerful about IFS, is that there is a larger context with working with protective parts, that is really important to keep in mind, or else we can get lost in protective part work and lose sight of the key anchoring principle — the True Self.” — Tanner  [0:07:59] 

“Protective parts are native, fragmented, aspects of self that have broken off from the central channel, or inner world, and — are now running their own energy.” — Tanner  [0:11:51]

“The goal of parts work is to unburden protective parts of whatever they are carrying around — that make them want to stay separate from the true self, core, [or] central channel.” — Tanner  [0:12:33]

“This is my major point: it’s not just as simple as working with protective parts. Even though you can receive relief almost immediately working with protective parts, there is a larger, deeper, longer-term process of the unburdening sequence.” — Tanner  [0:16:10]

“Protective parts are connected to our human experience, they are fragmented aspects of our self that separated and came online to run different survival energies when moments happened in our lives, in childhood or adolescence, when it was very clear there was no safe adult to protect us, love us, or nurture us.” — Tanner [0:23:34] 

“Lean in to connect when in distress; that’s the ultimate survival code.” — Tanner  [0:24:27]

“The unburdening sequence is about keeping pace with and matching the protective part energy with equal measures of self-energy, so that your seat of power, your leadership, never degrades or diminishes to the point where protective parts take over.” — Tanner  [0:31:04]

How can calmness be integrated as a foundational component of Self Energetic living?

Self Energy and Self Energetic living are concepts that revolve around accessing an innate sense of goodness and wisdom within oneself, often obscured by protective mechanisms arising from past traumas. Andrew outlines the struggles trauma survivors face in reaching their Self Energy due to internal protective parts blocking their self-trust. She highlights the importance of guided experiences and external support systems in helping individuals harness Self Energy, which is essential for transforming fear into wisdom and fostering emotional intelligence. Tanner, on the other hand, emphasizes the role of practices such as breathwork and inner calmness in accessing Self Energy, viewing it as a means to shift from fear-based energy to a peaceful, grounded state. She believes that self energetic living serves as a training ground for personal growth and emotional intelligence, encouraging individuals to integrate the eight Cs of self leadership—calmness, curiosity, compassion, confidence, courage, clarity, connectedness, and creativity—thus fostering a more balanced and empowered existence.

Key TakeAways

- Survivors often struggle to tap into self energy due to Protective Parts that block their access and hinder trust in themselves.

- Self Energy is characterized by flexibility, adaptability, love-based frequency, and trust, serving as an antidote to fear.

- Using breathing as a gateway practice for self energetic living can invite calmness into the inner world, providing space for self exploration and growth.

- Calmness as a Eelf Energetic capacity deepens with time, allowing for emotional regulation, attunement, and transcendence of Protective Part energy.

- Accessing Eelf Energy is transformative, like specialized training that unlocks new skills and capacities leading to life-changing experiences.

Actionable Insights

- Practice the eight Cs of Self Leadership to transform fear into wisdom and take aligned action effortlessly

- Use breathing as a gateway practice for self energetic living by inhaling self energy, pausing, and releasing fear-based energy

- Integrate calmness as a foundational component of Self Energetic living for emotional regulation, awareness, and healing

- Cultivate calmness through breath work and mindfulness practices to deepen emotional attunement and transcend protective part energy

- Accessing Self Energy is transformative like specialized training, leading to life-changing experiences by alchemizing fear into wisdom

How can re-parenting and establishing trust with inner wounded parts aid in trauma recovery?

Trust, boundaries, and developmental trauma are crucial elements in the journey of healing, particularly for those who have experienced significant trauma in their formative years. These elements play a vital role in rebuilding lives, fostering intimacy, and achieving lasting healing. Tanner, a voice in this narrative, perceives these components as deeply interconnected and essential for survivors of complex trauma. With a focus on reparenting Wounded Parts, Tanner advocates for setting boundaries from a place of wisdom and healing rather than from the scars of past hurts. They recognize the complexity of healing as an adult, balancing pre-existing responsibilities and relationships, yet view this as a fertile ground for growth and transformation, ultimately contributing to true connection and healing in relationships.

Key TakeAways

- Building a community of survivors can lead to permanent healing and positive change in individuals, families, ecosystems, workplaces, and society.

- Suicidal ideation is common among teen survivors of childhood trauma and can arise as a coping mechanism, hindering the healing process.

- Re-parenting and building trust with wounded inner parts is crucial for addressing emotional flashbacks and past traumas in trauma recovery.

- Setting boundaries with triggering individuals is essential for personal growth and healing from complex trauma.

- Trust, boundaries, and developmental trauma are key in fostering intimacy, connection, and permanent healing in relationships.

- Understanding protective parts, internal systems, and unblending from trauma distortions is necessary for transformative growth in trauma recovery.

Actionable Insights

- Build a community of survivors focused on childhood trauma recovery

- Engage in trauma recovery work and create a supportive community

- Address internal triggers and protective parts to navigate trauma recovery

- Build a reparative relationship with a therapist to support healing

- Set boundaries to transition from Wounded Younger Parts to wise adult Self

- Emphasize trust, boundaries, and developmental trauma in relationships and personal growth

What is relational healing and why is it important?

Relational healing is a profound process that focuses on restoring health and connection, particularly for individuals who have experienced childhood abuse, neglect, or relational trauma. Tanner's perspective on relational healing emphasizes the significance of having clear conceptual definitions to facilitate a shared understanding and deeper exploration of this complex topic. Her background and experiences underscore the idea that revitalizing connections is essential for overcoming past traumas. Tanner believes that facing attachment injuries with commitment and effort is key to breaking cycles of trauma, ultimately empowering individuals to build the fulfilling lives they desire.

Key TakeAways

- Relational healing is vital in revitalizing connections and enhancing overall well-being.

- Children need secure attachments to provide stability and support during unpredictable events in childhood.

- Attachment restoration is crucial in healing from past psychological abuse and childhood trauma.

- Transitioning from an anxious attachment style to a secure attachment style involves personal growth and relational healing.

- One-on-one discovery sessions can jumpstart or enhance an individual's relational healing journey.

- Establishing trust, honesty, and understanding in relationships is crucial for trauma survivors to develop a secure attachment.

- Prioritizing individual healing and self-attachment is crucial before making decisions about the future of a relationship.

Actionable Insights

- Understand the boundary parameters and shorthand communication of relational healing

- Participate in meaningful recovery from childhood abuse and neglect through shared vocabulary

- Repair attachment injuries and restore the ability to trust and seek support from others

- Invest time and effort with a committed relational partner to establish security

- Involve partners in therapy sessions to foster trust and understanding

- Address past relational traumas and prioritize open communication in relationships

- Prioritize individual healing and self-attachment before making relationship decisions

Why is CPTSD resolution considered a lifestyle?

The CPTSD Medicine Podcast seeks to resolve Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) and disrupt cycles of generational trauma. This initiative coincides with the full moon of Aries, offering diverse participation methods such as free community live streams, a self-paced subscription service, and mentorship, all grounded in the CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol. Tanner, reflecting on her podcast journey, expresses gratitude for the listeners who have shared their stories and found healing through her content. She underscores the significance of commitment to the CPTSD Medicine path, encouraging new listeners to join the community. Over the years, Tanner has embraced challenges and personal growth, refining her approach to trauma resolution and fostering a collective dedicated to healing, with an invitation to engage through the Students of the Medicine hub and a revitalized Instagram presence.

Key TakeAways

- CPTSD resolution is a lifestyle, not just a task

- Participating in healing routines can break generational trauma cycles

- Developing simple structures in daily life supports effective healing

- Morning routines can set the tone for a successful healing journey

- Consistent effort and experimentation are key in building healing routines

- Embodying healing as a lifestyle can lead to significant progress in CPTSD resolution

Actionable Insights

- Commit to CPTSD resolution and breaking generational trauma cycles

- Embody the results you seek in your healing journey

- Engage in healing routines to have a collective impact on shaping a new mental health paradigm

- Develop simple structures in daily life to support healing and reconnect with oneself

- Incorporate morning routines aligned with personal power to take leadership in healing journey

- Embody healing as a lifestyle to make quantum leaps in CPTSD resolution

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How does childhood betrayal trauma impact an individual's ability to form secure attachments?

Tanner underscores the critical role of trust in fostering relational healing and secure attachments, particularly for individuals who have experienced childhood betrayal trauma. He distinguishes between adult and childhood betrayal trauma, highlighting the latter's impact on an individual's ability to form secure attachments due to early caregiver violations of safety. Tanner emphasizes the necessity of understanding past influences on belief systems and the importance of seeking external support to address trust issues effectively. She advocates for active engagement from both partners in the trust-building process, noting that open communication and mutual understanding are key components of recovering from trauma and building a healthy relationship. Additionally, Tanner illustrates how misunderstandings, such as one involving a coat, can be resolved through effective communication, ultimately promoting intimacy and emotional security within partnerships.

Trust issues in relationships can be a significant barrier to forming healthy emotional connections, often rooted in past experiences that leave individuals feeling vulnerable and insecure. Tanner, an advocate for understanding the profound impact of betrayal trauma experienced in childhood, highlights how early violations of trust by caregivers can hinder one's ability to form secure attachments in adulthood. With a focus on relational healing, Tanner encourages individuals to recognize trust issues not as personal failings but as residues of past trauma that necessitate a compassionate and informed approach. She underscores the importance of both partners actively engaging in open communication to rebuild trust, fostering an environment of mutual understanding and emotional security.

Key TakeAways

- Trust is essential for relational healing and intimacy in relationships.

- Childhood betrayal trauma can lead to difficulties in forming secure attachments and trusting others.

- Addressing trust issues involves understanding interactions and seeking external support.

- Feeling safe and secure with a partner is crucial for building trust and achieving secure attachments.

- Partners need to actively engage in trust-building exercises to foster healing and growth in relationships.

- Effective communication and trust-building are key to resolving misunderstandings and addressing trust issues.

- Trust is established through interactions with others, and ongoing effort is required to minimize trust issues and promote intimacy.

Actionable Insights

- Address trust issues by understanding one's interactions

- Seek external support if needed for trust issues

- Continually test trust until truly believing the partner is reliable

- Both partners need to actively engage in the trust-building process

- Understand past influences on belief systems to minimize trust issues

- Acknowledge and address potential compassion fatigue in partners of trauma survivors

- Prioritize trust, be vulnerable, and promote honest dialogue in relationships

What is shamanic astrology and how can it help with healing and transformation?

How does exploring one's Sacred Blueprint aid in moving beyond trauma identification?

Archetypal work and shamanic astrology are powerful tools for healing and transformation, particularly in the context of CPTSD, as discussed by Tanner and Levi. By exploring one's Sacred Blueprint and engaging with archetypal narratives, individuals can break free from trauma cycles and discover new aspects of themselves, aiding in their healing journey. Levi Banner, a certified astrologer, uses music, breathwork, and astrology to guide individuals toward self-empowerment and understanding through the lens of shamanic astrology. This approach, which blends ancient wisdom with modern insights, helps individuals connect with their hero's journey and navigate life's complexities. Practitioners of shamantic astrology emphasize the importance of shifting focus from trauma to one's astrological and sacred influences to establish new identities and paths of healing and self-discovery.

Levi Banner, a spiritual teacher renowned for integrating astrology, breathwork, and music, offers a transformative perspective on astrology as a pathway to self-discovery and healing. Inspired by luminaries like Joseph Campbell and Carl Jung, he uses archetypes to help individuals understand their personal hero's journey, viewing astrology as a map of one's unique myth and life path. Levi believes that by understanding the basic elements and archetypes that shape a person's identity through astrology, individuals can find fulfillment and happiness amidst societal pressures. Through his workshops worldwide, he empowers participants to reconnect with their true selves, encouraging them to embrace their ancient human stories and navigate life's complexities with newfound clarity.

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Key TakeAways:

- Archetypal work supports healing and transformation in the context of CPTSD Medicine.

- Exploring one's Sacred Blueprint and mythical journey is crucial to moving beyond trauma identification.

- Shamanic astrology helps individuals understand their unique hero's journey through archetypes in their birth charts.

- Astrology aids in deciphering archetypes in a person's birth chart, providing insights into their personalities and guiding them through life.

- Astrology, Gene Keys, Human Design, articulate your Sacred Blueprint as a powerful tool for healing and self-discovery, especially for individuals Resolving CPTSD.

Actionable Insights:

- Explore your Sacred Blueprint and mythical journey to move beyond trauma identification

- Delve into archetypal work to discover different aspects of oneself and break free from the cycle of trauma

- Recognize archetypal resonance in your birth chart to gain insight into one's makeup and direction towards fulfillment

- Incorporate shamanic breathwork practices to reconnect with one's highest self and navigate the hero's journey

- Establish a new sense of identity beyond past trauma by exploring your Sacred Blueprint and astrological influences

- Uncover your True Self by recognizing and understanding personal archetypes through astrology and breathwork

Quotes:

(00:05:52)  "The astrology that we share is blending so many different practices." - Levi Banner

(00:12:23) "When you're open to explore and you just trust in the unfolding of what information is going to come, when the teachers are going to come, it really does open up this place where people, teachers, teachings weave in and out of your life and the ones that seem they're meant to stay keep coming back." - Tanner

(00:17:09) "We are all made of many archetypes, and to notice that is extremely powerful. And then you get your own myth. You get your own hero story, Hero's journey of your own." - Levi Banner

(00:19:56) "When you release the Trauma Energies, all of us are like, but who are we without that? And that question of: who are we without this? That is a really terrifying question." - Tanner

(00:24:01) "I think find a school you like, an astrologer you like, and go down that path or follow their rabbit hole as long as you can." - Levi Banner

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How does Tanner suggest transitioning from a disempowered state to empowered Divine leadership?

Complex trauma recovery is a profound and intricate journey that involves healing from deep-seated emotional and psychological wounds, often stemming from chronic exposure to traumatic experiences. Tanner is pioneering a comprehensive approach to recovery through his Council of Guides Instagram platform, where she shares insights and introduces a transformative paradigm that highlights the crucial role of guides in the healing process. Drawing from her own experiences, Tanner acknowledges that individuals often start their healing journey with a self-centered focus, driven by survival instincts and personal pain. Over time, she believes this can evolve into externalizing blame, which reflects a disempowered mindset. Having gone through her own healing evolution, Tanner advocates for small, intimate settings that integrate Internal Family Systems and shamanistic practices, ultimately guiding individuals toward self-transcendence and empowerment through intentional living and spiritual awakenings.

Key TakeAways

- Tanner emphasizes the importance of holding intimate, small containers for powerful medicine in trauma recovery.

- Self-centeredness on the healing journey is crucial for progress towards self transcendence.

- Taking radical responsibility for one's inner world and actions is a key step in the healing journey for childhood trauma survivors.

- Transitioning from a Self-led survivor to an empowered Divine leader involves healing Circuits and energetic practices.

- Moving from the survivor identity to the returning and remembering phase involves recognizing unique gifts and experiencing a spiritual awakening.

Actionable Insights

- Prioritize inner work, slow down, and turn inward on your healing journey

- Take radical responsibility for your inner world and actions to shift towards Self-led survivor

- Engage in daily devotional practices and energetic training to progress towards becoming an emotionally sovereign leader

- Release survivor identity energetically and embrace your gifts and spiritual calling

- Transition from survivor identity to Self-led survivor, ready to embrace true essence and empowered leadership within yourself

What is the Success Trauma Theme?

Success trauma, rooted in past experiences and family history, can lead to emotionally charged decision-making and self-abandoning behaviors, impacting present-day choices. Tanner's Interaction Tracking Method offers a structured approach to trauma recovery, encouraging individuals to document interactions and analyze emotions to uncover patterns of intergenerational trauma. By identifying hidden patterns and understanding trauma triggers, individuals can break free from detrimental cycles, fostering personal growth and healthier relationships. The theme of separation trauma highlights fears of abandonment and rejection, often traced back to family experiences, and underscores the importance of recognizing these core themes for healing. Tanner emphasizes the impact of family dynamics on views of success and failure, as demonstrated by financial stress affecting interpersonal relationships, advocating for open communication to address these challenges.

Intergenerational trauma refers to the transmission of emotional and psychological effects of trauma across generations, often manifesting in behaviors and decision-making patterns that can disrupt relationships and personal well-being. Tanner, an advocate for addressing intergenerational trauma, views this phenomenon through the lens of personal experiences with toxic narratives and childhood trauma triggers. Her approach emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and inner child work, utilizing tools like his Interaction Tracking Method to empower individuals in identifying and understanding these inherited patterns. By fostering relational healing and safe partnerships, Tanner believes that individuals can courageously confront past wounds, ultimately breaking free from detrimental cycles and facilitating recovery from complex PTSD.

Key TakeAways

- Success trauma can lead to emotionally flashbacked decision-making, pushing individuals to make choices based on past experiences that may not align with the current situation.

- Recurrent negative feelings and self-abandoning behaviors are often rooted in past traumas from not only our own experiences but also those of our parents and caregivers, shaping our behavioral patterns and family systems.

- The Interaction Tracking Method is a structured approach to trauma recovery, focusing on out-of-control emotions, self-sabotaging behaviors, and childhood wounds.

- Identifying hidden patterns related to intergenerational trauma is crucial in breaking cycles of trauma transmission and fostering personal growth.

- The Separation Trauma Theme focuses on feelings of abandonment, rejection, loss of control, and other related fears that may stem from family experiences.

- Recognizing core themes related to trauma triggers in relationships can help individuals address past trauma triggers and foster healthier interactions in the present.

- The Success Trauma Theme explores how family histories can impact views on failure, recognition, and achievement.

Actionable Insights

- Recognize trauma themes in decision-making processes

- Document interactions and context factors for insights

- Identify trauma triggers in present-day life

- Address core themes related to intergenerational trauma transmission

- Recognize and address core themes related to trauma triggers in relationships

- Understand how family histories impact views on success and failure

- Practice open, honest communication when facing financial challenges

What are some key elements in transitioning from survivor to thriver?

Transitioning from a survivor to a thriver is a transformative journey that involves overcoming fears, establishing safe environments, and embracing change. This process requires individuals to recognize unsafe coping mechanisms and dysfunctional relationships, allowing them to stand up for themselves and create a life of genuine safety and trust. Tanner underscores the necessity of safe partnerships, supportive communities, and trauma therapists in facilitating recovery from complex trauma, highlighting the need for deep, authentic conversations. Tanner focuses on dismantling trauma-based responses and rewiring the brain, advocating for gradual steps and community support as essential elements in moving from survival to thriving. Through his podcast and educational series, Tanner provides resources for survivors to understand intergenerational trauma and find hope and support in their healing journeys.

Key TakeAways

- Transition from Survivor to Thriver involves facing fears and creating safe spaces

- Dismantling trauma-based responses requires gradual steps and guidance

- Importance of safe partnerships, community support, and guidance from trauma therapists in recovery journey

Actionable Insights

- Acknowledge familiar yet unsafe coping mechanisms and dysfunctional relationships to start standing up for oneself

- Distance from challenging relationships temporarily and set time-limited boundaries to create a space filled with trust and security

- Create enduring spaces for survivors and their partners to do the work of recovery through real, raw conversations and access to tools for relational healing

Why is it essential to work with Protective Parts in complex trauma recovery?

The Internal Family Systems (IFS) model has emerged as a vital framework for addressing the complexities of trauma burdens, offering a compassionate approach to healing by understanding these liabilities and nurturing an individual's inner world. In the context of working with those who have experienced deep, lasting trauma, the model can be especially transformative. This approach leverages the insights and experiences of experts like Tanner, who emphasizes the importance of understanding and engaging with the different aspects of one's psyche that have developed in response to life's challenges. She highlights the necessity of holding strong, safe containers for Unburdening in addition to nurturing, understanding, and harmonizing these components, a greater harmony and balance can be achieved, promoting profound healing and personal growth. Tanner's perspective has been shaped through her her understanding of the intricate layers of human experience within a trauma ecosystem. Her work underscores the importance of evolving and adapting therapeutic models to meet the unique needs of those on their journey from survival to thriving.

Key TakeAways

- Efforts to innovate and enhance the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model for more efficient and effective complex trauma recovery are crucial.

- Tanner emphasizes the importance of using Internal Family Systems therapy for complex trauma recovery and the need for skilled practitioners who understand trauma intricacies.

- The awakening process of Protective Parts in trauma healing involves an Attachment Restoration and a profound shift in understanding of self and healing journey.

- Working with Protective Parts is essential for expediting healing and preventing setbacks in complex trauma survivors.

- Establishing trust with Protective Parts is crucial to facilitate healing and prevent disruptions in the healing process.

Actionable Insights

- Recognize the importance of understanding and working with Protective Parts in trauma recovery

- Implement energetic release and breathwork in practice to aid in the awakening process of protective parts

- Collaborate with others to enhance the Internal Family Systems model for complex trauma healing

- Acknowledge and hold space for the awakening of protective parts to deepen trust and facilitate healing

- Establish trust with protective parts to prevent therapeutic stalemates and expedite healing

What is the significance of observing moment-by-moment interactions in relationships?

Tanner highlights the importance of self-regulation and emotion management in maintaining healthy relationships, emphasizing self-soothing techniques and self-care to handle conflicts and prevent escalation. Her insights into emotional flashbacks and trauma reveal the necessity of understanding one's triggers and developing open dialogues with partners to foster secure and stable attachments. She underscores the significance of observing moment-by-moment interactions to strengthen relationship dynamics, using research-based heuristics to facilitate positive changes and enhance understanding between partners. She advocates for context-specific advice over traditional relationship frameworks, emphasizing the need to adapt strategies to real-life situations, stressing the interplay between thoughts, communication, and context, offering practical approaches to relational healing and the development of secure, supportive partnerships.

Relationship frameworks serve as structured approaches to understanding and enhancing the dynamics between partners, focusing on factors such as communication, emotional regulation, and attachment. Tanner offers a unique perspective on these frameworks, arguing that traditional models often fall short in real-life contexts. Her experiences with her partner, Matt, have led her to prioritize moment-by-moment interactions over rigid frameworks, recognizing that each exchange of information contributes to the evolving nature of their relationship. Drawing from her research background, Tanner has developed simple heuristics to better understand and improve these interactions, emphasizing the importance of presence and clarity in building a secure and loving partnership.

Key TakeAways

- Developing self-regulation and emotion regulation skills is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.

- Understanding moment-by-moment interactions is key to building strong relationships.

- Context-specific advice and focusing on real-life situations are essential for improving relationships.

- Recognizing emotional flashbacks, having open dialogues, and understanding trauma's impact are important for relational healing.

- Self-reflection, identifying components that impact relationships, and utilizing relational healing tools are fundamental for the recovery journey.

- Observing interactions, studying the interplay between thoughts, communication, and context can lead to a deeper understanding of relationship dynamics.

Actionable Insights

- Practice self-regulation and emotion regulation in relationships to prevent escalation

- Engage in self-soothing practices independently after conflicts to manage overwhelming emotions

- Focus on moment-by-moment interactions as building blocks of a strong relationship

- Observe, study, and modify interactions to enhance relationship dynamics

- Recognize emotional flashbacks from past trauma and communicate with partners about emotional states

- Improve self-awareness and communication through self-reflection for relational healing

00:01:15 - Self Regulation in Relationships

Tanner emphasizes the importance of self-regulation and emotion regulation in relationships to prevent situations from spiraling out of control and maintain a healthy connection with a partner. Through her own experiences with triggers and conflicts, Tanner highlights the significance of being able to self-soothe and regulate emotions to avoid escalating disagreements. She also emphasizes the value of self-care practices, such as engaging in full-body healing modalities independently to manage overwhelming emotions after a serious fight. Developing these skills and strategies can help individuals build secure attachments with their partners and foster healthier, more stable relationships.

00:06:37 - Core Components of Relationship Building

Tanner discusses the core components of relationship building, emphasizing the importance of understanding moment-by-moment interactions as the building blocks of a strong relationship. She highlights the significance of exchanging information in relationships and how these interactions can lead to insights and positive change. Tanner draws upon her research background to develop heuristics and frameworks to improve relationship dynamics, stressing the need to observe, study, and modify interactions to enhance outcomes. By focusing on these core components, individuals can gain clarity about their relationships and work towards building secure connections and love with their partners.

00:11:24 - Relationship Frameworks

Tanner emphasizes the limitations of relationship frameworks and emphasizes the importance of context-specific advice for improving relationships. She discovered that traditional relationship advice lacked practical guidance for real-life situations, prompting her to apply her research methods to studying interactions with her partner. By focusing on moment-by-moment exchanges of information, Tanner developed a heuristic model to enhance understanding and facilitate positive changes in her relationship. This approach enabled her to observe, learn, and modify her interactions with her partner to ultimately improve their connection and growth together.

00:17:52 - Interaction Effects in Communication

Thoughts, communication, and context interact to create an effect in communication and relationships. Tanner observed interactions with her partner, Matt, noting instances where thoughts were not verbalized, communication was poorly executed, and words were spoken without much thought. These observations led Tanner to recognize the impact of contextual factors on their exchanges, such as who was present and what had occurred before and after a conversation. Through these realizations, Tanner developed a framework to study the interplay between thoughts, communication, and context, ultimately leading to a deeper understanding of their relationship dynamics.

00:27:23 - Relational Healing Journey

The journey towards relational healing involves recognizing emotional flashbacks, developing open dialogues with partners, and understanding the impact of trauma on interactions. Tanner emphasizes the importance of recognizing emotional flashbacks from past trauma that can impact present interactions, exiting triggering situations, and communicating with partners about emotional states. She also discusses the significance of having open dialogues with partners who are aware of emotional triggers and can offer support during difficult moments, showcasing a deeper level of relational healing. Furthermore, Tanner explains that true relational healing involves moving past emotional flashbacks and trusting that imperfections do not signify betrayal, ultimately leading to a sense of safety and security in relationships.

00:30:04 - Relational Healing Tools

Understanding oneself as a trauma survivor, mapping interactions, and identifying components that impact relationships are fundamental steps in the recovery journey. By learning about how trauma influences thoughts and behaviors, individuals can begin the process of relational healing. Inserting tools and perspectives into interactions can enhance self-awareness and improve communication, leading to reparative emotional experiences that allow for secure attachments and reduce trauma responses that hinder stable relationships. Through self-reflection and the utilization of relational healing tools, individuals can work towards a life of security, safety, and emotional well-being.

What is the CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol?

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) recovery involves navigating a path of healing that acknowledges the intricate interplay between traumatic experiences and one's emotional and relational well-being. Tanner Wallace, host of the CPTSD Medicine Podcast, introduces a groundbreaking healing protocol that integrates the Five Circuits of Healing Power and the CPTSD Wheel of Life, offering a transformative approach for those on their healing journey. With a background deeply rooted in holistic healing, Tanner emphasizes the importance of recognizing the interconnectedness of human experiences and energetic shifts, advocating for a non-hierarchical approach that taps into divinely sourced energy. She believes that true recovery lies in the alignment with the frequency of "there is no separation," urging individuals to embrace this holistic perspective with discernment and openness. Through practices that enhance self-energetic frequencies like compassion and grace, Tanner's protocol focuses on breaking the cycle of trauma, repairing attachments, and fostering resilience, ultimately guiding individuals to take responsibility for their healing journey.

Key TakeAways

- Recognize the interconnectedness of human experiences and energetic processes for healing

- Engage in physical and energetic practices to release trauma and tap into divinely sourced energy

- Focus on breaking cycles of blame and shame through practices of energetic and developmental differentiation

- Take responsibility for relationships by facing discomfort, exploring unresolved feelings, and acknowledging emotions

- Emphasize patience, self-reflection, and forgiveness to break cycles of blame and shame in healing journey

Actionable Insights

- Recognize the interconnectedness of human experiences and energetic processes for healing

- Engage in physical and energetic practices to release trauma and tap into divinely sourced energy

- Focus on breaking cycles of blame and shame through practices of energetic and developmental differentiation

- Take responsibility for relationships by facing discomfort, exploring unresolved feelings, and acknowledging emotions

- Emphasize patience, self-reflection, and forgiveness to break cycles of blame and shame in healing journey

Quotes:

“We find ourselves in these liminal spaces. I haven't fully released the past, but I also haven't landed completely in the future.” — Tanner [12:11]

“If we zoom out a little bit, we see ourselves, our children, our parents, our lineage, [and] our ancestors all woven together in a much larger narrative and inheritance of hurt.” — Tanner  [19:45]

“Parts of us have been harmed significantly by our parents not being able, willing, or available to stop the trauma. But they didn't start the trauma. They're swimming in it, along with us.” — Tanner [20:10]

“Our most wounded Parts need permission to speak the truth. It's an essential part of CPTSD recovery.” — Tanner  [20:35]

“Cycle-breaking is when the threads are repaired, restored, rejuvenated, [and] regenerated: internal attachment restoration and external attachment restoration.” — Tanner [28:17]

“Let’s neutralize the zing of responsibility so that it's available to us as mature adults on a healing path. Responsibility, accountability: these are the frequencies of cycle-breaking.” — Tanner  [36:37]

Why is it important to choose strong containers for healing?

Self leadership and empowerment are crucial components in the journey of personal development and healing, particularly for individuals recovering from trauma. Tanner, an advocate for a holistic and humanistic approach to healing, underscores the importance of moving beyond traditional medical models to embrace methods that emphasize empowerment and connection to source energy. With her background in facilitating transformative healing experiences, Tanner's perspective is shaped by his commitment to empowering trauma survivors through his ten-month program, 'DEVOTED,' which incorporates innovative practices such as parts work and shamanistic experiences. She believes that fostering environments where individuals can authentically express themselves without fear of judgment is essential for shifting focus from solely identifying with trauma to embracing self-awareness and personal growth. Through this lens, Tanner aims to guide individuals towards a more empowered and self-led healing journey.

Key TakeAways

- Tanner emphasizes the importance of creating a fund of knowledge around complex trauma, focusing on healing from an empowered, holistic, and humanistic perspective.

- Tanner's approach involves tapping into deeper source energy aspects of healing complex trauma, emphasizing Self Leadership and creating a connection to Source Energy as a powerful tool in the healing process.

- Tanner introduces the ten-month healing circle program 'DEVOTED' as a journey towards empowerment for survivors, incorporating parts work and shamanistic experiences to unlock individual strength and create a ripple effect of healing.

- Frank Anderson discusses why more therapists and coaches don't talk about themselves as trauma survivors and the importance of showing up fully in healing containers.

- Choosing strong containers for healing is crucial, as Tanner highlights the importance of feeling safe enough to fully show up and release in order to progress on a healing journey.

- Tanner emphasizes the transformation clients undergo as they transition from identifying solely with trauma to embracing their healing journey and personal development.

Actionable Insights

- Focus on creating a fund of knowledge around complex trauma

- Explore healing methods beyond traditional medical models

- Tap into deeper Source Energy aspects of healing complex trauma

- Choose strong containers for healing to feel safe and fully show up

- Transition from identifying solely with trauma to embracing personal development

- Emphasize the importance of Self Energy and Self Leadership in healing complex trauma

What is the importance of uncovering one's True Self in trauma recovery?

Trauma recovery coaching is an emerging field focused on helping individuals heal from complex trauma by fostering personal development and self-discovery. Tanner Wallace, a former university professor turned full-time trauma recovery coach, brings a unique perspective to this endeavor. Tanner's approach emphasizes the importance of evolving beyond mere symptom management, advocating for a journey of deepening self-awareness and growth. Drawing from her experiences, Tanner encourages individuals to embrace emotions and energy, viewing trauma recovery as an opportunity for continuous personal development. This perspective highlights the transformative power of self-empowerment and self-accountability, suggesting that true healing involves both guided support and individual responsibility.

Key TakeAways

- Trauma recovery can be seen as a form of potent personal development empowering individuals on their healing journey.

- Recognizing Protective Parts developed in response to trauma is crucial in reconnecting with one's true self for authentic healing.

- Accessing Self Energy involves making a deep commitment to no longer being afraid of one's own emotions and energy.

- Taking responsibility for grounding oneself and maintaining accountability is essential in the healing journey for authentic recovery.

- Guided support, like therapy or parts work, can help individuals access self-energy and overcome ingrained fears and conditioning.

- Using mantras like 'I am the safest human in the room' can empower individuals to navigate interactions with authenticity and respect.

- Viewing recovery as a journey of self-discovery and personal growth shifts the focus from symptom management to transformation.

Actionable Insights

- Recognize the impact of trauma on decision-making and emotional responses

- Shift the conversation from symptom management to a journey of self-discovery and growth

- Commit to accessing self energy by overcoming fears and negative emotions

- Separate oneself from protective parts developed in childhood trauma

- Acknowledge challenging emotions as parts of oneself for authentic recovery

- Take back responsibility for grounding oneself and maintaining accountability

- Use mantras and affirmations to embody authenticity and respect in interactions

What is the importance of distinguishing between selfishness and self-centeredness in trauma recovery?

The healing journey is a profound and multifaceted exploration of recovering from complex trauma, where individuals strive to recalibrate their inner compass and restore balance within themselves. Tanner provides critical insights into this journey, focusing on the crucial distinction between selfishness and self-centeredness as a method for recalibrating one's path towards healing. Her perspective is rooted in the belief that healing involves unlocking one's inherent power and transforming old beliefs to emerge as a whole and healed individual. By engaging in survivor-led conversations and fostering an environment of vulnerability and compassion, Tanner invites individuals to join "The Clearing," a space where they can tap into healing energies and develop new approaches to recovery. Her approach underscores the importance of communication skills and personal empowerment, acknowledging that healing is an ongoing process intricately woven into the fabric of daily life and relationships.

Key TakeAways

- Tanner focuses on efficient complex trauma recovery through the Relational Healing Lab.

- Learning how to show up with vulnerability and reprogram the brain is crucial for healing.

- Self-centeredness during active recovery is a gift that leads to a more fulfilling life.

- Partnership healing and vulnerability involves connecting and restoring attachments for healing past wounds.

- Addressing root causes and improving communication enhances relationships and quality of life.

- Attachment woundings lead to the development of survival codes for self-protection.

- Active recovery focuses on internal healing to foster healthier relationships and break destructive patterns.

Actionable Insights

- Distinguish between selfishness and self-centeredness for inner work

- Practice vulnerability to heal past wounds and receive support

- Focus on partnership healing and vulnerability in relationships

- Address root causes and improve communication for better relationships

- Understand the impact of trauma on relationships for self-awareness

- Prioritize internal healing to prevent selfish behavior and loneliness

- Utilize unblending processes and balance protective parts for healing

Why is understanding roles within a family dynamic based on trauma ecosystems essential for navigating adult relationships?

Family dynamics play a crucial role in the recovery process from complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD), as they can significantly influence an individual's healing journey. Tanner explores the intricate challenges of managing extended family relationships during CPTSD recovery, emphasizing the necessity of setting firm boundaries to prioritize personal safety and healing. With her insights shaped by experiences of familial roles rooted in trauma ecosystems, Tanner highlights how these roles can persist into adulthood, affecting self-identity and partnerships. She advocates for focusing energy on nurturing healthy relationships within one's immediate partnership, suggesting that a compassionate and loving approach can facilitate a secure healing environment. Moreover, Tanner underlines the importance of understanding and navigating these familial roles to create healthier dynamics and ultimately foster personal resolution and healing within the context of relationships.

Key TakeAways

- Setting boundaries and taking space is crucial in managing extended family dynamics during CPTSD recovery.

- Healing from CPTSD can inspire family members to embark on their own healing journeys or adjust their relationships.

- Redirecting energy towards building intimacy and connection within partnerships is key for healing and reconciliation within families.

- Understanding roles within a family dynamic based on trauma ecosystems is essential for navigating adult relationships and fostering healing.

- Enmeshment can lead to a lack of autonomy, identity, and recognition, impacting relationships and the establishment of boundaries.

Actionable Insights

- Set boundaries and take space when needed in managing extended family dynamics during CPTSD recovery

- Unburden oneself and radiate compassion, forgiveness, and love to navigate delicate family dynamics

- Redirect energy towards building intimacy and connection within partnerships for healing and reconciliation within families

- Understand roles within a family dynamic based on trauma ecosystems to navigate adult relationships and work towards healthier family dynamics

- Recognize the burden of enmeshment and feeling invisible in family dynamics to establish autonomy and identity

Quotes:

“CPTSD, [a] complex trauma, is a specific relational injury that impacts almost every aspect of your life, internally and externally. And yet, it can be healed. It can be resolved. You can complete active recovery of CPTSD.” — Tanner [01:50]

“The disconnections, the no contact, the estrangements; all of those, as I understand it now, are human attempts to demand external safety when in truth, safety is an internal experience.” — Tanner [06:00]

“You can’t really have a real, authentic, intimate relationship with somebody [who’s] running [on] survival instinct. You can appreciate them, you can hold space for them, you can be around them, you can laugh with them, you can even have fun with them, but that deep, reciprocal, authentic, genuine intimacy is not possible.” — Tanner [09:54]

“Continue to unburden your own system and radiate compassion, forgiveness, and love, and keep showing up in those frequencies and see what happens over time.” — Tanner  [11:43] 

“Just repeat, repeat, repeat, repeat. It’s the same basic things again and again and again that create a successful CPTSD recovery journey.” — Tanner  [34:56]

How can working with Energy Centers aid in healing and releasing burdens?

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) recovery is a multifaceted journey that involves addressing the physical, emotional, and spiritual dimensions of healing. Tanner offers a unique perspective on this journey, advocating for a personalized and meaningful approach to recovery. Their perspective is shaped by the belief that CPTSD recovery is not a linear or perfect system but a sacred process that requires individuals to explore and organize their healing efforts in a way that resonates with them. Through their experiences, Tanner emphasizes the importance of breaking free from old survival patterns and fear-based coding by cultivating new thoughts and images, viewing this transformative process as essential not only for personal healing but also for the benefit of future generations.

Key TakeAways

- A multidimensional approach in CPTSD recovery focuses on physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects.

- Working with Energy Centers can aid in healing Protective Parts, retrieving Wounded Younger Parts, and releasing ancestral legacy burdens.

- The Unburdening and embodiment sequence involves enhancing self-worth, inner reflection, and personal power through working with energy centers.

- The Desire Energy Center plays a key role in regaining personal power, agency, and the ability to choose wisely.

Actionable Insights

- Engage in healing Protective Parts and retrieving Wounded Younger Parts

- Focus on the six Energy Centers within for enhancing Self-worth and personal power

- Utilize mantras like 'full permission' to navigate uncertainty and make informed decisions

- Drop into the Mind Energy Center for clarity and peacefulness during times of confusion

Quotes:

“I believe that all of us, as CycleBreakers, need to resonate with, find the frequency of the Motherless Mother.” — Tanner [01:55] 

“We are energetically very messy, as a human running protective part energy, that has been activated by wounded younger parts.” — Tanner [05:52]

“We really want to rewrite the old coding.” — Tanner  [06:24]

What role do relational healing and positive interactions play in personal growth and well-being?

Investing in relationships is a crucial aspect of personal development and well-being, particularly for those who have experienced trauma or come from challenging family backgrounds. Tanner, whose insights stem from both personal and professional experiences, emphasizes the transformative power of making wise relationship decisions. With a background deeply rooted in understanding the dynamics of toxic family systems, Tanner highlights the importance of shifting one's mindset from feeling defective to merely lacking certain skills. She advocates for the pursuit of healthy, stable relationships as these provide not only emotional stability and fulfillment but also a nurturing environment for effective communication and problem-solving. Tanner also reassures individuals that the end of a relationship should not be a source of shame, as it might not have been the right environment for healing at that time, underscoring the necessity of seeking connections that truly support one's growth and healing journey.

Tanner emphasizes the critical role of relational healing and positive interactions in fostering personal growth and well-being, particularly for individuals with traumatic pasts or toxic family systems. She highlights the importance of making wise relationship decisions, developing communication skills, and investing in stable, long-term partnerships to achieve emotional attunement and intimacy. Strategies like using timeouts during emotional flashbacks and engaging with supportive survivor communities are recommended to manage relationship challenges and promote healing. Tanner also suggests journaling as a powerful tool for emotional release and clarity, aiding in effective communication within relationships. Overall, embracing vulnerability and seeking understanding through trusted connections can lead to transformative personal growth and fulfillment.

Key TakeAways

- Relational healing and attachment are crucial for personal growth and well-being.

- Investing in the health of relationships is essential for long-term stability and fulfillment.

- Positive interactions and communication skills are key in nurturing healthy relationships.

- Recognizing emotional flashbacks and utilizing timeouts can prevent damaging conflicts in relationships.

- Finding a survivor friend or mentor for support in the healing process is important.

Actionable Insights

- Make wise relationship decisions on both micro and macro levels

- Develop empowered communication skills to foster healthy relationships

- Recognize emotional flashbacks and use timeouts to prevent damaging conflicts

- Connect with survivor communities for support in the healing process

- Utilize journaling for emotional release and increased clarity in partnerships

How can individuals transition from a fear-based frequency to a frequency of love for healing?

Trauma recovery is a complex journey that involves healing from past wounds and reshaping one's life towards a more positive future. Tanner advocates for a survivor-led revolution in trauma recovery, where individuals are at the forefront of their healing journey, empowered by the latest research and a humanistic approach. Her perspective is shaped by his belief in the power of community and ongoing conversations, encouraging people to take charge of their own recovery as their most powerful coach. By fostering environments that support holistic healing and personal empowerment, Tanner envisions a transformative path for survivors to reprogram their lives, overcome fear-based influences, and achieve authentic self-expression.

Key TakeAways

- Healing is a collective effort that requires ongoing conversations and peer support.

- Breaking free from fear-based prophecies inherited from parents is crucial for trauma recovery.

- Individuals may struggle with self-worth and acceptance as survivors of trauma, but empowerment and self-leadership are key in rewriting their narratives.

- Parents can pass on unhealed trauma and fear-based prophecies to their children, impacting their emotional growth.

- Transitioning from a fear-based frequency to a frequency of love is a transformative process that unlocks infinite possibilities.

- Examining and healing unconscious fear-based prophecies can empower individuals to manifest their truest selves.

- The Relational Healing Lab is a survivor-led initiative focusing on complex trauma, attachment issues, and relational healing.

Actionable Insights

- Prioritize ongoing conversations and peer support in trauma recovery

- Create a survivor-led trauma recovery revolution based on the latest research

- Recognize and break free from fear-based prophecies inherited from parents

- Empower individuals to rewrite their narratives and break free from fear-based frequencies

- Acknowledge and actively work towards healing inherited burdens to create a positive legacy

- Transition from fear-based frequency to a frequency of love for transformative healing

- Reflect on and heal unconscious fear-based prophecies to unlock personal power and authenticity

What are the key components for comprehensive healing from complex trauma?

Recovery from complex trauma is a profound journey that requires a multifaceted approach to healing. It involves understanding and addressing the intricate layers of psychological and emotional damage that have been sustained over time. Tanner views this recovery process as embarking on an uncertain journey guided by a flexible framework. She emphasizes the importance of being open to new interventions and understanding the timing and application of various healing modalities. Tanner's perspective is deeply shaped by her belief in the cyclical nature of healing, acknowledging that individuals must bravely confront their inner darkness and past traumas, allowing every aspect of their internal experience to be acknowledged for authentic recovery to unfold.

Key TakeAways

- Recovery from complex trauma requires a clear framework and sequence of interventions.

- Survivor-led perspectives are crucial in developing a collective understanding of trauma recovery.

- Sacrifice and deep investment are necessary for profound relational healing.

- Permanent healing and attachment restoration are achievable goals in trauma recovery.

- Acknowledging and facing past traumatic experiences is essential to unburden protective parts.

- Reparenting involves nurturing and supporting oneself in a kind manner during the healing journey.

- Discovery is crucial for learning, growth, and transformation in the healing process.

Actionable Insights

- Invest in structured trauma recovery programs for attachment restoration and relational healing

- Commit fully to the healing process by reassessing spending habits and prioritizing resources towards recovery programs

- Focus on strengthening emotion regulation alongside parts work for comprehensive healing from complex trauma

- Create a safe and supportive environment to face past traumatic experiences and unburden protective parts

- Practice reparenting as a gentle and encouraging approach to healing trauma within oneself

- Engage in the trauma recovery process by leaving behind looping negative emotions and embracing present-day emotions

- Emphasize discovery in the healing process for learning, growth, and transformation

Why is it important to collaboratively revise the relationship story for partners healing from past traumas?

Healing trauma, particularly from complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD), is a profound journey that can be significantly influenced by the dynamics of partnership. Tanner Wallace, in her insightful exploration on The CPTSD Medicine Podcast, emphasizes the transformative potential of supportive relationships in this healing process. With a focus on revising the narrative of their relationship, Tanner suggests that partners can build deeper connections and mutual understanding, which are crucial for individuals dealing with trauma. By encouraging honest dialogue and embodying compassion, Tanner believes that partners can address unmet needs and protective behaviors, creating a context that honors their shared realities. This approach not only fosters individual healing but also transforms the relationship into a nurturing space for growth and a purposeful, loving life together.

Key TakeAways

- Partnerships can serve as training grounds for healing trauma and personal evolution.

- Co-creating a revised relationship story based on reality and respect is crucial for growth and compassion.

- Individual healing work and unburdening past hurts are essential for fostering healthy relationships.

- Partnerships provide a relational field for healing, growth, and tapping into compassion and love.

Actionable Insights

- Work together with your partner in the healing process

- Reflect on the evolution of your relationship story and acknowledge different narratives

- Engage in mature and honest conversations with your partner

- Address past hurts and unburden yourself to foster healthy relationships

Quotes:

“[A relationship] is a training ground in the relational field for every human, but particularly for humans that have betrayals in the attachment context of their childhood.” — Tanner  [10:49]

“There is no other training ground than CPTSD and the relational field to tap into those codes.” — Tanner  [11:19]

“When I retreat and get on my own team, and see you as the enemy, I’ve separated from love.” — Tanner  [12:56]

“The more flexible and adaptable and open we are to revisions, to evolution, to learning, the better off we all are.” — Tanner  [13:56]

Why is a recovery framework that is sober, slow, and systematic recommended?

Self-leadership and recovery are vital components in the journey towards healing, particularly when dealing with trauma. This concept revolves around the idea that individuals can guide themselves towards personal growth and recovery, thereby contributing to the broader healing of their communities. Tanner offers a unique perspective on self-leadership, drawing from her own experiences of healing and reintegration into a supportive community. She stresses the importance of unburdening oneself and embracing self-awareness, not only by reparenting wounded parts but also by mentoring the protective aspects of one's personality. Tanner advocates for a Self Energy approach, where the aim is to become entirely Self-led, fostering the development of healthy and stable relationships while affirming that it is never too late to rebuild and nurture fulfilling connections.

Key TakeAways

- Collective healing and trauma recovery within a community is crucial for growth and evolution.

- Expanding language and shared concepts of healing is essential for building a new paradigm in trauma recovery.

- The difference between circumstantial power and personal power is important in overcoming trauma.

- Self leadership is emphasized as a foundational skill in building safe and fulfilling relationships for successful recovery.

- Self-compassion and radical accountability are key in personal transformation and empowerment.

- Cultivating self energy through self leadership is essential in unburdening oneself and progressing towards healing.

- Adopting a recovery framework that is sober, slow, and systematic is crucial for successful CPTSD Recovery.

Actionable Insights

- Focus on expanding language and shared concepts of healing

- Unlock personal power through self-awareness and self-leadership

- Practice self-leadership to navigate trauma triggers and interactions with others

- Cultivate Self Energy through coaching, guiding, and reparenting oneself

- Embrace self-compassion to overcome feelings of helplessness and powerlessness

- Promote radical accountability and ownership of one's energy and sub-personalities

- Adopt a recovery framework that is sober, slow, and systematic

How can identifying trauma-based responses contribute to personal growth?

Tanner explores the connection between the inner critic and childhood betrayal trauma, highlighting its impact on self-compassion and relational healing. This critical inner voice, often rooted in perfectionism and threat, hampers individuals' ability to form healthy relationships. To mitigate its influence, Tanner emphasizes the importance of recognizing these inner critic attacks and employing strategies such as psychoeducation, self-compassionate remothering, and redirecting anger toward the appropriate targets. By addressing trauma-based responses like self-hate and overproductivity, individuals can foster a healthier sense of self and improve their relationships. Tanner underscores the transformative power of resilience, emotional intelligence, and community support, advocating for authenticity and vulnerability as pathways to personal growth and meaningful connections.

The concept of the inner critic, an often harsh and relentless voice within, holds significant sway over an individual's self-perception and interactions. Tanner explores this inner critic, particularly in those with childhood betrayal trauma, and draws connections to complex PTSD. He describes this voice as one fixated on perfectionism and perceived threats, originating from unsafe environments during upbringing. Tanner, drawing from experiences rooted in these challenges, emphasizes the necessity of recognizing the inner critic's pervasive attacks, such as those centered on perfectionism, to mitigate its damaging effects on emotional and social well-being. By fostering awareness and engaging in psychoeducation, individuals can begin to lessen the inner critic's negative influence and pave the way toward resilience and healthier relationships.

Key TakeAways

- Recognizing common inner critic attacks like perfectionist tendencies helps grasp the harmful nature of this internal voice and work towards reducing its influence.

- Verbal ventilation and self-compassionate responses can help challenge and reshape the harsh inner critic, promoting a healthier relationship with oneself and facilitating relational healing.

- Recognizing trauma-based responses such as self-hate, micromanagement, unfair comparisons, guilt, and overproductivity is crucial for relational healing and personal growth.

- Getting angry and replacing inner critic attacks with a nurturing parental response are tools for managing the inner critic and promoting self-compassion.

- Tanner emphasizes the journey to resilience, emotional intelligence, and deep intimacy that comes from overcoming struggles and fighting for personal growth.

Actionable Insights

- Recognize common inner critic attacks, like perfectionist tendencies, to reduce its influence

- Direct anger at the appropriate target and practice self-compassionate responses to counteract harsh self-criticism

- Identify trauma-based responses such as self-hate and over-productivity to protect oneself from triggers

- Replace inner critic attacks with nurturing parental responses and challenge negative self-talk for self-compassion

- Embrace authenticity, confront inner critics, and seek community support for emotional healing and resilience

What role does radical responsibility play in healing from complex trauma?

Complex trauma recovery is a multifaceted journey that demands dedication and a holistic approach to truly foster healing and growth. Tanner, an advocate for this intricate process, underscores the importance of having a well-defined plan and a clear understanding of one's healing investments. Shaped by her belief in a comprehensive treatment experience, Tanner emphasizes the necessity of matching the healing process's intensity to that of the trauma experienced. His approach integrates Internal Family Systems or Parts Work, which helps individuals separate from survival instincts, fostering hope and self-leadership. Tanner champions a lifestyle of recovery, recognizing that such commitment may not suit everyone but is crucial for achieving lasting healing from complex trauma.

Key TakeAways

- Taking radical responsibility and long-term commitment are crucial in healing from complex trauma.

- External sources cannot provide the healing one seeks; personal growth and recovery should be prioritized.

- Andrew advocates for a holistic and dedicated approach to complex trauma recovery.

- The Medicine Wheel Concept allows for revisiting and exploring different aspects of healing multiple times.

- Acknowledging and validating inner wounds in a safe environment is essential for healing and restructuring one's inner world.

Actionable Insights

- Take radical responsibility for your healing journey

- Commit to long-term personal growth and recovery as a lifestyle

- Invest in necessary resources to facilitate the recovery process

- Develop a clear roadmap for complex trauma recovery

- Engage actively in transformative healing processes

What practices are crucial for addressing complex trauma?

Recovering from complex trauma is an intricate journey that involves not only emotional and psychological healing but also a deep understanding of energetic processes. Tanner's perspective on complex trauma recovery centers around the concept of energetic stewardship, where trauma is viewed as a constellation of energies that require careful management and transformation. His insights are shaped by his personal journey of exploring the interconnectedness of energy work, manifestation, and quantum leaps, which revealed the profound impact of energy patterns on thought processes and life experiences. Tanner believes that by actively engaging in energy work and completing this transformative process, individuals not only facilitate their personal healing but also contribute to shifting collective energies towards light and love, thereby challenging and transforming existing power structures.

Key TakeAways

- Understanding complex trauma recovery as energy work involves energetic stewardship and practices like unblending, unburdening, integrating, and embodying.

- The process of transmuting energy back into light and love through support and scaffolding leads to a corrective experience in the relational field.

- Contributing to the collective and driving human evolution towards a higher energetic state by filtering and transmuting energy within ourselves and our trauma ecosystem.

- Viewing complex trauma as a constellation of energies and emphasizing energetic stewardship for personal growth and evolution.

- Addressing complex trauma through practices like unblending, unburdening, integrating, and embodying for healing and contributing to the collective.

- The significance of vulnerability, honest self-reflection, and confronting personal fears and barriers for personal growth and alignment with essential changes.

Actionable Insights

- Practice unblending, unburdening, integrating, and embodying for trauma recovery

- Seek support and scaffolding throughout the recovery journey

- Filter and transmute energy within oneself and trauma ecosystem

- Maintain authenticity in coaching and mentorship approaches

- Embrace vulnerability and self-reflection for personal growth

- Be open to personal evolution and understanding what is possible

Quotes:

“Complex trauma recovery will indeed change the course of human evolution because we’re changing the energy that’s running individually and collectively.” — Tanner  [13:43]

“Lean in to connect when in distress!” — Tanner  [21:44]

“If there’s a source of dark energy that isn’t stopped at its source, then there’s always going to be complex trauma.” — Tanner  [32:13]

What are the crucial steps in completing open emotional loops for healing?

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) recovery can be viewed as an enriching journey of personal development that fosters profound life changes and growth. By investing in mastering resilience and acquiring specific skills, individuals can transform their interaction with the world and achieve a sense of fulfillment. Tanner, an advocate for this approach, perceives CPTSD recovery as a mission to end complex trauma and advance human evolution. Her perspective has been shaped by experiences that highlight the necessity of precise tools and the restoration of attachments, both internal and external. Tanner believes that successful recovery leads to resilience and a profound sense of peace, and he encourages individuals to embrace this transformative journey, join supportive communities, and contribute to a movement of collective healing and empowerment.

Key TakeAways

- Treating CPTSD recovery as an investment in oneself can lead to positive life changes.

- Mastering specific skill sets and achieving resiliency can result in a profound shift in how individuals show up in the world.

- Understanding the impact of shame on behaviors and learning to address it is crucial for personal growth.

- Completing Open Loops for Healing involves addressing past traumas to prevent re-experiencing old energies.

- Engaging with the community and participating in programs can be beneficial for individuals on their journey towards healing and self-discovery.

Actionable Insights

- View CPTSD recovery as an investment in oneself

- Master specific skill sets for personal growth

- Address and resolve shame through self-confidence

- Close open loops for healing by addressing past traumas

- Engage with the community for support and involvement

Quotes:

“CPTSD recovery is simply personal development.” — Tanner [05:01]

“Post-CPTSD recovery, it is a whole other world of what you can accomplish and what is possible and what you feel in your body. I’m saying these things from the other side, and it’s beyond what I could’ve imagined.” — Tanner  [06:38]

“Shame is the same substance for all humans, but how it codes, and corrupts, influences, replicates, disrupts – it’s so unique to the human.” —  Tanner  [13:20]

“It’s not that no one got any sense of who you might be underneath all the trauma and conditioning; it’s just, it was so distorted and off in some way. That’s the old stuff.” — Tanner [22:31] 

“We have to be better readers and interpreters of the evidence as it is in this moment.” —  Tanner  [25:47]

How can trauma survivors contribute to a larger shift in human evolution?

Tanner's journey of self-discovery and healing from complex trauma emphasizes the significance of understanding and unblending from Protective and wounded Parts to uncover the True Self. By engaging in parts work and drawing insights from Pete Walker's book, Tanner learns to address his emotional struggles and dysfunctional patterns rooted in childhood trauma, which ultimately transforms his perspective on relationships and emotional processing. Healed trauma survivors, like Tanner, can contribute to a larger shift in human evolution by modeling vulnerability, compassion, and non-judgmental support, creating a safe space for others to heal and engage in inner work. Tanner highlights the concept of Attachment Restoration through relational healing, where trauma survivors can unlock healing by holding space for deep emotions without being triggered. 

Key TakeAways

- Trauma survivors can guide others through a healing process by modeling vulnerability, compassion, and non-judgmental support.

- Recognizing and Unblending from Wounded Younger Parts can lead to healing and release burdens in the face of extreme emotional distress.

- Healed trauma survivors can help shift human evolution by providing a model for Unburdening inner systems and accessing Self Energy.

- The concept of Attachment Restoration through relational healing can raise consciousness and access Self Energy.

- Internal Family Systems views the mind as having sub-personalities developed due to trauma, with Protective Parts and Wounded Younger Parts being key components.

- Engaging in parts work and unblending from Protective and Wounded Younger Parts can lead to healing from past traumas and a shift in perspective.

Actionable Insights

- Engage in Parts Work to separate Protective and ounded Parts for understanding True Self

- Healed trauma survivors can guide others through the healing process by modeling vulnerability and compassion

- Recognize and Unblend from Wounded Younger Parts to offer opportunities for healing

- Understand the concept of Attachment Restoration through relational healing

- Utilize the Internal Family Systems  to heal and show up Unblended in interactions

What is the difference between self-discovery and self-healing?

Complex trauma recovery is a profound journey that dives into the depths of emotional, psychological, and spiritual healing, especially for individuals overcoming the scars of childhood abuse and neglect. Tanner sheds light on this intricate process by outlining the distinction between surface-level self-healing and the deeper work required for true recovery. Drawing from her insights, Tanner emphasizes that while self-healing frameworks can be empowering, they often fall short when addressing the deep-rooted belief systems and maladaptive coping mechanisms formed during traumatic experiences. Her perspective is shaped by the understanding that authentic healing demands a comprehensive exploration of one's internal world, engaging in relational healing and self-discovery to foster genuine transformation. Moreover, Tanner advocates for a more nuanced approach to trauma recovery, one that goes beyond conventional medical models to validate and address the unique experiences of individuals on this challenging path.

Key TakeAways

- Self-healing frameworks focus on empowerment and intuition in the healing process.

- Healing from complex trauma requires understanding one's inner world, coaching, reorienting, and re-parenting different parts of the internal system.

- Engaging in a compassionate dialogue with internal parts can lead to restoring equilibrium and coping mechanisms.

- Recognizing and guiding internal protective parts towards a healthier existence is crucial for self-awareness and acceptance.

- Childhood trauma can lead to the development of belief systems regarding love, connection, and physical perfection, influencing maladaptive coping mechanisms.

Actionable Insights

- Focus on empowerment and intuition in the healing process

- Engage in a compassionate dialogue with internal parts for healing

- Recognize and guide protective internal parts towards healthier existence

- Understand the impact of childhood trauma on belief systems

- Address maladaptive coping mechanisms developed from trauma

How can partners create a safe space for each other to express themselves?

Effective communication within a partnership is crucial for nurturing a healthy and fulfilling relationship, serving as the cornerstone for intimacy, trust, and mutual understanding. Tanner's perspective on partnership communication underscores the importance of open and honest dialogue between partners, advocating for addressing issues directly within the relationship rather than relying on external validation or advice. With a focus on maintaining intimacy and trust, Tanner views the partnership as a sacred union where all matters should be discussed candidly to strengthen the bond. Her experiences highlight the value of prioritizing communication within the partnership framework, emphasizing its role in fostering a supportive and resilient relationship.

Key TakeAways

- Creating a safe space for all energies to be witnessed is essential for healthy expression and breaking free from harmful patterns.

- Addressing value mismatches directly and finding middle ground is crucial for partnership viability and maintaining healthy relationships.

- Taking ownership of personal wounds and not relying on partners for healing is key for true growth and nurturing environments.

- Focusing on the present state of a relationship, taking responsibility for past wounds, and building together creates a strong foundation for a fulfilling partnership.

Actionable Insights

- Create a safe space for partners to express themselves without judgment

- Address value mismatches directly with your partner instead of complaining behind their back

- Take ownership of personal wounds and focus on individual healing journeys

- Focus on the current state of the relationship and work together to build a strong foundation

Quotes:

“It’s one thing to listen to something, and it’s another thing to integrate the knowledge; embody it through your actions; and see how it lands and shapes what you do day to day.” — Tanner [02:21]

“It takes so much courage to change, and change happens over time when we align with a particular identity that shapes our habits.” — Tanner [02:36]

 “If there is an urge to turn to somebody else to talk about your partner; complain about your partner; talk about the partnership, this is an immediate sign that you need to turn toward your partner and start sharing some of this with them.” — Tanner  [13:38

Why is it important to address Protective Parts in trauma recovery?

The journey of recovering from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) is a profound and transformative experience, involving the unraveling of deep-seated traumas and the rebuilding of one's sense of self. Tanner, a former university professor, has devoted her life to guiding survivors through this intricate process using a unique blend of techniques including coaching, Parts Work, and Divine archetypal resonance. Her rich academic background and personal encounters with trauma have shaped his perspective, which centers on the importance of survivor-led recovery. Tanner advocates for a process driven by faith and self-leadership, believing in the power of individuals to transmute their trauma into empowerment. Through her Five Circuits of Healing Power program, she emphasizes a collaborative approach that honors each survivor's original narrative and encourages a transformative journey of self-discovery and healing.

Key TakeAways

- Tanner provides a comprehensive curriculum for CPTSD recovery through coaching, Parts Work, Gene Keys, and human design.

- Survivors are encouraged to deepen their understanding and connection to their true selves through long-term mentorship and coaching containers.

- Tanner emphasizes faith, self-leadership, and commitment to healing in survivor-led trauma recovery.

- Protective Parts develop skewed narratives around worthiness, goodness, and lovability influenced by past trauma and survival instincts.

- Confident Self Energy can offer alternative interpretations to Protective Parts, easing burdens and providing hope for healing.

Actionable Insights

- Embrace survivor-led trauma recovery and Self Leadership

- Recognize and validate misconceptions created by Protective Parts

- Approach Protective Parts with compassion and offer alternative perspectives

- Understand the sequential unveiling of protective parts' layers

- Navigate the complexities of healing from complex trauma by understanding the interplay of Protective Parts and Self Energy

Quotes

“I am clearer than I’ve ever been before that we truly are leading a survivor-led trauma recovery revolution.” — Tanner  [5:39]

“Our soul is connected to our earthly, human experience. Our spirit is connected to the beyond, boundless oneness we have with the universe.” — Tanner  [16:34] 

“The fear is: If we have a little bit of hope, if we try this healing out, if we see what’s on the other side of letting go of the despair, letting go of this belief [that] nothing will ever get better  — if we let go of that, what happens if we can’t heal?” — Tanner [18:11]

“Once trust is there in self, once confidence is there in self, [then] there is openness to receiving alternative meaning-making.” — Tanner  [22:53]

What is the significance of a 'Wise Woman' persona in leadership development?

Trust and boundaries are pivotal components when addressing developmental trauma, as they serve as the foundation for authentic healing and transformation in relationships. Tanner, an advocate for personal growth and leadership development, underscores the critical role these elements play in her own healing journey from complex trauma. Her perspective is shaped by an internal transformation process that involves surrendering control and tapping into spiritual realms to access a Divine understanding, which she describes through a "Wise Woman" persona within him. By building trust with oneself and establishing self-containment, Tanner suggests that individuals can naturally create boundaries that facilitate deeper self-integration and pure self-expression.

Key TakeAways

- The presence of a 'Wise Woman' within Tanner embodies qualities of directness and seriousness in her leadership style.

- Establishing trust and boundaries is crucial for authentic healing in relationships and navigating relational shakeups during the transformation process.

- Self-containment and setting energetic boundaries are powerful practices in leadership growth and healing from developmental trauma.

- Understanding Protective Parts and agreements is key to embodying the wisdom of the 'Wise Woman' persona and healing internal processes.

- The structured progression of healing involves phases and Circuits, leading individuals from building trust and boundaries to surrendering to divine knowing for personal growth and fulfillment.

Actionable Insights

- Recognize and embody qualities of directness and seriousness in leadership style

- Establish trust and boundaries in relationships for authentic healing

- Develop self-containment and set energetic boundaries for leadership growth

- Identify, validate, befriend, and heal internal processes to embody wisdom

- Master foundational knowledge and skills before advancing in healing and personal growth

Why is it important to prioritize healing when recovering from complex trauma?

Complex trauma, characterized by prolonged and repeated exposure to traumatic events, demands a comprehensive and sustained intervention approach to facilitate effective recovery. Tanner views complex trauma as an intense and multifaceted challenge that requires a correspondingly robust intervention strategy. Her perspective is shaped by the belief that prioritizing healing is essential, advocating for daily practices like breath work, journaling, and parts work, even if this means making difficult decisions to reallocate one's time and resources. Tanner underscores the necessity of moving beyond superficial efforts, urging individuals to engage deeply with their healing journey and make intentional choices that reflect their commitment, thus involving their support systems in this transformative process.

Key TakeAways

- Prioritizing healing activities like breath work, journaling, or parts work is crucial in recovering from complex trauma.

- Committing to healing as a top three priority for at least a year can greatly impact one's recovery journey.

- The level of intensity in the intervention approach should match the complexity of trauma to achieve desired results.

Actionable Insights

- Prioritize healing as a top three priority for at least a year

- Incorporate daily healing activities like breath work, journaling, or parts work

- Make intentional decisions to prioritize healing over other commitments

What is the significance of partners in developmental relationships?

Radical responsibility is a transformative concept that encourages individuals to fully own their actions and choices, particularly in the context of healing and personal growth. This idea is especially pertinent for those recovering from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), where developmental relationships can be a cornerstone for mutual healing and understanding. Tanner's perspective on radical responsibility is deeply rooted in the belief that individuals must take ownership of their decisions made during less healed states, such as those related to children, careers, and relationships. With a background that emphasizes the power of reciprocal support, Tanner advocates for partners in a relationship to alternately support one another, ensuring a balanced dynamic that fosters growth and prevents emotional suppression. Through this approach, Tanner encourages a mature acceptance of past experiences, challenging individuals to work collaboratively towards a healthier future.

Key TakeAways

- Partners in a developmental relationship experience significant personal growth and change together

- Taking responsibility and acknowledging past trauma is crucial for navigating the recovery journey in relationships

- Reciprocity and radical responsibility are essential for maintaining balance and actively working towards recovery in partnerships

Actionable Insights

- Commit to personal growth and support each other

- Address past mistakes, shame, and blame for healing

- Practice reciprocity in providing support and taking responsibility

Quotes:

“One of the early milestones of CPTSD recovery is dropping the immature, childlike energy of ‘I don’t want to have to do this’.” — Tanner [06:14]

“Your partner is not a parent. However, they can provide a pseudo-parenting context for a short period of time while an unburdening is happening.” — Tanner [11:01]

“At different points of the journey, there are different types of radical responsibility.” — Tanner  [14:34]

What is ancestral healing and why is it significant?

Nicole Casteel is an ancestral healing practitioner and heart-centered ritualist, known for her ability to create deep transformational spaces through sound ceremonies and guided rituals across the United States. With a unique blend of her opera singing background and a Master's degree in music education and performance, Nicole addresses the Mother Wound and generational trauma, considering ancestral healing a crucial aspect of personal growth and trauma resolution. She believes that our ancestral wounds and patterns significantly shape our identities and life paths, and through her own healing journey, she has witnessed the transformative power of integrating ancestral healing into her practice. For Nicole, this work is about bridging the spiritual and human experience, allowing individuals to connect deeply with their roots, forgive past generations, and reclaim their authentic selves for profound personal and ancestral transformation.

Discover more about Nicole's work here.

Key TakeAways

- Ancestral healing involves unraveling generational wounds and connecting with our roots, leading to dramatic shifts in life and perception.

- Recognizing and integrating gifts and blessings from ancestors can bring about profound transformations at a deep level.

- Forgiveness, compassion, and deeper connection to ancestral lineage can lead to a profound shift in well-being and sense of self.

- Reclaiming and expressing one's voice authentically is crucial, especially for women who have faced historical oppression and suppression.

- Creating a safe container through rituals can help individuals heal ancestral wounds, receive gifts from ancestors, and embody their true selves.

- Exploring spirituality and ancestral relevance can provide a deeper understanding of oneself, leading to healing and transformation.

- Acknowledging struggles passed down through generations can lead to understanding, compassion, forgiveness, and healing, breaking the cycle of inherited trauma.

Actionable Insights

- Recognize and address personal and collective wounds passed down through generations

- Connect with ancestral lineage through shamanic practices and ancestral work

- Practice forgiveness, compassion, and deeper connection to ancestral lineage for healing

- Reclaim and express one's voice authentically, especially for women who have faced suppression

- Create safe spaces to voice grief and rage as a key step towards authentic expression

- Engage in rituals to connect with ancestors for overall wellness and healing

- Acknowledge struggles passed down through generations to foster understanding, compassion, and healing

Quotes:

"I really discovered, you can learn how to relate with spirit in a way that is practical and that is grounded, and you can really begin to create a bridge between spirit and your human experience." - Nicole Casteel (09:23)

"The thing I've come to understand about forgiveness in relationship to ancestral healing is that in order to forgive, I have to have true understanding, and I have to be able to access compassion in order to really forgive." - Nicole Casteel (19:20)

How can music aid in trauma recovery and healing?

Healing through music is an intriguing and transformative approach that taps into the profound emotional and psychological impact that music can have on individuals. Tanner, who advocates for the use of music in trauma recovery, emphasizes its capacity to facilitate significant advancements in parts work. Her perspective is shaped by personal experiences, such as when the song "Traitor" by Olivia Rodrigo enabled her to delve into and process deep-seated emotional wounds. Tanner underscores the importance of giving voice to the tender, wounded Parts within us by allowing them to express their truths through music, which she believes can unlock subconscious insights and reveal hidden trauma, leading to personal empowerment and a sense of wholeness.

Key TakeAways

- Prioritizing physical health is crucial for overall well-being and healing.

- Music has the power to tap into deep emotional truths and different parts of oneself.

- Integrating music into trauma recovery can lead to profound breakthroughs and understanding.

- Acknowledging and supporting the wounded self is essential for navigating past trauma and healing.

Actionable Insights

- Prioritize regular physical health check-ups for overall well-being

- Explore the healing potential of music in uncovering different parts of oneself

- Use music as a tool for facilitating truth telling and promoting personal empowerment

- Allow your vulnerable, wounded self to have a voice in the healing process

How does Tanner challenge the traditional medical model of trauma recovery?

The trauma recovery revolution is gaining momentum with a shift towards survivor-led approaches that prioritize personal empowerment and relational healing. At the forefront of this movement is Tanner, who, through the Relational Healing Podcast and social media, champions a transformative approach that challenges traditional medical models of trauma recovery. Drawing on her own experiences and insights, Tanner emphasizes the importance of attachment restoration and self-discovery as crucial elements in the healing process. Her perspective is deeply shaped by principles like Internal Family Systems, which guide survivors in integrating disintegrated Parts and breaking cycles of intergenerational trauma. Tanner's approach underscores the significance of honesty, self-awareness, and accountability, encouraging individuals to become their recovery coaches by connecting with their true selves and reflecting on their trauma narratives.

Key TakeAways

- Tanner advocates for survivor-led trauma recovery empowering individuals to become their own recovery coaches.

- Attachment restoration is emphasized as a key pathway to permanent healing in trauma recovery.

- The importance of engaging in reflective exercises and compassionate dialogue with protective parts is highlighted.

- Intergenerational trauma themes shape perceptions and behaviors, influencing relationships and personal experiences.

- Fear of abandonment, betrayal, and lack of trust impact relationships and can be rooted in intergenerational trauma themes.

- Shame and sadness are interconnected emotions that play a significant role in the healing and recovery process.

- Restoring access to disintegrated parts internally and aligning work context with the true self are crucial in trauma recovery.

Actionable Insights

- Focus on self-discovery in the trauma recovery process

- Create safe containers for survivors to explore attachment restoration and self-discovery

- Engage in reflective exercises to address obstacles to transformation

- Acknowledge and understand intergenerational trauma themes

- Reflect on how fear of abandonment, betrayal, and lack of trust influence relationships

- Coaching oneself through moments of shame and sadness for healing and recovery

- Restore access to disintegrated parts through loving guidance in trauma recovery

Why is self-perception and emotional regulation affected in CPTSD survivors?

Complex trauma is a multifaceted issue that profoundly impacts individuals' self-perception and emotional regulation, often manifesting as negative self-views and feelings of helplessness. This emotional turmoil, deeply rooted in trauma, necessitates a compassionate approach to healing, where individuals are encouraged to acknowledge and engage with challenging emotions as opportunities for growth. Tanner views complex trauma as a multidimensional human experience, shaped by various factors including personal context, interactions, and even epigenetic influences. Drawing from their experiences, Tanner advocates for a deep, intentional commitment to the healing journey, emphasizing the need for self-leadership and energetic shifts to facilitate true healing. By embracing vulnerability and befriending protective parts, Tanner promotes an approach to healing that is both precise and intentional, ultimately transforming the cellular composition of the body from the inside out.

Key TakeAways

- CPTSD can significantly impact one's self-perception and self-esteem, leading to a distorted and negative view of oneself.

- Individuals with CPTSD often struggle with controlling their emotions, experiencing explosive anger, persistent sadness, depression, and even suicidal thoughts.

- Managing emotions in individuals with CPTSD is a common challenge, often leading to a sense of helplessness and decision-making based on emotionally charged states.

- Wounded younger parts in CPTSD survivors are often hidden, requiring deep trust-building through internal work to access and heal.

- Recognizing Nothing Bad or Wrong in Trauma Recovery can bring relief and provide compassionate self-leadership.

- Approaching trauma healing with light and love involves nurturing and understanding the root causes of emotions rather than suppressing them.

Actionable Insights

- Find ways to release charged emotions to lessen the burden on oneself

- Lean into intense emotions and meet oneself with compassion

- Build deep trust with wounded younger parts through internal work

- Acknowledge that nothing bad or wrong is happening in trauma recovery

- Fully commit to the healing process by facing difficult emotions head-on

- Approach trauma healing with light and love by nurturing and understanding root causes

Quotes

“At some point, most of us have some sort of life event related to our inability to control our emotions that just makes it crystal clear that this has become unmanageable, this is not sustainable, and something needs to change.” —Tanner  [04:12]

“Unlike the emotions of a non-traumatized human, or human without CPTSD, humans with CPTSD have these emotions that are interwoven into very primitive life or death fear frequencies.” — Tanner [05:49]

“These emotions are not just based on our human experience. they are also based on what we inherited from our family trauma intergenerationally.” — Tanner  [09:27]

“Healing CPTSD, recovering from CPTSD is about leaning into the very charged emotions. Not separating or distancing yourself from them, but meeting yourself and all your parts in those moments very directly.” — Tanner  [11:52]

What is the significance of Trauma-Informed Theory Building?

Tanner highlights the importance of using a research-based approach to empower individuals dealing with intense emotions and trauma by collecting and analyzing personal data to create customized action plans for healing. Tanner describes the impact of childhood betrayal trauma on forming "junk theories" that influence self-worth and relationships, suggesting that revising these theories can lead to healthier perspectives and bonds. Tanner also discusses the significance of Trauma-Informed Theory Building by using inductive reasoning to tailor resources that address individual needs, emphasizing the connection between childhood experiences and adult relationship dynamics. Recognizing different trauma responses, such as Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn, is crucial for understanding default behavior patterns and improving relationships affected by childhood trauma. Tanner advises planning positive experiences to manage triggers and promote healing, underscoring the importance of proactive self-care strategies.

Attachment Theory and the different types of trauma it encompasses present a rich field of study, shedding light on how early relational experiences shape emotional and psychological responses throughout life. Tanner brings a nuanced perspective to this field, focusing on betrayal trauma within attachment relationships. Her approach is deeply informed by the belief that understanding specific trauma types can significantly enhance personal interactions and intimacy. By identifying one's primary trauma response, Tanner argues that individuals can more effectively utilize research-based resources to navigate their emotional landscapes. Her emphasis on present awareness and integrated responding illustrates a commitment to empowering individuals to manage their triggers and foster healthier relationships.

Key TakeAways

- Empowering oneself with information is crucial for making informed decisions in coping with intense emotions and trauma-based responses.

- Tracking and collecting data relevant to unique circumstances ensures that interventions and resources are beneficial in the healing process.

- Recognizing and revising 'junk theories' formed from childhood betrayal trauma is essential for improving relationships and self-perception.

- Understanding how different trauma types influence interactions and relationships can aid in making positive changes for healthier connections.

- Planning for positive experiences to counteract triggers like binge eating or substance abuse is a proactive self-care strategy that promotes healing and personal growth.

- Childhood trauma can significantly impact relationships, shaping responses and interpretations without awareness, highlighting the need for recognizing maladaptive response patterns.

- Inductive reasoning and personal data collection play a key role in developing trauma-informed theories that address individual needs and guide healing.

Actionable Items

- Empower oneself with information to make informed decisions when coping with intense emotions and trauma-based responses

- Track and collect data relevant to unique circumstances to ensure interventions and resources are beneficial

- Reflect, collect data, and use research-based resources to guide through transformation journey for healing and empowerment

- Recognize and revise 'junk theories' developed from childhood betrayal trauma through inductive reasoning

- Use Trauma-Informed Theory Building to create personalized theories based on observations and experiences

- Identify maladaptive response patterns shaped by early experiences to foster healing and growth in relationships

- Plan for positive experiences to prevent maladaptive behaviors when triggered and promote healing

00:16:39 - Empowerment Through Information and Insights

Tanner emphasizes the importance of empowering oneself with information to make informed decisions when coping with intense emotions and trauma-based responses. By using a research-based approach, individuals can track and collect data relevant to their unique circumstances, ensuring that interventions and resources are beneficial. Tanner's method involves reflection, data collection, and research-based resources to guide individuals through their transformation journey, ultimately leading to healing and empowerment through new insights and perspectives. This approach aims to eliminate confusion and stress related to childhood betrayal trauma by providing a customized action plan based on individual data collection and analysis.

00:19:53 - Relationship Theories and Childhood Betrayal Trauma

Tanner explores the impact of childhood betrayal trauma on developing junk theories that shape interpretations of events, self-worth, and relationships. By discussing the impact of betrayal trauma within attachment relationships, she emphasizes the importance of understanding the psychological and physiological responses to such trauma. This trauma can lead individuals to develop "junk theories" based on their childhood experiences, impacting their current relationships and self-perception. By recognizing and revising these theories through inductive reasoning, individuals can work towards building healthier, more accurate perspectives and improving their ability to form deep, stable bonds with others.

00:22:18 - Trauma-Informed Theory Building

Tanner emphasizes the importance of Trauma-Informed Theory Building, focusing on how childhood experiences influence responses and relationships with others. By creating theories based on observations and personal experiences, individuals can tailor resources to meet their specific needs. This approach involves inductive reasoning, where data points inform personalized and trauma-informed theories. Tanner stresses the value of collecting data and monitoring interactions to become experts in their own lives, guiding them towards resources that address individual needs.

00:26:57 - Impact of Childhood Trauma on Relationships

Childhood trauma can significantly impact relationships, affecting behaviors and interactions in ways that may not be immediately apparent. Tanner discusses how unresolved trauma can shape our responses and interpretations without our awareness. By exploring betrayal trauma within attachment theory, Tanner reveals the deep psychological and physiological effects of childhood experiences. Recognizing these trauma responses and their impact on interactions is essential for understanding relationships affected by childhood trauma. Resources like Pete Walker's work on complex PTSD can help individuals identify and address maladaptive response patterns developed as survival mechanisms in the past.

00:27:39 - Attachment Theory and Trauma Types

Tanner discusses the connection between attachment theory and trauma types, particularly focusing on betrayal trauma within attachment relationships. By linking attachment theory from childhood to adult relationships, Tanner highlights the significance of recognizing how trauma responses differ in attachment contexts. This understanding is crucial for individuals, especially women who excel in various domains but struggle in interpersonal relationships, as childhood betrayal trauma can impact their relationship dynamics. Tanner emphasizes the importance of identifying maladaptive response patterns shaped by early experiences to foster healing and growth in relationships.

00:33:04 - Trauma Types Impacting Intimacy

Different trauma types, such as Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn, influence interactions and relationships. Each type has distinct characteristics: Fight types alienate others with angry demands for love, Flight types stay busy to avoid deeper connections, Freeze types numb out or dissociate, and Fawn types overplease to avoid conflict. Recognizing one's trauma type can help individuals understand default behavior patterns and make changes for healthier relationships. Identifying these trauma types can aid in healing and transforming relationships.

00:34:32 - CPTSD as an Attachment Disorder

Individuals with CPTSD experience ambivalence towards real intimacy due to childhood survival mechanisms, which manifest through the four F types: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn. These defense mechanisms are triggered by closeness and painful emotional flashbacks, reminding them of their childhood struggles without comforting connections. Fight types may push others away with angry demands for unconditional love, while Flight types stay busy to avoid deeper connections, perpetuating a cycle of alienation and longing for connection. This discussion sheds light on how childhood trauma can impact adult relationships and attachment styles, highlighting the importance of understanding and healing from these past experiences to foster healthier connections in the present.

00:45:31 - Reparative Positive Experiences

Tanner emphasizes the need to plan for positive experiences to prevent maladaptive behaviors when triggered, like binge eating or substance abuse, which can impede healing and relationships. She suggests activities such as deep stretching, taking a warm bath, or reaching out to a trusted person to counteract triggers. By preparing for these positive experiences, individuals can better handle their emotions and promote healing in a healthy way. Tanner's advice underscores the importance of proactive self-care strategies in managing trauma triggers and fostering personal growth.

What is the concept of radical responsibility in CPTSD recovery?

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) recovery is a journey that requires individuals to take radical responsibility for their own healing, as highlighted by the transformative concept that "no one is coming to save you." This involves embracing personal agency, transforming past traumas, and fostering forgiveness and surrender, supported by practices such as Internal Family Systems therapy. Tanner's perspective on CPTSD recovery underscores the importance of this radical responsibility, encouraging individuals to not only intellectually understand but also integrate the concept into their lives. Drawing from her experiences and teachings, Tanner guides people on a path of self-discovery and acceptance, suggesting that by turning inward and confronting past traumas, healing and personal growth can be achieved. Through self-leadership and the acknowledgment of one’s internal parts, Tanner believes that true transformation and emotional regulation are possible, paving the way for a more connected and supportive emotional and spiritual journey.

Key TakeAways

- Taking radical responsibility in CPTSD recovery is crucial for personal transformation and healing.

- Internal Family Systems therapy can be an effective tool for emotional regulation and self-soothing during challenging situations.

- Accepting the mission of being a cycle breaker involves forgiveness, releasing the victim story, and offering future generations something better.

- Building a support network is essential for emotional and spiritual well-being, requiring individuals to work on healing past traumas.

- Taking radical responsibility for personal growth involves acknowledging past traumas, creating a healthy support system, and shifting towards open, connected energy.

Actionable Insights

- Embrace your own agency in healing by taking radical responsibility

- Practice Internal Family Systems therapy for emotional regulation

- Accept the mission of being a cycle breaker by forgiving others

- Build a support network by balancing providing and receiving energy

- Take radical responsibility for personal growth by acknowledging past traumas

Quotes:

 “For those of you who are familiar with the energy of complex trauma, when your proportionalities of energies you’re running shifts, you’re actually kind of a different person.” — Tanner [07:53]

“CPTSD recovery introduces an understanding of our humanness that transcends time in a lot of ways.” — Tanner  [13:52]

“If you’re listening to this podcast, you’ve been called to the mission.” — Tanner [18:18]

“The resonance of love is an energetic force that softens rough edges, restores motivation, that explains things without words, that rights the wrongs without a single action because love is a frequency.” — Tanner [20:26]

“I want you to listen, learn, and have the wisdom come into your body so that it can become The Medicine.” — Tanner [38:51]

What does it take to honor your truth, even when it means saying goodbye? In this heartfelt conclusion to Season 13, I make a special announcement regarding the podcast and reflect on the transformative power of truth and alignment in healing work. I delve into the evolution of the CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol, its culmination as a published manual, and the community’s incredible role in shaping this journey. Hear about the importance of energetic investment, the challenges of leadership, and the exciting vision I have for 2025. Join us to celebrate this milestone, embrace a new chapter, and discover how you can deepen your healing journey in 2025 and beyond.

Key Points From This Episode:

• Creating and publishing the CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol.

• Learn the significance of the end-of-year frequency as 2024 transitions into 2025.

• Announcement: indefinite production break and what this means for the community.

• The inspiration behind launching the podcast in 2020 and reasons for the production break.

• Find out why honoring personal truth in leadership and growth is essential.

• Explore the energetic, emotional, and financial commitment needed for transformation.

• A heartfelt thank you to listeners for their support and engagement.

• Hear about CPTSD Medicine’s plans for 2025 and beyond.

• An introduction to the new program starting in January.

Quotes:

“When I started this podcast back in 2020, I knew I just needed something different and disruptive in my life.” — Tanner [4:12]

“Everything works best at truth resonance.” — Tanner  [6:40]

“There is so much gratitude to those of you that have been here from the beginning or have joined anywhere along the way. My sincerest, sincerest thank you.” — Tanner [13:10]

“[CPTSD Medicine] is ready to become the alternative, holistic health service that creates a legacy of CycleBreaking.” — Tanner[14:45]

Why is Self Energy essential for trauma recovery?

In the realm of trauma recovery, Self Energy plays a pivotal role, acting as a source of inner calm, courage, and wisdom essential for healing. Tanner advocates strongly for the importance of accessing Self Energy to facilitate recovery, despite the challenges posed by protective neural networks formed during traumatic experiences. Her perspective is shaped by an understanding that many trauma survivors lack positive role models from childhood, which hampers their ability to trust themselves and engage in active recovery. Tanner critiques traditional Internal Family Systems (IFS) approaches for not sufficiently addressing these issues, emphasizing the need for guides who can support survivors in accessing and maintaining their self energy. By fostering this inner trust and leadership, individuals can better navigate life's difficulties, enhancing their interactions and problem-solving capacities.

Key TakeAways

- Self Energy is essential for trauma recovery, requiring a calm, courageous, and wise state.

- Accessing and sustaining self energy is hindered by protective neural networks formed in response to trauma.

- Guides play a crucial role in supporting trauma survivors to find their self energy and aid in active recovery.

- Trust in oneself to navigate discomfort and distress is hindered by a lack of modeled self-trust in childhood.

Actionable Insights

- Recognize the presence of Protective Parts that hinder access to Self Energy

- Differentiate between fear-based and love-based thought processing patterns

- Build trust in oneself to navigate uncomfortable situations

- Balance Self Energy with fear-based triggered energy for enhanced interactions and problem-solving

What is the Window of Tolerance and how does it affect emotional processing?

The trauma recovery journey is a multifaceted process that requires understanding and patience, often involving healing relationships and rebuilding trust. Tanner offers a perspective that underscores the complexity of this journey by emphasizing the importance of understanding one's own Window of Tolerance, a concept which highlights how emotional triggers can lead to cognitive challenges. Her background in advocating for relational healing and self-compassion shapes his belief that involving safe individuals in the recovery process can help replace self-destructive behaviors with secure, trusting attachments. Tanner's insights illuminate the need for self-awareness and the power of reaching out for support, while also encouraging individuals to be gentle with themselves as they break free from past cycles and foster a sense of peace.

Key TakeAways

- Rebuilding relationships with partners and practicing self-trust exercises are important in trauma recovery

- All individuals have a window of tolerance for processing intense emotions, cognition deteriorates when outside of this window

- Using tools like an emotion wheel can help individuals delve into emotional experiences and recognize triggers for self-harm

- Seeking comfort from safe individuals is crucial in replacing self-harming behaviors and building secure attachments

- Engaging in reparenting practices can help restore one's core sense of self obscured by past traumas through relational healing

Actionable Insights

- Practice self-trust exercises like journaling to become more open to intense emotions

- Equip interactional partners to help individuals return to their window of tolerance during emotional overwhelm

- Involve trusted individuals like partners or therapists in emotional processes to foster relational healing

- Seek comfort from safe individuals to replace self-harming behaviors and build secure attachments

- Engage in reparenting practices to restore core sense of self and establish secure attachments

What is the connection between emotions and gut health?

Ryan Rose Evans, an ardent advocate for physical health and integrative wellness, believes that prioritizing physical health is crucial for overall well-being. His journey from personal challenges to professional expertise illustrates the transformative power of self-care, a message he shares widely through social media. By inspiring individuals like Tanner to embark on their own health journeys, such as participating in a gut reset program, Ryan demonstrates the importance of small, intentional steps in healing. Through his insights, Ryan emphasizes the significance of trusting one's own journey and the profound impact of structured daily routines in fostering both physical and emotional health.

Find Ryan Rose Evans here.

Key TakeAways

- Prioritizing physical health is crucial for overall well-being and self-care.

- Community support can be created through sharing personal health journeys and encouraging others to prioritize their well-being.

- Holistic approaches to health, including focusing on gut health, diet, lifestyle, and microbiome, can lead to improved energy levels and mental well-being.

- Daily routines structured for restorative and reparative purposes can aid in trauma recovery and inner child healing.

- Overcoming food addiction requires compassion, awareness of triggers, and making gradual dietary changes.

- Healing trauma is interconnected with healing the gut, emphasizing the importance of a holistic approach to recovery.

- Taking ownership of physical health, addressing chronic stress, and incorporating intentional steps in recovery is essential.

Actionable Insights

- Prioritize physical health through small, intentional steps

- Commit to a gut reset program for holistic well-being

- Focus on gut health, diet, lifestyle, and microbiome for improved energy levels

- Create a supportive community for proactive health steps

- Structure daily routines for restorative and reparative activities

- Overcome food addiction with mindful diet choices

- Integrate holistic health into trauma recovery through gut-brain connection

Why is self-compassion important in healing from childhood trauma?

Compassion plays a crucial role in healing from childhood trauma, serving as a powerful catalyst for transformation and self-empowerment. Tanner underscores the importance of self-compassion and acceptance in overcoming ingrained feelings of unworthiness and insecurity, which often stem from unloving caregivers. Similarly, Tanner posits that compassion is essential because it enables individuals to connect with themselves in love, counteracting the harmful effects of not being received with love during childhood. Tanner's perspective is shaped by an understanding of the intergenerational trauma ecosystem and the necessity of embracing all aspects of oneself, including the fierce and destructive parts, with compassion and understanding. By doing so, individuals can shift their energetic frequency from fear and scarcity to love and trust, paving the way for profound healing and self-empowerment.

Key TakeAway

Compassion in healing from childhood trauma is crucial for self-recovery.

Actionable Insight

Practicing self-compassion is crucial for healing from childhood trauma

What is Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and how does it address complex trauma?

Madeleine Warren, a dedicated therapist based in Evanston, Illinois, is a fervent advocate for the Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy model, particularly in its application to adults and couples with trauma histories. As a trainer for the IFS Institute, she plays a crucial role in mentoring practitioners, emphasizing the model's seamless integration and its embodied understanding in both personal and professional contexts. Warren's perspective is shaped by her own experiences with complex trauma, which enhance her empathetic approach, focusing on the importance of identifying and unburdening protective parts rather than solely accessing child parts. She believes in the transformative potential of IFS therapy by fostering self-energy and promoting internal collaboration, empowering clients to view their struggles as interconnected aspects of their internal system, and thereby creating a more compassionate, healing environment.

Connect with Madeleine here.

Key TakeAways

- The transformative power of Internal Family Systems therapy in trauma recovery

- Importance of experiential learning and personal exploration in implementing the IFS model

- Understanding that there are no bad parts within us, and every part has a good intention

- Healing complex trauma by addressing the protective roles of internal parts and connecting them to inner system reparenting

- The concept of self energy as a spark of light undamaged by trauma

- Significance of understanding extreme protectors within a system

- Importance of conveying 'I am here with you' message for relief and support

Actionable Insights

- Acknowledge and work with different parts of our inner system to address trauma and promote healing

- Recognize Protective Parts within oneself and reconnect with the inner spirit for healing

- Offer the message 'I am here with you' to comfort inner parts and foster a sense of safety and support

- Be intuitive and attuned to the varying needs of different parts within oneself

- Create a safe space and focus on internal healing to support survivors without pressure to disclose sensitive information

- Understand protective parts to gain insight into decision-making processes and find hope in navigating internal systems

- Embrace and sit with individuals facing hopelessness and despair without trying to argue or offer false hope

What is the CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol?

The CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol is a comprehensive approach designed to aid individuals in their journey of healing from complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). Tanner, a key advocate and facilitator, invites people from all stages of their CPTSD recovery to join the Students of the Medicine community, a space dedicated to mutual support and understanding. With a background that emphasizes breaking cycles of generational trauma, Tanner regards the Protocol as a transformative gift, essential for guiding individuals towards self-discovery and resolution. They believe it harnesses a blend of spiritual, scientific, and mystical practices that collectively contribute to reclaiming one's innate essence and addressing the broader human disconnection in today's world. Through expert interviews and a newly launched subscription service, Tanner aims to enrich understanding and application of the Protocol, fostering a community-focused effort in healing complex trauma.

Key TakeAways

- The community of Students of the Medicine provides support and commitment for survivors in various phases of their CPTSD journey.

- The CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol merges spiritual, scientific, and mystical practices to address complex trauma.

- CPTSD Medicine aims to provide alternative health services that promote growth, courage, and resilience for survivors.

- Breaking generational cycles of trauma within families is emphasized, along with forgiveness and building compassionate relationships.

- Expert interviews will cover topics like breath work, gene keys, archetypes, and elemental medicine to deepen understanding of the healing Protocol.

Actionable Insights

- The community of Students of the Medicine provides support and commitment for survivors in various phases of their CPTSD journey.

- The CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol merges spiritual, scientific, and mystical practices to address complex trauma.

- CPTSD Medicine aims to provide alternative health services that promote growth, courage, and resilience for survivors.

- Breaking generational cycles of trauma within families is emphasized, along with forgiveness and building compassionate relationships.

- Expert interviews will cover topics like breath work, gene keys, archetypes, and elemental medicine to deepen understanding of the healing Protocol.

Quotes:

“If we don’t have a guide; if we don’t have a ‘how to’; if we don’t have a plan; or a recipe, we’re all just kind of floating around in space unclear of what we’re doing and why we’re doing it.” — Tanner  [02:29]

“Now that I’ve found my Power, I can say it so clearly: We are resolving CPTSD. I am the evidence myself as my own transformation, I have clients who are also evidence, and if you don’t want to hear that, we’re not the organization for you.” — Tanner [07:52]

“CPTSD Medicine – is Internal Family Systems-based through-and-through, but it’s an alternative rendering of Parts Work calibrated to the frequency of cycle-breaking.” —  Tanner  [22:17]

“The CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol is about moving you through everything that’s needed internally and externally to resolve CPTSD. It’s not about coping or managing symptoms, although, getting better at that will expedite the process of Resolution, for sure.” — Tanner [28:56]

“There is no comparison. Every one of our journeys and timelines are different, but the universal thing is [that] we all need to move through the Unburdening sequence.” — Tanner  [32:09]

How can trauma distortions affect relationships?

Attachment Restoration is a vital component of trauma recovery, offering individuals a pathway to heal and rebuild connections both internally and externally. Tanner emphasizes the importance of this process, viewing it as essential for understanding one's behaviors and experiences, and ultimately reconnecting with the True Self. Her perspective is shaped by the belief that Attachment Restoration is central to healing, as it addresses the core disturbances caused by early neglect or abuse. By focusing on both internal and external aspects of attachment, Tanner advocates for a holistic approach that allows individuals to experience authentic connections without the burden of constant self-reminders or mental struggles, thus facilitating deeper presence in relationships.

Key TakeAways

- Attachment Restoration is crucial for trauma recovery and addressing the impact of past trauma on relationships.

- Internal Family Systems (IFS) and parts work are fundamental in the healing journey.

- Unblending from trauma distortions is key for breaking the cycle of toxic relationships and fostering relational healing.

- Recognizing trauma distortions' influence on relationships is important for transforming interactions and fostering deeper connections.

- Investing in partnerships by understanding trauma distortions can lead to transformative experiences.

- Attachment Restoration allows individuals to connect, communicate, and co-regulate internally and externally for a healthier dynamic.

- Addressing past wounds is significant for healing and transforming relationships.

Actionable Insights

- Focus on attachment restoration in trauma recovery

- Utilize modalities like DBT, IFS, polyvagal theory, and somatic experiencing for healing

- Address past trauma impact on relationships through attachment restoration

- Recognize and unblend from trauma distortions for relational growth

- Implement strategies for managing triggers and promoting healthier attachment

- Invest in partnerships by understanding trauma distortions for total transformation

- Establish healthy connections with others for a more fulfilling relational experience

How does Internal Family Systems (IFS) help individuals address CPTSD?

The resolution of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) through Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy offers a compelling approach to healing by addressing the fragmented internal experiences that often accompany trauma. Tanner Wallace, in his CPTSD Medicine podcast, highlights the transformative power of IFS in helping individuals unburden and understand different parts of themselves, leading to a more integrated perception of their trauma. With a background in working with clients who have experienced significant trauma, Tanner has seen firsthand the profound changes IFS can facilitate. However, she acknowledges that while IFS provides a strong foundation, it may not fully address all aspects of CPTSD, advocating for a combination of IFS with other holistic methods to ensure comprehensive healing and transformation.

Key TakeAways

- Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a trauma therapy modality that addresses the fragmented nature of a person's internal experience.

- IFS offers a path towards resolving Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) by identifying and unburdening trauma energies within an internal system.

- Sacred Blueprint Alignment focuses on studying human design, the gene keys, and shamanic astrology to dismantle gaslit portrayals constructed by trauma energies.

- Parts Work Practice involves turning inward to notice different thoughts, sensations, and energies, expanding consciousness to understand how CPTSD uniquely shapes the internal system.

- Advanced practices such as noticing parts, energies, or entities that may not trust you yet can further enhance the effectiveness of using Internal Family Systems (IFS) to address CPTSD.

Actionable Insights

- Recognize and address fragmented parts within yourself for CPTSD resolution

- Create a safe and trusting environment to uncover the root causes of trauma

- Explore human design, gene keys, and shamanic astrology to uncover your true identity

- Practice turning inward to understand how CPTSD uniquely shapes your internal system

- Enhance the effectiveness of using Internal Family Systems (IFS) by noticing parts, energies, or entities that may not trust you yet

Quotes:

“IFS is necessary for CPTSD Resolution, but not sufficient as taught in mainstream training spaces.” — Tanner [04:55]

“In many ways, as I understand IFS, we’re storytelling with neural networks. We’re listening to voices, feeling sensations, reviewing memories, feeling behavioral urges; the senses that are hard to put into words, and we’re understanding them as really important sources of data, wisdom—Sacred Wisdom—as to the blueprint of our wounding and the consequences of a traumatizing childhood.” — Tanner [11:08]

“If I know the root cause of something; I know the problem to something, I can create a solution because I know the problem. When I don’t even know the problem, how am I going to know the solution?” — Tanner [17:46]

“CPTSD Medicine teaches Energetic Stewardship so that Self Energy can be purified as well as amplified.” — Tanner [25:10]

What is the significance of creating a shame-free environment in the healing journey from complex trauma?

The unburdening process is a pivotal component of trauma recovery, allowing individuals to confront and release emotional burdens such as fear, hurt, and shame that often stem from past traumatic experiences. Tanner, an advocate for this process, underscores its necessity by illustrating how trauma is internally held and the significance of releasing it for genuine healing. With a background shaped by the Internal Family Systems model, Tanner stresses the creation of a shame-free and supportive relational context to facilitate this unburdening, enabling individuals to approach their internal experiences with greater peace and neutrality. They acknowledge that resistance may arise due to the fear of facing uncomfortable truths, yet they encourage embracing such resistance as an opportunity for deeper understanding and personal leadership. Tanner also points to the diverse modalities that incorporate unburdening practices, attesting to the practical effectiveness of these approaches, even if they initially appear unconventional to some.

Key TakeAways

- Resistance in the healing journey can signal a need to confront uncomfortable truths or fears and leakage of energy towards unproductive areas.

- Unburdening is crucial for healing complex trauma and involves working with parts or energies that hold onto burdens from traumatic experiences.

- Creating a no shame environment is essential during the unburdening process for deeper alignments and true self emergence in complex trauma recovery work.

- Recovering from CPTSD within relationships involves setting clear boundaries, holding space without taking on someone else's energy or emotion, and building trust through secure commitment.

- Establishing energetic boundaries in partnership allows for emotional closeness while maintaining energetic separation, promoting individual self-leadership in the journey of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder recovery.

Actionable Insights

- Confront uncomfortable truths or fears during healing journey

- Create a shame-free environment for unburdening process

- Set clear boundaries in relationships for CPTSD recovery

- Establish energetic boundaries to witness partner's negative emotions without taking them on

- Build trust in relationships by committing wholeheartedly and eliminating ambiguity

Quotes:

“In my opinion, unburdening is essential, required, non-negotiable for permanent healing of CPTSD.” — Tanner [08:40]

“Trust is critically important in small and big ways.” — Tanner [23:29]

“Relationships are the perfect, ideal training ground for complex trauma recovery.” — Tanner [27:27]

How can individuals unknowingly absorb darker energies?

The Energetic Stewardship Series explores the crucial yet often overlooked role of managing and transforming energies within oneself and the environment, aiming to foster personal growth and collective well-being. Tanner brings a unique perspective to this series, drawing from his extensive experience working with clients in various therapeutic settings. She highlights the importance of protecting one's own energy and ensuring that any dark energy absorbed is transformed before it can affect others. Tanner's approach is shaped by his deep understanding of the contexts in which darker energies can infiltrate, such as intimate encounters or spiritual practices, and the rigorous self-care required to hold space for others effectively. Her commitment to energetic stewardship is evident in his dedication to preparing individuals for true healing and integration, emphasizing mindful energy management as a cornerstone of his practice.

Key TakeAways

- Individuals can unknowingly absorb and transmit darker energies, highlighting the importance of self-protection and transmuting these energies back to lightness.

- Certain life moments can make individuals vulnerable to absorbing darker energies, necessitating self-awareness and unburdening sequences for reclaiming personal power.

- Developing strong energetic boundaries is crucial to prevent the absorption of harmful energies, especially during moments of vulnerability.

- Identifying and healing from dark energy involves deep inner work, unburdening sequences, and gaining Self Leadership for personal growth.

- Tanner aims to release old masterclasses and videos to create a curated library of resources for her audience, aligning with his commitment to community engagement and support.

Actionable Insights

- Develop strong energetic boundaries to prevent absorption of harmful energies

- Practice energetic protection during vulnerable moments such as deep physical intimacy or altered states of consciousness

- Engage in deep inner work to uncover and address dark energy within oneself

- Reclaim personal power through self-awareness and unburdening sequences

- Utilize curated library of resources for support and guidance in healing journey

Quotes:

“When we don’t learn that natural self-protection, it’s almost as if – there are gaps in our energetic boundaries – that allows us to be susceptible to absorbing the darker energies.” — Tanner[0:05:50]

“I am the path of least resistance to healing.” — Tanner [0:07:53]

“It’s the true act of compassion to hold all but simultaneously learn how to hold it so we ourselves are not being compromised or destroyed or consumed in the process of holding the darkness.” — Tanner  [0:10:00]

How does Tanner suggest addressing projections and prove it energy in relationships?

Healing relationships and fostering personal growth are interlinked processes that involve deep emotional work and intentional transformation. Tanner, a recovery advocate, emphasizes the significance of inner work in healing relationships to promote personal growth. Drawing from her experiences with structured healing methods and trauma recovery, Tanner introduces the concept of the 5 Circuits of Healing Power, particularly Circuit 3, which focuses on relational healing and expanding beyond trauma ecosystems. Her perspective underscores the importance of self-awareness in identifying trauma triggers and patterns, advocating for a self-centered approach that allows individuals to understand and restructure their relational dynamics. By addressing wounded energies and fostering trust, Tanner envisions a world where healed individuals can create positive interactions and spread healing energy to others.

Key TakeAways

- The podcast showcases Tanner's recovery journey, emphasizing personal growth and emotional healing through the exploration of healing containers and trauma recovery.

- Tanner emphasizes the significance of personal growth during active recovery by advocating for internal parts, holding energy, and translating internal experiences into external interactions.

- Recognizing trauma triggers, interactional patterns, and the need for self-awareness is crucial in cleaning up and restructuring relationships.

- Tanner explains how projections and prove it energy negatively impact relationships by causing individuals to project their fears and insecurities onto others, leading to a cycle of mistrust and resentment.

- The program consists of 5 Circuits of Healing Power to move participants through all five phases of recovery, incorporating Attachment Restoration achieved through relational healing, breath work, intuitive movement, yoga, and psychoeducational content experiences.

Actionable Insights

- Recognize trauma triggers, interactional patterns, and the need for self-awareness in relationships

- Advocate for Wounded and Protective Parts in a self-centered yet empathetic manner for desire-based relationships

- Address and clean up projections and prove it energy to cultivate healthier relationships based on trust and communication

- Engage in breath work, intuitive movement, and yoga for emotional intelligence and relational healing

- Participate in the structured program of five circuits of healing power to navigate the recovery journey and build a supportive community

Why is it crucial to feel safe and supported when sharing one's story?

Tanner is spearheading a movement to create a supportive community for individuals recovering from complex childhood trauma, focusing on empowerment and transformation. She envisions a survivor-led revolution that encourages TruthTelling, despite the challenges and fears that often accompany it, as a crucial step towards personal and collective healing. Tanner highlights the importance of feeling safe and supported in the process of sharing one's story, emphasizing that even small steps can lead to emotional liberation and empowerment. Tanner expands this vision by discussing the significance of rewriting one's narrative to reflect authentic lived experiences, thus promoting a more meaningful and empowering life story. As part of this initiative, Tanner invites participants to select emotionally resonant songs to foster vulnerability and introspection, using music as a transformative tool for healing within the community.

Key TakeAways

- Creating a survivor-led trauma recovery revolution is Tanner's vision for the Relational Healing Lab.

- TruthTelling is essential in trauma recovery and requires survivors to feel safe and supported.

- Tanner emphasizes the power of rewriting one's story to reflect lived experiences more accurately.

- The importance of stepping into personal power and embracing truth telling for emotional liberation is highlighted.

- Using emotionally resonant songs as a tool for introspection and healing is a unique approach to CPTSD Resolution

Actionable Insights

- Encourage individuals to take small steps towards truth telling for emotional liberation and personal empowerment

- Embrace the process of rewriting one's story to create a more authentic and empowering life narrative

- Recognize the significance of truth telling in trauma recovery to achieve wholeness and integration

- Prioritize vulnerability and self-reflection by identifying emotionally resonant songs for healing

- Foster a supportive environment for survivors of childhood trauma using music as a catalyst for self-discovery