Christina Aaliyah (Christina Aaliyah)

📍 timestamps 0:00 intro 3:26 safety of misery 7:36 the paradox of low expectations 15:54 old you vs the new you 19:47 fear of the unknown

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0:00 intro

02:06 self evaluation

05:10 comparison shows you what your triggers are

08:14 The Asset Principle

13:57 envy is just admiration with an emotional wound

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0:00 intro

2:13 the 1 thing holding you back

7:49 the power of introversion

12:16 do less to get more

15:04 going out of your comfort zone

📌 timestamps (0:00) intro (1:32) how to approach people (6:42) there is no 'right or wrong' thing to talk about (10:42) stop deflecting (14:55) i DoN'T KnoW wHaT tO sAy (20:42) stop hiding your opinion (24:25) cut the BS and say how you actually feel (27:50) summary (28:47) outro

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0:00 intro

1:19 Passion doesn’t fade over time but infatuation does

4:25 Passion vs Infatuation

8:37 Are you craving connection or craving tension?

12:59 Relationship theory vs reality

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0:53 micro habit 1

2:41 micro habit 2

5:00 micro habit 3

7:31 micro habit 4

11:04 micro habit 5

13:48 micro habit 6

15:48 micro habit 7

0:41 you can have a conversation with anyone

1:40 you live in the present moment

3:31 you’re a good mix of relatable and aspirational

5:20 right mix sense of humour and intelligence

7:03 strong sense of self

8:36 negativity is just as important as positivity

10:56 you’re comfortable being seen

(0:00) intro (1:43) you want to be perfect (8:39) you don’t open up (13:04) you refuse to get hurt (20:15) you’re allergic to red flags (22:25) you don’t know what you want

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0:00 intro 2:47 undervaluing the work you’ve done 6:01 your goals aren’t aligned with your values 8:53 emotions are signals 9:49 what you hide, owns you 15:15 not acknowledging your progress

0:00 intro02:06 self evaluation05:10 comparison shows you what your triggers are08:14 The Asset Principle13:57 envy is just admiration with an emotional wound

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0:00 intro

1:41 social media

3:39 hyper individualist culture /hustle culture

8:24 Lack of third spaces

14:37 people are less open

8:24 lack of third spaces

16:06 neurodivergence

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0:00 intro 02:22 late bloomer theory 05:00 the world says you're behind 17:59 shiny object syndrome POV: You feel like you’re falling behind in life. 📖 my eBook Grab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/

(0:00) intro (01:42) you’re not behind, you’re just an overachiever (03:31) goals are an opportunity to escape insecurity (05:40) being average isn’t a disease (07:42) toxic relationships with measuring everything (10:30) you’re a piece of nature, not a piece of technology (13:20) “never let your search for more distract, you from the beauty of enough” (14:22) would you still strive for more if you felt good about yourself (15:50) is faster always better (18:25) you can’t bully yourself into achieving a goal (19:46) chasing the next goal is the same as keeping up with trends (21:19) outro

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0:00 intro 1:07 easy target 2:52 feelings 3:57 bad feeling 4:40 one basket 7:03 confidence 10:06 lonely 12:17 out

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you’re not boring, you’re just hiding your personality 📌 timestamps 0:00 - intro 1:47 having nothing to say = putting pressure on yourself 4:34 you’re not boring you’re just performing 10:19 do you even like the performative version of you? 14:00 stop hiding the thing you’re so afraid of 20:00 start journaling 21:53 not knowing what to say isn’t the problem 23:46 summary 💭 contact me video ideas → https://forms.gle/vYabZfXZvySN9xaA7 buy me a coffee → https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna tiktok → https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah email → christinaaaliyah1@gmail.com

I nearly didn’t upload this video LOL

This is an OLLDDDDDD video from the archives

I wasn’t able to film a new video this week (ya girl is working 60 hours this week 🥲)

But I still wanted to post for you guys so I thought I would upload this old video

Audio and editing is not the best but things will be back to normal next week 🙏🏽


Much love xxx

0:00 intro

1:33 what the hell is a nervous system

3:20 what happens when things go wrong

6:05 “if feeling is the problem, I’ll never feel again”

8:02 learning to reprogram

9:09 right now

10:01 this week

10:57 long term

0:00 intro

1:08 Definition

4:12 Procrastination and perfectionism are best friends

6:30 You Tie Your Worth to Outcomes, Not Effort

12:29 Avoidance behaviours

14:45 Face the emotion, face the problem

This is one of the most personal topics I’ve ever spoken about because I have BEEN IN THE TRENCHES of procrastinating so bad and hating myself for it.

Procrastination isn’t just about laziness or distractions—it’s about fear.

The fear that we won’t do it right, that we’ll fall short, or that we’ll fail in front of everyone.

I’ve been the person who delays sending that text, starting that project, or speaking up in a meeting because I wasn’t “ready” or I was too scared of the outcome. I’ve told myself, just research a little more, prepare a little better, or wait for the right time. But deep down, I knew the truth: I wasn’t avoiding the task—I was avoiding the emotions that came with it.

The fear of rejection, inadequacy, or imperfection has held me back from so much. And honestly? It’s exhausting. But I’m learning to face it. I’m learning that I can’t tie my worth to an outcome or wait for things to be “perfect” before I start.

In this video, I talk about the real reasons behind procrastination—the ones we don’t always want to admit. It’s about the discomfort, the self-doubt, and the pressure we put on ourselves to be extraordinary. And I share how I’m slowly learning to celebrate the small wins, face the uncomfortable emotions, and take action—even when it’s scary.

If this resonates with you, let’s figure it out together. Give yourself grace. Start small. Because you deserve to try, even if the outcome isn’t perfect.

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0:00 Intro

1:46 Book 1: Finally be happy with your life

5:33 Book 2: Never overthink again

10:15 Book 3: Achieve TRUE wealth

16:49 Book 4: Become unrecognisable

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0:00 intro

2:16 respect is long term, likability is short term

5:34 why respect matters more

10:52 deep relationships over superficial relationships

14:20 being liked = validation, being respected = confidence

(0:00) intro (0:58) social anxiety (5:58) losing yourself (8:40) confidence (14:01) the meaning of life (16:15) how I cope

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(0:00) Intro (1:13) Trying too hard (3:00) Low standards (4:58) Overcommunication (7:32) Older guys (9:59) Don’t take it too seriously (12:56) Outro

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0:00 intro 1:16 letting go of a friend 2:36 should i just accept i'm ugly? 5:05 self confidence 6:24 how to be your authentic self 9:05 my co-workers hate me? 11:45 how to stop people pleasing

0:00 intro

0:45 Don’t mistake validation for confidence

2: 29 What you hide = Where you connect

4:59 The Hidden Bridge

8:15 The Asset Principle

10:39 The value gap

13:41 Boundaries are good

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0:00 intro

2:08 being your authentic self isn’t about adding, it’s about revealing

4:50 Suppressed emotions

9:37 journal prompts to help you be yourself

13:21 the authentic you doesn’t need approval

Certainly! Here are the timestamps with brackets added around the numbers:

(0:00) intro

(1:22) Your problem

(3:15) Your problem pt. 2

(4:21) Friends v Acquaintances

(4:56) Quality over Quantity

(6:14) High expectations

(7:15) Solitude

(8:02) Vulnerability

(9:04)outro

0:00 intro

3:09 the pressure to live up to an ideal

6:36 pretending you’re okay

11:50 ambition

17:22 self-critical

0:00 intro

1:17 validation

4:54 being busy

7:17 relationships

10:02 friendships

12:30 success

(0:00) preview

(0:36) intro

(1:51) why u feel lonely

(3:48) anxiety makes it worse

(5:13) societies

(10:20) flatmates

(12:45) self-esteem

(17:49) when you get excited over the bare minimum

(21:24) how to actually make friends (mindset shift)

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(0:00) intro (1:08) social anxiety and loneliness go hand in hand (4:45) you literally run away from your fears (7:04) trying to find ‘your people’ is a scam (13:46) the friends you want need you to be you (18:25) friendships change like the weather

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0:00 intro

2:26 desire for friendship

4:32 being seen

8:13 validation

11:16 the value gap

14:55 diversify your identity

18:09 self discovery

19:49 live in the moment

0:00 intro

2:22 prioritisation

5:29 self-sabotage

6:57 good news

8:03 wealth

11:08 rejection

12:56 vulnerability

17:01 love

0:00 Intro

1:31 Sign 1

3:44 Sign 2

5:31 Sign 3

7:23 Sign 4

9:00 Sign 5

11:00 Sign 6

14:01 Sign 7

0:00 - intro

2:36 your childhood is everything

4:28 acceptance matters more than improvement

8:30 avoiding burnout

12:21 you deserve to be picky with friendships

14:24 you’ll never feel accomplished if you don’t celebrate yourself

16:44 you have way less control than you think

19:52 you don’t need advice

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1:25 society places value on extroversion

3:49 you’re exhausted from pretending

7:38 lonely v alone

10:01 you thrive 1:1 and not in groups

13:00 feel like you’re in the outside looking in

0:00 intro 1:52 you have to work to get approval 2:57 low self esteem 4:38 are you trying to save them 8:18 what do boundaries look like 11:50 boundaries are an act of self-respect

0:00 intro

0:40 compliments

1:50 being nice

4:19 instagram

5:45 groups

7:02 saying no

9:58 being alone

11:18 unshakable confidence

0:00 intro 1:25 the chase 13:30 men don’t respond to words they respond to no contact 16:36 be his lover, not his mother 20:08 the nice girl is easily impressed, the dream girl is not 24:38 hold them accountable

0:00 intro

1:41 you expect yourself to be perfect

4:28 the illusion of completion

8:39 chasing perfection

11:36 we chase excitement and not peace

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0:00 intro

2:10 placing too much emphasis on being similar

6:53 self esteem

12:19 expectations

15:04 difficulty in reading social cues

17:58 fear of rejection

0:00 intro

2:17 self improvement creates excellence, but acceptance creates happiness

4:39 what is self acceptance?

7:53 forgiveness is your biggest barrier to self improvement (last chapter??)

13:47 pursuing perfection only makes you more insecure

16:18 elebrating yourself is a habit not an occasion

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0:00 intro

1:46 What is success? Gen Z vs Millennial Perspective

3:08 2008 Financial Crisis

6:54 AI Problem

9:42 Fountain of Fulfilmment

13:20 Success Beyond Careers

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(0:00) intro

(0:45) make people feel something either way

(1:59) having an opinion is like having a voice, if you don't have one, we can't hear you.

(3:37) your silence will protect you from judgement or criticism.

(4:40) making yourself small doesn't serve your higher self

(7:32) start swearing

(8:12) stop smiling

(9:50) start thinking about yourself more start thinking about everyone else less

(11:29) you only become the person you want to be when you decide who you want to be

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📌 timestamps 0:00 - intro 2:18 work is not only a distraction, but it’s also an addiction 5:38 work is your emotional outlet of choice 9:54 you often say no to yourself but you say yes to other people 13:20 working is a shield against opening up 16:04 the process matters more than the destination 22:01 stillness is your friend not your enemy 😌 meditations 13 min You are enough https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=73_ykVHLVQ8&t=1s 10 min Balance your nervous system https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1BfsW3JKSOI 20 min Silence unguided meditation https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XenTtjaQuSM 💭 contact me video ideas → https://forms.gle/vYabZfXZvySN9xaA7 buy me a coffee → https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna tiktok → https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah email → christinaaaliyah1@gmail.com

📌 timestamps (0:00) - intro (1:32) how to approach people (6:42) there is no 'right or wrong' thing to talk about (10:42) stop deflecting (14:55) i DoN'T KnoW wHaT tO sAy (20:42) stop hiding your opinion (24:25) cut the BS and say how you actually feel (27:50) summary (28:47) outro 💭 get to know me buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

(0:90) preview (1:28) Intro (2:36) before I was the only black girl (4:07) It starts to mess with your head (5:38) This is a big reason you're (7:23) where's my good karma? (9:30) your only personality trait is (12:17) why don't you tell the teachers? (13:53) you're your own representative (15:12) the luxury of individuality (19:52) outro

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(0:00) intro

(0:35) desperate is what happens when you think you need something to survive

(1:19) your level of desperation is equivalent to your level of insecurity

(2:23) people can smell desperate

(2:53) desperation makes you friends with the wrong people

(3:54) when you need other people you'll change for other people

(5:30) the moment you realize you don't need to look for friends is the moment you'll find them.

(7:24) a lack of friendships in the past makes it hard to make friends in the future.

(8:26) someone who doesn't know their worth is going to attract unhealthy relationships

(10:11) you are the sort of friend you want to have, you're just not confident enough to show it

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0:00 intro

2:24 grades fuel your self esteem

6:33 parental pressure

12:38 “the trophy child”

14:36 relationships act as “shock absorbers”

(0:00) intro (1:38) You don’t need another book (3:04) you’re missing the key thing (6:15) no one has better advice for you , than you (10:46) sometimes the answer isn’t in another book (11:46) information isn’t the key to achieving your goals (15:15) self help keeps you trapped in the past or the future (16:54) goals don’t make you accept yourself (20:38) outro

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0:00 -intro

2:25 -body language is everything

7:34- release expectations

11:24- start with a compliment

13:49- never take things personally they don’t know you

16:12- having mind blanks

20:35- leave the conversation when things are going well

(0:00) intro (1:26) friendships don’t guarantee connection (4:13) you don’t want your life to look like instagram (7:56) one friendship group = recipe for disaster (10:03) the KEY to making lasting friendships (14:38) the best advice I can give you (16:12) outro

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pov you ask people about themselves, but they never ask about you (0:00) intro (1:42) personality (3:47) burden (5:43) open up (8:03) selfish (11:13) say no (12:24) your fault? (14:43) outro

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0:00 intro 2:11 your fruits are only as good as your roots 3:54 mindset doesn’t dictate success, self worth does 7:18 my vision board 12:21 a vision board is just 1% of what you can achieve 15:52 detachment

(0:00) intro (2:24) what you should be doing (2:54) you're hype fixating (3:45) insecurities (4:16) it makes you boring (5:50) your higher self (6:37) jealousy (7:20) a perfect life (8:50) self love (9:24) achievements (10:52) a fun life (12:26) comparison (13:43) what you should do (15:38) being the best (16:54) the real winner (18:13) what truly matters (19:10) the antidote for comparison

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insecure people are the most lonely and here's why ... (0:00) intro (1:13) loneliness (3:02) withdrawal (5:11) isolation (7:25) jealousy (10:27) self-talk (12:22) validation (14:14) unlovable (16:13) outro

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you don’t need friends, you need connection Friends won't guarantee you the feeling of connection you're longing for , and they might not even fix your loneliness. For a multitude of reasons, but here's a few. (0:00) intro (1:26) friendships don’t guarantee connection (4:13) you don’t want your life to look like instagram (7:56) one friendship group = recipe for disaster (10:03) the KEY to making lasting friendships (14:38) the best advice I can give you (16:12) outro 💭 get to know me buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

0:00 intro

2:51 hook up culture

4:21 men are wick of women + women are sick of men

9:00 we are motivated by fear, not by hope

13:06 we don’t date people we date avatars

16:12 unlimited options

20:27 attachment styles

0:00 intro 3:00 fear of love 6:12 Hyperfixate on flaws 9:09 being single is better than settling 12:47 not all relationships are created equal

(0:00) intro (0:44) ‘I have nothing to say’ (3:49) good conversation is not your responsibility (7:02) only smile half of the time (9:15) share stories about yourself (11:35) you need to ask about them (12:27) ask them about their expertise (13:21) open up to get them to open up (15:30) take things less personally (18:16) outro

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0:00 intro

2:47 you don’t need to be more

7:03 embrace your quirks

9:56 act like you’re correct

11:37 don’t rely on people to believe you 

13:28 create your own identity

16:07 say no more

18:25 master the deep convo

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it's giving a highly motivated but self destructive personality (0:00) intro (1:00) the worst personality combo (2:25) why are we like this (5:20) personality trait 1 (9:01) personality trait 2 (11:26) personality trait 3

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0:00 intro

0:50 very socially aware

3:19 you only pursue meaningful connection

6:05 you’re independent

8:45 control your emotions

11:58 you know yourself very well

0:00 intro 2:54 you’re not crazy for wanting to be attractive 7:58 the only thing worse than feeling ugly, is other people thinking that you’re ugly 9:17 avoidance behaviour 13:24 race 16:41 what do you hope to gain from not being ugly 21:46 Inherited attraction v earned attraction 26:22 your identity can be shaped by you or it can be shaped by everyone else 31:15 outro

(0:00) intro (1:01) chapter 1 (2:13) chapter 2 (3:10) chapter 2 (8:40) chapter 3 (16:52) chapter 4

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0:00 intro 1:55 chapter 1 4:07 chapter 2 7:29 chapter 3 11:11 chapter 4 12:35 chapter 5

📌 timestamps 0:00 - intro 1:15 how to stop overthinking 3:18 interview with einstein or Picasso 3:47 have you ever experienced racism 5:13 dealing with feelings of inadequacy 7:16 how do you make time for yourself 9:14 working as a doctor 10:10 posting on social media 12:19 dream vacation

0:00 intro

1:04 the recipe for a good conversation

4:03 give them a signal

5:43 make them feel interesting

7:47 find a common ground

9:44 bE yOuRsElf

11:52 how to deal with people talking over you 

13:17   them liking you <<< you liking you

0:00 intro 2:54 you’re not crazy for wanting to be attractive 7:58 the only thing worse than feeling ugly, is other people thinking that you’re ugly 9:17 avoidance behaviour 13:24 race 16:41 what do you hope to gain from not being ugly 21:46 Inherited attraction v earned attraction 26:22 your identity can be shaped by you or it can be shaped by everyone else 31:15 outro

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(1:00) intro

(1:56) first year is the loneliest

(2:49) feeling lonely when you're around other people

(5:00) why it's so hard to make friends at uni (personality)

(5:41) when you're quiet

(8:25) societies are not the only way to make friends

(9:12) don't blame yourself for your loneliness

(10:42) not all societies are created equal

(14:11) not being the first choice

(14:55) don't compare yourself to insta omg

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0:00 intro

02:13 Why we seek validation

05:16 Validation and self esteem

07:51 The value gap

11:20 Hobbies

12:52 Spending time around the right people

16:16 The highest most confident version of yourself

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lonely but not alone 💭 7 reasons why you're not as lonely as you think ✨ (0:00) intro (1:11) connection (3:04) social skills (5:01) listening (6:09) fake (7:48) fear (9:39) emotions (11:20) social media (13:25) outro

0:00 intro

1:28 friendships have become more of a want than a need

3:30 replacing friends with our personal hobbies

6:20 effort

8:10 social media

11:43 millennial perspective

13:37 having a thriving social life

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2:56 hating yourself became your safe space

5:26 you make up for your lack of beauty elsewhere

6:45 friendships

9:45 relationships

14:56 confidence

0:00 intro

2:30 motivation vs self-criticism

5:15 some things are better in your head, than in reality

9:12 some friends are temporary lessons

11:27 don’t take being ignored personally

14:54 trust your gut

16:45 achievement can happen through action

0:00 intro 01:41 social interaction = society interaction04:41 You have status anxiety07:21 Value Gap11: 04 You’re not alone📖 my e-bookRead 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/

0:00 - intro 1:22 self acceptance over self improvement 4:11 attachment styles 8:21 your standards don’t matter but your self worth does 11:35 people aren’t as put together as you think 15:18 work on your confidence not on your looks 18:21 being interesting over being attractive 19:28 outro 💭 contact me video ideas → https://forms.gle/vYabZfXZvySN9xaA7 buy me a coffee → https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna tiktok → https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah email → christinaaaliyah1@gmail.com

If you’re the sort of person that - cries when you get criticism - gets emotional when you’re getting told off - can’t get something wrong without taking it personally I feel you This was me for the longest time and I realised the reason why is because we have suuuuper high standards for ourselves. In this video I unpack: - Your relationship with perfectionism - Your detest for asking for help - Your weirdly low but also high self-esteem

0:00 intro2:05 are we asking too much?4:34 the bare minimum6:23 date outside your type9:55 80% of couples are dissatisfied11:35 high self esteem protects you from poor quality relationships

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📌 timestamps (0:00) - intro (01:17) - you want luck but you don’t trust it (05:02)- you don’t find the right relationship, you create it (08:29) - you don’t find love you build it (11:19) - perfect partner vs good enough partner (17:49) - settling isn’t bad (22:09) - relationships aren’t special

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0:00 intro

01:00 - What is soft life?

02:01 - Vague Sense of self

05:29 - Something Bigger Than You

06:55 - Chasing External Rewards

10:36 - The Price of Chasing

11:38 - Dream Jobs Don’t Exist

12:13 - Life Will Always Have Struggles

14:11 - Building a Self Made Life

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(0:00) intro (1:10) listening to other people (2:12) being desperate (3:12) small talk (4:28) hiding from people (7:19) high expectations (9:17) insecurities (11:51) not being memorable (13:55) win-lose (16:44) outro

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POV: Your Social Feed Says You’re Falling Behind :') It’s so easy to get caught up in the endless scroll of someone else’s success—whether it’s the influencer flaunting a six-figure business or your friend who seems to be ticking off every milestone you never even dreamed about. Over the years, I’ve caught myself asking… Why am I not further ahead? Am I doing something wrong if I’m not a “rich girlie” by 25? But here’s the truth I’ve learned: Success isn’t always what it seems. Between social media highlight reels and the real-life pressures of inflation, climbing the corporate ladder, or figuring out a side hustle, it’s easier than ever to confuse someone else’s version of “making it” with your own. We get stuck chasing a formula or aesthetic for success, forgetting to ask, What do I actually want? In this video, I explain into why Gen Z’s obsession with success can be more about survival than ambition, how comparison can rob you of your originality, and why your biggest motivator might be shame rather than genuine passion. I also talk about how defining success on your own terms can set you free from the relentless grind. Because if you’re not careful, you’ll wake up living someone else’s dream—and wonder why you’re still not happy.

(0:00) intro (1:06) Pleasure (2:57) Intelligence (4:45) Exhaustion (5:56) Control (7:46) Control 2 (10:12) Restraint (11:32) Freedom (13:21) Outro

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00:00- intro

01:36 -you’re used to thinking and not feeling

05:03 - you feel like you have to hide who you are

09:37 - Work life comes before social life

13:00 - fuelled by curiosity, not entertainment

15:29- you’re used to being lonely

16:46 - you hate small talk