Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing (Choose Recovery Services - Alana Gordon and Amie Woolsey)
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| 02 Dec 2023 | Healing IS Possible; With Staci Somes LPC NCC | 00:41:52 | |
After nearly two decades of marriage, Staci Somes found herself at a crossroads far too many women face: should I stay or should I go? Join Amie and Alana as they talk with Staci, a licensed professional counselor and coach at Choose Recovery Services. In this raw and vulnerable conversation, Staci shares her personal journey of betrayal and the growth and healing that can be found on the other side. Listen to learn:
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More from Choose Recovery Services Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks. Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction. Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce. Intimacy Within Self Paced Course- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. This self paced course and guidebook will walk you through all 7 levels of intimacy and as you practice the tools and skills offered you will not only gain awareness around what healthy looks like, but what healthy looks like for YOU! Come back towards you today. Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee | |||
| 03 Oct 2024 | Courage To Thrive Intensive | 00:09:08 | |
You’ve heard us talk about the intensives that Choose Recovery Services hosts, but how do you know if they’re the right fit for you? Listen to this special episode as Alana goes into detail about our upcoming Courage to Thrive Intensive. Learn what the intensive is, who it is for, and what it can do for your healing and growth. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register HERE. We can’t wait to gather in person and embark on this life-changing journey together! Reach out to our office staff if you have any questions. | |||
| 05 Mar 2024 | Supporting Teens and Young Adults Through Parental Betrayal - With Morgan Ellsworth | 00:39:10 | |
When parents have experienced betrayal in their relationship, the entire family system is impacted. Teens and young adults are old enough to sense things are amiss, but may not understand everything that’s happening in their parents’ world. In today’s episode we are excited to welcome Morgan Ellsworth, a life coach at Choose Recovery Services. She is an APSATS trainee and has training as a DBT Skills Coach. Morgan shares her story of navigating her teenage years in an environment touched by betrayal trauma. She offers practical advice to ensure teens and young adults receive the attention and care they need so they can process their experience and begin to heal. Listen to learn:
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| 12 Mar 2024 | Why the Addict Needs to Do Their Own Attachment Work - with Luke Gordon | 00:31:55 | |
This week we are excited to welcome Luke Gordon to the podcast! Luke is an emotional health coach and cofounder of Choose Recovery Services who specializes in helping men overcome unwanted sexual compulsive behaviors. Luke shares how disruptions in our earliest childhood attachments form the foundation for later challenges like addiction, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and struggles with emotional intimacy. With raw vulnerability, Luke shares his own journey and provides insight into the harrowing yet rewarding work of exploring attachment wounds and family dynamics. Listen to learn:
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| 12 Apr 2022 | Is He In Recovery? | 00:29:29 | |
Join Amie and Alana as they discuss the question of 'Is my partner in recovery?' Divorced? Yep, this one is for you too. It's likely you are divorced because your partner did not do this recovery work. So learning what you have a right to expect and what it looks like will help you heal and move forward. Please feel free to send in your questions for topics you'd like us to discuss. send to chooserecoveryservices@gmail.com For those who are interested in the webinar for young single adults on healthy relationships or the Help Her Heal group, you can learn more and sign up here: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/events/ | |||
| 18 Oct 2022 | Safe Space; Announcing a NEW resource for navigating abuse | 00:30:16 | |
Join Amie who is with therapist Kimberly Day as Kim announces the launch of her new website SAFE SPACE for those who are experiencing destructive elements in their relationships. It can be overwhelming to start learning about what's actually been going on in your relationship and when it's been destructive and down right abusive there can also be a lot of shame, which can keep many form getting help and talking about it. Kim Day has created a SAFE SPACE for women to come and explore the different dynamics they are experiencing in the relationship. Worksheets, videos, community, podcast, free office and opportunities to get regular help are all available and so much more! Even if you don't think you are experiencing this in your relationship this is a great episode to share because someone you know is nad most liely feels alone and doesn't know where to go to receive accurate information safely. Check out onesafespace.com today and remember OCTOBER 24th is the official lunch day Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. | |||
| 25 May 2023 | Bonus! Free Couples Road To Recovery for Couples Trying to Heal After Infidelity, Affairs, or Sexual Addiction | 00:03:29 | |
Are you trying to heal you relationship after its been destroyed by lies, betrayal, infidelity, problematic sexual behaviors, or sexual addiction? Join us for a free Q&A and webinar the last Sunday of every month. Register by going to ChooseRecoveryServices.com Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services • Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more. • Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more. • Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Learn more. • Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery. Learn more. • Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Learn more. | |||
| 14 Feb 2023 | Buy Yourself Flowers; Loving YOU first | 00:19:14 | |
Valentine’s Day is meant to be a day for celebrating romance, but for those who have experienced betrayal, this day can serve as a reminder of what you’ve lost. We want to hold space today for the triggers, the pain, and the hard you may be feeling around this holiday. Whether you’re in a relationship, divorced, or single, you may find yourself grieving the expectations that were never realized in your romantic relationships. But perhaps you can take a minute this week to think about how you might be able to create a new tradition of loving you. On this episode, Amie and Alana share:
You get to decide on this day that celebrates love IF you want to celebrate love, and you get to decide how that looks. Groups, Classes, and Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
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| 09 Jan 2024 | Don't Dance With WALTER! | 00:38:16 | |
Although he’s always eager to take you for a twirl on the dance floor, Walter isn’t the dance partner you want. His toxic tango can cause you to constantly trip up in your relationships. So who is this Walter guy? WALTER is an acronym representing the unhealthy communication behaviors we often fall into despite our best intentions. In this week’s episode, Amie and Alana share examples from their own lives of times they’ve danced with Walter, and they give you ideas of how you can ditch Walter for good and learn to relate to others in healthier ways. Listen to learn:
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| 09 Sep 2022 | BONUS EPISODE: Healthy Attachments With Dating Expert Loni Harmon | 00:37:23 | |
If you think this is just for you single ladies, think again! You will all love this episode. but, yes all you single ladies this is also to give you a little preview of what you will be getting at our next DIVORCE RETREAT in October! Loni Harmon is amazing and so fun and will be one of our guest speakers at the retreat. Did I mention you don't want to miss this?! We’ve got an awesome bonus episode for you today, because we’re talking to THE dating expert, Loni Harmon. Loni is a licensed clinical social worker with over 10 years of experience helping singles create secure, lasting relationships. Loni is also a guest speaker for our upcoming divorce retreat in October. Clearly we were meant to cross paths, because we share passions about very similar things. We love helping women and men who are trying to navigate dating and really date healthy. And when you’re setting your priorities in a healthy relationship, one of the first things you want to consider is what we’re discussing today: healthy attachment. What’s the big deal about attachment?Attachment theory came about in the 1950s and essentially theorizes that early experiences with our primary caregivers set the tone for how we attach in other major relationships throughout our lives. And depending on how that caregiver showed up, that’s how we learned how to interact with the world. But it’s important to note: you are not your attachment style, and it’s not set in stone. So you can absolutely go about healing your attachment style and cultivate healthy attachments in dating. Attachment style summaryWe cover three different attachment styles in this conversation, which include:
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***In this episode you will get a basic idea of what attachment styles look like, and how you might identify with the different styles. If you want to learn more about his we recommend the book Attached, where you can also take the assessment to find out your style. ****If you are divorced, it's time to treat yourself- click here for more information on the retreat coming up in October. *****If you are looking for resources for your young single adult , or know one who could use tools and concepts for healthy dating and self empowerment, (who doesn't?!) then share this link with a YSA you know. Next course starts September 11th! *****Check out Loni Harmon on Instagram Don't miss out! Follow Amie & Alana on Social Media | |||
| 12 Nov 2024 | Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 7; What Comes Next? | 00:33:02 | |
Join Amie and Alana as they conclude their series on full therapeutic disclosures by discussing why disclosure is not the end of the journey and what steps to take next. They explore the importance of shared grief, the significance of building a plan for rebuilding trust, and the pitfalls to avoid post-disclosure. Learn about crafting personalized aftercare plans that include therapy, support systems, and empowerment practices to continue the healing process effectively. Get our FREE eBook “Is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure Right For Me?” delivered straight to your inbox. Sign up here! Referenced in this episode:
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| 19 Nov 2024 | REPLAY - Couples Healing After Infidelity, Cheating, or Sexual Addiction | 01:08:02 | |
Join us this week as we revisit one of our most popular episodes from 2022. The road to recovery can be a long and difficult road. When you don't know where you are headed and how to get there, it can feel even more daunting. Join Alana, Amie, and their guest, Luke Gordon, as they unpack the stages of individual and relational healing. They emphasize the necessity of humility, transparency, vulnerability, and empathy. Whether your partner is participating in recovery or not, learn actionable strategies and gain hope for a journey towards trust, emotional stability, and genuine connection. Download a visual of the recovery map here. Coming Up!
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| 12 Jan 2021 | Beginning Boundaries Starting with Me | 00:32:49 | |
Join us for a conversation on where and how to start boundaries! For more information on Alana and Amie, or any of our Choose therapists and coaches, go to Chooserecoveryservices.com or email us at info@choosrecoveryservices.com Choose healing, choose recovery, choose you. | |||
| 04 Jan 2022 | Trauma on the Brain and Body | 00:31:04 | |
Today we welcome our guest therapist Jody VanDrimmelen MSW, LCSW to discuss how trauma effects the brain and the body. There is such a huge impact from betrayal trauma and there are so many that are still learning about how this has effected them. Wherever you are at in your journey, todays episode will definitely add to your understanding and knowledge. We will discuss what trauma Is and the triggers that come because of it. So many women struggle to make sense of this and are trying to learn to recognize how their own mind and body responds to their triggers. Everyone will experience this differently so it's important to not compare your trauma to other people trauma. Trauma responses such as fight, flight and freeze are discussed today, and Jody introduces two more responses that studies have found to also show up as a response to triggers caused by trauma. Post traumatic growth is also something that we will talk about and would love for each of you to be able to feel the hope that can come from betrayal trauma and your own healing. Healing IS possible. | |||
| 04 Jul 2023 | The Luxury Of Grief; Navigating your grief after betrayal | 00:27:36 | |
Have you ever heard the saying, “Grief is a luxury for the brain that feels safe?” This is a quote from Dr. Jake Porter, and it might sound like an oxymoron, but it’s true! Amie and Alana share how grief is a luxury, and how you can’t get there unless you’re feeling safe within yourself, your body, and your emotions. Tune into this episode to learn:
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| 20 Feb 2024 | Is It Me? Is It Him? Attachment Broken Down | 00:35:46 | |
Do you ever feel tangled up in knots trying to understand where your relationship pain stems from? How can you tell if your pain is coming from childhood attachment wounds or current betrayal trauma? This week Amie and Alana help us learn how to unravel old and new attachment knots and walk us through what we can do to feel secure again in our relationships and in trusting ourselves. Listen to learn:
Coming Up! Help.Her.Heal - This course helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship. Two sessions will be beginning soon. Learn more about the course and register HERE. More from Choose Recovery Services
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| 01 Mar 2022 | Abuse, no excuse: To the woman on the other end of the phone | 00:21:10 | |
Join our conversation today as Amie gets real and vulnerable around her personal experience with abuse. It starts with awareness. Whether you are or are not in a similar situation, you most likely know someone who is. The more we can call it what it is, speak out about it, the healthier we become today and generations to come. There is never an excuse for abuse. This topic today came from an experience Amie had witnessing an abusive situation in the grocery store parking lot Enough is enough. Both Amie and Alana are committed to empowering women to have a voice and do their work to become healthy, and see their worth and value clearer than ever. It’s these topics that most shy away from so we are asking you to join us today in the vulnerability and listen, and share. Here are the courses that Amie talks about in todays episode: YSA Dating and Self Empowerment Course Starts March 13th Elements of Abuse Course with Amie Woolsey and Kimberly Day | |||
| 12 Jul 2022 | Responding To Your Child When You Find Out They've Been Looking At Pornography | 00:47:19 | |
In this episode of Choose To Be, we’re walking you through some simple tools and how to respond when you discover your kids are looking at porn. In this day and age, with the sexually saturated culture we have, our kids will be exposed to pornography. So when that happens, how are we going to respond? What will that look like? We are giving you the tools to handle this situation when it comes up, whether your child comes to you with questions or disclosures or you discover the behavior yourself. Some topics we cover today:
If you are suffering from betrayal trauma and want to know what your next step is, book a free consultation with us to find what is best for you and your needs. Your path to healing awaits. Please leave a review on APPLE PODCAST so we can reach more men and women who are looking for tools to choose recovery and choose healing We referenced Matt Fradd today, you can check out his talk HERE | |||
| 25 Jul 2023 | How Can I Know The Difference Between A Trauma Response And My Intuition? | 00:34:39 | |
Are triggers getting in the way of your ability to recognize your gut feelings? And what’s the difference between the two? After going through trauma, it can become confusing to distinguish between which feelings are legitimate alarm bells and what’s a false alarm. Amie and Alana share real life examples, relatable analogies, and helpful tips to help you get to the bottom of these feelings in this week’s episode. Tune in to learn:
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| 02 Dec 2023 | Not Pretending, Being Authentic and Owning Your Experience | 00:26:41 | |
Do you ever feel like you have to pretend to be happy in your relationship? Are you tired of hiding your true feelings just to keep the peace? Join Amie and Alana as they talk about the problems of inauthenticity and the benefits of embracing and expressing your real thoughts and emotions. Listen to learn:
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More from Choose Recovery Services Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks. Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction. Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce. Intimacy Within Self Paced Course- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. This self paced course and guidebook will walk you through all 7 levels of intimacy and as you practice the tools and skills offered you will not only gain awareness around what healthy looks like, but what healthy looks like for YOU! Come back towards you today. Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee | |||
| 05 Sep 2023 | Is Recovery Work Being Weaponized? | 00:42:37 | |
Betrayal is painful enough, but what if your partner uses their recovery against you? This week we dive into the complicated dynamics of betrayers weaponizing their healing. Join Amie and Alana as they explore the nuances of weaponizing recovery work including what it is, how to spot it, why it happens, and how you can protect yourself. *BIG disclaimer with this topic - weaponizing can go both ways, and this episode is not intended to be used against your partner either. Listen to learn:
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More from Choose Recovery Services Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks. Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction. Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce. Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee | |||
| 22 Feb 2022 | When Apologies Don't Feel Like An Apology | 00:18:09 | |
Join us today we talk about apologies, what makes a good one, what makes a bad one, and how to start the process of real amends. This tool is not just for those who are in romantic relationships, it is for anyone who has ever made a mistake or had someone make a mistake that hurts them! If you would like more information on the groups Amie and Alana are running, or to book with them directly for one on one session, go to www.Chooserecoveryservices.com or email info@chooserecoveryservices.com | |||
| 23 Jan 2024 | Are You Self-Rejecting? | 00:25:27 | |
If you’ve experienced betrayal in a relationship then you know what it’s like to feel rejected by your partner. But are you aware of ways you may be rejecting YOURSELF? In this episode, Amie sheds light on the topic of self-rejection. Learn what self-rejection is, how it shows up in our thoughts and actions, and what you can do to overcome this barrier to healing and connection. Listen to learn:
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| 11 Jun 2024 | Who Should I Tell and Not Tell? | 00:24:42 | |
When betrayal strikes, the question of “Who do I tell?” weighs heavily. In this episode, Amie and Alana provide a roadmap through this complex decision as they talk about finding emotional safety and trusting your intuition. Whether you’re just beginning your journey or are further along, this conversation provides a compassionate and nuanced perspective on who to confide in during this vulnerable time. Listen to learn:
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| 07 Jan 2025 | The Healing Your Body Holds | 00:25:18 | |
What happens in your body when you hear difficult conversations about narcissism, betrayal trauma, and abuse? Join Amie and Alana this week as they address emotionally charged topics and how those topics can trigger strong reactions in both your body and mind. Listen in as they share insights about the importance of paying attention to your body’s responses and as they explain how these natural reactions can actually guide you on your healing journey. Coming Up!
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| 21 Jun 2022 | Young Single Adults Sharing Wisdom | 00:37:44 | |
Today Amie interviews a few women who were apart of the Young Single Adult Dating and Self Empowerment Course. The messages these women have for you today is inspiring to say the least. They have been through their own traumas and trials and have learned how to apply tools and concepts to help them heal, move forward in their journey and have a whole new outlook on life. Sound too good to be true? Listen for yourself. They are truly inspiring women. If you know someone who is between the age of 18-24 share this episode along with the previous episode titled Hope For The Future. The next YSA Dating and Self Empowerment Course will be starting September 11th. You can register for your spot HERE If you are single and over the age of 24 and would like to learn these same tools and concepts Amie FINALLY has her date for the long anticipated Dating After Divorce Course August 26th-28th. No, you don't actually have to be ready to date in order to take this course! To register for that click HERE For more groups and courses available to help you along your journey head over to chooserecoveryservices.com | |||
| 07 Feb 2023 | Becoming a Healthy, Independent Woman | 00:31:54 | |
Have you seen yourself swing from a submissive role to a strong, independent perspective as you've begun the work of healing from betrayal trauma? Maybe you've found yourself feeling stuck and a little confused as you've tried to find the right balance of independence and interdependence? Think through some of these questions with Amie and Alana on this week's episode:
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| 14 Feb 2022 | Happy Love You Forever Day! | 00:26:51 | |
Amie is solo today and is sharing thoughts about what self love looks like and how it can help you to recognize what healthy intimacy looks like in your relationships. But it all has to start with YOU. There are some concerns around this sometimes with those who have been in a relationship with a narcissist. So the fear is that this idea can be or lead to narcissism. Amie clarifies this concern and continues to walk you through the different levels of intimacy and how you use these to connect with you, to love you and ultimately be more vulnerable to create healthy connections. So on this holiday that is centered around couples, today it's about choosing you and loving you forever! The YSA course that Amie mentions starts in MARCH. To register for that click HERE or HERE For more information about the IN-PERSON TEEN course taught by Alana email alana@chooserecoveryservices.com Visit Chooserecoveryservices.com for more courses groups and coaching | |||
| 13 Dec 2020 | Choose To Be: Welcome to the show! | 00:35:35 | |
Welcome to the Choose To Be Podcast! Here at Choose Recovery, we are committed to your healing. You're invited to be part of the conversation and we explore what healing and moving forward look like. Hosts Alana Gordon, Marriage and Family Therapist Intern and Amie Woolsey, certified betrayal trauma coach talk about tools for healing, interview experts in the field, and invite others to join the conversation who have walked the path of healing. We use the betrayal trauma model with a Christ and God centered focus. We look forward to having you join us! For more information, go to Chooserecoveryservices.com or email us at info@chooserecoveryservices.com | |||
| 20 Aug 2024 | Betrayal Trauma Myths Part 1 | 00:36:58 | |
In the world of betrayal trauma, sometimes it can be hard to distinguish fact from fiction. In this week’s episode, Amie and Alana strive to do just that. They debunk common misconceptions about forgiveness, trust, moving on, and the roles of both partners in recovery. Tune in to hear valuable insights that challenge your beliefs and guide you in navigating the complex landscape of betrayal trauma with greater confidence and understanding. Watch us on YouTube. Listen to learn:
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| 24 Oct 2023 | Connection Between Interpersonal Trauma and Chronic Illness with Darcy Haas | 00:39:04 | |
We are excited to welcome Darcy Haas to the podcast today! Darcy is an RN who practices functional medicine and nutrition. She focuses on helping women address the root causes of their physical health issues. Darcy shares her own experience with betrayal trauma and her resulting health problems leading her to study and learn more about how chronic stress and trauma can physically impact the body. Listen to learn:
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More from Choose Recovery Services Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks. Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction. Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce. Divorce 101 Guide: Feeling stuck in deciding? Not sure where to even start if you do? I got you, Check out my self paced guide to meet you where you are at in the journey and help you get clear with YOUR decision in the next right step for you, right now. Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Candidate | |||
| 23 Apr 2024 | Stepping Into Authenticity - with Luke Gordon | 00:22:46 | |
We all wear masks at times, but hiding your true self is exhausting and inauthentic. In this week’s episode we welcome back Luke Gordon. Luke opens up about his personal battles with hiding behind false versions of himself. He describes how he was finally able to deepen relationships when he stepped into vulnerability, integrity, and authenticity. Listen to learn:
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| 09 Feb 2021 | Your Body is Your Body | 00:20:59 | |
Join Alana and Amie and we discuss what consent in a marriage and dating really means, and the power you have over your own body. | |||
| 26 Sep 2023 | What is Differentiation and Why Is That Helpful In My Healing Work? | 00:14:54 | |
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| 23 Nov 2021 | Comparison | 00:29:42 | |
Today Amie and Alana talk about the dangers of comparison in our life and along our healing journey. We do this in so many ways, compare if our partner is or isn't doing the recovery work like the other partners, or why am I still struggling in anger or depression, "I should be over this by now". We compare stories and assess who's is "worse". We compare time and how long it is taking for us to see healing and change. So many things! It can be exhausting and we hope todays episode not only help you be aware of your own brains comparing tendencies, but help you release some of those and find more peace along the journey. | |||
| 13 Aug 2024 | The Power of Healthy Self-Talk | 00:33:52 | |
Are you struggling with negative self-talk after experiencing betrayal? You are not alone! This week Amie and Alana explore the importance of healthy self-talk in your healing journey. Join them as they share personal experiences and practical strategies for recognizing negative thought patterns and replacing them with empowering beliefs that will help you cultivate a kinder, more positive inner dialogue. Listen to learn:
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| 14 Dec 2020 | Choose To Be: Trauma Responses and Triggers | 00:49:21 | |
Join us for the conversation on trauma responses and triggers. For the trauma kit go to https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/podcast Questions or feedback, email us at info@chooserecoveryservices.com | |||
| 03 May 2022 | Gaslighting (DARVO) | 00:53:28 | |
Join Amie and Alana today as they tackle one of our listeners heartfelt question around gaslighting. Recovery is already complicated and so when we add the piece of abusive behavior and character traits to the mix it can be even more confusing. We want to be careful how we use this word in relationship to addiction as well as address the reality that this is a key piece to real recovery. Deflecting and keeping from being found out is what addicts do best. Real recovery comes with a self awareness around this, an actualization of the impact the addiction has had in the lives of their spouse and those around them. Restitution is not just recovery from the addiction but healing the behaviors and flawed value system that produces abusive behavior as well. We know that this can be a triggering topic and highly encourage those of you who think. there might be abuse in your relationship to reach out to someone who is qualified to guide you in this area of your recovery and healing. We know that change is possible when awareness is present, acceptance is allowed and application is initiated. PLEASE leave a review! We'd love for this podcast to reach more people who are in desperate need of resources and help to navigate their healing journey like you are. Leaving reviews and sharing helps tremendously! Thank You!! Episodes referenced in this episode with Kim Day and Amie Woolsey can be found HERE The Elements of Abuse Course that will be help in June can be registered for HERE Should I Stay or Should I Go this Thursday, May5th @9:00am MT can be registered for HERE....More Info HERE As always, thank you for listening and sending in your questions. | |||
| 08 Oct 2024 | Full Therapeutic Disclosure Part 2; To Have or Not Have | 00:45:51 | |
Today we dive deeper into therapeutic disclosures and address main concerns that often arise when considering them for you and your partner. We delve into various reasons why therapeutic disclosures are crucial, and we explore reasons why a full disclosure might not be appropriate. 00:25 The Importance of Full Therapeutic Disclosure 03:11 Informed Consent in Relationships 07:19 Truth and Transparency in Healing 08:14 The Process of Learning and Sharing the Truth 13:20 Creating Safety Through Disclosure 18:09 Putting the Story Together for Healing 27:10 Understanding Safety Concerns 31:32 The Role of Emotional Sobriety 35:26 Common Excuses and Realities 41:49 The Strength of the Betrayed Partner Referenced in this episode:
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| 07 Mar 2023 | A Light In The Dark, The hidden legacy of adult children of sex addicts; With Dr. Kenneth M. Adams | 00:53:37 | |
Join the conversation today as Amie and Alana interview Dr. Kenneth M Adams, Ph.D., CSAT-S and author of the new book, Alight in the dark, The hidden legacy of adult children of sex addicts co authored with Mary E Meyer, Ph.D., LMFT, and Culle L Vande Garde, LCSW where they detail the unique issues experienced by adult children who grew up with a sexually addicted parent. We are thrilled to share this powerful conversation with you in hopes that as a child of a sexually addicted parent, you will find the pieces that you have been carrying and find hope and healing. We also hope that for those who are the addicted parent or betrayed parent, this book will help you to understand your children's experiences so you can be a source of healing for them as well. If this book brings up any questions or concerns in your personal journey please reach out to Alana, Amie or Luke. NEW Support Groups available starting in April. For more information or to register click HERE Ready to take your healing to the next level? Choose Recovery for couples is for those who are ready to lean into the relationship and do that next level work. This comprehensive support group is designed to provide you and your partner with the tools and support you need to work through the pain and begin rebuild your relationship. Alana and Luke tag team teaching and support to guide you through the healing process and help you communicate effectively, regain trust, and begin to move forward. Click HERE for more information and to see if you are ready. Believing In You Coaching Program starts April 5th! This group is for women who are ready to take their individual healing up a notch. Learning to trust yourself, love yourself and believe that you can truly create the life you want. We do that by digging into more awareness and leaning into more acceptance so that you can experience the life in the way you choose. To find out more information on that or get your spot click HERE Follow on Instagram to stay caught up on whats happening! @Chooserecoveryservices @therapywithalana @amiewoolsey | |||
| 02 Apr 2024 | Is Ketamine Right For Me? | 00:30:25 | |
Imagine being able to rewire your brain to heal from the devastation of betrayal trauma and PTSD. Many who have tried ketamine say they have done just that. On this episode, Alana explains what ketamine is and how it can help receptors in your brain work together to promote healing from the pain of trauma. Listen in as Alana shares her experience with ketamine and the insight and healing she gained from this treatment. Listen to learn:
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| 13 Jul 2021 | Binging My Way Through Divorce | 00:35:34 | |
Today Amie shares her personal experience in working through her binge eating disorder. Trauma can bring different challenges and it's important to learn how to cope with those in a healthy way. Amie shares some insight and offers tools to help those of you are coping with food or other unhealthy ways as a result of trauma. You can find more vlogs from Amie at https://www.lifecoachingwithamie.com/blog/ Join her next Believing In You 12 week groups coaching program starting in August | |||
| 23 Mar 2021 | Common Missing Pieces in Couples Recovery Work | 00:19:14 | |
Join us for the conversation as Alana and Luke Gordon discuss common missing pieces that couples miss in their couples recovery. | |||
| 01 Nov 2022 | Affair Recovery with Betrayal Trauma coach Hali Roderick | 00:40:55 | |
In todays Episode we welcome one of our amazing coaches Hali Roderick who is addressing the aspect of recovery when there has been an affair in the marriage, but no pornography. Many women are navigating this aspect of betrayal and often find it hard to feel supported and not sure how to heal from this kind of betrayal. Join us today and Hali shares key point to help you navigate your journey to find hope and healing. Want to work with Hali? Check out chooserecoveryservices.com Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| 08 Nov 2022 | When Healing Tools Don't Take Away The Pain; Navigating Betrayal Trauma | 00:27:02 | |
When you start navigating the healing journey, you learn all kinds of tools and concepts, and you start applying them in hopes that change happens, in hopes that healing happens. But what if you are using ALL the tools and you are still feeling pain? What if you are trying to do all the things professionals say. to do but you are still feeling hurt? Today Amie and Alana discuss the in's and out's of healing and how to view pain in a different way. Most of all, to know that you are not doing it wrong, and not going backwards. Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| 15 Jun 2021 | In-law trauma: When others compound your trauma | 00:47:23 | |
Join us for part one of a two part series on in-law trauma and how extended family can impact us, often compounding trauma. | |||
| 06 Aug 2024 | Acceptance When They Aren't Doing the Work to Heal | 00:34:59 | |
In the aftermath of betrayal, some partners commit to the hard work of healing and change, while others fall short. This episode speaks directly to those grappling with the realization that their partner isn’t doing the necessary work. Amie and Alana explore the stages of grief that often accompany this reality, and they offer practical advice on moving through grief toward awareness, acceptance, and agency. Listen to learn:
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| 02 Jul 2024 | Tips for Healing After Betrayal - With Laura Fisher | 00:49:16 | |
Lace up those dancing shoes because there’s a new acronym in town - SHAWN B! In a past episode we talked all about NOT dancing with Walter. In this week’s episode we introduce you to the partner you SHOULD dance with - SHAWN B. Join Alana and our guest, Laura Fisher (a fellow Choose Recovery Services coach), as they talk about the betrayed experience and give you a helpful framework for navigating relational challenges. Discover how this acronym can give you practical tools to use as you navigate your healing journey. Listen to learn:
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| 18 Apr 2023 | Practicing Acceptance To Help You Move Forward | 00:27:59 | |
Acceptance is a critical and difficult part of the healing process. Many people get stuck in acceptance, thinking that by accepting their reality it means they approve of their situation. Join Amie Woolsey this week as she shares the difference between acceptance and approval, and gives examples of what acceptance looks like. Tune in to learn:
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| 30 Mar 2021 | Missing Pieces in Couples Recovery Part Two - Emotional Connection | 00:50:55 | |
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| 05 Jul 2024 | BONUS: Join Us At Our Revive and Thrive Women's Intensive! | 00:03:12 | |
Are you seeking solace, healing, and transformation from betrayal trauma in ways you’ve never felt before? If so, join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah at our Revive and Thrive Intensive. This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Immerse yourself in powerful healing modalities including brainspotting, breathwork, mindfulness, meditations, and so much more all designed to nurture your mind, body, and spirit. This intensive is for women in any stage of their healing journey who are seeking a holistic, nurturing environment to heal through somatic interventions and experiential activities. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us for this life-changing experience and leave feeling rejuvenated, empowered, and equipped with tools for continued growth and healing. Learn more and register HERE. | |||
| 17 Sep 2024 | Myths of Sexual Addiction - With Luke Gordon (Part 3) | 00:37:57 | |
Join us in the third and final part of our series on the myths of sexual addiction. Alana, Amie, and Luke explore common misconceptions surrounding pornography use, forgiveness vs trust, and disclosure vs discovery. Tune in for insights and tools crucial to navigating sexual addiction and relational healing. Myths we tackle in this episode:
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| 05 Oct 2021 | Taming Your Triggers with guests Hali Roderick and Luke Gordon | 00:44:10 | |
Today we are talking with a one of our awesome certified betrayal trauma coaches, Hali Roderick and Co-Owner of CHOOSE and certified life coach Luke Gordon. Triggers are a huge part of healing and also just a huge part of being human. Learning how to tame those triggers is a skill worth developing. Hali shares her thoughts and tools on how to do just that! When the spouse who has been betrayed has these triggers, it's often frustrating and confusing to the other partner and can often cause further damage. So learning more a bout why they show up, and how they are often not because you the partner did anything at that moment, it's just part of the healing journey. Learning to work through these will not only help you get unstuck but help you heal as a couple. To register for Hali's Transforming Your Triggers click HERE For more information on recovery and healing, go to www.chooserecoveryservices.com and check out our awesome coaches | |||
| 17 Dec 2024 | Understanding Personality Disorders - With Alexandra Repke PhD, CSAT, C-PD, CAIMHP (Part 1) | 00:50:08 | |
Are you struggling to understand the complex world of personality disorders and their impact on relationships? Join Amie and Alana as they speak with Alexandra Repke, a licensed psychologist (PhD, CSAT, C-PD, CAIMHP), who breaks down the myths and realities of personality disorders, especially in the context of addiction and betrayal. Learn about the different types of personality disorders, how they affect connections, and gain insights into treatment approaches that offer hope for healing. Learn more about Alexandra Repke. Coming Up!
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| 20 Apr 2021 | Mama Trauma - How trauma impacts motherhood | 00:29:47 | |
For those who have children while going through trauma have an additional layer of complexity to their trauma. Join us for the conversation as we discuss mama trauma and motherhood. To book a session with one of our therapist or coaches, go to www.chooserecoveryservices.com | |||
| 14 Dec 2020 | Choose To Be: The Recovery Road | 01:09:13 | |
The road to recovery can be a long and difficult road. When you don't know where you are headed and how to get there, it can feel even more daunting. Join Alana Gordon -MFTI, Amie Woolsey - Betrayal Trauma Coach, and Luke Gordon - Sexual Addiction Coach for a discussion around healing and what the road to recovery consists of. To have a visual of the recovery map, download it at https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/podcast. To schedule a session with any of our therapists or coaches, go to Chooserecoveryservices.com or email us at info@chooserecoveryservices.com | |||
| 29 Jun 2021 | Taking up Space in Your Life, Your Relationship, and the World After Betrayal | 00:55:44 | |
Join Alana and Aimee as we look at taking up space in your life, your relationships, and the world after you've had trauma in your life. | |||
| 16 Jul 2024 | Trauma on the Brain and Body - With Jody VanDrimmelen | 00:34:37 | |
When we experience trauma, our brains and bodies react in complex and automatic ways designed to protect us. In this episode, we revisit a conversation we had in 2022 with Jody VanDrimmelen, a licensed clinical social worker. Jody breaks down the science behind trauma responses and offers practical strategies for healing. Learn how to listen to and appreciate your brain and body’s unique responses to trauma and how your recovery can lead to resilience and personal transformation. Listen to learn:
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| 05 Nov 2024 | Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 6; The Role of Polygraphs | 00:49:53 | |
Amie and Alana have an informative and powerful conversation with Jared Rockwell, a polygraph examiner and a LCSW. He is a nationally recognized leader in his field and offers his expert thoughts today around how polygraphs works, why they are so important for rebuilding trust in a relationship, and what they are NOT used for. Learn how this tool can be an important part of the full disclosure process. Get our FREE eBook “Is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure Right For Me?” delivered straight to your inbox. Sign up here! Referenced in this episode:
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| 01 Jun 2021 | Emotions in Relationships | 00:55:45 | |
Join us, including Luke Gordon and Scott Woolsey, for a conversation around how emotions show up in relationships and the benefits of learning to make space for them. | |||
| 28 Mar 2023 | Building Trust In The Relationship; Brené Brown's BRAVING Tool | 00:47:18 | |
Today Amie and Alana talk about trust using the work of Brené Brown, and American professor, who created specific elements of trust by using the acronym BRAVING. Because it's BRAVE to trust, especially after betrayal. When you are trying to watch your partner's feet move back up the ladder of trust, it can be confusing to know what you are even watching for! So they break down these tools she offers as elements of trust and make them more tangible and betrayal trauma relatable. These are NOT all the ways that trust is restored and yet this gives a nice place to start and easy to remember way that can help you begin leaning into trust. The Acronym BRAVING B- Boundaries R- Reliability A-Accountability V-Vault/Vulnerability I- Integrity N- Non-judgment G-Grace
Remember, when there is no honesty and safety in the relationship, there can't be trust. So please evaluate your own situation as to if this is ready to be practiced in a relational way at this time. Join Amie next week as she will talk about rebuilding trust with YOURSELF FIRST. Link to the original Brene Brown's Talk on BRAVING Finding Yourself After Betrayal -Amie Woolsey and the ladder of trust in more depth Making Amends Choose to Be Podcast Episode Don't miss these new groups by Choose Recovery Services: ❤️🩹 Choose Recovery for Couples - A comprehensive support group for couples to get the support they need to work through the pain of infidelity and betrayal and begin rebuilding their relationship. Taught by Luke and Alana Gordon. Learn more. 👩 Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more. 🧑 Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from addiction, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more. 💕 YSA Healthy Dating & Empowerment Course - For young, single women who are navigating the dating scene, Amie Woolsey from Choose Recovery Services educates and empowers women with the knowledge to understand boundaries, self-care, red flags, 7 levels of intimacy, and so much more! Learn more. 💪 Believing in You - Program to help you work with your brain rather than against it with Amie Woolsey. You’ll learn tools and concepts to gain a better awareness of your thoughts and emotions and how to gently push back on automatic thoughts. Learn more. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - FREE, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags in your relationship. Connect with us on social media:
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| 03 Dec 2024 | Are All Cheaters Narcissists? | 00:49:02 | |
The word “narcissist” gets thrown around a lot, but is that label even helpful? Join Amie and Alana this week as they invite Gary Katz to weigh in on this important topic. Gary is a certified sex addiction therapist as well as the founder of the Center for Intimacy Recovery in New York. Together they unpack the nuances of labeling behavior, the risks of misdiagnosis, the profound impact of betrayal trauma, and practical tools for recovery. Referenced in this episode:
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| 18 Jul 2023 | Finding Safe, Healthy Support To Help You Heal | 00:20:50 | |
There’s no such thing as bad support, right? Wrong! Amie and Alana welcome you to a chat about times you may be getting “support” that isn’t truly supporting your healing journey. Find out what helps and what is holding you back when it comes to getting the support you need in this week’s episode of the Choose to Be Podcast. Tune in to learn: What does healthy and unhealthy support look like? What does it mean to have “friends of your marriage?” How to manage friendships with unhealthy support? What should you do if family members are an unhealthy support? Take your healing to the next level with Amie's new group starting next month - Believing in You! Get tools and concepts to gain more self awareness and learn how to love yourself. Spots are filling quickly, so register today! More from Choose Recovery Services
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| 14 Dec 2021 | Healing After Divorce | 00:47:51 | |
Joining our conversation today are two of Amie's clients, Jeanine and Jori, who talk about their healing journey after divorce. Each of these women were In a place where they wanted to know how to get to that next level of healing and that included dating again. They first did the work to understand themselves and learned to love themselves fiercely. Each of these women overcame their fears of rejection enough to date again and have been able to trust again which has brought incredible joy to their lives and has made all the work they have done worth it! We hope that wherever you are at in your own healing, even if you are not getting a divorce, as you listen to how they did the work for themselves first, you will be inspired to continue to do your own work. If you'd like to join Amie's coaching program that starts January 5th, click the link HERE to register. Everyone at Choose is dedicated to your healing journey, check out our team HERE | |||
| 28 Dec 2021 | Stepping Into Thriving | 00:45:23 | |
In todays episode Alana and Amie have a conversation about what it looks like to thrive and step out of victim mentality. When you have been a victim of someone else's choices that created chaos and pain in your life. Sometimes undesirable pain, it's understandable how it feels powerless and overwhelmingly paralyzing. Sometimes the term victim takes on a negative connotation, and so it's a place we can often judge ourselves in. There are so many subtle ways that we, often subconsciously, keep ourselves in victim mentality and yet are trying so hard to move forward and can't figure out why it's so difficult. Stepping in to your power and seeing what you do have to move forward, one step at a time, will help you not just survive, but thrive! Join us today, leaving your own self judgment aside, and with curiosity see what your next move is to step into THRIVING! Karpman Drama Triangle was referenced today | |||
| 19 Dec 2023 | 6 Practices Your Grief Needs From You; With Kim Brown | 00:29:06 | |
When you have experienced trauma or betrayal, grief and sadness feel like constant companions. Kim Brown, a grief educator, APSATS candidate, and certified betrayal trauma coach at Choose Recovery Services joins Amie and Alana this week to help us understand more about grief and its significance in our healing journey. If you find yourself constantly trying to ignore your grief or push it aside to deal with later, listen up to learn about what you can do to actually integrate grief into your life in healthy, healing ways. Listen to learn:
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| 09 May 2023 | When His Helping, Isn't Actually Helping | 00:21:32 | |
As the partner who betrayed works through their recovery, we often see that they start to increase their efforts to help their partner. They may help out more with the kids, take the trash out without being asked, or bring home dinner when their partner is having a hard day. The betrayed partner may find themselves rejecting these efforts, which causes both partners to become frustrated, angry, and disconnected. The partner who betrayed starts wondering why these kind gestures aren’t working. On this episode of Choose to Be, we will talk about what to do when helping doesn’t actually help, and we’ll share what you can do instead that will make a difference in your relationship. Join us for the conversation on questions such as:
Groups, Classes, and Resources from Choose Recovery Services Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - Support group is for women who have recently gone through betrayal to help them in those beginning stages. Choose 90 | Gaining Sobriety - This course provides support, guidance, and resources to individuals who struggle with compulsive sexual behaviors. Choose 180 Male Support Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction while healing from shame. Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana for a free monthly couples webinar to navigate the relational aspects that come on the road to recovery. Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches a free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Join this FREE group coaching call with Amie for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - FREE, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags in your relationship. You can also find Amie on The Empowered Divorce Podcast! Connect with us on Social Media:
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| 10 Dec 2024 | Listener Question: How Can I Feel Good When I'm in Survival Mode? | 00:34:38 | |
Do you feel like you’re barely able to keep your head above water and wonder if you’ll ever feel good again? Join Amie and Alana this week as they explore the challenges that come from living in survival mode. Explore the impact of staying in unsafe environments and learn the importance of radical acceptance and self-awareness. Understand how your body responds to emotional trauma and learn about tools and mindsets that can help you whether you choose to stay or go in your relationship. Referenced in this episode:
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| 16 May 2023 | Brain Healing After Trauma with Guests Hali Roderick and Jeff Roderick | 00:49:51 | |
Have you ever thought about betrayal trauma’s impact on your brain health? After watching her dad lose his life to Dementia last year, Hali Roderick began to gain an interest in the connection between the physical brain and emotional healing. As Hali looked into ways to prevent her physical brain from cognitive decline, she recognized a lot of the signs of brain injury are similar to the symptoms of betrayal trauma. Tune in to this episode with our guests, Hali and Jeff Roderick to learn:
Learn more at www.proactivebrainhealth.com The Audio Visual Entrainment that we talked about can be found here:https://mindalive.com/products/david-delight-pro Find Hali and Jeff on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@proactivebrainhealth/video/7231321359903722794 Schedule a complimentary session to learn more, go to: https://haliroderickcoaching.youcanbook.me/ Join Hali for a women's betrayal trauma retreat September 13-17th in Queen Creek, Arizona. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1s3HWCrkXn0dQ4OR-ZExLFEQ4EKZLCIqL56vN3GGeBpI/edit?usp=sharing Groups, Classes, and Resources from Choose Recovery Services
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| 02 Sep 2023 | Bonus Episode: Men's Help Her Heal and Why It's Important | 00:12:44 | |
Join Alana Gordon and Hali Roderick as we talk about the need for men to gain the skill set on how to help their wife heal after betrayal if they want relational healing. If you would like to learn more about the Help Her Heal Course, go to www.chooserecoveryservices.com. Help Her Heal for Men with Hali Roderick https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/help-her-heal/ We are starting a new group called Help Her Heal, that teaches men about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. This group will offer resources modeled after the work of Carol Juergenson Sheets to help men rebuild lost trust and create intimacy. This group will begin September 11th, 2023, and will be held weekly on Mondays at 7:30pm MT. Other Upcoming Groups Healing Hearts for Couples https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/healing-hearts/ Stephanie Hamby is starting a new course called Healing Hearts that offers a comprehensive program for couples in early recovery, focusing on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues. This course will allow couples to learn more about emotions, communication, boundaries, and how to address underlying issues. It starts on October 1st, and will be held weekly on Sundays at 5pm MT. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/empowerment-after-betrayal-men/ We are offering a support group for men who have been betrayed as we have noticed a lack of resources for men with this experience. This weekly, 90-minute support group will allow men to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while surrounding themselves in a supportive community. This group, Empowerment After Betrayal, will meet Mondays at 6pm MT. Choose Healing for Betrayed Women https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-healing-betrayal-trauma-support-for-women/ We are excited to offer more support to betrayed women with a free 6-week group, Choose Healing for Betrayed Women that serves as a helpful "first aid" for those who have just begun to navigate the difficult experience of betrayal trauma. This group meets weekly for 90 minutes, and we have multiple groups and coaches to fit different situations and preferences. Social Media Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chooserecoveryservices/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChooseRecoveryServices YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@chooserecoveryservices Helpful Links Website: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/ Meet the Coaches: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/ Group Programs: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/groups-2/ Courses: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courses-2/ Webinars: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/webinars/ | |||
| 04 Apr 2023 | Trusting Yourself First: Healing After Betrayal Trauma | 00:24:08 | |
How can you start to trust yourself again after betrayal? Being betrayed by a partner is traumatizing physiologically, emotionally, and mentally. This can leave trauma on your body even long after the betrayal has occurred. When you’ve had this kind of blow in your life, it affects your sense of self, sense of safety, and self identity. This makes trusting yourself difficult. This is a very natural response when you’ve experienced betrayal, but learning to trust yourself again is the first key to healing. Join Amie Woolsey in this episode as she shares:
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| 01 Aug 2023 | Getting Curious About Hypervigilance | 00:37:53 | |
👮 Do you find yourself policing your partner, feeling the need to repeatedly check their phone, their whereabouts, and their actions? First, this is NORMAL after betrayal, and second, this isn’t a place you want to stay long term. There ARE ways to let go of these habits in a way that will move you from feeling powerless to empowered. Amie and Alana break down the whys of hypervigilance as they encourage you to get curious about some of your behaviors after betrayal. Tune in to learn:
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| 04 Oct 2022 | What Healthy Empathy Looks Like Through Betrayal | 00:49:45 | |
This topic came up in a group when someone asked us, “What if I have too much empathy – what if my empathy is coming back to bite me on the butt?” Empathy is so complex when we're talking to women in betrayal trauma. And even within this specific container, there are so many nuances: having too much empathy, having too little empathy, how betrayal trauma affects your capacity for empathy with your children. As we hone in on one area for the sake of starting somewhere, we encourage you to discern for yourself how you’re doing in these different areas. Ultimately, we hope to guide you towards embracing empathy in a way that’s healthy for you. Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Upcoming Events: Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. | |||
| 30 May 2023 | Therapeutic Separations; Part 1; Is separation right for you? | 00:26:31 | |
Considering a separation can feel daunting and intimidating. This episode is the first of a 4-part series on separation. In this episode, Amie and Alana walk you through the basics of what a separation actually is, the 4 types of separations you could consider, the benefits of spending some time apart, and what you need to think about when considering a separation. Amie and Alana will encourage you to pay attention to your body, your needs, and your safety as you navigate this difficult decision, and they’ll share examples of what separation looked and felt like in their relationships. Listen to the full episode to learn more!
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| 09 Aug 2022 | Processing Betrayal Trauma | 00:09:41 | |
The Power of Processing and How It Can Help You Move Through Betrayal Trauma How do you know if you’re doing the work it takes to heal? One big aspect of doing the work and healing is learning to process what's happening and allowing yourself to feel all your feelings. But there can be some confusion about what that actually looks like - especially when it comes to processing versus venting. We're going to cover the main differences between the two, and how knowing these differences will keep you out of unhealthy patterns and progressing toward healing from betrayal trauma. You’ll Learn:
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| 16 Nov 2021 | Common Mistakes We Make With Boundaries | 00:36:10 | |
In todays episode Amie and Alana discuss even deeper into the topic of boundaries. Discussing the importance of having your own value system identified, knowing the difference between a boundary and an ultimatum or demand. Where we sometimes lack in follow through and much more. Tune in today and whether you are in the beginning stages of boundary work or you feel like you have this down. There is always more to learn and revisiting your own boundaries to determine if they are actually working for you, or against you. For more individual help with this in your own life go to Chooserecoveryservices.com and find your coach to help you! | |||
| 28 Jun 2022 | Help! My Kids Don't See Why I Need Healing | 00:32:59 | |
Join Amie and Alana in today's conversation around how to navigate relationships with your adult children when they don't see your healing work the way you do. Healing from betrayal trauma can be complex, and this shows up often when it comes to navigating your trauma with your kids. Do you ever find yourself trying to explain to your children why you need healing or why you are trying to have healthy boundaries? Do you ever fall into the trap of trying to get them to see your side of things? When children don't see the changes, boundaries and healthy independence as a positive thing it can almost feel like another betrayal. We of course want our children to be happy for us, support us and totally understand why we are making the changes in our lives! Yet, not all children will. Some topics we cover today:
Most importantly, you doing your work truly will show them what healthy looks like and it's up to them if and when they choose to be healthy too. Keep choosing healing, recovery and of course, keep choosing YOU! Check out Amie's TEEN and Young Single Adult programs so your child can learn some of the amazing tools you are learning as well, but applied to their own life and situations. Alana holds an amazing interactive in-person TEEN group- check that out HERE Are you a man who wants to understand better his wife's trauma and wants to learn more empathy? Join Alana's Help Her Heal Group or Choose's Men's 180 Group Need more support? Check out all our amazing resources and team at chooserecoveryservices.com including workshops, webinars, healing retreats, full disclosures, and more! Please leave a review on APPLE PODCAST so we can reach more men and women who are looking for tools to choose recovery and choose healing | |||
| 23 May 2023 | I Feel Like I've Lost Myself Since Going Though Trauma. How Do I Find Myself Again? | 00:18:48 | |
Going through something traumatic can feel like having a rug ripped out from underneath you, leaving you feeling disoriented and confused. It’s natural to lose trust in others and in yourself as you work through processing what has happened to you. In this episode, Alana will help you gain an understanding of how to find yourself again. Alana will share 8 essential steps to finding yourself after trauma, like:
Alana gives you great ideas to begin building your foundation of healing and encourages you to take baby steps to begin trying them one at a time. Mentioned in this episode: Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services
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| 27 Apr 2021 | Mama Trauma - Our Desire To Protect Our Kids | 00:44:50 | |
Join us for the continued conversation around mama trauma and how trauma impacts motherhood. This week we look at the natural desire to protect our kids and how that shows up in our trauma. For more information on our hosts or any of our other coaches and therapists, go to www.chooserecoveryservices.com | |||
| 29 Mar 2022 | Trauma 101: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn | 00:39:24 | |
We all experience it, trauma that is. Everyone will have a different initial response to trauma and the more we are aware of what our responses are and learn to recognize it in ourselves, the more we will be able to process it in a healthier way. Today Amie and Alana discuss the basics of the acute stress response fight, flight, freeze and fawn. Understanding these distinct responses can help explain how your experiences show up in your reactions and behavior. Head over to Choose Recovery Services to check out all that we have going on and meet some of our new coaches! Have a TEEN who can use a little nudge in the self worth direction? Want to help her gain tools to create healthy emotional awareness and empowerment? Does she need help learning how to have boundaries and heal from her own trauma with friends who are struggling with mental illness? So many incredible tools that teens need now days more than ever. Join ALANA with in person teen groups HERE Join AMIE with her virtual teen groups HERE Check out more groups and events HERE | |||
| 09 Mar 2021 | The Power of Choice | 00:39:53 | |
Join us for a conversation around making hard choices. We tackle when and how we might give our power away to other and how to start reclaiming this back. | |||
| 11 May 2021 | Mama Trauma - Our desires to help, protect, and fix | 01:11:44 | |
Join us this week as we discuss motherhood and betrayal trauma around our desires to help our kids and those around us. For more information of Choose Recovery, visit chooserecoveryservices.com | |||
| 14 Mar 2023 | A Light In The Dark; Answering Your Questions | 00:31:49 | |
🎙️ We’re closing out the last episode of a 3-part series on the topic of adult children of sex addicts featuring Dr. Kenneth M. Adams Ph.D., CSAT-S, and author of the new book, A Light in the Dark: The Hidden Legacy of Adult Children of Sex Addicts. This week, we respond to listener questions such as:
Amie and Alana are excited about the questions this book has brought up for you, and they encourage you to keep asking questions as you heal. Your path to healing will be filled with pain and fear, but as you do this difficult work, there is healing, beauty, strength, and post-traumatic growth to be found along the way. Amie and Alana referenced Vicki Tidwell Palmer’s Bill of Rights in this episode. You can find the full list here. Don’t miss these new groups offered by Choose Recovery Services: ❤️🩹 Choose Recovery for Couples - A comprehensive support group for couples to get the support they need to work through the pain of infidelity and betrayal and begin rebuilding their relationship. Taught by Luke and Alana Gordon. Learn more. 👩 Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more. 🧑 Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from addiction, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more. 💕 YSA Healthy Dating & Empowerment Course - For young, single women who are navigating the dating scene, Amie Woolsey from Choose Recovery Services educates and empowers women with the knowledge to understand boundaries, self-care, red flags, 7 levels of intimacy, and so much more! Learn more. 💪 Believing in You - Program to helps you work with your brain rather than against it with Amie Woolsey. You’ll learn tools and concepts to gain a better awareness of your thoughts and emotions and how to gently push back on automatic thoughts. Learn more. Connect with us on social media:
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| 24 Jan 2023 | Why Do The Work? | 00:32:45 | |
It's a great question. Why are you doing the work right now and being aware of that why, will help you more than you perhaps realize. Today we discuss the fears, the concerns and the rewards of continuing on in the journey of healing for both the betrayed and the betrayer. Ongoing Courses: Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Transforming Your Triggers- Led by coach Hallie Roderick Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| 11 Apr 2023 | Honoring Yourself and Your Voice | 00:29:55 | |
Have you lost your voice? Do you believe that what you think and feel matters? It may be surprising to really think about your answers to those questions. In this episode, Amie and Alana discuss the importance of honoring your voice, honoring yourself, and honoring your needs to reclaim your voice. This episode covers topics like:
Groups, Classes, and Resources from Choose Recovery Services Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - Support group is for women who have recently gone through betrayal to help them in those beginning stages. Choose 90 | Gaining Sobriety - This course provides support, guidance, and resources to individuals who struggle with compulsive sexual behaviors. Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana for a free monthly couples webinar to navigate the relational aspects that come on the road to recovery. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Join this FREE group coaching call with Amie for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - FREE, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags in your relationship. Choose 180 Male Support Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction while healing from shame. You can also find Amie on The Empowered Divorce Podcast! Connect with us on Social Media:
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| 16 Aug 2022 | The Power of Do Overs | 00:23:37 | |
When you have your next out-of-body experience of watching yourself scream at your kids, instead of waiting until they’re asleep to cry or sneak in their bedroom to hug them and kiss them and feel so much guilt… What if you gave yourself permission for mistakes and do-overs as a parent? What if we could make a mess and have the privilege of cleaning up our mess? Sometimes we show up in a way that we wish we could do over. It’s inevitable - we’re not perfect. Particularly as you progress through the stages of healing after infidelity, it can feel like every mistake is the end of the world. But there are ways to have healthy do-overs with your children and even your partner - when you make the conscious decision to learn to show up differently. We’re joined in conversation today by Luke Gordon, whose story of recovery has been so powerful, and who has done the work to show up as a strong parent willing to heal the parent-child relationship. You’ll Learn:
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| 16 Mar 2021 | Rediscovering Yourself After Trauma | 00:51:49 | |
Join us for our conversation about how to find yourself again after trauma. We are joined this week by Ashly Hunter, as we explore tools to reintegrate into our body and life again. On the show we discuss the Choose Joy Retreat. To learn more about this betrayal trauma retreat, go to Chooserecoveryservices.com or Chooserecoveryservices.podia.com. We'd love to see you there! | |||
| 11 Jul 2023 | Deconstructing Gaslighting with Sarah Morales | 01:02:05 | |
As a trailblazer and thought-leader in the field of gaslighting, Sarah Morales has redefined gaslighting to help reduce the stigmatization, fear, and powerlessness around the term. This week, Sarah joins Amie and Alana to share what gaslighting looks like, what it takes to repair a relationship with gaslighting, and whether or not chronic gaslighters are capable of healing. Don’t miss this episode to learn:
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| 12 Oct 2021 | Healing With Hope | 00:32:06 | |
Today Alana and Amie talk about how important hope is in the healing journey, but also how an unwise amount of hope can work against us. Learning to navigate this can greatly impact how we move forward. Often times we are putting all our hope in other people or even God to change things towards the expectations we have and this actually takes us out of our own power to act. Our hope today in this episode is to help you determine where you might be in your ability to have hope and offer you tools and thoughts that will ultimately give you the hope you need to move forward. For more help in your healing journey please reach out to our team at Choose Recovery Services | |||
| 06 Apr 2021 | More Than A Body | 00:44:39 | |
Join us for our conversation today exploring objectification amid betrayal and addition. We are honored to have with us Rachel Augustus, LMFT to explore ways that objectification is affecting us, and how to start shifting into a healthier mindset. | |||
| 17 May 2022 | All About People Changing | 00:37:32 | |
Join Amie and Alana today as they discuss the different aspect of change. Change in ourselves, change in our partners and why it's so hard when others aren't changing in the way we want. They also discuss how sometimes there is an expectation of the addict to have a personality change when they find recovery from their addiction. When this doesn't happen it can bring up a lot of emotions, so Amie and Alana tackle why that is. Change always starts with you and it's natural to have a resistance to change. Join our conversation today and we hope that you gain new insights to how this applies to you and your particular circumstance. Visit Chooserecoveryservices.com for more information on how to get support through your healing journey. Check out groups and courses that will be starting soon HERE! | |||
| 06 Feb 2024 | Attachment Theory - When It's Helpful and When It's Not | 00:31:28 | |
Do you crave deep connection but struggle to let partners in? Have you ever accused loved ones of being distant when they simply needed space? These behaviors could stem from your attachment style. Join Amie and Alana as they delve into attachment theory and how our attachment styles formed in childhood become blueprints for our relationships throughout our lives. Listen to learn:
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| 08 Aug 2023 | Why Do I Feel Emotionally Detached? | 00:21:17 | |
Many women suffering from betrayal not only emotionally detach from their partners, but they also detach from themselves. In preparation for next week’s episode with Mental Health Therapist, KayLee Dunn, Amie and Alana wanted to give you some ideas to think about, sit with, and journal on around the topic of emotional detachment. Listen to learn how you may be using emotional detachment as a coping mechanism while working through the devastating effects of betrayal. Tune in to learn:
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| 25 Oct 2024 | Take Back the Holidays - With Sarah Morales | 00:27:11 | |
The holidays are quickly approaching. Are you emotionally ready for them? Today we are thrilled to welcome Sarah Morales, the "deconstructing gaslighting guru," as she shares strategies for taking back control of the holiday season. Sarah offers practical insights on recognizing toxic patterns and protecting your emotional wellbeing. She previews her upcoming workshop that will help you move from merely surviving the holidays to reclaiming them on your own terms. Register for Sarah’s Take Back the Holidays Workshop
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| 08 Jun 2021 | Will I ever trust or respect my partner again after betrayal? | 00:27:40 | |
Join us today as we explore the listener question - will I ever be able to respect or trust again after betrayal? | |||
| 14 Nov 2023 | Radical Self-Care; Preparing for the Holidays | 00:18:01 | |
Have you ever heard of the term radical self-care? Join Amie today as she uses this concept to encourage you to prepare for the up and coming holiday months so that you can be the CHOOSER of your experiences. Here is what she will cover:
Believing In You Coaching Membership with Amie is a great way to take your healing to the next level. Find out more HERE More from Choose Recovery Services Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks. Connecting Back Towards YOU; Intimacy Within Self-Paced Course where you will be guided through all 7 levels of intimacy and learn how to create healthy within, FIRST! Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction. Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce. Divorce 101 Guide: Feeling stuck in deciding? Not sure where to even start if you do? I got you, Check out my self paced guide to help you get clear with YOUR decision in the next right step for you, right now. Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Candidate | |||
| 07 Jun 2022 | Divorce and Children- Part 1 | 00:43:48 | |
One of the biggest fears many have when considering the divorce option, is how will it effect the children. Of course this is a fear, there can be a lot of impacts that this brings to the child's life. Yet we don't want to underestimate the resources that are available to help children navigate this as well as not to underestimate the children themselves. Everyone has a different experience and different story yet, sometimes it can be helpful to hear from the mouth of one who was impacted. Today we have a special guest who will share her own experience as a child of divorced parents. Hear her story, how she was impacted, and how she has navigated her own healing journey. We hope that this provides peace in knowing that there is time to heal, that we all have the ability to choose how other peoples choices impact us, and that we get to have do-overs. Teen and YSA resources are available HERE | |||
| 22 Oct 2024 | Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 4; Addressing Fears From the Betrayer | 00:24:33 | |
This week Luke again joins Amie and Alana as they explore the fears and barriers of full therapeutic disclosure in relationships. Listen in as they emphasize the importance of a structured disclosure process, the power of letting go of outcomes, and the transformative potential of embracing vulnerability. This episode highlights creating a safe space for healing and how letting go can lead to deeper connection and lasting peace. Get our FREE eBook “Is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure Right For Me?” delivered straight to your inbox. Sign up here! Common Fears From the Betrayer:
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| 21 Sep 2021 | Part 3: Elements Of Abuse : The Power To Act | 00:45:58 | |
This is the last episode of Amie and Kim Day's virtual lunch date and conversation around a very difficult topic. With awareness and acceptance of reality being addressed, the next step is the power of action. Now that you see what you have control over, what's your next step. You get to pick up the pieces and rebuild your house. You start with what resonates with you, what feels right and you take it one step at a time. As Kim and Amie mention throughout this whole series, please reach out to a professional who is experienced with this topic to help you navigate this journey. You don't have to do it alone and in many cases you can't. Please call 1800-799-SAFE if you are in immediate danger of abuse. | |||
| 06 Dec 2022 | Couples Healing After Infidelity, Cheating, or Sexual Addiction: Couples Road To Recovery | 01:09:13 | |
The road to recovery can be a long and difficult road. When you don't know where you are headed and how to get there, it can feel even more daunting. Join Alana, Amie, and their guest, Luke Gordon, for a discussion around healing and what the road to recovery after infidelity, cheating, or sexual addiction can look like. To have a visual of the recovery map, download it here. To schedule a session with any of our therapists or coaches, go to Chooserecoveryservices.com or email us at info@chooserecoveryservices.com Ongoing Courses: Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||