But Why? (Clemmie Telford)

This week Clemmie explores selfishness and why it might actually be a good thing, with five-board accredited life coach, broadcaster and public speaker Michelle Elman. Named as one of The Sun’s most inspirational women in the UK, Michelle quickly established herself as the Queen of Boundaries. With a huge following she shares her experiences and expertise with an engaged audience who have followed Michelle’s journey and rise in popularity with pride.  She has written 3 books: “Am I Ugly?”, “The Joy of Being Selfish?’” and, most recently,“The Selfish Romantic: how to date without feeling bad about yourself” . Michelle and Clemmie delve into what it means to be selfish, why boundaries are important and how being selfish can impact, and benefit, your dating life. You can find Michelle on Instagram @michelleelman and while you're there, check out Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford and more pod content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this bitesize episode Clemmie explores the topic of County Lines with Danielle Marin. Danielle grew up in London with first generation immigrant parents, she was accepted into a grammar school, however her life changed completely after a brutal attack led her to involvement with ‘gangs’ and drug crime. She later enrolled at university and graduated with a 1st. She has since advocated within the criminal justice system for many women: “the hidden victims and participants of organised crime”, and began her Masters in 2021. Clemmie and Danielle discuss what County Lines and 'country' means, why Danielle doesn't agree that she was in gang, and why nothing she experienced came close to the pain of having her son taken away from her. Danielle's book, ‘Top Girl’, is out now and comes highly recommended! Find Clemmie on social media @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In part two of a two part podcast, Clemmie is joined by Michelle and Kate (not their real names) whose sons were victims of David Wilson. Wilson was jailed in February after being convicted of 96 child sex abuse offences. He is thought to have tricky thousands of teenage boys into sharing explicit images after posing as a teenage girl on Facebook. Listen to part one Rob and Marie from the National Crime Agency here.  If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode, support and advice can be found through the following organisations. For parents: Thinkuknow Thinkuknow is an education programme from the National Crime Agency’s CEOP Command. Information and advice can be found on the Thinkuknow website which include guidance for parents, carers and professionals, as well as advice for children, tailored by age group. www.thinkuknow.co.uk/ For people concerned about their own, or someone else’s behaviour towards children: The Lucy Faithfull Foundation Child protection charity The Lucy Faithfull Foundation runs the Stop It Now! helpline which offers confidential advice to anyone concerned about their own or someone else’s behaviour towards children. www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/ Shameless plug: Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to preorder now. It’s also available on audiobook. Got any comments, queries or questions? I would love to hear from you on butwhy@clemmietelford.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Take one look at Zack George aka UK’s Fittest Athlete 2020 and it's easy to make assumptions about his character and even his backstory. But he isn’t what you might expect.  An overweight child Zack’s discovery of exercise in his teens was utterly transformative for him. Clemmie and Zack talk about their shared love of CrossFit, why it's so much more than the cult status tag that is often leveraged at it, the power of community and the patience required to learn skills and value of always having to progress to make - and why fitness really isn’t anything to do with aesthetics. Zack’s book ‘Start Where Others Stop’ is published on 29/04/21 Shameless plug: Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to preorder now.  Or if you prefer audio book you can preorder that here. Got any comments, queries or questions? I would love to hear from you on butwhy@clemmietelford.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie speaks to Sunday Times No1 (twice over!) author Vex King about self healing. The pair discuss: The importance of feeling your feelings.  How self reflection and self healing is game changing but uncomfortable.  How belief systems are formed. That default ‘positive thinking’ isn’t necessarily the answer. The power of asking yourself why you are reacting a certain way. The difference between self compassion and victimhood. Plus a whole lot more! It's an enlightening but down to earth episode. Vex’s book: Healing Is the New High: A Guide to Overcoming Emotional Turmoil and Finding Freedom Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness Resources mentioned in the episode: Dr Nicole LaPera on BUT WHY? Eckhart Tolle on Russel Brand’s Under the Skin  Shameless plug: **Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to order now. It includes a section on ‘Complex Feelings’. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie is looking at war with child genocide survivor Taban Shoresh, who founded Lotus Flower, a non-profit that supports female conflict survivors and refugees in Kurdistan, Iraq. With a political activist father during Saddam Hussein’s regime, Taban was imprisoned with her family aged just four, and they narrowly escaped being buried alive.  After a year dodging bombs and bullets, they were finally flown to the UK by Amnesty to start a new life.  In 2016 decided to give up her successful City of London career and establish Lotus Flower. It now supports women and girls who lost everything at the hands of ISIS, including their homes and loved ones, and who also suffered barbaric crimes such as slavery, rape and torture. To find out more about Lotus Flower visit Supporting Women & Girls impacted by conflict I The Lotus Flower. And to check out more content and listen to previous episodes go to @ButWhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the last of a short series of bonus, bitesize episodes, Clemmie talks to friend of the pod, mum of three, psychotherapist and bestselling author Anna Mathur about loneliness. Anna is passionate about taking therapy out of the therapy room and sharing her own personal and professional experiences to support mums through motherhood. Her podcast, 'The Therapy Edit', has over a million downloads and her new book, 'The Little Book of Calm for New Mums', is out now! Find Anna on Instagram @annamathur. To find more podcast content visit @butwhy_podcast on Instagram, and you can also find Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We are back with more bitesize episodes, featuring your favourite conversations from But Why, and this one takes us back to a conversation Clemmie had with Sunday Times No1 (twice over!) author Vex King about self healing. The pair discuss: The importance of feeling your feelings.  How self reflection and self healing is game changing but uncomfortable.  How belief systems are formed. That default ‘positive thinking’ isn’t necessarily the answer. The power of asking yourself why you are reacting a certain way. The difference between self compassion and victimhood. Plus a whole lot more! It's an enlightening but down to earth episode. Vex’s book: Healing Is the New High: A Guide to Overcoming Emotional Turmoil and Finding Freedom Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

But why is middle age so freeing for women? This week Clemmie talks to author and journalist Caitlin Moran about Womanhood, specifically about what it is to live in a constant state of evolution. How we never really ‘become ourselves’ (as we might have imagined we would as kids), and instead are continually changing - and while that is challenging as well as a gift. The conversation also strays into how problematic going for a wee in a jumpsuit can be and also why crisps really are our own true love; which arguably are both every bit as important as the nuts and bolts of womanhood.  Resources: ‘How to be a Woman’ by Caitlin Moran ‘More Than a Woman’ by Caitlin Moran  Clemmie mentions Fi & Jane’s ‘Fortunately’ podcast Shameless plug: Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to preorder now, it includes a section on ‘Big Questions’ which was definitely a case of ‘biting off more than you can chew’ Got any comments, queries or questions? I would love to hear from you on butwhy@clemmietelford.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

WARNING: This episode of But Why contains graphic descriptions of domestic abuse and sexual violence against women. In this episode of But Why, Clemmie teams up with Refuge to explore the topic of domestic abuse. Clemmie speaks to campaigner and consultant for causes against domestic abuse Natasha Saunders, who suffered eight years of sexual, mental, physical, economic and emotional abuse, as well as coercive control. Natasha is committed to raising awareness of the far-reaching impact of domestic abuse both on a personal level, but also on a wider, societal level. Clemmie also speaks to Kim Manning-Cooper, who is head of media and campaigns at Refuge. Kim has worked in human rights and social justice for more than 20 years and tells Clemmie all about Refuge's work and explains just how widespread domestic abuse is. IMPORTANT INFO: Refuge is committed to a world where domestic violence and violence against women and girls is not tolerated and where women and children can live in safety. They aim to empower women and children to rebuild their lives, free from violence and fear. They provide a range of life-saving and life-changing services, and a voice for the voiceless. The National Domestic Abuse Helpline is open 24/7, seven days a week. You can access free and confidential support on 0808 2000 247 and digital support via live chat Monday-Friday 3-10pm via www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk. You can also fill out a webform on the National Domestic Abuse Helpline website and request a call back at a safe time. From 10am to 6pm, Monday to Friday, you can speak to the expert Helpline team via a British Sign Language interpreter. Alternatively, you can find help or links to vital resources on Natasha's website: Independent Consultant and Speaker | Natasha Saunders. Find Clemmie on Instagram @@Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie talks luck and serendipity with Dr Christian Busch, who is the bestselling author of Connect the Dots: The Art & Science of Creating Good Luck, and an internationally known expert in the areas of innovation, purpose-driven leadership, and serendipity. Clemmie and Christian explore how we can make our own luck, how embracing the unexpected can lead to a more fulfilling life, and how there might actually be science behind serendipity. Christian is the director of the CGA Global Economy Program at New York University (NYU), and also teaches at the London School of Economics (LSE). His work has been featured by outlets such as the Strategic Management Journal, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, The Guardian, Washington Post, and the BBC. He is a regular speaker at conferences such as the World Economic Forum, TEDx, and Financial Times Summit, and is a member of the World Economic Forum's (WEF) Expert Forum, a Fellow of the Royal Society of Arts, and on the Thinkers50 Radar list of the 30 thinkers "most likely to shape the future." Find him on Twitter: @ChrisSerendip. And you can also find Clemmie on Instragram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie speaks to podcaster and mental health campaigner Emma Tulley-Williams - aka @mummyspaininthearse - all about endometriosis. The pair discuss: Her first experiences of periods. How immediately shocking they were. The journey to getting diagnosed with endo. How misunderstood endo is, even though it impacts 1 in 10 women.  The impact of endo on her career, relationship and sex life.  The reality of living in pain. Her fears for her daughter as she approaches puberty.  What we can all do to help raise awareness of endo.  Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ including ‘BUT WHY? Is there blood in the toilet. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this bitesize episode, which went out in October 2021, Clemmie speaks to podcaster and mental health campaigner Emma Tulley-Williams - aka @mummyspaininthearse - all about endometriosis. The pair discuss: Her first experiences of periods. How immediately shocking they were. The journey to getting diagnosed with endo. How misunderstood endo is, even though it impacts 1 in 10 women.  The impact of endo on her career, relationship and sex life.  The reality of living in pain. Her fears for her daughter as she approaches puberty.  What we can all do to help raise awareness of endo.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this look back, we head to May, 2022, when Clemmie explored burn out with writer, humourist, ex-professional actress & singer Caroline Dooner, who wrote the The F*ck It Diet, all about her relationship with food and dieting, and Tired as F*ck, all about her "exhaustion & two years of rest". Ten years ago Caroline started writing a blog called The Fuck It Diet as she tried to heal her relationship with food, and learn about the dark side of dieting. What she learned about food and weight changed her life. If you struggle with your relationship with food, the The F*ck It Diet is for you. In 2016, four years after she healed her relationship with food, she realised she was exhausted, burnt out, and...filled with existential dread. Her second book, Tired as F*ck, is about how she got back on her feet and her "years being a neurotic little b*tch". Read the beginning here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT MONEY? That’s the title of Otegha’s brilliant new book (published today) and exactly what Clemmie and her cover in this week’s episode of the podcast. Learning to look at your relationship with money. Being aware of your emotional connection to it, as well as patterns and habits you tend to fall into.  Knowing when they serve you and when they hinder. Trying to enjoy what you earn.  The link between work and money Toxic workplace culture: how to spot it and what to do about it.  There was so much we could have covered, money really is a fascinating subject that impacts well, everything Otegha has three published works: Little Black Book Whites: On Race and Other Falsehoods  We Need to Talk About Money Shameless plug: **Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to pre-order now. It includes a section on Work & Money. ** Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie speaks to Dr Sarah Tonks a cosmetic surgeon who has herself undergone a significant number of cosmetic procedures. The pair discuss: Dr Tonks personal choice in cosmetic interventions Her recovery from a recent second Brazilian Butt Lift (BBL). Dr Tonks' journey from applying to medical school as a kid to find herself in the world she is in now. Emotional wellbeing in relation to cosmetic surgery. Breast reduction and Clemmie's interest in it. Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’, which includes a section on why risk is so important for kids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's bitesize episode Clemmie talks about expectations and more importantly, how to manage them, with award-winning journalist, author and power lifter Poorna Bell. Poorna is the former Executive Editor and Global Lifestyle Head for HuffPost. She won Stylist's Rising Star award for 2019, Red Magazine's Big Book Award for 2019. Poorna has published three works of non-fiction: Chase The Rainbow, In Search of Silence and Stronger, which won a 2022 Sports Book award. Part memoir, part manifesto, Stronger explores society’s pressures and expectations where women’s fitness is concerned. She tackles everything from toxic environments and self-esteem to ageism, sexism, desirability and why choosing between your potential and social acceptance can be limiting. In Case of Emergency is Poorna's first work of fiction. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and Poorna @Poornabell. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's bitesize episode takes us back to July 2021, when Clemmie spoke to Darren of Rule_ette_out who is six years in recovery from gambling and has since set up gambling addiction support & awareness group. In the episode we discuss: Darren's first experience of gambling. How it is intrinsically linked to sport. When his habit moved into addiction. Seeking help and the process of recovery.  Misconceptions a gambling.  What we can do to educate our children about gambling.  Support: Anyone seeking advice and support please do reach out to: Gamcare Nacro Be Gamble Aware Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie talks to an actual Dame and Gold medal winning Olympian Jessica Ennis-Hill. As well as Clemmie wanting all the details on what it felt like to be Jessica on ‘that’ Super Saturday, the pair discuss: - balancing a demanding career and the rest of life . - later balancing personal ambition and motherhood. - balancing your training and fitness regime inline with your cycle  This is all particularly relevant as Jess has launched Jennis CycleMapping, an innovative new training programme which helps women optimise their hormonal health by mapping the right training sessions to the four phases of their menstrual cycle. Shameless plug: **Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to preorder now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this rewind episode, we go back to June 2022, when Clemmie explored the topic of County Lines with Danielle Marin. Danielle grew up in London with first generation immigrant parents, she was accepted into a grammar school, however her life changed completely after a brutal attack led her to involvement with ‘gangs’ and drug crime. She later enrolled at university and graduated with a 1st. She has since advocated within the criminal justice system for many women: “the hidden victims and participants of organised crime”, and began her Masters in 2021. Clemmie and Danielle discuss what County Lines and 'country' means, why Danielle doesn't agree that she was in gang, and why nothing she experienced came close to the pain of having her son taken away from her. Danielle's book, ‘Top Girl’, is out now and comes highly recommended! Find Clemmie on social media @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's But Why Bitesize, Clemmie tackles the topic of trauma with trauma expert, research psychologist, author, coach (and school friend) Dr Sarah Woodhouse, who has created the Freedom Process for women who are ready to look honestly at their past and understand why how and when it’s affecting their life today. Clemmie and Sarah explore trauma, how it impacts on lives and how people can break free from their trauma and live the life they want. Plus they discuss Sarah's own experiences of trauma and how that has impacted her work. Find out more about Sarah, her work and her book - 'You're Not Broken' - at Sarah Woodhouse - Redefining Trauma. And you can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode Clemmie talks optimism with former Labour Party leader Ed Miliband, who is now Shadow Secretary of State for Climate Change. Ed tells Clemmie how he coped when Labour lost the 2015 election, why optimism was key, and how and why he came to the decision to step down as leader. They also talk about Ed's book, GO BIG, which was out in paperback in March. GO BIG tackles some of the big questions around our future and the way our society and democracy works, as well as timely topics such as paid parental leave and climate change. As well as his Parliamentary work, Ed is the co-host of popular current affairs podcast ‘Reasons to be Cheerful’ with Geoff Lloyd. The pod explores the ideas, people and movements that are pioneering change worldwide. Follow Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. And you can find out more about Ed here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie chats to author and journalist Grace Timothy about ADHD and her own chance diagnosis made in 2021 after an appointment to check on her hearing. Clemmie and Grace, who has written for publications including Style, Vogue, Glamour, Marie Claire, the Sunday Times and Teen Vogue and is about to launch her own podcast about ADHD, discuss: Clemmie's husband Ben's recent ADHD diagnosis How ADHD affects women How ADHD is linked to other conditions like depression and anxiety And how Grace's own chance diagnosis helped her make sense of her life. Check out Grace on Instagram @Gracetimothywriter and you can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is all about estrangement and Clemmie's guest is Harriet Shearsmith, a mum of three, parenting creator, author of Mummin’ It and the podcaster behind Unfollowing Mum. Harriet shares her story of how she became estranged from her mum, as well as her experience of motherhood, cycle breaking and estrangement online with her community; with a little bit of fun, fashion and life chucked in for good measure! For her sensational tiktoks and outfit videos, you can find Harriet on Instagram @tobyandroo. And if you want to get more podcast content, check out @butwhy_podcast and @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Did you know that around nine per cent of you are into BDSM? And a further 16% are BDSM curious. Clemmie didn't know what to expect going into the recording of this episode with Mrs O and Janus, curator of BDSM Museum - I think I was worried about coming across as a prude or lifting the lid on some dark underbelly. Both of which were way off the mark. In this episode we discuss: The challenge of maintaining your sex life in the early parenting years. Especially when your body doesn’t feel like your own. Why you might be surprised to learn that the foundational principles of BDSM are important and useful for ANY relationship. Why the idea of ‘a window of not having to be in control’ is potentially appealing to many.  How we talk to our children about sex. I also make it very clear that food play is NOT something I am into! It's an upbeat but educational one. More from Guests: For more from Mrs O including her erotic short stories and blog posts about everything from nifty ideas to boost your libido, sexy tips, relationship tales, the social development of sex in the media, mental health articles and advice to sex toy reviews. Head to PinchMeHard.com While Chris is one of the founders of BDSM Museum: a non-profit Museum project in Hamburg Germany promoting: acceptance and cultural awareness for BDSM. Shameless plug: **Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to pre-order now. It includes a section on ‘Relationship’ and ‘The Body’. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Clemmie talks to Dr Nicole LePera aka @the.holistic.psychologist about the role for self-healing work, how that fits alongside more conventional therapy and delves into why everyone could benefit from greater self-awareness - even those who feel they don’t need it. The pair discuss learning to feel your feelings rather than emotionally checking out, witnessing our relationship patterns, learning to set and honour boundaries and ultimately live more consciously. Dr Nicole LaPera's book ‘How to Do To The Work Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self’ is available now. Clemmie also mentions psychotherapist Anna Mathur and her notion of the '10 minute shutdown' as an easy re-frame for meditation.  Take advantage of the ‘10% off your first-month’ offer with the episode sponsor Better Help here  Shameless plug: Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to preorder now, it includes a section on ‘But Why Won’t That Person ?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie chats to author, journalist and founder of The Sober Girls Society, Millie Gooch. The pair discuss: Booze culture in the UK. Deciding to give up alcohol and the utter joy that it brings. Opting to use the word ‘sober’ and why Advice for anyone who is sober curious How not drinking alcohol relates to her recent relationship break up. Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ including a section on ‘But why do adults drink beer and wine?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie chats to Hat Hewit the person behind @dayinthelifeoflaws, a remarkable Instagram account documenting her mum's early onset Alzheimer's & Dementia.  We chat about what Hat’s mum (Laws) was like before diagnosis. The signs and symptoms that led to the diagnosis of early onset Alzheimer's.  The difficult decision to move to her to care. Biggest misunderstanding about Alzheimer's.  Grieving a living person.  Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ including a section on feelings and relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the first of five bitesize episodes looking back on some the best bits of But Why, Clemmie looks at CODEPENDENCY & PEOPLE PLEASING with Jo Westwood aka The Codependency Coach. Jo specialises in helping women to recover from codependency so they can feel content and secure alone, and have healthy fulfilling relationships in all areas of their lives. She's a recovering codependent herself, and the creator of the Wildly Worthy codependency recovery community, as well as The Anti People Pleasing Podcast.  Find Jo on Instagram @JoWestwood, Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast episodes and content @ButWhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We all need boundaries right? But are we setting enough, and are they the right ones? This week Clemmie talks all things boundaries with transformational coach Zoe Blaskey, who founded Motherkind, a self-empowerment platform for mums, and a podcast of the same name. They cover: the differences between internal and external boundaries why boundaries are the key to successful relationships and why you shouldn't ever use the word 'boundaries'! To become the most 'alive and joyful version of you, and to check out more of Zoe's work, head to MOTHERKIND or find Zoe in Instagram @motherkind_zoe. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode Clemmie talks about ageing and its relationship with skincare and beauty, with Jenni Retourné, who has worked in beauty for nearly 20 years, as a beauty editor and marketing manager before launching Willowberry in 2017. Clemmie and Jenni discuss our attitudes towards growing old, as well as her own experiences with her mother that led her to embrace father time. Championing Age Without Apology, Jenni is passionate about changing the age narrative in beauty and Willowberry's work towards this has been recognised by the British Beauty Council, which has appointed her a member of the British Beauty Council Diversity & Inclusion Committee, to represent age diversity in beauty. Find out more about Jenni's work and Willowberry here. And follow Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie chats to Gemma Cairney about friendship. Gemma is a woman with an incredibly impressive career. She's a former Brit School pupil and fashion stylist, she's a broadcaster, a documentary maker, a journalist and producer. Gemma has presented across the breadth of the BBC including BBC 6 Music, BBC Radio 4, and Radio 1, and she's written for, edited, and contributed to the Guardian, Red, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, and Elle. She has won Sony awards for her documentaries, she was the Southbank Artist in Residence and on the WOW panel. And if that's not enough, she's also an author too. He first book Open Your Heart: Your World and Your Future was released in 2018, as was her edition of Hometown Tales, all about life on the south coast. In this episode Clemmie and Gemma talk about what friendship means to them, how they've gained and lost friends by choice, and how losing a close friend can totally alter your outlook on life. You can find Gemma on Instagram @gemagain or on Twitter @gemcairn. Get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast and find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

'Meet the Founder'. Honest conversations delving into the human stories behind brands we know and love. How they began, where they've stumbled, and what's had to be sacrificed for success. Business chat, but nosier… Join Clemmie Telford each Wednesday, from the 26th of April. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this bitesize episode from June 2022, Clemmie talks optimism with former Labour Party leader Ed Miliband, who is now Shadow Secretary of State for Climate Change. Ed tells Clemmie how he coped when Labour lost the 2015 election, why optimism was key, and how and why he came to the decision to step down as leader. They also talk about Ed's book, GO BIG, which was out in paperback in March. GO BIG tackles some of the big questions around our future and the way our society and democracy works, as well as timely topics such as paid parental leave and climate change. As well as his Parliamentary work, Ed is the co-host of popular current affairs podcast ‘Reasons to be Cheerful’ with Geoff Lloyd. The pod explores the ideas, people and movements that are pioneering change worldwide. Follow Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. And you can find out more about Ed here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're heading back almost two years for the latest bitesize episode on But Why. In March 2021 Clemmie spoke to Dr Nicole LePera aka @the.holistic.psychologist about the role for self-healing work, how that fits alongside more conventional therapy and delves into why everyone could benefit from greater self-awareness - even those who feel they don’t need it. The pair discuss learning to feel your feelings rather than emotionally checking out, witnessing our relationship patterns, learning to set and honour boundaries and ultimately live more consciously. Dr Nicole LaPera's book ‘How to Do To The Work Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self’ is available now. Check out more podcast content @Butwhy_podcast on Instagram and while you're there, you can find Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

But why is Allyship about what you ‘do’ and not what you believe? Clemmie chats to author Sophie Williams who runs @officialmillemialblack . As well as talking about their shared experience of working in advertising (Sophie as COO and Clemmie as a Creative Director), the pair pick up on the other side of Sophie’s work as a racial equality activist. In particular the way she uses her books and platform to educate and empower about actionable allyship.  Sophie's Books: Anti-Racist Ally: An Introduction to Action and Activism  Official Millenial Black: The Ultimate Guide for Black Woman at Work. Other mentions: Michaela Coel brilliant TV show ‘I May Destroy You’. Michaela is also a guest on Louis Theroux’s podcast Grounded. Clemmie references Lucy Sheridan and her brilliant email footer. Lucy is the World First Comparison Coach and is well worth a follow. Shameless plug: Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to preorder now. Got any comments, queries or questions? I would love to hear from you on butwhy@clemmietelford.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode Clemmie explores the topic of County Lines with Danielle Marin. Danielle grew up in London with first generation immigrant parents, she was accepted into a grammar school, however her life changed completely after a brutal attack led her to involvement with ‘gangs’ and drug crime. She later enrolled at university and graduated with a 1st. She has since advocated within the criminal justice system for many women: “the hidden victims and participants of organised crime”, and began her Masters in 2021. Clemmie and Danielle discuss what County Lines and 'country' means, why Danielle doesn't agree that she was in gang, and why nothing she experienced came close to the pain of having her son taken away from her. Danielle's book, ‘Top Girl’, is out now and comes highly recommended! Find Clemmie on social media @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie chats to a dispute resolution professional and lecturer from School of Life Tracey Fox. The pair discuss: What we mean by ‘conflict’. Different conflict styles. How do our experiences shape our conflict style? What makes conflict escalate? The significance of listening and different listening styles Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to buy now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

**Trigger warning – this episode contains talk of intrusive thoughts of harm. Please take care when listening. In this episode Clemmie chats to chartered clinical psychologist Dr Caroline Boyd about intrusive thoughts. Caroline has over 10 years' experience working in the NHS and mental health settings, and specialises in supporting parents from pregnancy to childbirth and beyond. She is also the author of Mindful New Mum, and her published research explores mothers' experiences of intrusive thoughts about their babies. Her work has been featured in You magazine, Grazia, BBC Radio Scotland and Woman's Hour on BBC Radio 4. Caroline specialises in supporting parents around difficulties related to anger and anxiety. In her independent psychology practice, Parent Therapy Hub, she works integratively and draws on Compassion Focused Therapy, Mindfulness and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, as well as Systemic, Narrative and attachment models. Caroline is fully trained in Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR), an effective approach for working with difficult memories and traumatic events. Caroline shares psychology ideas on Instagram and in the media to help parents feel more connected - to themselves and their children - and less alone.  You can reach Caroline at drcarolineboyd.com or via Instagram @_drboyd In her independent psychology practice, Parent Therapy Hub, Caroline offers workshops and courses supporting mums around maternal anger: https://drcarolineboyd.com/course-mum-rage Caroline’s book, Mindful New Mum: A Mind-Body Approach to the Highs and Lows of Motherhood, is available to buy online Amazon, Waterstones or Bookshop ------------- Note – Fathers also report experiencing these thoughts, but to a slightly lesser degree than mothers. If this episode raises any concerns for you please talk to a trusted health professional such as your GP. You can also reach out to the services below: UK: PANDAS - 0808 1961 776 Samaritans – 116 123 For emergency help - call 999 or visit your local A&E department US: Postpartum Support International - 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie speaks to podcaster and mental health campaigner Gemma Styles about life in the public eye and all things social media. The pair discuss: Growing up on the internet. Learning to find boundaries with social media . The benefits and power of the community on social media. Trolling and the ongoing impact of it Mental health advocacy and how to do that whilst protecting your own. Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ including sections on screen time and complex feelings. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Joining Clemmie this week to share their business story is Jamie Wild, founder of distilled alcohol free spirit, Feragaia. Jamie co-founded Feragaia after noticing an unfair lack of alcohol free spirits on bar shelves across the country, fast forward a few years, Feragaia is making waves across the city, in cocktail bars and in supermarkets. Clemmie and Jamie discuss the peaks and pits, of launching into the often tricky food and drink market, as well as overcoming challenges as a small business whilst maintaining your authentic roots and messaging. Jamie even shares some of his less successful business ideas from over the years and gives Clemmie a glimpse into the unique taste of Feragaia… This chat had us running to grab ourselves a bottle! Meet the Founder Listeners can get 20% of Feragaia with the code - CT20 Check out Feragaia  Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie is exploring SEXUAL FREEDOM with Natalie Lee Natalie began her career as a midwife before starting her blog, Style Me Sunday and Instagram account, in July 2012. Over nearly a decade, she has grown her platform from a blog to a brand, and now reaches women across various different mediums Throughout this time, she has run events, been a panellist more times than she can count, taken part in a television project about women's quests for better orgasms where she had an orgasm on TV, and worked with a variety of household-name brands.   Her book ‘Feeling Yourself’ is a modern manifesto and memoir on sex and shame. Each chapter covers a different element of Natalie’s journey.  In a revealing episode, Clemmie and Natalie cover.....  THEIR EARLIEST MEMORIES OF SEX ORGASMS MASTURBATION SEX IN A MARRIAGE WHAT IS THE PLACE FOR PORN? SEX AND SEXUAL SELF AND MOTHERHOOD? DIVORCE… EXPLORING YOUR SEXUALITY? HOW DOES SEXUAL TRANSLATE INTO THE REST OF YOUR LIFE? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode Clemmie explores the topic of family and our relationships with our nearest and dearest with bestselling psychotherapist Julia Samuel. Julia's new book, Every Family Has A Story, analyses a range of common issues including separation, step-relationships, leaving home, trauma and loss, as well as how deeply we are influenced by our families, including the often under-appreciated impact of grandparents and siblings. Revealing forgiveness and learning amidst trauma and hardship, the book is an honest and compassionate meditation on what we inherit and how we can create the families we wish for. Find out more about Julia and her books here: Julia Samuel. And follow Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie talks all things sisters with Clover Stroud, whose sister Nell Gifford, the co-founder of Giffords Circus, died from breast cancer just before Christmas 2019 at the age of 46. Just days before, she had been given years to live. Her sudden death split Clover's life apart, and her new book, The Red of My Blood, charts her fearless passage through the first year after her sister's death. It is a book about what life feels like when death interrupts it, and about bearing the unbearable and describing an experience that seems beyond words. Lyrical, hopeful, it is also about the magical way in which death and life exist so vividly beside one another, and the wonder of being human. You can check out Clover on Instagram @Clover.Stroud and read more about her new book (released on March 10) here. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie speaks to Immy Lucas about sustainability and conscious living - two topics that tend to be divisive. Some people feel such passion for this way of living, while for others it feels a million miles down their list of priorities. And that's not because they don’t care, but because quite frankly they are busy surviving and making ends meet.  My chat with Immy, who you can find on Instagram @sustainablyvegan, was, for me a really balanced version of this conversation and what we talked about felt actionable and realistic and reflective of the nuance. Find out more about Immy's work here. This episode is sponsored by Rude Health, who I absolutely adore. I spoke to founder Camilla Barnard, who talked me through going from making muesli on her kitchen table with her husband to being the biggest brand in this category in the UK. She also shared her failures and learnings along the way. Shameless plug: **Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to pre-order now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie explores moons, star signs and all things astrology with astrologer and writer Francesca Oddie, whose quest is to present the subject simply and to enable people to comprehend and utilise the reliable roots of astrology.  Clemmie finds out why her husband is a 'turbo Aries', discovers how Francesca ended up as an astrologist and delves into the big question of what Francesca would say to someone who thought the whole thing wasn't for them. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and check out Francesca on her website Home - Francesca Oddie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the 100th episode of But Why Clemmie hands the reigns to producer Steve (host of BBC pod You, Me and the Big C) as he delves into the life and times of Creative Director/Instagrammer/Blogger/Podcaster/Author/Fitness Fanatic and mother of three Clemmie Telford. In a raw, honest conversation, we get to know a young Clemmie, find out about her most challenging life moments and her secret talent, and - the big one - we finally discover what her favourite crisp is. Plus why she's so into astronomy, how she met husband Ben and why she's chosen a sober life by the sea. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford, and indulge yourself in more pod content @Butwhy_podcast. And if you're interested, you can find Steve on there too @Mr_Blandy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode Clemmie speaks to Hetal & Roger about their experience of visual impairment. And Kirstie from the Guide Dogs charity about how the dogs are trained.  But Why is there so much misunderstanding around blindness? Especially when someone goes blind every hour in the UK. There is a lot to learn about being more inclusive AND about how the relationship between a guide dog and their owner works (errm the dog does NOT work like a satnav!)  Guide Dogs:  Guide Dogs is the number one provider of services for children and young people with a vision impairment. It is the largest sole employer of specialists dedicated to helping children and young people overcome the challenges of sight loss, and has the widest range of support services for children, young people and families. Parents can easily access information and advice over the phone or online, including Family Support and Education Support. Resources: Life of a Blind Girl Blog @mumslikeus  @blinddad_uk  Contact: What are your thoughts on the conversation around mental health? And do you have a But Why? you’d like discussed? Or maybe you just want to say hi. Whatever the reason get in touch on butwhy@clemmietelford.com Shameless plug: **Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to preorder now, it includes a section on disability and inclusivity. ** Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie delves into the world of style with East London based Art Director & Stylist Zeena Shah. Zeena trained as a printed textile designer at Chelsea School of Art & Design, she has a passion for colour, print and pattern AND she's also a print designer/maker/illustrator and Creative Workshop Tutor.  As if that's not enough, Zeena is also an author and her most recent book - Marbling: Projects, Design Ideas and Techniques for a More Colourful Life - is all about preserving the art of marbling. Oh, and her incredible wedding also featured in Vogue! Clemmie and Zeena discuss why style is so important, how shopping in your own wardrobe can bring unexpected delights and why men have it tough when it comes to fashion. You can check out Zeena on Instagram @heartzeena and why not follow Clemmie too @Clemmie_telford. You can also find lots more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're taking a trip down memory lane in the latest of the special bitesize episodes of But Why. We're going back to March 2021, when the pandemic and the lockdown was in full swing, and Clemmie talked to Ellie Gibson; Games journalist, part of Dara O'Briain's Go 8 Bit and one half of @scummymummies.  Ellie patiently allows Clemmie to voice her concerns and stereotyped perceptions of the world of gaming. While it’s easy to jump to conclusions about gaming being an anti-social subculture, it turns out the opposite just might be true. Not only is the gaming industry big business, it also can be a hugely positive space that champions community mindedness, social interaction and problem solving. Ellie’s account @elliegibsongames is full of great advice and games recommendations for family friendly games play. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie speaks to Darren of Rule_ette_out who is six years in recovery from gambling and has since set up gambling addiction support & awareness group. In the episode we discuss: Darren's first experience of gambling. How it is intrinsically linked to sport. When his habit moved into addiction. Seeking help and the process of recovery.  Misconceptions a gambling.  What we can do to educate our children about gambling.  Support: Anyone seeking advice and support please do reach out to: Gamcare Nacro Be Gamble Aware Shameless plug: **The wait is over. Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to buy now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

But why do we need to move beyond party politics? Clemmie chats to Tatton Spiller, the person behind the brilliant @simplepolitics account, whose aim is to help the UK have better conversations about politics. Better informed, more tolerant. The chat covers all manners of things and strays into some brave revelations about Tatton’s own mental health, wonky career path and why the current approach to teaching politics in schools is like trying to teach kids about sex by putting a condom on a carrot.  Tatton's Book ‘The Break Down’ is available here. To support the Simple Politics platform via donation head here. Shameless plug: Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to pre-order now. Got any comments, queries or questions? I would love to hear from you on butwhy@clemmietelford.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Clemmie talks to Ellie Gibson; Games journalist, part of Dara O'Briain's Go 8 Bit and one half of @scummymummies.  Ellie patiently allows Clemmie to voice her concerns and stereotyped perceptions of the world of gaming. While it’s easy to jump to conclusions about gaming being an anti-social subculture, it turns out the opposite just might be true. Not only is the gaming industry big business, it also can be a hugely positive space that champions community mindedness, social interaction and problem solving. Ellie’s account @elliegibsongames is full of great advice and games recommendations for family friendly games play. Useful Resources: -Phillipa Perry’s; ‘The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read’. -Dr Chaterjess “Live More. Feel Better Podcast’ -Ted talk Jane McGonigal : ‘Can Gaming Make the World a Better Place’ -Andrew Robertson’s ‘Taming Gaming Guide to Healthy Habits’ Shameless plug: Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to pre-order now, it includes a section on ‘But Why Can’t I Have More Screen Time ?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie speaks to Giovanna Fletcher, author, presenter, winner of I'm Celebrity and mum of three. It was supposed to be all about happiness, but the pair end up having a general catch up about life.....and magpies! The pair discuss: Work and parenting Book writing. How three kids is wonderful but also a lot. The line between holding things together and consciously letting them go. Giovanna has written several books, her latest one ‘Walking On Sunshine’, is about three friends Vicky, Zaza and Mike who have each reached a defining (and longed for) point in their lives. However, rather than feeling happy and fulfilled they individually find themselves asking ‘is this it?’. Walking On Sunshine is available to preorder now. Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

To kick off Series 2, Clemmie talks to Helen Thorn, one half of the Scummy Mummies about life in the aftermath of the breakdown of her marriage. Helen and her husband separated just days before the country went into lockdown in March 20202. Helen chats openly about navigating heartbreak, the power of friendship, rediscovering dating and the huge pride she has for her children. It's a frank, raw and occasionally humorous episode. Resources: Helen has written a brilliant book about her experience. ‘Get Divorced Be Happy’ is available to preorder now. On a previous episode of Honestly Clemmie spoke to divroce lawyer Sarah Langford about the legal process. Listen to it here. Shameless plug: **Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to preorder now, it includes a section on “But Why do people get married? ‘But Why do people get divorced!’** Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sharing the journey of their brand this week is Anna Richards, founder of modern erotic platform FrolicMe. Anna founded FrolicMe after being overwhelmed by the number of less ethical, old fashioned tube sites pushing male entered erotica. Anna’s passion comes from wanting women to feel great, and some of the erotic fiction and films stems from Anna’s own fantasies and the conversations she shares with other women. Anna opens up to Clemmie about the time and financial sacrifices it has taken for her to build FrolicMe, including battles with payment platform Paypal and a number of shocking Instagram shadow bans.  We hope this episode encourages you to prioritise your pleasure too… Listeners can currently get two years of FrolicMe for just £49.95 for two months. Check out FrolicMe Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Joining Clemmie to chat all about founding their business is Anna Lahey, founder of cosmetics brand Vida Glow. Anna turned her passion for ‘ingestible beauty’ into Vida Glow in 2014, and since then it’s grown into a global brand. Clemmie sits down with Anna to chat about all the challenges of growing a business and the pitfalls of being your own boss.  Anna also shares an insight into the brand’s latest release, directly formulated for women’s health, something she is hugely passionate about. If that isn’t enough Anna was just about to go on maternity leave before having her fourth chat when this interview was recorded-if that’s not inspiring we don’t know what is! Listeners can get 10% off the Vida Glow Women’s Health Range using the code CLEMMIE10 (one time use per customer). Check out Vida Glow Follow Anna Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Clemmie explores Hyperemesis with presenter, doula, Instagrammer and author of Be Your Own Best Friend: The Glorious Truths of Being Female CHESSIE KING. Chessie is a shining beacon of honesty but also still positivity which I think is such a hard line to balance. She started sharing fitness content online eight years ago but her content now focuses on body confidence and parenthood. Most recently, she launched Babyhood, a platform to support, guide & empower parents through their first 40 days post-partum. Chessie tells Clemmie how Hyperemesis impacted her pregnancy and the first weeks of motherhood, whether it would put her off future pregnancies and how she navigated her way through the low points. Find Chessie on Instagram @ChessieKing and Babyhood @welcometobabyhood. For more podcast content check out @ButWhy_Podcast on Instagram and find Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're heading back to June 2021 for this But Why rewind episode, when Clemmie talked to an actual Dame and Gold medal winning Olympian Jessica Ennis-Hill about balance in our lives. As well as Clemmie wanting all the details on what it felt like to be Jessica on ‘that’ Super Saturday, the pair discuss: - balancing a demanding career and the rest of life . - later balancing personal ambition and motherhood. - balancing your training and fitness regime inline with your cycle  This is all particularly relevant as Jess had just launched Jennis CycleMapping, an innovative new training programme which helps women optimise their hormonal health by mapping the right training sessions to the four phases of their menstrual cycle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this look back through the But Why best bits collection, we return to December 2022 when Clemmie talked to friend of the pod, mum of three, psychotherapist and bestselling author Anna Mathur about loneliness. Anna is passionate about taking therapy out of the therapy room and sharing her own personal and professional experiences to support mums through motherhood. Her podcast, 'The Therapy Edit', has over a million downloads and her new book, 'The Little Book of Calm for New Mums', is out now! Find Anna on Instagram @annamathur and check out Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford. You can also find more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's bitesize episode, Clemmie speaks to Belinda Kirk who is a professional explorer! In 2010, she captained the first all-female rowing team to circumnavigate Britain non-stop, completing the journey in 51 days. The pair discuss: Belinda's incredible career including a trip where she sailed the Atlantic. The joy of adventure Why it is essential for our wellbeing. The long term impact of ‘choosing challenge’. Ways to instil adventure in our kids.  Belinda's book  Adventure Revolution: The life-changing power of choosing challenge is out now.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie chats to clinical psychologist and certified psycho-sexologist and author Dr Karen Gurney - aka @thesexdoctor. The pair discuss: Redefining what we mean by ‘sex’. Whether we judge our sex lives by unrealistic standards? How to define what ‘good sex’ is Research around oral sex and the sexual scripts that surround it. The orgasm gap. What stands in the way of great sex in long term relationships. Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ including a section on talking to kids about sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie speaks to author and psychotherapist Anna Mathur about rage. And in particular maternal rage. We've all been there - your jaw is tightening, you can feel your blood boiling, you feel trapped and frustrated and suddenly you find yourself yelling CAN EVERYONE JUST PUT THEIR SHOES ON! Only to instantly regret it. # The pair discuss why these ‘loss of control’ moments happen, why they make us feel so awful and more importantly what we can do to make them less likely to happen. It's honest, reassuring and jam-packed with useful advice. Resources: Anna has two books: ‘MIND OVER MOTHER: Every mum's guide to worry and anxiety in the first years  ‘KNOW YOUR WORTH: How to build your self-esteem, grow in confidence and worry less about what people think’  Shameless plug: **Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to preorder now, it includes a section on Complex Feelings. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We are back with another series of But Why, and this series kicks off with a deep and meaningful chat between Clemmie and Steve Bland, co-host of the award-winning BBC podcast You, Me and the Big C, about finding love after loss. After the death of his late wife in 2018, the BBC journalist Rachael Bland, Steve found love again with wife Amy and the couple are expecting twins in April 2023. In this chat, Steve talks about dealing with Rachael's death from breast cancer, coping with the aftermath, getting his life back on track and how he met Amy at a cancer conference. You, Me and the Big C was launched by Rachael, along with Lauren Mahon and Dame Deborah James. Steve took over hosting duties after Rachael's death. You can find Steve on Instagram @Mr_Blandy and while you're there, check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast and Clemmie @Clemmie_telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Clemmie talks about comparison this week, with Lucy Sheridan, who is the world’s first and only Comparison Coach™. Through her book ‘The Comparison Cure’, private practice and workshops, Lucy has helped thousands of people go from compare and despair, to #comparisonfree. Accredited by the Association for the Psychological Therapies, named as one of the New Wellbeing Specialists by Style Mag and praised as one of the UK’s most successful coaches by The Times, Lucy's work has been featured in global outlets such as Psychology Today, BBC, Forbes and Google Labs. And she loves wearing white in winter! You can find Lucy on Instagram @LucySheridan on Instagram and check out her work at The Comparison Free Club · Lucy Sheridan. Check out Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford, and find more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the second episode of series four, Clemmie chats to former fashion academic, turned writer and TED x speaker Stacey Heale whose husband, Delays drummer Greg Gilbert, died from bowel cancer in 2021. Since Greg's death Stacey has spoken out about her grief, the experience of watching a loved one go through cancer, and how to really live. In this emotional chat, Clemmie asks Stacey why she's so passionate about talking openly about her experience, finds out what Stacey wishes she'd known about death, and discovers how she's coped with her two kids since Greg's death. The pair also discuss funeral fashion and why Stacey needed a pair of XL sunglasses and some lace gloves for Greg's funeral. You can find Stacey on Instagram @stacey_heale. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We all need boundaries right? But are we setting enough, and are they the right ones? In this week's bitesize episode Clemmie talks all things boundaries with transformational coach Zoe Blaskey, who founded Motherkind, a self-empowerment platform for mums, and a podcast of the same name. They cover: the differences between internal and external boundaries why boundaries are the key to successful relationships and why you shouldn't ever use the word 'boundaries'! To become the most 'alive and joyful version of you, and to check out more of Zoe's work, head to MOTHERKIND or find Zoe in Instagram @motherkind_zoe. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie speaks to Belinda Kirk who is a professional explorer! In 2010, she captained the first all-female rowing team to circumnavigate Britain non-stop, completing the journey in 51 days. The pair discuss: Belinda's incredible career including a trip where she sailed the Atlantic. The joy of adventure Why it is essential for our wellbeing. The long term impact of ‘choosing challenge’. Ways to instil adventure in our kids.  Belinda's book  Adventure Revolution: The life-changing power of choosing challenge is out now.  Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ including a section on why risk is so important for kids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's episode is all about women without kids, as Clemmie talks to British-born author, editor, podcaster and the founder of Numinous Books Ruby Warrington. Recognised as a true thought leader, Ruby has the unique ability to identify issues that are destined to become part of the cultural narrative.  Her previous books include Material Girl, Mystical World; Sober Curious; and The Sober Curious Reset, and her work has been featured by countless media outlets globally, including the New York Times, The Guardian, and Good Morning America.  Her latest book “Women Without Kids” set Clemmie's brain absolutely whirring and questioning so much: “I am speaking to the ones who’ve never wanted to be mothers, the ones who are teetering on the fence, the ones who’ve tried and failed to become parents, and the ones for whom it just never happened.” It's a challenging, and enlightening chat. You can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Check out Ruby @rubywarrington. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this bitesized episode, Clemmie explores happiness, or maybe contentment....or should that be joy? Either way, her guest is one of her mum's faves, and two-time Brit award winner Will Young. Will shot to fame in 2002 after winning the first series of Pop Idol. He has released seven albums, four of which hit Number One in the UK charts, and he has 10 million record sales and two Brit Awards to his name.   But that's just the tip of the iceberg. Will is a leading voice in mental-health awareness. His highly acclaimed book 'To be a Gay Man' explored mental-health awareness, particularly within the LGBTQ+ community with a focus on gay shame. He has a podcast - ‘The Wellbeing Lab’ - where he interviews experts on different mental health topics each week, AND his second book ‘Be Yourself Only Happier’ was released last year - when this conversation took place! In this episode Clemmie finds out what makes Will happy and what steps he's taken in his life to ensure he stays that way. Plus they do not talk about dry stone walling. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and Will @willyoungofficial, and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the hot seat this week is the founder of women’s clothing brand Never Fully Dressed, Lucy Aylen. Lucy takes Clemmie through the brands journey from selling her designs in an East End London market in 2009, to keep her busy when acting auditions were scarce, to amassing over 1 million instagram followers and launching the brand internationally. They chat about the challenges Lucy has faced along the way from management to delegation and managing both a physical store and an e-commerce site. Lucy is clearly not afraid to get involved in all parts of the business and this chat was wonderfully honest. Meet the Founder Listeners can get 15% off Never Fully Dressed using the code NFDxMTF15 (main collection only excluding delivery) Follow Never Fully Dressed  Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the latest trip down the But Why memory lane, Clemmie chats to Zoë Colville - aka @thechiefshepherdess on Instagram - about how she swapped a hair salon in Soho for life on the farm in Kent, why gold hoop earrings are important even when feeding goats, AND why she's determined to educate people about where food really comes from. To find out more about Zoë, check out her Instagram page and to get your hands on some of the produce from her farm, head to The Little Farm Fridge. – the little farm fridge. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode Clemmie tackles the topic of overwhelm with Steph Douglas, the founder of Don't Buy Her Flowers. As well as running her own business, Steph also writes about motherhood, business, relationships and juggling the rush hour of our life. She also has her own Don't Buy Her Flowers podcast and she's also the mother of three young kids. Clemmie and Steph explore what they mean by overwhelm, how to spot you might be overwhelmed, how to avoid it, and what to do about it. It's a biggie! If you want to follow Steph, head to @steph_dontbuyherflowers on Instagram. For more podcast content, visit @butwhy_podcast and you can find Clemmie @clemmie_telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie takes a crash course in the virtual world of cryptocurrency, NFTs and the Metaverse with Tanisha Cro, the founder of Female Crypto Club. Tanisha and Clemmie explore the pitfalls and potential gains from investing in crypto, what to do if you're a total novice, why NFTs attract criticism, and plenty more. Tanisha spent ten years in finance and is a qualified accountant and accredited financial coach, but she now educates women on cryptocurrency, NFTs and the Metaverse, teaching them how to begin investing and the tools and strategies needed to make confident investing decisions. Having noticed that the majority of content, focus and education for crypto was directed at men, she set about giving women the same opportunity and a safe and friendly environment to learn and grow in. Find Tanisha and the Female Crypto Club @femalecryptoclub on Instagram. You can also find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and loads more podcast content @ButWhyInsta. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Clemmie explores all things sleep with TV Presenter Cat Cubie and baby sleep expert AND Norland Qualified Nanny Sarah Carpenter. The pair are best known as the hosts of top ten parenting podcast The Sleep Mums and authors of Sleep Better Baby which disrupts the narrative around baby sleep whilst empowering parents with skills and confidence to get a good nights sleep. Clemmie, Cat and Sarah discuss how to get a good night's sleep, how to cope if your kids aren't sleeping and why 'awake routines' are just as important as sleep routines. To find out more about Cat and Sarah's work head to @thesleepmums on Instagram. You can find Clemmie there too @Clemmie_Telford, or check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie chats to Icelandic weightlfter and Crossfit athlete Sara Sigmunsdoittir. The pair discuss: Sara’s relationship with her body - now and growing up. How she still struggles with the being muscular . Wanting to be strong and feminine The impact of training on her cycles. Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ including “But why do people exercise anyway?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's bitesize episode, Clemmie explores moons, star signs and all things astrology with astrologer and writer Francesca Oddie, whose quest is to present the subject simply and to enable people to comprehend and utilise the reliable roots of astrology.  Clemmie finds out why her husband is a 'turbo Aries', discovers how Francesca ended up as an astrologist and delves into the big question of what Francesca would say to someone who thought the whole thing wasn't for them. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford, find more podcast @butwhy_podcast and check out Francesca on her website Home - Francesca Oddie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie is looking at menopause with Davina McCall. Presenter, fitness guru, author and mother, proper household name, Davina McCall is one of the UK's most loved TV personalities. With a career spanning nearly three decades, Davina is firmly established as one of the nation's most successful TV broadcasters and presenter of so many iconic shows including Big Brother. In addition to her TV work, Davina has also built a hugely successful fitness empire, encompassing no less than 15 fitness DVD releases with sales of over 1.4 million and ownyourgoalsdavina.com. She is a key brand ambassador for Garnier, and the first ever ambassador for Ryvita.  And she is an author - ‘Menopausing: The positive roadmap to your second spring’ is out now! But it here. You can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford, and watch more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this bitesized episode Clemmie speaks to author and psychotherapist Anna Mathur about rage. And in particular maternal rage. We've all been there - your jaw is tightening, you can feel your blood boiling, you feel trapped and frustrated and suddenly you find yourself yelling CAN EVERYONE JUST PUT THEIR SHOES ON! Only to instantly regret it.  The pair discuss why these ‘loss of control’ moments happen, why they make us feel so awful and more importantly what we can do to make them less likely to happen. It's honest, reassuring and jam-packed with useful advice. Resources: Anna has two books: ‘MIND OVER MOTHER: Every mum's guide to worry and anxiety in the first years  ‘KNOW YOUR WORTH: How to build your self-esteem, grow in confidence and worry less about what people think’  You can find Anna on Instagram @annamathur and while you're there, check out Clemmie @clemmie_telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie tackles the topic of trauma with trauma expert, research psychologist, author, coach (and school friend) Dr Sarah Woodhouse, who has created the Freedom Process for women who are ready to look honestly at their past and understand why how and when it’s affecting their life today. Clemmie and Sarah explore trauma, how it impacts on lives and how people can break free from their trauma and live the life they want. Plus they discuss Sarah's own experiences of trauma and how that has impacted her work. Find out more about Sarah, her work and her book - 'You're Not Broken' - at Sarah Woodhouse - Redefining Trauma. And you can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

But Why do we live in fear of menopause? Clemmie chats with author and menstrual expert Maisie Hill about the perimenopause. Constant rage? Longer or shorter cycles? A desire to change your life? Any of these things sound familiar?(errrr yes) Then you could be on heading into perimenopause! And if that's you, how do you learn to embrace this transition rather than dread it. Maise Hill’s Book: Period Power: ‘ Harness Your Hormones and Get Your Cycle Working For You’ Perimenopause Power: ‘Perimenopause Power: Navigating your hormones on the journey to menopause.’ Motherkind Podcast: During the episode I mention Motherkind podcast hosted by Zoe Blaskey, who talks to leading global experts on the challenges of modern motherhood. It's reassuring, smart and thought provoking. New episode every Thursday. Give it a listen here.  Shameless plug: Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to preorder now. Got any comments, queries or questions? I would love to hear from you on butwhy@clemmietelford.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie chats to journalist and author Natasha Lunn about all things LOVE. The pair discuss: What her biggest learning about love has been? How to find love? The importance of platonic love. What's the main reason love fails? How the idea she had of love when she younger differs from her understand of love? Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ including a ‘But what is love?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this bitesize episode, Clemmie talks luck and serendipity with Dr Christian Busch, who is the bestselling author of Connect the Dots: The Art & Science of Creating Good Luck, and an internationally known expert in the areas of innovation, purpose-driven leadership, and serendipity. Clemmie and Christian explore how we can make our own luck, how embracing the unexpected can lead to a more fulfilling life, and how there might actually be science behind serendipity. Christian is the director of the CGA Global Economy Program at New York University (NYU), and also teaches at the London School of Economics (LSE). His work has been featured by outlets such as the Strategic Management Journal, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, The Guardian, Washington Post, and the BBC. He is a regular speaker at conferences such as the World Economic Forum, TEDx, and Financial Times Summit, and is a member of the World Economic Forum's (WEF) Expert Forum, a Fellow of the Royal Society of Arts, and on the Thinkers50 Radar list of the 30 thinkers "most likely to shape the future." Find him on Twitter: @ChrisSerendip. You can also find Clemmie on Instragram @Clemmie_Telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For this week's trip into the But Why archives, we go back to June 2021 when Clemmie chatted to Helen Thorne, one half of the Scummy Mummies about life in the aftermath of the breakdown of her marriage. Helen and her husband separated just days before the country went into lockdown in March 2020 and in this episode Helen chats openly about navigating heartbreak, the power of friendship, rediscovering dating and the huge pride she has for her children. It's a frank, raw and occasionally humorous episode. Resources: Helen has written a brilliant book about her experience. ‘Get Divorced Be Happy’ is available to preorder now. On a previous episode of Honestly Clemmie spoke to divroce lawyer Sarah Langford about the legal process. Listen to it here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're trawling the But Why archives and bringing you some of the best bits from the last 100+ episodes. And this week we head back to April 2021 when Clemmie welcomed author and menstrual expert Maisie Hill to the pod to ask 'Why do we live in fear of menopause? Constant rage? Longer or shorter cycles? A desire to change your life? Any of these things sound familiar?(errrr yes) Then you could be on heading into perimenopause! And if that's you, how do you learn to embrace this transition rather than dread it. And you can start by listening to this epsiode! Maise Hill’s Book: Period Power: ‘ Harness Your Hormones and Get Your Cycle Working For You’ Perimenopause Power: ‘Perimenopause Power: Navigating your hormones on the journey to menopause.’ Motherkind Podcast: During the episode they mention Motherkind podcast hosted by Zoe Blaskey, who talks to leading global experts on the challenges of modern motherhood. It's reassuring, smart and thought provoking. New episode every Thursday. Give it a listen here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this bitesize episode of But Why, we're heading back to October 2021 when Clemmie chatted to clinical psychologist and certified psycho-sexologist and author Dr Karen Gurney - aka @thesexdoctor - all about sex. The pair discuss: Redefining what we mean by ‘sex’. Whether we judge our sex lives by unrealistic standards? How to define what ‘good sex’ is Research around oral sex and the sexual scripts that surround it. The orgasm gap. What stands in the way of great sex in long term relationships. For more podcast content follow @butwhy_podcast on Instagram and you can find Clemmie on there too @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode Clemmie explores the Ebola crisis in Sierra Leone with consultant obstetrician and gynaecologist Benjamin Black. Benjamin is a specialist advisor to international aid organisations - including Médecins Sans Frontières, specifically on sexual, reproductive and maternal healthcare for populations in times of crisis.  Part of which he documents in his (jaw dropping) first book, Belly Woman: Birth, Blood & Ebola; The Untold Story A call to arms to consider ‘What happens to pregnant women when a humanitarian catastrophe hits? This is acutely significant in February 2023, as the world watches the rescue efforts following the earthquakes in Turkey and Syria. You can get Benjamin's new book here. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie delves into the world of dating with LalalaLetMeExplain, the anonymous relationships expert who charts the highs and lows of modern day dating to give raw and honest advice on topics that people are often too embarrassed or afraid to talk about. Clemmie and her guest tackle dating apps and how dating life has changed. A qualified social worker and dating & relationships educator, LalaLetMeExplain left her 15 year career in the public sector in 2018 to bring her professional knowledge to social media and has a loyal army of 200K. She is also OK Magazine's resident agony aunt AND author of best selling book Block, Delete, Move On. Find Lala on Instagram @lalalaletmeexplain and check out Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie chats to author Liv Thorne about the challenges of solo parenting. The pair discuss: How she reached the decision to have a baby alone. The process of choosing the sperm. What has surprised Liv about it? Hardest part? What it's taught her? How she talks to her son Herb about it. What advice would you go back and give yourself at the beginning of this process? Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ including a section on ‘But how do babies get in Mummies’ tummies?’ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We head back to May 2022 for the second of five bitesize episodes looking back on some the best bits of But Why. In this episode Clemmie looked at family Clemmie looked at family and our relationships with our nearest and dearest with bestselling psychotherapist Julia Samuel. Julia's new book, Every Family Has A Story, analyses a range of common issues including separation, step-relationships, leaving home, trauma and loss, as well as how deeply we are influenced by our families, including the often under-appreciated impact of grandparents and siblings. Find out more about Julia and her books here: Julia Samuel, follow Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast episodes and content @ButWhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's But Why Rewind, we revisit a chat Clemmie had with author Liv Thorne about the challenges of solo parenting. The pair discuss: How she reached the decision to have a baby alone. The process of choosing the sperm. What has surprised Liv about it? Hardest part? What it's taught her? How she talks to her son Herb about it. What advice would you go back and give yourself at the beginning of this process? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's back to November 2021 for the third of five bitesize episodes looking back on some the best bits of But Why. In this episode Clemmie looked at sobriety with author, journalist and founder of The Sober Girls Society, Millie Gooch. The pair discuss: Booze culture in the UK. Deciding to give up alcohol and the utter joy that it brings. Opting to use the word ‘sober’ and why Advice for anyone who is sober curious How not drinking alcohol relates to Millie's relationship break up. Follow Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast episodes and content @ButWhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Clemmie talks to author Bryony Gordon about her recovery journey. In the last year there is rumoured have been 1700% increase in the google search ‘Am I an alcoholic?’ It seems more people are questioning their relationship with alcohol.  The pair dig into the question ‘But why is the word sober so loaded?’. Share their individual experiences of giving up alcohol and also explain why sobriety feels like such a gift.  Bryony has written tones of amazing books. But on the theme of this episode, check out ‘Glorious Rock Bottom’ Resources: ‘Me? I Don’t Drink Any More’ - Clemmie wrote a piece for Mother of All Lists when she first gave up drinking.  Brene Brown on Sobriety Sober Girls Society Book ‘Sober Diaries’ by Clare Pooley Love Yourself Sober by Mandy Manners& Kate Bailey For Help & Support: Alcohol Change Alcoholics Anonymous Al Anon for Families of Alcoholics Contact: Do you have a But Why? You’d like discussed? Or maybe you just want to say hi. Whatever the reason get in touch on butwhy@clemmietelford.com Shameless plug: Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to preorder now. It includes a section on ‘But Why do adults get drunk and what does it mean?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Joining Clemmie this week for some nosy business chat is founder of Bird and Blend Tea, Krisi Smith. Krisi is the mixologist extordinare behind best selling tea brand Bird and Blend which started out as just one store in the Brighton lanes and has now expanded to 15 across UK high streets. Krisi and Clemmie chat through all the highs and lows of building the brand, from packing tea orders in a bedroom at the beginning, to re-branding and even working alongside your ex-husband (!). This chat will really inspire you to just go for it, and to try more flavours of tea! Meet the Founder Listeners can get 15% off Bird and Blend Tea with the code BUTWHY15 (one time use only). Follow Bird and Blend Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Stepping into the Meet the Founder hot seat this week is editor in chief of Stylist magazine, Lisa Smosarski. After working as an editor for a number of other successful women’s magazines Lisa was asked to take the helm and launch Stylist in 2009, and since then it’s become a household name. Lisa shares some of her trickiest decisions and early mistakes, from early editorial mistakes to being aware of a changing cultural landscape in order to best reflect the content she’s putting out. Clemmie and Lisa even take a trip down memory lane and re-live some of their own memories from building their own careers in the noughties. Read Stylist Follow Lisa Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Clemmie talks SHAME with Sunday Times bestselling author and social media sensation Laura Belbin who found fame with her social media accounts and blog 'Knee Deep in Life', which were started after she suffered from chronic depression. Laura uses her social media and comedic talent to challenge issues and stereotypes around shame, body image, mental health, parenting and much more. Her latest book is called "No Shame: How to drop the guilt … from some who’s learned the f**king hard way." Check out Laura on Instagram @knee_deep_in_life and buy her book here. You can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie explores happiness, or maybe contentment....or should that be joy? Either way, her guest is one of her mum's faves, and two-time Brit award winner Will Young. Will shot to fame in 2002 after winning the first series of Pop Idol. He has released seven albums, four of which hit Number One in the UK charts, and he has 10 million record sales and two Brit Awards to his name.   But that's just the tip of the iceberg. Will is a leading voice in mental-health awareness. His highly acclaimed book 'To be a Gay Man' explored mental-health awareness, particularly within the LGBTQ+ community with a focus on gay shame. He has a podcast - ‘The Wellbeing Lab’ - where he interviews experts on different mental health topics each week, AND his second book ‘Be Yourself Only Happier’ is released imminently. In this episode Clemmie finds out what makes Will happy and what steps he's taken in his life to ensure he stays that way. Plus they do not talk about dry stone walling. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and Will @willyoungofficial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie looks at conscious parenting with therapist Dr Shefali Tsabary PhD, who is the author of four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. Her latest book - The Parenting Map - is "a comprehensive, fail-safe, whole-family programme designed to help both adults and children heal and thrive." Specialising in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, Dr Shefali brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development and runs a private practice in New York City. Dr Shefali is also a keynote speaker who has presented at TEDx, Kellogg Business School, the Dalai Lama Center for Peace and Education and other conferences and workshops around the world. She’s been featured on Oprah Winfrey’s SuperSoul Sunday and Oprah’s Lifeclass. Visit her website www.drshefali.com or follow her on Instagram, TikTok and Facebook @doctorshefali. You can also find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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In this episode Clemmie explores the challenges and causes of anxiety with psychiatrist, acupuncturist, and yoga teacher Dr Ellen Vora, who specialises in depression, anxiety, insomnia, women's mental health, adult ADHD, bipolar, autoimmunity and digestive issues. She also wrote The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body's Fear Response. Ellen takes a functional medicine approach to mental health, considering the whole person and addressing imbalance at the root, and she and Clemmie cover all that and more in this episode including the impact of diet and alcohol on anxiety. It's the episode Clemmie wishes a younger Clemmie had been able to listen to! Check out Ellen's work at Ellen Vora, MD - A new approach to mental health and find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices