One of Heather’s Youtube playlists with similar content:

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS4dHEiq5weEC9MnfQcJe7SP 

In this episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, host Heather Shannon and returning guest Dr. Kate Balistrieri delve into the number one most common sexual fantasy—threesomes. The discussion covers essential considerations such as identifying personal and collective fantasies, setting boundaries and communication strategies, and how to find a sex-positive community. They also explore practical advice for single individuals and couples contemplating a threesome, emphasizing the importance of clear communication, consent, and safety. Kate and Heather provide insights into managing expectations, handling emotions like jealousy, and ensuring positive experiences. The conversation highlights the importance of inclusivity, mutual respect, and thoughtful engagement in exploring group sex dynamics.

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Dr. Kate Balistrieri’s website: https://www.modernintimacy.com/dr-kate-balestrieri-sex-therapist/

Dr. Kate Balistrieri’s Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@drkatebalestrieri?lang=en 

Dr. Kate Balistrieri’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/?hl=en 

Heather and Kate’s first podcast episode together: https://youtu.be/AX2nXH01ho4

Book an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ 

Feeling stuck with sex? Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather! --> Intimacy Breakthrough Session Booking Link

Join us for a special episode with Heather's clients! Lauren and Megan "graduated" from Heather's Intimacy Infusion coaching program and they spill the tea on what it was like going from feeling stuck and frustrated to feeling excited, empowered and connected.

APPLY FOR A FREE 45-minute Intimacy Insight Session with Heather to learn the top 3 things you need to work on to get the sex life you want → https://calendly.com/hshann1/insight 

IN THIS EPISODE OF ASK A SEX THERAPIST . . .

We dive into the fascinating intersection of AI, the metaverse, and the future of sex tech. Heather shares her intrigue with artificial intelligence and how it has the potential to distort our perception of self and reality.

Joel Comm joins Heather to add a futurist and technology perspective to what relationships and sex may look like in the upcoming years. Joel is a New York Times best-selling author with 14 multiple books under his belt. He is also the host of three podcasts, including The Bad AI Show, The Bad Crypto Podcast and The Nifty Show. He is an expert on cryptocurrency and the metaverse.

In this episode, Heather and Joel discuss the growing concern of voice manipulation and the potential risks it poses. They highlight how scammers can use AI technology to deceive individuals, by faking voices to mimic loved ones and what you can do to make sure you don’t get fooled by deep fake technology.

But it's not all doom and gloom. Heather and Joel also explore the exciting possibilities that AI brings to the realm of sex tech. They delve into OpenAI's groundbreaking model, Chat GPT and discuss how AI technology can be harnessed by sex tech companies like Replika, to simulate human intimacy and intimate experiences. They touch on the advancement of sex robots and the potential for wearable technology that can provide pleasurable sensations.

Additionally, Heather and Joel explore the role of virtual reality (VR) in connecting with others. They highlight how VR allows for immersive experiences and real-time interactions through apps like Alt Space and VR chat. Though it may not replicate physical presence entirely, VR provides a new and improved way to connect in a long-distance relationship.

Join us on this thought-provoking episode as Heather and Joel explore the potential and implications of AI, the metaverse, and the future of sex tech.

TIME STAMPS

[00:00:02] AI and technology's impact on relationships.

[00:07:49] Proton mail offers secure suite of tools. Brave browser for privacy.

[00:10:33] AI model scours internet, creates understanding.

[00:16:32] Impressive image generatora like Midjourney can mimic any style.

[00:18:46] Finding the clitoris: A Dr. Seuss-style poem.

[00:21:13] AI replicating voices raises ethical concerns.

[00:34:37] Advancing technology brings lighter, non-VR headsets.

[00:39:02] VR allows for virtual connection and interaction.

[00:41:50] Advancements in sex toy technology and intimacy.

[00:44:06] Degrees of intimacy with oneself vary.

[00:46:46] Experienced online business veteran available for contact.

EPISODE LINKS

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FIND JOEL COMM HERE:

Joel’s Website - https://joelcomm.com/

The Bad Crypto Podcast -

Sometimes, it’s your thought process that is making you resist the good things from happening in your life.  What you think, you create!  When we're thinking negative thoughts, we're going to feel negatively, as well. Our thoughts and beliefs can greatly influence our reality, and this can also apply to our experiences in sex, love, and dating.  This can include attracting a loving and fulfilling relationship, or improving the connection and intimacy in an existing one.

In this episode, I will be giving my insights on how manifesting,  setting clear intentions and focusing on positive outcomes can help boost self-confidence and attract positive energy. So I invite you to feel curious and listen to the very end. 

What you’ll learn:

• What is the Law of Attraction and how does it relate to our thoughts
• If our thoughts are creating reality for us, should we then work better on our thoughts
• My personal story back during my college days, and how I was able to shift later on in life about how I think about myself
• Find out what causes you to resist positive results in your life and how to get out of it
• How do you practice manifesting something that you want? (...What are the results you want to create?) 

Resources:

FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDE

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 "Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill 

EPISODE RESOURCES MENTIONED:

How to Feel Sexy

The Get Coached Model Guide from the Life Coach School

Grab your freebies here

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In this episode, join Certified Sex Therapist and Certified Gottman Therapist, Dr. Heidi A. Sauder, and I for a fun primer on incorporating more adventure into your sex life . . . and even on talking to your kids about sex!

Heidi has written a practical and fun workbook called Adventures In Sex (endorsed by Dr John Gottman from the Gottman Institute) that will help you become your own sexpert. We'll discuss the importance of open conversations about sex, the impact of communication and education on relationships, and the various transitions that occur in our sex lives.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:

- How to start conversations around sex and sexuality

- The importance of incorporating novelty in your sex life, especially in a long-term relationship

- How to explore new ways to enhance self-pleasure.

- Using this workbook to educate your teens about sexuality and their bodies.

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website & Free Gifts - https://HeatherShannon.co/Freebies

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOw

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Learn more about Dr. Heidi Sauder's group practice - https://enrichcenter.org/staff/heidi-a-sauder-ph-d

Grab your copy of Adventures in Sex: Journaling to Create Desire, Passion, Romance...and a Fun Sex Life - https://amzn.to/3Rye1q0

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039 - Male Bisexuality and Being a Boyslut with Zachary Zane https://pod.fo/e/1e36be

043 Exploring Findom Kinks with Dr Kate Balestrieri - https://pod.fo/e/1ecfaa

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Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method.

This episode focuses on how to embrace being a more dominant partner in sexual scenarios. It covers different dominance styles, such as goddess worship and leadership dynamics, and emphasizes the importance of creating a safe, consensual 'container' for dominant-submissive play. Key points include negotiating roles and time frames, experimenting with clothing and implements, and the necessity of safe words for both physical and emotional comfort. The episode aims to inspire viewers to explore power exchange dynamics responsibly while ensuring mutual satisfaction and open communication.

• 00:00 Introduction to Dominance
• 00:35 Understanding Dominant Vibes
• 01:21 Personal Experience with Dominance
• 01:59 Exploring Different Dynamics
• 04:35 Creating the Container
• 04:59 Role Play and Safe Words
• 11:18 Communicating Boundaries and Desires
• 13:35 Conclusion and Further Resources

WORK WITH HEATHER:

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Episode 13 - Is monogamy realistic? https://pod.fo/e/166e5e 

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Show Summary

In this delightful episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist," I interview the legendary Dr. Betty Martin about the magical realms of mindful touch and the captivating Wheel of Consent. And she makes me cry, LOL! 🥹

🌟 Dr. Martin shares her experiences and teachings from decades of touching people. As we explore her book The Art of Receiving and Giving, let's explore a place where boundaries are respected, desires are honored, and pleasure is celebrated. 🌈

Join us as we learn about the transformative power of intentional touch and the art of giving and receiving with openness and authenticity. Your sex life is about to get a major upgrade!🌺

What You'll Learn:

🛞 Discover the concept of "the Wheel of Consent" and its profound impact on understanding giving and receiving in physical touch.

🤗Uncover the dynamics of touch within relationships through the lens of Dr. Betty Martin's insightful quadrants - serve, accept, take, and allow.

🙏 Learn how past conditioning and experiences can hinder our ability to ask for what we want and embrace our desires with confidence.

⏳ Explore the transformative potential of the "Three Minute Game" in healing past wounds and building trust in setting boundaries and expressing needs.

💡 Gain insights into the importance of non-sexual touch and affection in fostering intimacy and connection in relationships. 💫

✨ Press play for some essential knowledge when it comes to sensuality, sex and touch! 🎧💖

Time Stamps

00:00 Wheel of consent: A recurring, focused practice.

04:02 Difficulty in receiving limits our ability to give.

11:01 The wheel of consent: 2 questions, 3 minutes.

17:49 Learning to notice and accept personal boundaries.

26:54 Touch is a primary human need, not sex.

30:20 Interpreting body language and its impact. Matrix design.

33:18 Setting boundaries during physical intimacy conversation.

37:06 Realizing my eroticism belongs to me.

39:05 Chiropractic office transitioned to interactive sex coaching.

43:39 Grateful for amazing work on the wheel.

Heather's Links

Heather's Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Book a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call, grab Heather's freebies, check out podcast transcripts and more!

Podcast Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Join the broadcast channel to vote on podcast topics!

Leave a voicemail question for our next Listner Q & A episode or give podcast feedback for Heather - https://HeatherShannon.co/podcast

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Dr Betty Martin's Links

Dr Martin's Website - https://bettymartin.org/

Wheel of Consent Book Website - https://wheelofconsentbook.com/ Grab a free chapter!

Themes and Keywords

Dr. Betty Martin, sacred intimate, surrogate partner, safety concerns, wheel of consent, workshops for sexuality professionals, boundaries, limits, physical intimacy, non-sexual touch, cuddling, making out, sexual acts, pleasure, intimacy, body positivity, somatic sex educator, communication, asking for what you want, past conditioning, verbalizing desires, challenges, transitions, eroticism, vulnerability, integrity.

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/

Premature Ejaculation & Sex Addiction Myths: The Truth About Male Sexual Health with Sex Therapist Seth Taylor, LMFT

Most men have been misled about sexual performance, from unrealistic expectations around lasting longer to harmful myths about "sex addiction." In this episode, Heather Shannon sits down with Seth Taylor, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in men’s sexual health, to set the record straight.

They discuss the real causes of premature ejaculation (PE), effective treatments, and why the term "sex addiction" is controversial among sex therapists. Plus, they explore the shame-free approach to out-of-control sexual behavior (OCSB) and how it differs from traditional addiction models.

If you or your partner experience PE, erectile dysfunction (ED), or compulsive sexual behaviors, this episode will help you understand the root causes and practical steps to regain confidence in your sex life.

00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Introduction

01:30 Meet Seth Taylor: Specializing in men’s sexual health

03:00 What is premature ejaculation? Clinical definitions & myths

08:45 Why most men have unrealistic expectations about lasting longer

12:30 The psychological causes of PE: Anxiety, shame and trauma

18:00 Effective treatments: Medication, therapy and pelvic floor work

22:45 What is out-of-control sexual behavior (OCSB)?

30:00 The problem with "sex addiction" & why language matters

40:30 How to overcome shame and build a healthy relationship with sex

50:00 Final thoughts and where to find Seth

WORK WITH HEATHER

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  

LET’S CONNECT! Find warmth HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website: https://HeatherShannon.co 

Heather’s Instagram: https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube: Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  

Heather’s Pathway to Passion: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway 

Heather’s Courses: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Heather’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc 

Connect with Seth Taylor:

Email: setht@holisticcft.com

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Come As You Are Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1982165316?

🤗 Are you ready to expand your understanding of intimacy beyond the bedroom? In this cozy episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, Heather shares her personal journey of attending her very first cuddle party! Wrap yourself up in the knowledge that not all closeness needs to be about sex, discover how platonic touch can open doors to greater intimacy, and learn about the fascinating dynamics of cuddle parties. Whether you're flying solo or navigating relationships, there's something in this episode to warm everyone's heart. Tune in and embrace a world where consent is king and connection is queen. 🛋️

Listen now to embrace the warmth of non-sexual intimacy and learn how cuddle parties are creating a new space for consent and connection!

What you'll learn in this episode:

- The underestimated power of platonic intimacy

- Defining cuddle parties and how they differ from play parties

- Tips on negotiating personal boundaries and practicing consent

- The draw of cuddle parties for a diverse crowd, including those interested in non-monogamy

- How cuddle parties can serve as a space for personal growth and self-discovery

Timestamps:

- [00:03:24] Explaining what a cuddle party is and how it functions

- [00:04:47] Distinction between cuddle parties and play parties

- [00:06:10] The attractiveness of cuddle parties to those seeking connection

- [00:07:18] The personal growth element of attending such events

- [00:09:13] Building the safe container of a cuddle party

- [00:21:08] How asking for consent can transform interactions

Listen to this heartwarming exploration of non-sexual intimacy and learn how to add a touch of consensual coziness to your life! 🎧

Hey there, lovely listeners! 🌸 In this episode, we're getting real and addressing the tricky topic of self-consciousness during sex. Whether you're worried about your body, technique, or just feeling like a complete beginner, we've got you covered. Join me as we unpack what self-consciousness really looks like in the bedroom and uncover actionable steps to boost your confidence and fully enjoy your intimate moments. Let's kick those insecurities to the curb and embrace owning our authentic selves! 💪

In this episode, you'll learn:

- How to recognize signs of self-consciousness during sex

- The impact of cultural ideals on body image and sexual confidence

- Practical steps for finding inspiration and building confidence

- Unpacking limiting beliefs and exploring their impact on sexual experiences

- Understanding the importance of addressing emotional blocks for a fulfilling sex life

Ready to take charge and transform your sexual experiences? Tune in now to the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast! 🎧

00:00 Late night episode discussing self-consciousness during sex.

04:00 Overanalyzing can emphasize insecurities and self-consciousness.

06:44 Finding and appreciating your favorite flavors and partners.

12:25 Acceptance and compassion for body image struggles.

15:25 Challenge thoughts, change experience, unpack stories, notice.

17:27 Heather’s story of overcoming fear of public speaking in college.

19:51 Podcast email available, upcoming episodes with guests.

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"Don't let fear, guilt, or shame keep you from connecting with your original sexual essence and experiencing more pleasure." ~Tilly Storm

TILLY’S BIO:

This week's guest, Tilly Storm, is a certified sex and intimacy coach, using deep transformational tools to help high achieving men and women experience epic sex and pleasure. She is the host of the Multiorgasmic Millionaire podcast and has been recognized as one of the top 20 sex coaches in the world.

Growing up Southern Baptist in New Orleans, Tilly Storm was shamed for walking out of the bathroom naked at the age of 6. This led to a lifetime of guilt and shame around sex and her body. Tilly eventually found the jade egg practice, and within two months, the guilt and shame was gone. She then dedicated herself to coaching and helping others go through their own religious trauma and reconnect with their inner sex goddess. Now, Tilly teaches her clients how to complete stress cycles and feel into emotions, allowing them to show up authentically in sex and relationships.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

1. How to Heal and Integrate Sexual Shame, Guilt, and Fear

2. Understanding the Impact of Religious Trauma on Sex and Relationships

3. Discovering the Power of Self Pleasure Practices and Embodiment Work

LINKS & RESOURCES:

Book a no pressure $1 discovery call with Heather (to learn about potentially working with her as a coach!) https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website https://HeatherShannon.co/

Heather’s Instagram http://Instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group https://m.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717/?ref=share&mibextid=kdkkhi

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! http://youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

FIND OUT MORE ABOUT OUR GUEST, TILLY STORM: 

Tilly’s free 5-days to Epic Sex and Pleasure training - https://www.tillystorm.com/5daytraining

The Multiorgasmic Millionaire Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-multiorgasmic-millionaire/id1323538015

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Fucked Up Ideas About Sex https://pod.fo/e/15d294

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Consensual sex is important because it allows partners to start a sexual encounter from a foundation of trust and respect. 

Everyone should have the final say in making decisions about their own bodies and sexual experiences.

Not only does great communication about consent help to prevent sexual violence and abuse, it actually allows partners to relax and let go more knowing that they are safe. 

It's this letting go & freedom that make consent sexy AF.   

What you’ll learn:

• The definition of consent
• Why R.A.C.K. (Risk Aware, Consensual Kink) is important
• Why pestering and pressuring are not okay
• What to do when there’s pressure or pestering about sex
• Factors to consider with consent in longer term relationships 
• Navigating consent when there’s a power dynamic involved
• The importance of enthusiastic consent regardless of gender

Resources:

Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network - https://www.rainn.org/

Resources:

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What's your most fucked up idea about sex? 

This week, I'll talk about the myths, lies, and fucked up ideas about sex, people's sex lives, choices and preferences. I invite you to join me on a quest to rip off the negative labels our culture loves to cling to sex. I share my views on the health benefits of being sexually active, gender identity, BDSM and kink, sex work, and much more. 

What You'll Learn:

• What sex positivity and sex negativity are, and how they affect our behavior
• Some benefits of sex that we are not aware of
• Which beliefs can turn sex into a chore
• Why there is so much confusion about gender identity
• Why people feel BDSM is scary, violent, or not a form of loving sex
• What options there are for those who think monogamy is not for them
• Why most of us feel sex is bad and immoral

Almost all the information and knowledge we have about sex has been handed to us, whether by religion, cultural environment, the education system or our family. Most of us accepted them as the truth, and created a meaning and a purpose for sex based on those ideas. It won't do any harm to revise that knowledge, get curious, and build our own conception of sex and what it represents in our lives. 

Resources:

• Justin Lehmiller - Tell Me What You Want

FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDE

CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?

Book a discovery call ⤵️

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In celebration of Pride month, let's explore the concepts of queerness and questioning. In this episode, Heather questions the usefulness of labels and expertly navigates the topic of "Am I Queer?" Through personal anecdotes, Heather explores how sexuality can be fluid and how cultural biases can impact one's sexual identity. Whether identifying as queer, lesbian, bicurious or genderfluid, listeners are encouraged to question their own sexual identity, and to explore their motivations for sex too.

This episode is about questioning everything we've ever been taught about sexual identity, increasing consciousness around sex and breaking free from the matrix of who we "should" be. You won't want to miss out on this thought-provoking episode, and be sure to follow the show for more enlightening discussions on sex and relationships with Certified Sex Therapist, Heather Shannon.

Listen in for:

• How we define "queer"
• The pros & cons of choosing labels
• Why it's important not to get too attached to a sexual identity
• Heather's personal exploration of labels, social biases and queerness

Timestamps:

[00:00:01] Questioning Identity: Am I Queer?

[00:03:52] Navigating Fluid Sexuality and Non-Binary Relationships

[00:07:28] Exploring gray areas of queerness

[00:10:54] Culture and Bisexuality

[00:14:21] Fluidity and Queerness in Society

[00:17:45] The Pros and Cons of Labeling Yourself

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a no-pressure $1 discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

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Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOw

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

Episode 28 BDSM, Play Parties & Queer Sexuality with Kesiena Boom -

Episode 19 Listener Sex Questions - 

Episode 6 Fucked Up Ideas About Sex - 

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Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com to claim your prize!

🎧 Hey there, curious minds! Are you wondering if you're simply blessed with a high libido or if you have a sex or porn addiction? Or maybe you've been wondering if your partner's porn behavior is healthy. Today, I unpack the differences between having a healthy, high sex drive and what it looks like when things turn into a compulsion.

I'll also sprinkle in some tips on how to balance that fiery drive without letting it take over your life. This is one episode will finally offer you clarity on what is problematic and what is simply hot and spicy. 🌶️

Tune in to Discover:

- The difference between a high libido and sex addiction

- How to identify if sexual behaviors are interfering with your life

- The role of shame and stigma in compulsive behaviors

- The benefits of self-acceptance and open communication

- Treatment options and resources for those who need it

Time Stamps:

00:00 Intro to podcast and today's topic

04:40 Physical health and mental well-being affect sex drive.

08:54 Understanding sexual needs, communication, and signs of addiction.

11:43 Embracing mindfulness, and a healthy lifestyle.

15:09 Moderate porn consumption can enhance sexuality.

19:02 Using sex or masturbation as stress relief.

20:40 Sex and love addicts Anonymous's dating rule.

24:11 Rehab center options and resources for addiction.

Episode Links:

Heather's Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Book a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call, grab Heather's freebies, check out podcast transcripts and more!

Podcast Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Join the broadcast channel to vote on podcast topics!

Leave a voicemail question for our next Listner Q & A episode or give podcast feedback for Heather - https://HeatherShannon.co/podcast

Submit an anonymous sex question for our next Listener Q & A episode - https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/

Themes and Keywords We Explore

sex addiction, high sex drive, compulsive sexual behavior, sex therapy, porn addiction, certified sex therapist, AASECT, out of control sexual behavior, internal family systems, mindfulness, impulsivity, masturbation, sexual stigma, dopamine, risky behavior, emotional dysregulation, 12-step groups, SMART recovery, sex therapists, rehab centers, sexual validation.

This week's guest is Kimmy Seltzer. She is a confidence therapist, authentic dating strategist and image expert. With vast knowledge and experience as a therapist, certified style coach, dating coach and matchmaker, Kimmy has helped people find lasting love and connection, attract success, and build valuable relationships using her unique competence makeover process. Listen to the full episode to learn more about the importance of combining emotional work into the body and what is the biggest thing that stops people from putting themselves out there.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The three pillars of flirting
• The importance of body language for men and women
• How your wardrobe choices can help you feel confident from the outside in!
• Dressing for your body and personality type.

LINKS & RESOURCES:

Book a no pressure $1 discovery call with Heather (to learn about potentially working with her as a coach!)

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website

Heather’s Instagram

Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!

FIND OUT MORE ABOUT OUR GUEST,  KIMMY SELTZER: 

WEBSITE

Chat with Kimmy

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders

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How to Feel Sexy

The Libido Issue

The Sexual Placebo

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Join Heather as she speaks with Alexandra Harbushka, the founder of "Life with Herpes," a supportive community aimed at shattering the stigma surrounding herpes. Alexandra shares her personal story with herpes, how she got over the stigma and how she got SO FREE of shame and stigma that she turned it into a public-facing career helping others! 

In this episode, you will learn:

• Why even married/monogamous people need to know about Herpes. 
• Testing for Herpes isn't automatic when you get an STI panel--how to get checked!
• Why Herpes is more of a nuisance and really isn't the end of the world (and we need to stop stigmatizing it).
• How common HSV 1 and HSV 2 are and where in the body each strain can be located. 
• Smart precautions to take and factoids to help you be more risk-aware.

LINKS & RESOURCES:

Book a no pressure $1 discovery call with Heather (to learn about potentially working with her as a coach!)

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website

Heather’s Instagram

Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!

WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT ALEXANDRA AND HER LIFE WITH HERPES COMMUNITY?

Alexandra's Website

The Secret Society (Herpes Support Community)

21-page Guide on Herpes w/8 Natural Remedies

Alexandra's YouTube Channel

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Join Heather in this insightful episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, as she delves into Part 3 of the Pathway to Passion with mental arousal and its role in enhancing intimacy. Learn about the importance of maintaining a sex journal, sharing fantasies, and using non-verbal signals to communicate your desires. Heather provides valuable advice on both mental and physical foreplay techniques, helping to improve communication and passion in your relationship. Don't miss reflections on her 100th episode and exciting future plans!

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Get Heather’s Free “Spicing It Up” Guide! https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/spice

Join Beducated to learn about different types of sex and get inspired ideas! You’ll get a free 24-hour trial to explore the platform before you’re charged and 40% off the annual membership when you use this link. Give it a try–your sex life will thank you! https://beducated.com/?ref=ntg1m2y&utm_source=tapfiliate&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=affiliate&utm_content=ntg1m2y

Pathway to Passion Part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0NbcJsKfZTo

Pathway to Passion Part 2: https://youtu.be/k8wNbLr0_-4?si=wxahjgaLTTNEL4hC

Ep. 94: How to Have a Threesome with Dr. Kate Balistrieri: https://youtu.be/UAa-U-vePPY?si=8zWQUKJoISLXN7Bj

Ep. 78: Exploring Sexual Fantasies with Artemisia De Vine: https://youtu.be/zitVG--ZDPA?si=XapPPDbG9QFSc0pc

Similar Youtube Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS4L45VVvN_gm4WfiVPozk-S&si=gHE-1WO9DRihn8bX

LET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:

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Freebies Page

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Not seeing hyperlinks? Visit HeatherShannon.co for all the info above.

Announcements:

Book an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ 

In this heartfelt and candid episode, Heather shares her personal journey and challenges surrounding emotional availability and romantic relationships. Inspired by love coach Sean Golanos and his own confessions, she discusses her experiences and realizations through various phases of her life—from her 20s to her current early 40s. Heather delves into her past relationships, the impact of her parents' marriage on her views on commitment, and her exploratory phase in dating. She emphasizes the importance of aligning with one's true self and setting healthy boundaries while navigating the complex terrain of love and intimacy. 

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Book a Consultation with Intern Grace: https://calendly.com/grace_teacherbyrd/15min 

Similar Youtube Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5VV19FKHRQc&list=PLNk9UKFYOfS5uUNH6CAqYmfLRGx_VsLLl&pp=iAQB 

Interested in working with Heather? Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/

Unlocking Passion: The Link Between Emotional Intimacy and Fulfilling Sex

In this episode, we delve into the critical role emotional intimacy plays in a fulfilling sex life. Drawing from personal experiences and client work, we discuss the importance of resolving emotional barriers to enhance sexual connection. Learn how feeling truly seen, understood, and safe with your partner can ignite your sexual energy. Discover actionable steps to build emotional intimacy, including creating a secure space for honest communication and understanding the connection between physical and emotional vulnerability. Tune in for insights that can transform your relational dynamics for the better.

00:00 Introduction to Emotional Intimacy and Sex

00:43 The Role of Emotional Intimacy in a Fulfilling Sex Life

01:59 Understanding the Brakes and Gas Pedals of Sex Drive

04:27 Vulnerability: The Link Between Emotional and Physical Intimacy

11:33 Building Emotional Intimacy: Practical Tips

20:08 Honest Communication and Its Importance

23:08 Conclusion and Next Steps

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

Heather’s Pathway to Passion- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway

Heather’s Courses- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Heather’s Amazon Storefront- https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc

Come As You Are Book https://www.amazon.com/dp/1982165316?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzheat0ce5-20&creativeASIN=1982165316&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.29BK4OTJWL4UF&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ofs_mixed_d_asin

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Ep. 7: The Libido Issue | Ask A Sex Therapist Podcast https://youtu.be/hEvbEHqIfA8?si=96gr_czHjWoynwvz

Ep. 118 Are You Navigating Different Libidos in Relationships? Top Tips for Connection https://youtu.be/dI0mElkmPAw

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After hearing from a few men “Nice guys finish last–maybe I should start being a dick and women will like me!” Heather decided it was time to set the record straight. 

Join Heather and her guest Matt Artisan for this discussion on reframing the way we think about approaching other people, flirting and being confident. Matt is an award-winning dating coach who has appeared on Netflix, ABC News Nightline, Fox and more and who has been coaching men for over a decade in over 40 countries. In this episode, Matt gets into his own journey with being socially anxious and how he overcame it not once, but TWICE! 

Matt encourages men to take action and get out of their comfort zone in order to get results. They also discuss how to equalize the playing field when it comes to sexual attraction, how to be confident without money, looks, or muscles, and how experiential coaching and therapy can help people shift their thought patterns. Finally, Matt provides tips on how men can be more confident and brave when interacting with women.

Heather and Matt also discuss the culture of pickup artists and how authenticity wins out in the end. 

TIMESTAMPS

(00:00:02) Owning Your Flaws

(00:05:46) Instant Dates

(00:10:50) Avoiding "Nice Guy" Syndrome

(00:16:23) Developing Core Confidence

(00:22:00) Improving Confidence

(00:27:16) Attractive Masculinity

(00:32:28) Masculine-Feminine Polarity

(00:37:57) Attracting Women



EPISODE LINKS

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free no-pressure discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOw

CONNECT WITH MATT ARTISAN:

Matt’s Website - https://TheAttractiveMan.com

Matt’s Instgram - https://www.instagram.com/mattartisan 

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

Episode 18 - Dating, Makeovers & Confidence from the Outside-In with Kimmy Seltzer - https://pod.fo/e/16fa44 

Episode 9 - How to Feel Sexy - https://pod.fo/e/15f72a 

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As most of us have realized by now, sex education is sorely lacking in the US and most of the rest of the world! What we learn from most religions is a sex negative message—that there are a lot of rules about who you can have sex with, when you can have sex with them and what kind of sex acts are ok. Schools typically try to scare us into abstinence with talks about STIs and unwanted pregnancy. And then add in legislation in the US that targets LGBTQ people and women in a way that makes sex and love more difficult. 

It’s no wonder we’ve got some baggage around this topic, huh? 

If you’re ready to drop your sex-negative suitcases in the trash and relearn intimacy from a sex-positive perspective, listen in!

In this episode you’ll learn:

• Ways in which Heather (and maybe you too!) experienced sex-negativity in her upbringing
• The beginner’s mind: Wiping the slate clean of sex-negativity
• Building your own sex-positive belief set and putting it into practice. 
• Self-Coaching Model of Life Coach School: How to apply thought work to create change in your sex life

Resources:

FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDE

Self Coaching Model - The Life Coach School

CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?

Book a $1 consultation call 

Resources Mentioned:

Life Coach School - Self Coaching Model (Thought Work)

LET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:

Website

Instagram

Join the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group

Twitter

YouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)

LinkedIn

Ever wondered what it's like to flip the switch and explore your deepest desires? 💋 In Episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist", we get up close and personal with Layla London, the woman behind the curiousgirldiaries.com. After years of putting her sexuality on the backburner to focus on other areas of life, Layla decided to fan the flames of her sexual sparks and embark on a sensual exploration. And boy, what a ride it's been! 🎢 From trying out a sex bucket list to uncovering the true meaning of connection, she shares it all. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

- The importance of reflecting on the roles of masculinity and femininity in relationships 💑 

- The truth about dominance - it's not all about the money, honey! 💰🚫

- The beauty of exploring your sexual bucket list to uncover unexpected desires 📝💖

- The necessity of boundaries, consent, and open communication in any romantic relationship 🗨️👂

- Layla's take on why focusing on your partner's happiness doesn't equate to being submissive or subservient 🥰

Ready for an honesty-packed episode to shake up your views on intimacy, power, and personal growth? Get cozy and hit that play button. You're in for a treat! 🎧🌟

Time Stamps:

06:25 Not prioritizing and neglecting important aspect of life leads to lack of results. Need to put time and effort into it like other areas of life.

11:05 Maintaining authenticity, honesty, and anonymity in explicit storytelling.

14:20 Feeling disconnected, unsure why, afraid of making others miserable.

21:51 Feminist issues can be exhausting, making enough decisions in the day is tiring.

27:48 Layla reflects on hrt experiences with various men and gains a new appreciation for them.

30:21 Many good guys want to find good women, but communication has become impersonal and confusing. Men adapt well though.

36:15 A roadmap helps steer the ship and stay focused, leading to unexpected discoveries.

CONNECT WITH LAYLA LANDON:

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/TheCuriousGirlLayla 

Follow her on X - https://x.com/@thecurious_girl

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/the_curiousgirldiaries/ 

Watch on her YT Channel - https://www.youtube.com/@thecuriousgirldiaries

Listen to her podcast - https://thecuriousgirldiaries.mykajabi.com/podcasts/the-curious-girl-diaries 

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

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Episode Summary

I recently attended a film festival in St Petersburg, FL and saw the film Every Seven by married couple Caitlin Morris and Alex Hanno. The film questions the way marriage is structured and considers an interesting alternative.

After the showing, I invited them to be on the podcast and they said yes! Join us for a thought-provoking conversation about what marriage is, what it isn't and what it could be!

Connect with Alex and Caitlin

Watch Every Seven - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9uDaL78JXbo&t=92s

Caitlin's IG - https://www.instagram.com/sirromcc/

Alex's IG - https://www.instagram.com/alexanderhanno/

Interested in working with me to improve your own relationship and intimacy? Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call! --> https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page

Are you a woman or enby in an ethically non-monogamous relationship and feel like your partner is gung-ho about it and you're struggling? Maybe you're feeling anxious and insecure or your nervous system has gotten hijacked entirely by this new relationship structure. Maybe part of you is curious and wonders what could be in it for you, but you need an emotional connection before you become interested in anyone else. And maybe you're neurodivergent and experience "rejection sensitive dysphoria" where you easily feel like you're not enough. If any of this resonates--reach out about my new "Secure Connections" group program. Shoot me an email at Hello@HeatherShannon.co. Can't wait to talk!

Monogamy? Non-monogamy? Which is the right or wrong choice? 

Monogamy is still the default relationship style for relationships for most cultures in the world. But that doesn’t mean it’s the right one for you. 

Let’s question the default and shed some light on options so you can choose the right path for yourself and your relationships. Because the truth is there isn’t a right or wrong! It’s all about making it a conscious choice instead of an autopilot one. 

What you’ll learn:

• What is the default setting of your relationship style? 
• Monogamy or Non-monogamy: What to choose? (A sex therapist’s experience)
• Exploring the different relationship paths that you can chose from
• What people or couples should consider when diving into non-monogamous relationships

Shit can get real very quickly in a non-monogamous relationship. But at the same time, it promotes growth, open and honest communication, and positive change.

And we can also bring a lot of conscious thoughts and concepts from non-monogamy into our monogamous relationships. 

Resources:

FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDE

CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?

Book a discovery call ⤵️

https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page

EPISODE RESOURCES MENTIONED:

YouTube Episodes About Monogamy & Non-Monogamy with My Friend Peter:

Part 1

Part 2

The Ethical Slut Book

LET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:

Website

Instagram

Join the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group

Twitter

YouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)

LinkedIn

Have feedback on the show or want to ask a sex question for our next listener Q & A? Email Heather at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com.

⚡️ Sparks flying and magic in the air? Or just the sound of yet another dating myth fizzling out? 🐸💔 Join Heather and this week's guest expert, Damona Hoffman, as they smash the old fairy tale narratives and help you construct a love story that's truly your own. Our amazing guest, Damona Hoffman, is the official love expert for The Drew Barrymore Show and the #1 Best-Selling author of "F The Fairy Tale." She and Heather get pretty deep in this episode and you're in for some suprises!

This episode isn't about finding your soulmate, but finding real connections in a world full of ghosting, breadcrumbing, lazy daters and more dating pitfalls. 🧚 Whether you're a hopeless romantic or a hopeful realist, you won't want to miss the truths unpacked here. 🌟

Listeners will discover:

🔮 The myth of instant chemistry and the importance of personal growth in relationships.

🎙️ How to inspire authentic connections beyond text messages (hint: try audio messages!)

💑 The four pillars essential for a relationship and how to apply them practically.

😱 Turning the 'ick' of dating disasters into a path of personal growth and self-discovery.

🔐 Embracing realism over romance for a meaningful and fulfilling partnership.

Get insightful timestamps:

- The allure of Valentine's Day and everyday love [00:01:16]

- Demystifying the 'perfect' partner and unrealistic expectations [00:02:44]

- Is romance lost when we say 'F the fairy tale'? [00:04:19]

- The importance of staying in the moment [00:06:30]

- Damona's refreshing approach to 'the list' [00:08:40]

- The love/hate relationship with dating height requirements [00:09:57]

And much more, all within the transformative heart-to-heart between Heather and Damona Hoffman! Ready for a love revolution? Listen now, and let's rewrite the dating rules together.

DAMONA HOFFMAN'S WEBSITE:

https://damonahoffman.com/

BUY DAMON'AS BOOK "F THE FAIRY TALE""

https://damonahoffman.com/f-the-fairy-tale/

GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE

https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit

CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH?

https://heathershannon.co/video-page/

FOLLOW THE SHOW

https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist

HEATHER'S WEBSITE

https://HeatherShannon.co

YOUTUBE VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST & MORE

https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach/podcasts

Book an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ 

Summary for Sexy Bucket List Episode:

In this episode, we dive into the exciting and insightful process of creating a sexual bucket list. Join us as we explore the importance of establishing safety and consent, setting intentions, and letting go of perfectionism. With practical advice, resource recommendations and unique tips on sparking creativity and trust, this episode aims to help you and your partner, or even solo, set and achieve meaningful sexual goals. Whether adding spice to a long-term relationship or discovering new fantasies, this guide offers a comprehensive framework and fun ideas to keep your sex life adventurous and connected.

Heather Shannon's Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/0738234966?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzheat0ce5-20&creativeASIN=0738234966&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.29BK4OTJWL4UF&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ofs_mixed_d_asin 

https://www.weshouldtryit.com/

https://www.omgyes.com/join

https://fetlife.com/

Ep. 34: Getting “Beducated” with Mariah Freya: Naked Models, Orgasm Class & Sex-Positive Parenting https://youtu.be/3-wFfTK0ZSg?si=lzMPi_sWIYZnJAaX 

Similar Youtube Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS5uUNH6CAqYmfLRGx_VsLLl&si=cCgQ_HNE4-qpyJCH 

Heather’s website: https://heathershannon.co/

Heather’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc

Heather’s Freebies: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/freebies 

🌟 Feeling stuck in your love life or overwhelmed by stress? Tune in to this game-changing episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist," where we sit down with emotional healing coach Allison Jayne to uncover transformative techniques for personal growth and better relationships! Allison shares her expertise on EFT tapping, a simple yet potent method to rewire your brain for more positive outcomes. Whether you're battling feelings of unworthiness in dating or just trying to navigate the waves of modern love, this is the episode that might just turn your world around! 🌈👫

🎧 In this episode, you'll discover:

- How EFT tapping can help you overcome trauma and reduce stress.

- The role of your subconscious self-concept in your romantic relationships.

- Strategies to combat the scarcity mindset in online dating.

- Practical tips for using EFT tapping to enhance your dating experience.

- Allison's inspirational journey from tapping novice to emotional healing maestro.

Don't miss out on these remarkable insights! Tune in now to transform your approach to love and personal wellness! 🎶💖

GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE (discover what’s blocking YOUR sex life!)

https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit

APPLY FOR HEATHER’S INTIMACY INFUSION PROGRAM 

https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page 

HEATHER’S WEBSITE

https://HeatherShannon.co

ASK A SEX THERAPIST INSTAGRAM 

https://instagram.com/askasextherapist (Join the podcast’s broadcast channel!)

HEATHER’S INSTAGRAM (new!) 

https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather 

YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST 

https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach 

SIMILAR EPISODES (where I cover more obstacles that could be blocking your sex life!)

SHOW NOTES FOR WEBSITE —-(Update Heather’s website with slightly modified show notes for SEO)

Sample: https://heathershannon.co/e4/ 

Apply for a no-pressure "Ignite Your Intimacy" breakthrough call with Heather to get her top 3 recommendations to enhance your sex life - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ You'll also learn about her "Intimacy Infusion" transformational coaching program.

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In this episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, host Heather Shannon explores the topics of body count, slut shaming, and good girl syndrome. Join Heather as she delves into the societal implications of the number of sexual partners, the judgments and stereotypes surrounding women's sexual activity, and the importance of being present in your current partnership. Get ready to challenge the norms and embrace a healthier view of sex on this enlightening episode of Ask A Sex Therapist.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:

- The fixation on the number of sexual partners and its meaning

- The importance of being present with the current partner and creating meaning in the relationship

- The significance of virginity and assumptions surrounding being someone's first

- The meaning of past partners and the importance of realizing it does not define the current relationship

- The societal practice of slut shaming and its unfairness

- Challenging societal views of sex and relationships

- The importance of being aware of one's own beliefs and not projecting them onto others

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website & Free Gifts - https://HeatherShannon.co/Freebies  

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOw 

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Mariah Freya is the co-founder of Beducated, an online platform for sex education, where she offers a vast library of resources for inclusive, comprehensive, medically accurate and pleasure-based sex education for adults.

This episode explores the importance of sex education and creating a low-stakes environment for exploring and experimenting with sex. Mariah started a business to provide people with sex education. Her platform, Beducated, has over 100 courses with 40 different sex experts. Mariah and Heather discuss the need for more realistic depictions of vulvas and sex education, as well as the need for a spectrum of sex education, from theoretical to pleasure-based. They also discuss the importance of knowing one's body, communicating your desires and breaking the societal taboo around sex. Heather and Mariah emphasize the importance of focusing on pleasure rather than orgasm (which will lead to more orgasms), and creating a container for learning and exploring with low stakes. Finally, they discuss the need for sex education to recognize different sexual orientations and gender identities, as well as periods of higher and lower libido.

PLUS, Beducated is offering Ask A Sex Therapist listeners a generous discount of 40% off their annual membership! 

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• All about Beducated’s “Female Orgasm” course for vulva owners
• The importance of explicit, but non-pornographic sex education courses
• How consuming new, educational sex content leads to more creativity and less boredom in your sex life.

EPISODE LINKS

Beducated: Join Beducated to learn about different types of sex and get inspired ideas! You’ll get a free 24-hour trial to explore the platform before you’re charged and 40% off the annual membership when you use the code “ASK.” Give it a try–your sex life will thank you! https://beducate.me/pd2329-ask 

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a no-pressure $1 discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ 

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website & Free Gifts - https://HeatherShannon.co/Freebies  

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717 

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Episode 22 - The Orgasm Gap & Clitoral Anatomy with Dr. Laurie Mintz - https://pod.fo/e/176a8e 

Episode 5 - The Clitoris - https://pod.fo/e/15ce78 

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Join host Heather Shannon and guest Kesiena Boom in an engaging and enlightening conversation as they explore the captivating world of queerness, kink, and fearless communication. Unravel the meaning of "femme" within the queer community as they provide insights for queer women on confidently approaching and asking out their crushes. Discover the allure of play parties, gain wisdom on direct communication, learn the art of hitting on someone without being creepy, and explore the depths of desire. Get ready for an adventure of self-discovery and empowerment!

In this episode, Heather and Kesiena delve into the dynamic realms of queerness, kink, and daring conversations. They decode the essence of "femme" within the queer community, offering guidance for queer women seeking to approach and ask out their love interests. Embracing the spirit of rebellion, they discuss play parties, direct communication, and the art of pursuing desire while maintaining respect. Join them as they share valuable insights for navigating intimate relationships and embracing your true desires.

Key Topics Covered:

1. Understanding the diverse aspects of "femme" within the queer community.
2. Empowering queer women to confidently approach and ask out their love interests.
3. Embracing queerness as a celebration of self-expression and individuality.
4. Exploring the captivating world of kink and the role of play parties.
5. Effective communication, consent, and respectful approaches to expressing desire.

Timestamps

[00:00:00] Navigating Queer Women's Desires

[00:03:28] Importance of Understanding Desires in Queer Women

[00:07:20] Exploring BDSM, Kink, and Queer Identities in "X

[00:11:26] Embracing Non-Traditional Relationships

[00:15:06] Discovering and identifying sexual desires

[00:18:32] Deconstructing Cultural Views on Sexuality

[00:22:23] Exploring Women's Same-Sex Sexuality

[00:26:00] BDSM Play Parties: Finding and Staying Safe

[00:29:48] Requirements for attending play parties

[00:33:20] Queer sex and power dynamics

[00:37:07] Navigating Desire As A Queer Woman

[00:40:48] The Art of Asking Someone Out

[00:44:08] Boldly Pursuing Romantic Connections

[00:47:14] Aggressive flirting in relationships

Episode Links

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a no-pressure $1 discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/

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Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOw

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Paul Takes The Form Of A Mortal Girl - https://amzn.to/3IU1B6U (referral link)

FIND OUT MORE ABOUT OUR GUEST:

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SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

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Episode 25 - Sex & The Single Life - https://pod.fo/e/17c237

Episode 19 - Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/171671

Episode 13 - Is Monogamy Realistic? -

How much do you know about the clitoris? Do you even know how to find it?

Today's episode is dedicated to the clitoris. I'll cut right through the noise and misinformation about this organ with only one biological function: pleasure. I explain how to find the clitoris, how it works, what it looks like, and what sensations it produces in the body. 

What You'll Learn:

• Why we need to know as much as we can about the clitoris 
• What is the orgasm gap, and what has the clitoris to do with it?
• What the clitoris looks like and how to find it
• Are vaginal orgasms superior to clitoral?
• What you can do if you are having a hard time finding the clitoris

Even after all these years, female sexual pleasure still has a sinful aura hovering over it. The taboo vibes around it and the difficulty of accessing reliable and educational content about it have catastrophic effects on people's pleasure and sexual experiences. A viable, simple, and extremely powerful solution is communicating with our partners about what they like, how they like it, and the best way to get there. 

Resources:

• Dr. Laurie Mintz - Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get It
• Emily Nagosky - Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
• OMGyes.com
• Franny White - Pleasure-producing human clitoris has more than 10,000 nerve fibers
• 3D Model of the Clitoris Exposes Pleasurable Female Anatomy

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Listener Q&A: Rekindling Passion, Orgasm Challenges, and Lubricants

Welcome to another listener Q&A episode! Dive into intriguing topics such as reviving passion when therapy hasn't helped, overcoming difficulties with orgasms during penetration vs. foreplay, exploring various types of lubricants, and tips for a wife wanting to initiate sex with her husband. Don't miss out on this comprehensive discussion on sexual intimacy.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:52 Therapy and Rekindling Passion

10:05 Understanding Female Orgasms

18:04 Exploring Different Types of Lubes

26:11 Initiating Sex with a Partner

32:42 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Heather’s Pathway to Passion- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway 

Heather’s Courses- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Ep. 109 Vaginal Gymnastics 101: Increase Your Libido and Pleasure with Bel DiLorenzo- https://youtu.be/3ebUCD63GMM?si=2BnuBIrT4YN0tE_s

Ep. 107 Revive Her Drive: Rekindling Desire, Libido, and Orgasm with @SusanBratton- https://youtu.be/LkPePH3xHTM?si=-fKk9zGvmPfuPan9 

Ep. 56:  Female Arousal with Susan Bratton-https://youtu.be/3JU8SPEa904?si=UhgeOZ7L0i1mK8t6 

Ep. 91 How to Squirt- https://youtu.be/0cKR2ToX910?si=Hv-Lu9I_UZevlQ2S 

Ep. 69: How To Seduce Your Partner—Initiating Sex Like A Pro https://youtu.be/8elcATO0KiY?si=UL975WKbjcwuvZHL 

We Vibe Tango X-

🔥 Request an "Ignite Your Intimacy" breakthrough session with Heather https://heathershannon.co/video-page/. You’ll get her top 3 recommendations to enhance your sex life and learn if her Intimacy Infusion program could help you feel closer and more connected.

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In this episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist," our guest, Dr. Joe Kort, shares his expertise and personal experiences on various topics. From childhood attraction to societal pressures, Dr. Kort challenges norms and promotes acceptance and understanding. We explore the concepts of mixed orientation relationships, bottom shaming in gay sex, and misconceptions around straight men engaging in anal play. Join us as we challenge societal expectations!

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:

🍑 Bottom shaming and the concept of being a side

🍆 Why sex isn’t just penetration or intercourse

👨‍❤️‍👨 Straight man claim you can sleep with men and remain straight

📋 Reasons people have sex aside from sexual attraction

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Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Website - https://joekort.com/ and http://www.crsh.com/ 

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@drjoekort 

Instagram - https://instagram.com/drjoekort

SIMILAR EPISODES:

004 - Are You Attracted Anymore? - https://pod.fo/e/15ca7e

039 - Male Bisexuality and Being a Boyslut with Zachary Zane https://pod.fo/e/1e36be

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🎙️ Get ready to embrace your vulnerability and emotional bravery in this week's episode of Ask A Sex Therapist! In this candid discussion, we explore the importance of being emotionally brave for intimacy, whether it's emotional closeness, authenticity, or passionate, connected sex. Host Heather encourages listeners to break free from self-censorship and explore the impact of holding back thoughts and feelings. Offering insights from her work with clients, she uncovers how self-censorship impacts sexual intimacy and shares actionable advice for overcoming shyness, social anxiety, and fear of rejection to foster deeper connections. ❤️🔥

In this episode, you'll learn:

- What is self censorship?

- We all suck at this. I am bad at this too even though I’m not shy and don’t have social anxiety and often couldn’t care less what people think of me.

- Belonging is a core need from an evolutionary standpoint and we’re petrified of not belonging. Plus there’s the emotional roller coaster.

- But we are blocking ourselves from connection, happiness, pleasure and joy!!! And we’re blocking the other person too!!! Imagine how much more love there would be in the world if we were all better at this!!!

- So this part is a protector part according to IFS. It’s likely protecting an exiled part that feels not good enough, unworthy, shameful, broken, etc. - - - This part prevents us from getting hurt by reminding us not to stick our neck out. It learned to do this from past hurts. It has nothing but the best intentions, but may not know about our Self Energy which is confident and infinitely able to hold space for our emotions

- The solution? Access your Self Energy. Introduce this protector part to Self. Do things that help you access Self Energy.

Time Stamps:

00:57 - The significance of emotional bravery for intimacy

04:14 - Overcoming shyness and societal norms in expressing attraction

09:44 - Understanding the evolutionary need for belonging and connection

13:43 - Framing self-censorship through an internal family systems perspective

19:07 - Accessing your self energy for emotional bravery

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SIMILAR EPISODES

Ep 2 - The Real Reason You’re Not Talking About Sex! - https://pod.fo/e/15b8df

Ep 11 - Attachment Styles - https://pod.fo/e/16340d

Ep 25 - Sex and The Single Life: Dating, Vulnerability & Freedom - https://pod.fo/e/17c237

Ep 33 - BDSM, Play Parties and Queer Sexuality with Kesiena Boom - https://pod.fo/e/181b5d

Feeling stuck with sex? Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather! --> Intimacy Breakthrough Session Booking Link

Hello everyone! In this episode, Heather welcomes Dr. Diane Mueller, a seasoned sexual wellness expert with a doctorate in naturopathic medicine. They discuss her journey through personal sexual health challenges and the conception of her practice, MyLibidoDoc. The conversation covers a wide range of topics, including the importance of novelty in long-term relationships, the impact of stress and safety on libido, and strategies for effective communication and self-exploration in sexual health. Dr. Diane shares insights on maintaining connection through highs and lows, practices for sustaining libido, and the significance of understanding one's pleasure body. Tune in to gain valuable tips and explore an empathetic, holistic approach to sexual wellness.

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Follow Dr. Diane Mueller https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/

Dr. Diane Mueller’s Libido Quiz & Website https://mylibidodoc.com/libido-quiz/

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Have you ever felt STUCK when it came to talking to your partner about sex? 🤔 Well, you’re not alone–Heather’s felt that way too! In this episode, she shares her own mishaps with sexual communication and how to make sure you look forward to discussing your sex life with your partner. Listen in if you want to be able to speak freely about your mental turn-ons, preferred techniques and sexual desires! 🎧💞

Here's a sneak peek of what you're about to learn:

- How to navigate the all-too-common scenario of a partner agreeing but not following through with sexual requests. 🔄

- Tips for bringing up sex without making your partner get defensive or avoidant.

- How to bring sex up when you haven’t had it in a long time and it’s become the elephant in the room.

- Unpacking the need for advanced communication skills in non-monogamous relationships.

- The importance of taking charge of your sexual needs and learning to articulate them clearly. 📣

Time Stamps (cause who doesn't love a good spoiler?):

- [00:00:52] Why communication is the hottest topic in town, according to your Instagram polls!

- [00:01:57] Heather's personal story of communication breakdown and lessons learned.

- [00:08:41] Creating space for your partner and the importance of emotional mastery in sexual communication.

- [00:15:29] The need for bravery in initiating the long-avoided sex convo.

- [00:21:49] Making a sex manual? Heather thinks it's a fabulous idea to explore and communicate your desires! 😏

- [00:28:08] Discussing fears and setting ground rules for sharing fantasies with your partner.

Ready to level up your bedroom banter? Hit play and let's go! 🎤🥰

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07

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Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

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Ep. 2 The Real Reason You’re Not Talking About Sex https://pod.fo/e/15b8df

Ep. 3 The Emotions of Sex https://pod.fo/e/15c61a

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Listener Q&A: Secrets of Squirting, Becoming a Sex Therapist, My Method for Couples in Conflict and More!

Join Heather Shannon for a fun and informative listener Q&A episode! Heather dives into a lively debate on whether squirting is pee, shares the comprehensive process of becoming a certified sex therapist, addresses low sex drive during perimenopause, and offers tips to reignite the spark in your relationship. Plus, special shoutouts to international listeners and important insights on the role of hormones in libido. Don’t forget to submit your anonymous questions and follow the show for more insightful discussions!

00:00 Introduction and Listener Q&A Setup

00:42 Shoutout to International Listeners

01:47 Debunking Myths: Is Squirting Pee?

04:52 Becoming a Certified Sex Therapist

12:54 Addressing Low Sex Drive During Perimenopause

16:09 Reigniting the Spark in Your Relationship

19:52 Conclusion and Farewell

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:

How to Squirt Episode https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0cKR2ToX910 

Perimenopause Episode https://youtu.be/3ayLTcHr66I?si=slNcqAlJ1bOLDDbX 

AASECT Website: https://www.aasect.org/

Unlock my Pathway to Passion Method https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway 

Gottman’s book on marriage https://www.amazon.com/Lessons-Transform-Your-Marriage-Strengthening/dp/1400050197 

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Hello, my loves! Join us for an incredible guest episode featuring Emmy Hernandez, CEO of Soulmate Love University, as she shares her journey from Silicon Valley executive to expert love coach. Discover how Emmy transformed her dating life through intensive training and find out how she helps high-achieving women attract soulmate love. From understanding the signs of toxic relationships to rewiring belief systems for healthy love, this episode is packed with valuable insights. Tune in to learn the importance of self-reliance, the power of healing, and how to cultivate healthy, lasting relationships. Don't miss out on Emmy's wisdom! Links, Contact Information & Resources:

A Similar Youtube Playlist by Heather:

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS5uUNH6CAqYmfLRGx_VsLLl&si=UFQ7nmKtcyjoPhYK 

Reach out to Heather about her podcasting internship: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ 

Emmy’s Links:

Soulmate Love University’s Website: https://www.soulmateloveuniversity.com/

Emmy’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovecoachemmy/

Ready to handle rejection, disappointment, and "no"s like a pro? In this week's episode, join Heather as she shares her personal experience with rejection and how she's using it to empower herself and others. From navigating romantic encounters to dealing with boundaries, she reveals practical tips to transform emotional setbacks into opportunities for growth and self-mastery.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- How to identify and befriend triggered emotions when facing rejection or disappointment

- Practical steps to access self-energy for resilience and healing

- Understanding the power of boundaries and taking nothing personally in relationships

- Techniques to handle rejection in romantic and sexual scenarios with emotional maturity

- The importance of incorporating emotional mastery for excellent communication skills and self-care in relationships

TIMESTAMPS:

05:08 Coping with insecurity and self-validation techniques.

07:19 Encouraging imagination and self-awareness through metaphor.

12:31 Value authentic relationships, set appropriate boundaries, self-care.

15:04 Reframing tough conversations and building emotional resilience.

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07

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Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

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Don’t forget to “Follow” the show 👉https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist. We have awesome episodes coming up on sexual fantasies, surrogate partner therapy and what it’s like being a porn star and you won’t want to miss them!

In this week's solo episode, Heather breaks down the top 5 reasons your sex life might be feeling stagnant. Once you know what these are, you can get past them and get back to the steamy stuff! 🔥 No more sexless marriage. No more sex feeling like a chore. And no more lesbian bed death. Let’s turn the heat back up in your bedroom (just metaphorically though because it’s best to sleep in cool temperatures LOL)!

If you’ve been feeling more like roommates than lovers, this episode is for you. Sex shouldn’t be something you have to cross off your to do list. 

In this episode, you will learn:

🍆 How neglecting what worked in the beginning can cockblock you!

🦺 The importance of creating emotional safety for open communication 

😋 Ways to actively nurture and prioritize your sex life

🧠 Understanding your turn-ons and creating the right conditions for an intimate connection

🫠 The impact of unresolved hurt and betrayal on your sex life

Hit PLAY to find out how to remove these major sex blockers and start building a sex life that actually turns you on.

Here are a few highlights:

- [00:00:32] Introduction to the topic and upcoming episodes

- [00:02:21] Reason #1: Neglecting what worked in the beginning

- [00:05:41] Reason #2: Not feeling emotionally safe

- [00:08:50] Reason #3: Failing to nurture your sex life specifically

- [00:12:53] Reason #4: Not getting the type of sex that really does it for you

- [00:18:17] Reason #5: Impact of unresolved hurt and betrayal

GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE (discover what’s blocking YOUR sex life!)

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APPLY FOR HEATHER’S INTIMACY INFUSION PROGRAM 

Start by requesting your Intimacy Breakthrough Call (Limit 3 per week, so book now!)

LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES

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ASK A SEX THERAPIST INSTAGRAM 

https://instagram.com/askasextherapist (Join the podcast’s broadcast channel!)

HEATHER’S INDIVIDUAL INSTAGRAM (new!) 

https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather 

YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST 

https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach 

SIMILAR EPISODES (where I cover more obstacles that could be blocking your sex life!)

• 060: Navigating Sexual Relationships Post-Trauma with Jackie Tempera
• 046: Body Count, Slut-Shaming & Good Girl Syndrome

🎙️ Hot flashes, mood swings, and... sexy times? Menopause isn't just your mother's concern, folks – it's a rollercoaster that can start as early as *38* and it affects everything from your emotions to your intimacy. 😳💥 Fear not, because this episode of *Ask A Sex Therapist* is here to light up the path through the mist of menopause. We've got the radiant Dr. Kelly Casperson from "You Are Not Broken" dropping truth bombs on everything hormone-related. Plus, we spill the tea on the good, the bad, and the not-so-slick truths behind the lubes and creams that promise to keep things smooth sailing south of the border. 🚀💦 Tune in and turn your perimenopause frowns upside down!

Here's what you'll learn from this episode:

- The real deal on "bioidentical" hormones and what's just slick marketing 🎩📈

- Why your birth control pills aren't on the same level as menopause treatments 🚫💊

- Tips for talking to your doc about hormones like you've got an MD of your own 🗣️💪

- The lifesaving importance of lube, and why silicone is your new BFF 🙌✨

- How vaginal estrogen could be the $20 game-changer for your love life ❤️💡

Timestamps:

- [02:15] Understanding menopause and its surprising age range

- [05:30] Demystifying perimenopause symptoms

- [11:45] Why "bioidentical" hormones are causing a buzz

- [17:20] The significant risks of misinformation on vaginal estrogen

- [23:45] How healthy habits can support hormonal balance

- [31:00] Navigating the options for hormone replacement therapy

- [38:30] The big misconceptions of hormones and sexual health

- [43:10] The affordable secret weapon against dryness

- [49:50] Why GSM should be on your radar sooner rather than later

- [55:25] Vaginal estrogen myths busted for breast cancer survivors

Ready to rise above the confusion and start living your best life? Listen now and transform your approach to perimenopause and beyond! 🎧🌟

Don't miss out; visit heathershannon.com for more insights and to snag your free dirty talk guide! 📚💬

RESOURCES

GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE (discover what’s blocking YOUR sex life!)

https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit

APPLY FOR HEATHER’S INTIMACY INFUSION PROGRAM 

https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page 

HEATHER’S WEBSITE

https://HeatherShannon.co

ASK A SEX THERAPIST INSTAGRAM 

https://instagram.com/askasextherapist (Join the podcast’s broadcast channel!)

HEATHER’S INSTAGRAM (new!) 

https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather 

YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST 

https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach 

KELLY CASPERSON WEBSITE:

https://kellycaspersonmd.com/

Do you see your partner as a good co-parent, a long time friend, a roommate, or anything but an attractive, sexual being? 

This week, I talk about what happens when the spark starts fading within a relationship. I invite you to rethink how attraction is built, to avoid falling into that kind of rut that says attraction is only physical, and explore new ways of feeling attracted and connected with your significant other. 

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• Why it’s easy to lose attraction in a long-term relationship
• A three-step plan to reignite or create the sexy spark in any relationship
• How to avoid looking at attraction not only as a physical thing
• The importance of feeling sexy for yourself
• How being intentional and communicating what turns you on can improve your sex life
• Why sharing your sexual energy is crucial to create a sexual spark
• The cornerstones of eroticism and how can they change your relationship

Losing interest in your partner sexually or feeling disconnected from them is expected in long-term relationships. But that doesn't mean it can't be prevented before it happens or reversed when it does. 

Resources:

• Book: Jack Morin - The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment by Jack Morin https://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Mind-Unlocking-Sources-Fulfillment/dp/0060984287 

FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDE

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Get ready to unwrap the forbidden in this episode of 'Ask A Sex Therapist'! 🎁🚫 Join host Heather and the unapologetically candid guest Dustin Rybka as they tackle the titillating topic of censorship and its bedfellows: sex negativity and social media blocking. From algorithms policing pleasure to the clubbing stories, Dustin spills the tea (and maybe some other things) about the wild ride that's led him here. 😏 Tune in for tales that'll make you laugh, cringe, and maybe learn a thing or two about sex positivity in this must-listen episode.

In this episode, you'll unpack:

- The consequences of a culture where sex negativity reigns supreme.⚖️

- The escapades that come from life as a club promoter - all the uncensored details included! 🎉

- A glimpse into the journey from acting to advocacy, how Dustin uses drama in his sex-positive mission. 🎭

- The power and freedom found in podcasting that other platforms can't seem to match. ✊

- Dustin's rules of engagement, party management, and how happy he is in his current relationship. ❤️🎙️

Timestamps of interest:

[00:00:00] Introduction

[00:01:52] Introduction to Sex Party Podcast

[00:02:36] Dustin's Acting Ambitions

[00:03:48] Dustin's Transition to Hosting

[00:10:22] The Making of a Sex Podcaster

[00:15:04]Censorship and Podcasting Freedoms

[00:23:50] The Power of Hosting and Connecting

[00:29:34] Dustin's Nightlife Sagas

[00:36:12] Relationships, Rules, and Realizations

[00:50:49] Love, Relationships, and Podcasting

[00:53:00] Finding Love in the Podcast Era

[00:58:31] Wrap-Up and Where to Find Dustin

You won't want to miss this episode, so be sure to tune in, only on 'Ask A Sex Therapist'! And remember, while advice might be free, the experience is priceless! 🔥

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Do you really need to love yourself first before loving someone else? Self-love is one of the most talked about topics in the self-help movement and one of the most common things relationship coaches discuss on social media. 

Many of us identify as having self-esteem problems and that is actually be holding us back more! 

The problem is that constantly striving for self love, self esteem and a healthy body image reminds us we aren’t there yet. And thinking we need to keep working on ourselves before we can be in a healthy relationship can actually keep us stuck.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• Why “self love” and self-esteem become an obstacle to the relationships we want
• The concepts of “no self,” and non-duality that Buddhism and Eckhart Tolle talk about
• Body appreciation: Changing your perspective on body image
• The ways in which “self love” can actually be helping us: self energy, inner security, self-care, genital love, masturbation
• Heather’s experience learning self love and self acceptance through accepting and loving others. 
• The outside-in concept of self love

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Join Heather and our guest, astrologer & sexologist Stefanie Iris Weiss, for this fun episode all about how your (and your partner's) zodiac signs influence your approach to sex.

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This episode is the first of the Pathway to Passion series. Part one explores the importance of approaching our emotions with gentle curiosity and kindness. It encourages us to compassionately investigate these emotions and understand their physical manifestation in our bodies, thus fostering a more compassionate and inquisitive self-awareness as well as how this relates to our relationship with our partner[s].

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Summary

Heather tackles listener questions in this episode:

1. How to initiate a conversation with a spouse about concerns regarding their use of porn.
2. How much of a pregnancy risk is there when a condom rips during sex?
3. How do sex toys influence men's concept of sexuality?
4. It seems like sex educator and coaches on social media encourage semen retention--why would this be & is it advisable?

Themes Addressed

sex therapist, ethically non-monogamous, support group, porn use, sexual behaviors, desensitization, neural pathways, behavior change, presence, awareness, sexual communication, sexual repertoire, sex addiction, high libido, existential kink

Request an "Ignite Your Intimacy" breakthrough session with Heather https://heathershannon.co/video-page/. You’ll get her top 3 recommendations to enhance your sex life and learn if her Intimacy Infusion program could help you feel closer and more connected.

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Ever wondered how setting up boundaries can enrich your relationships and add an extra layer of trust? 💭 This week on Ask a Sex Therapist, we chat to Nookie, a boundary pioneer who is adding fun and lightness to this heavy topic 💫. She's got an infectious way of making the complicated approachable.

Here are some highlights you can expect:

- The six types of boundaries identified and provide examples of each.

- Importance of setting boundaries early on in relationships.

- How healthy boundaries surprisingly create more freedom in relationships 

- How to avoid manipulation and gaslighting in your relationships so you can feel close and independent at the same time

Time Stamps:

[10:49] Work boundaries, intellectual limits, personal space violated.

[17:12] Setting boundaries: assertiveness, defining what you want.

[20:56] Dealing with manipulation and boundary setting challenges.

[23:10] Honesty in friendships is essential for trust.

[26:38] Compassion, boundaries, ethics, and self-reflection in relationships.

[30:50] Change yourself, accept change, or be annoyed.

[37:57] Choose words wisely, impact can be powerful.

[39:49] Establish boundaries early in dating relationships.

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CONNECT WITH HEATHER “NOOKIE” CLAUS:

Visit her website: https://my.curiouser.life/ 

Order the Take No Sh*t! Book on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CGSZ78NL 

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Empowering Healing: Trauma, Therapy, and Sexual Assault with Laurel Roberts Meese

In this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' the host welcomes Laurel Roberts Meese, a licensed therapist with extensive experience in trauma and sexual assault. Laurel discusses the fundamental understandings of sexual assault, emphasizing that it is about power rather than sex. They explore the normal reactions to traumatic experiences, the importance of setting and reinforcing boundaries, and the role of tools such as EMDR and sensate focus in healing. Alongside practical advice for partners of survivors, Laurel highlights the significance of radical self-compassion in the healing process. Listeners are provided with resources and insights to navigate the complex journey of trauma recovery.

00:00 Introduction to the Episode

00:10 Meet Laurel Roberts Meese

01:18 The Importance of Credentials and Fun

03:01 Understanding Sexual Assault

05:39 Defining Sexual Assault

08:56 The Emotional Impact of Assault

14:17 Trauma and the Body

18:23 Supporting a Partner Through Healing

25:42 Addressing Male Sexual Assault

26:51 Victim Mindset and Healing

27:42 Journey from Victim to Survivor

28:20 Empowerment Through Boundaries

36:06 The Importance of Self-Compassion

39:58 Sensate Focus for Intimacy

42:20 Connecting with Laurel Therapy

43:54 Final Thoughts on Healing

Laurel Robert Meese’s INFO:

Laurel’s website: https://www.laureltherapy.net/ 

Trauma informed Yoga: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtrxXhwgHkw 

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  

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From Porn Industry to Author: The Journey of Vic LaGina

In this episode, we sit down with Vic LaGina, a former producer and director in the adult entertainment industry who has transitioned to becoming an author. Vic recounts his 20-year career, the challenges he faced, and the path that led him to write his novel, 'Filthy: The Rise and Pending Death of Vic LaGina.' We delve into his experiences, from the surreal beginning of his career in Los Angeles to the ethical dilemmas and dark realities of the porn industry. Vic shares candid insights on consent, the impact of COVID-19 on the industry, and his personal journey through addiction and recovery. Tune in for a raw and unfiltered conversation that explores the complexities and transformations of a life in porn.

00:00 Introduction to Vic LaGina

00:26 Vic's Journey into the Adult Entertainment Industry

02:21 The Move to LA and Personal Struggles

05:31 First Steps in the Porn Industry

07:04 Building a Career in Porn

10:17 Challenges and Realities of the Porn Industry

15:26 Personal Reflections and Relationships

29:46 Struggles with Addiction

30:26 Turbulent Relationships

31:54 Cleaning Up and Moving On

33:00 Drug Use in the Porn Industry

33:31 Consent and Compliance Challenges

47:31 The Future of Porn

54:44 Ethical Porn and Final Thoughts

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Heather’s Pathway to Passion- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway 

Heather’s Courses- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Heather’s Amazon Storefront- https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc 

Connect with Vic LaGina:

Vic’s website with book information: https://viclagina.com/

Vic’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/viclagina/ 

Vic’s X: https://x.com/viclagina 

SIMILARLY AWESOME...

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Navigating Body Image & Self-Love: Personal Stories and Practical Tips

In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of body image, exploring the struggles that many individuals, particularly women, face. Heather shares personal, often humorous stories about body image issues starting from childhood experiences to adulthood. The episode highlights the importance of self-love and provides actionable tips to improve body confidence, such as consuming balanced media, engaging in positive self-talk, and practicing mindfulness. Heather also discusses societal pressures, unwanted attention, and how to maintain a positive relationship with one's body. Tune in to get a dose of encouragement and practical advice on fostering a healthier body image.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

02:11 Embarrassing Childhood Stories

06:23 College Struggles and Binge Eating

08:59 Online Dating and Self-Discovery

11:28 Appreciating Your Body

15:24 Dealing with Unwanted Attention

22:06 Actionable Tips for Better Body Image

29:36 Conclusion and Freebie Announcement

WORK WITH HEATHER:

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Ep. 9 How To Feel Sexy? https://youtu.be/Z_6JRFO8-fE?si=tIO7_Z2FgpaAtoWB 

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Does Size Matter? Porn Preferences, All About Erections, Sex with a Chronic Illness, and Communication Tips:

In this listener Q&A episode of the 'Ask a Sex Therapist' podcast, Heather Shannon addresses various sexual concerns and questions from listeners. Topics discussed include the significance of penis size, preferences in pornography, managing guilt associated with certain sexual interests, understanding the dynamics of erections, and navigating intimacy with chronic illness. Heather provides compassionate, insightful advice and emphasizes the importance of communication, mindful acceptance, and adaptability in sexual relationships. She encourages listeners to submit their questions for future episodes and highlights the benefits of seeking support from a sex therapist.

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Submit YOUR Sex Questions HERE: https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/ 

Ep. 29: Am I Queer? Are You Queer? https://youtu.be/GbFIQvmB81M?si=fuhq-Za9TVneMCJG 

Ep. 21: All About Erections https://youtu.be/L1xdoe4J4O8?si=u9i654srT5TxJ7XA 

Ep. 103 Sex work, Disability and Real Talk with Andrew Gurza https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jPKzoXg3-kI 

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How aware are you of your emotions around sex? 

This week, I talk about the emotional rollercoaster that relationships, dating, and sexual situations can provoke on us. I'll approach this issue from the Internal Family Systems model, which will help you better understand why you feel the way you feel about sex, intimacy, and personal relationships in general. 

What You'll Learn:

• How managing your emotions can help you improve as a sexual being
• What your emotions are telling you about how you feel about sex
• What your self-energy is and how you can tap into it
• Manager, firefighter, and exile parts, and their job in Internal Family Systems
• Why it’s so important to recognize and be aware of your protective parts
• Why it seems so hard to get out of your head and process your feelings 

Being comfortable with and aware of how sex makes you feel is an excellent self-confidence builder. It will also enhance your sexual experiences, because as you learn to process your feelings physically, your anxiety levels will go down and you'll get more and more out of your head and into your body during sex. 

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Welcome to another episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast! In today's listener Q&A, Heather Shannon dives deep into questions about sexual energy, maintaining desire in long-term relationships, understanding demisexuality and fraysexuality, and coping with feelings of loneliness while dating. Heather also shares insights about the importance of novelty in keeping sexual attraction alive and addresses the nuanced dynamics of intimacy. Don't forget to submit your questions anonymously via Heather's website for future episodes!

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The YouTube channel is getting organized! Check out our playlists for libido, communication, penis owners, etc: https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach/playlists 

Ep. 39 with Zachary Zane: https://youtu.be/j4zZjM18aZ0?si=7nj5fw9KlEyDOoXy 

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Hello everyone! In this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' host Heather Shannon is joined by Dr. Eric Fitzmedrude, a specialist in relationship and sexual issues, as they delve into the intricacies of male sexuality, high desire, and the importance of emotional fulfillment in masturbation. Dr. Fitzmedrude shares his personal journey with infidelity and how it led him to explore open relationships, emphasizing the need for self-awareness and effective communication. The discussion also covers the value of consent, overcoming patriarchal wounds, and finding balance within diverse sexual needs. Listeners are encouraged to embrace vulnerability, cultivate intimate connections, and explore their desires ethically, with an invitation to explore Dr. Fitzmedrude’s book, 'The Better Man,' for deeper insights.

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Dr. Eric’s Website and Book Link: https://www.drericfitz.com/the-better-man/ 

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Tune in to the latest episode of "Ask a Sex Therapist Podcast" where we're getting down and dirty with a fun and spicy topic—sexting! Host Heather brings the raw truth and tackles the underrated world of sexting, exploring its potential to spice up long-distance relationships, try out new fantasies, and even dip your toes into non-monogamous experiences. With the rise of apps like Pure, the possibilities of virtual exploration are endless, but what does it all mean for our sexual wellbeing? 📱💋

In this episode, you'll learn:

🌈 How sexting can be a gateway to exploring non-monogamy virtually

🎭Ways to use sexting to try out new fantasies and kinks without the physical commitment

💑 The potential benefits of sexting in maintaining long-distance relationships

🔒 Tips for keeping the sexting fun and spicy while setting clear boundaries

🤔 The value of exploring sexual expression in a safe, low-stakes environment

Tune in for a tantalizing conversation about the wild world of sexting with Heather on "Ask a Sex Therapist Podcast" and unlock the secrets of virtual sexual exploration! 🎧✨

- [00:04:21] Discovering the Pure app and how it has features similar to Grindr

- [00:06:47] Sexting can be a way to explore non-monogamy within a relationship

- [00:10:48] The importance of sexting in maintaining sexual connection in long-distance relationships.

- [00:13:58] Sexting can be a fun and relatively safe way to explore sexual fantasies with a partner before trying them in person.

- [00:15:49] Setting boundaries and reflecting on personal desires

- [00:21:38] Effective communication and practicing giving feedback during sexting to ensure a positive and consensual experience.

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How to Revive Loss of Libido, Desire, & Orgasm:

Join intimacy expert Susan Bratton and host Heather Shannon as they delve into how to rekindle a sexless marriage. Susan shares her personal journey of overcoming sexual struggles like orgasmless sex and infidelity with her husband and introduces her proven program 'Revive Her Drive' which she offers FREE to listeners of this episode. Learn about the four elements of revival, keys to seduction, and how to create lasting intimacy and pleasure in your relationship. Whether your sex life has hit a slump or you’re looking to deepen your connection with your partner, this episode offers insightful advice and practical steps to transforming your intimate life.

Susan Bratton: Contact + Info:

Susan’s email: susan@betterlover.com 

Susan’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton/?hl=en 

Susan’s website: Betterlover.com 

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In this episode, host Heather Shannon answers sex questions written by Chat GPT! She discusses how to maintain intimacy as couples age, addresses mismatched libidos, and explores whether a decrease in desire is normal during middle age. Heather emphasizes the importance of both personal growth and professional help in improving sexual relationships, and highlights the benefits of seeing a sex therapist. 

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Episode 8: https://youtu.be/rfahLFCxdqM?si=lZUZVJcAs2QcKqof

Episode 81: https://youtu.be/VWxdvPGeHBs?si=-FkhF0PSZioW7b7K 

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Heather’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

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Join us in this enlightening episode as we welcome Andrew Gurza, an award-winning disability awareness consultant and co-founder of Bumpin, a sex toy company for disabled people. Andrew shares their journey from academia to becoming a notable figure in disability advocacy, discussing the intersection of sex, disability, and queerness. Learn about the challenges and misconceptions around sex and disability, the importance of sex work for disabled individuals, and the personal experiences that shaped Andrew’s impactful work. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that breaks down taboos and promotes inclusivity.

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

This episode is sponsored by Dateability. Find them for on the App Store or on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/dateabilityapp/?hl=en 

Andrew’s Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1sojdfQEY2tNio377qM954 

Andrew’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewgurza6/ 

Andrew’s Website: https://www.andrewgurza.com/ 

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Hello everyone! In today's episode, we're diving into some brave and thought-provoking listener questions on sex and relationships.

• Can ADHD impact my once passionate sex life?
• Why won't my wife sleep naked next to me?
• My wife avoids a part of BDSM I'm interested in exploring. How can I compassionately talk to her about it?
• How can I assert my boundaries while sexting as a young person?

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

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In this week's episode of Ask a Sex Therapist, Heather Shannon coaches a woman named Vanessa to help her evolve her emotions and sex life. Vanessa is learning to break free from her sex negativity and integrate the sexual and the emotional. But as she tries to do so, an inner voice of self-protection is preventing her from fully letting go. What is this mysterious inner voice trying to tell her, and how can she learn to listen? Find out in this week's Ask a Sex Therapist, and brace yourself for a shocking realization!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to strengthen your intimate relationships by integrating passion and emotional closeness.
• What is the Internal Family Systems healing model & why is it so helpful
• What is Self Energy & how it’s the best way to lead your life
• To befriend even the more challenging aspects of your personality . . . And how this will accelerate healing
• Heal shame, emotional wounds, and vulnerability with the help of practical parts work guidance.

The key moments in this episode are:

00:00:00 - Introduction,

00:03:11 - Attachment Styles,

00:06:57 - Integrating Emotions,

00:09:30 - Internal Family Systems,

00:12:37 - Befriending Parts,

00:13:12 - Overcoming Fear of Letting Go During Sex

00:16:02 - Acknowledging Parts and Managing Overthinking

00:19:52 - The Benefits of Being in Tune with Your Body and Emotions

00:23:47 - Fear of Attachment and Identifying Sensations

00:25:45 - Battling Sensations

00:26:25 - Burning in the Throat,

00:28:05 - Acknowledging All Parts,

00:29:54 - Self Energy,

00:34:21 - Factor in Other People,

00:38:01 - Using Self Energy,

00:39:19 - Understanding Parts and Practicing Gratitude,

00:39:41 - Appreciating Vulnerable Parts,

00:40:06 - Positive Self-Relationship,

00:40:25 - Thanking Vanessa,

00:40:39 - Holistic Coaching Program.

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In this episode, Heather covers the 2nd of 3 phases of her signature Pathway to Passion method. Learn why consent, understanding desire and body image are foundational to great sex and a few concrete ways you can start putting them to good use!

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Body Image Resources

Burnout book by Emily & Amelia Nagoski

I’ve definitely been there, and I’m guessing you’ve been there as well, when you haven’t felt really sexy. And that’s okay, that’s what we’re talking about today, how to feel sexy and feel yourself again. We’re going to go over a few different ways you can remove the obstacles to feeling sexy and get in tune with your body, with your energy and thoughts. So let’s get our sexy back again! 

What You’ll Learn: 

• Where our definition of sexy comes from and how to redefine it
• Why we need to be mindful of the media content we consume
• How past trauma affects how much we feel sexy and how to tackle it
• Back to basics - what taking care of our body really means
• What your daily schedule has to do with feeling sexy

Think of your sexual energy as a life force radiating out everywhere. Once you put some of the things we talk about in this episode into action, you’ll see the change in how you feel and how you show up. Yes, it may be hard work, but the reward is just immense and the skills you’ll develop along the way are going to make you unstoppably sexy!

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Let's start with the basics - what turns YOU on? Not what society, culture or religion says should turn you on, but what makes you feel vibrant and alive?

In this episode, I approach this question from four different layers. I invite you to think about and debunk the social scripts around sex, redefine foreplay, and broaden the definition of sex beyond intercourse or penetrative sex.   

What You'll Learn:

• Why it is essential to be aware of what turns you on
• How social scripts around sex interfere with your pleasure
• The benefits of becoming more sexually self-aware
• What actually is foreplay?
• How to discover your sexual accelerator and sexual brake
• How broadening your definition of sex can be a gamechanger 

How can your partner pleasure you if you don't clearly understand what turns you on? Connecting with what indeed turns you on might require getting rid of social conditioning or ingrained beliefs about what is "normal" and "acceptable" in the bedroom. This is an excellent opportunity to question how you've approaching sex. 

Resources:

• Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life - https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1982165316/
• Survey Reveals America’s Biggest Turn Ons - https://swnsdigital.com/us/2018/10/survey-reveals-americas-biggest-turn-ons/

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Ever wondered how self-judgment and outdated stereotypes can throw a wrench in our love lives? Tune in to this fascinating episode with Rachel Burch, one of Heather’s besties, as we get real about cougaring, age differences, and what it takes to forge genuine connections at any stage of life. No “age is just a number” cliches—we promise—just raw, hilarious insights from two women who aren't afraid to challenge norms. 🎙️💘🐾

Also check out Rachel’s award-winning podcast Love Before 100 where she chronicles her dating life as a 40-something divorced Mom. It’s like reality tv you can listen to on your commute!

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In this episode, you'll learn:

- How to navigate the dating world when interested in younger men.

- Insights into attachment styles and their impact on your love life.

- Rachel's refreshing take on self-worth and attraction beyond age-related stigmas.

- The exhilarating freedom of 'Vacation Heather' and what it could mean for your dating adventures.

- Strategies for personal growth and allowing vulnerability into your love life.

Time Stamps:

[00:02:40] Rachel discusses her views on cougaring

[00:07:45] The surprising ways younger men have shown up in dating

[00:14:17] The public's response to age gap dating

[00:17:00] Rachel's lack of attachment to a future with Wes, a younger suitor

[00:23:12] Impact of first heartbreaks on future dating

[00:30:24] Rachel contemplates what new experiences to allow herself

[00:33:31] Three-date rule with 'younger men' experiments

[00:37:22] Working through defense mechanisms for genuine intimacy

[00:41:18] Rachel's personal experience with self-judgment and attraction

[00:43:29] Higher love and the decision to stay open to finding love

Ready for an earful of uncensored truths? Listen now and embrace the possibility of love in unexpected places - wherever you find your podcast joy.

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Ep 39 Being a boyslut with Zachary Zane https://pod.fo/e/1e36be 

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Why is it that even when it could potentially be a deal-breaker for your partner, you avoid talking about sex?

This week, I reveal why you find talking about sex so hard, how it affects yours and your partner's sex life, and how you can bring those barriers down. I also share tips on discussing sex with your partner, dealing with the natural awkwardness of discussing it, and caring for yours and their vulnerability. 

What You'll Learn:

• Why talking about what we are into in bed makes us feel so vulnerable
• Why talking about your partner's performance feels like a hurtful thing to do
• How to create a healthy conversations about sex
• How to get in the right headspace for discussing sex
• How to avoid getting social conditioning into our sex conversations

Once you create a safe space where you and your partner can share what you're into, what turns you on and what doesn't, that space can only grow. As you feel freer to share how you feel about certain things in sex, you'll be more open to discovering, trying, and experiencing new things. 

Resources:

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In this episode, Heather Shannon tackles a variety of questions submitted by listeners. From ways to bring back sensation post-menopause to navigating guilt and shame in a relationship, Heather offers her expert advice and insights. Plus, find out the difference between kinks and fetishes and why feet have become a popular topic of interest!

In this episode, you'll learn:

🔹 Tips for increasing sensation and blood flow in the clitoral region

❤️ How to navigate a partner's fantasies and maintain intimacy

🌡️ The effects of guilt on a healthy sex life

💋 Understanding the difference between kinks and fetishes, with a spotlight on foot fetishes.

🌟 The importance of open communication and negotiation in relationships.

Listen now to discover expert insights, advice, and a whole lot of fun on the Ask A Sex Therapist podcast! 🎧💖

Time Stamps:

[02:07] Ways to stay sexually vibrant as you age include red light therapy.

[04:33] Importance of sexual activity for blood flow to the genital region

[09:08] Husband's Fantasies and Lack of Interest in Sex

[12:46] Questioning safety and commitment in relationships, especially marriage.

[15:59] How do cultural norms and societal attitudes shape our perceptions of different body parts, such as feet? Are certain parts of the body more taboo or fetishized than others?

[18:37] Do you think the concept of "taboo" in sexuality is evolving over time? What impact does mainstream acceptance of certain acts or preferences have on kinks and fetishes?

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Episode 27 - Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/17fd37 

Episode 19 - Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/171671

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We all want connection, but sometimes our defense mechanisms—or “parts”—get in the way. Some of the most common culprits are the People Pleaser Part and the Obligated Part. We may think there’s no other way than to do things we don’t actually want to do and to put others’ needs first at our own expense, but there absolutely is. In fact, tamping down our authentic self guarantees we won’t experience true intimacy in our relationships. After all, how can you feel fully known or understood if you’re not really showing up? So, while our “parts” have the best intentions, they’re unfortunately misguided. This is where Internal Family Systems and Self Energy comes in! Self Energy is our higher consciousness and already feels connected to everyone and everything. From that place we can heal the People Pleaser and Obligated parts and experience real closeness with others.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

- How defense mechanisms or “parts” may show up in your relationships

- How people pleasing can sneak up on you even if you’re an assertive person who isn’t afraid to speak up

- How accessing Self Energy can easily help you heal parts that aren’t serving you and bring you closer to the people who are ready to love you for exactly who you are

WORK WITH HEATHER:

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Episode 03 - The Emotions Of Sex - https://pod.fo/e/15c61a

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Attachment styles indicate how we attach to others in relationships and how we feel about ourselves. They therefore impact all our relationships and nearly everything we do

About half the population has a secure attachment style. The other half has an insecure attachment style. Insecure styles include anxious attachment, dismissive avoidant attachment and fearful avoidant attachment. 

Attachment styles are not mental disorders and are not permanent labels. They are fluid and flexible and can evolve over time and with effort. 

In this episode, you’ll learn the characteristics of each attachment style and Heather’s tips on the healing process to become more secure in yourself and in your relationships. So listen till the end and enjoy!    

What you’ll learn:

• What is attachment? How do we connect with other people in relationships?
• What are the feelings when you are in a secure relationship? 
• How are the insecure types of attachment manifested in a relationship?
• Why does a dismissive avoidant person tend to be more independent?
• What are the characteristics of a fearful avoidant person?
• Why do the anxious types attract the avoidant types of persons?
• What do you need to do if you are in an insecure relationship e.g you are anxious, the other is avoidant?
• Heather's tip for people who have the avoidant, dismissive, avoidant relationship attachment style. (Why is it good to pace yourself at the beginning of a relationship?)
• What are the things that have helped Heather with the healing process and becoming more secure about herself in a relationship?
• Why is hypnosis a game changer when it comes to managing your fear of abandonment to showing more compassion to yourself?

Resources:

• The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
• Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
• You Are the One You've Been Waiting For (Internal Family Systems) by Richard C. Schwartz
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🔥 Ever wondered what’s behind your deepest sexual fantasies? This week on Ask A Sex Therapist, Artemisia De Vine joins Heather to chat about erotic fantasies. Artemisia, with her extensive background as a professional dominatrix and sex worker, helps us understand when it feels safe to explore fantasies by getting past our own internal protectors. It’s about finding that balance between the taboo and what feels acceptable to us. Tune in and learn how you can make your fantasies a reality!

👂 What you'll learn:

- The psychological underpinnings of common sexual fantasies

- How exploring these desires can lead to profound states of consciousness

- The importance of the ego and desire in shaping our erotic experiences

- Strategies to embrace and integrate your fantasies for healthier intimacy

- Artemisia's unique perspective on overcoming societal guilt and shame linked to sexual preferences

Timestamps for some of the key moments in our conversation:

• 01:45 - Artemisia Divine's unique introduction to the world of sexual fantasy
• 08:34 - Overcoming societal and religious impact on sexuality
• 15:22 - The vital role of presence and psychological understanding in sexual experiences
• 23:50 - Decoding the complex symbolism of personal sexual fantasies
• 29:18 - Combining fear and desire within fantasies to achieve balance
• 37:55 - The transformative potential of sexual fantasies in relationships
• 42:44 - The intricate workings of Artemisia's "Divinery Method"
• 51:22 - Emotional aftershocks: Navigating arousal and shame
• 58:17 - Dissecting cuckolding fantasies: Importance of the "antidote"
• 67:00 - The connection between sexual fantasy and spiritual journey

🎧 Don't miss this enlightening exploration into the complexity of human desire - press play now!.

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How much do you really need to have your shit together to date? Should you work on yourself first or just go out there and date exactly as you are? Listen in for Heather’s advice on how to handle insecurities while putting yourself out there in the dating world. Heather discusses the importance of authenticity, consent, communication and boundaries when it comes to new sexual relationships. Discover how being vulnerable can actually be a transformative (and fun!) growth experience. Heather shares her own experiences in the dating world when she tells people she’s a sex therapist and offers tips on healthy ways to approach sex & dating . . . including when to take a break.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN

1. When it’s time to make a move and the importance of discussing communication preferences
2. The age old question . . . dating apps or no?
3. Why it’s important to FOLLOW THE FUN and how you’ll actually get better results with dating if you do.
4. Why pushing yourself to be authentic is hard . . . and worth it!
5. How sex with someone new can trigger our attachment wounds and how we can practice showing up for ourselves when that happens.

TIMESTAMPS

[00:00:00] Navigating Sex and Vulnerability While Single

[00:03:32] Embracing Self-Acceptance for Personal Growth

[00:06:51] Challenges of Dating as a Therapist

[00:10:04] Mindset Shifts for Better Dating

[00:13:10] Importance of Authenticity and Communication in Early Dating

[00:16:34] Healthy Sexual Boundaries Resource

[00:19:41] Join Our Community for Free Coaching and Q&A

LINKS & RESOURCES

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#14. Why “Self Love” Is Annoying - https://pod.fo/e/1689e1

#12 Why Consent Is Sexy AF - https://pod.fo/e/164fe6

#9 How To Feel Sexy - https://pod.fo/e/15f72a

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On this episode of Ask a Sex Therapist, we dive into the topic of orgasms. Join us as we explore the benefits of orgasms and debunk some common myths surrounding them. We'll discuss how to overcome struggles with orgasm and offer practical tips for trying without putting pressure on yourself. Plus, we'll challenge traditional views of when sex is "supposed" to end and encourage open communication in all types of relationships. Stay tuned to discover the amazing benefits of orgasming and how it can enhance your overall well-being. This is a episode you don't want to miss!

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:

🌟 Orgasms, pleasure, and being present in sex.

💬 Sexual satisfaction: communication, not societal norms, determine when it's over.

💕 Benefits of oxytocin boost for estrogen dominance.

😣 Long time down there, frustrations from medications.

🧠 Embrace your wandering mind with a friendly nod, release the pressure, and shift your focus to the joy of playfulness.

🏋️‍♀️ Prepare mentally and physically for a sexy time.

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

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Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach 

SIMILAR EPISODES:

045: Adventures In Sex with Dr. Heidi Sauder - https://pod.fo/e/1f1bd1

048: The Magic of Masturbation: More Presence, More Pleasure - https://pod.fo/e/1f8591

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Welcome back to the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, where we dive into the taboo topics and provide you with the raw truth about pleasure and intimacy. I'm your host, Heather Shannon, and today we have a captivating and enlightening episode lined up for you. Get ready, because today we're talking about anal sex.

In this episode, we'll address common misconceptions and fears surrounding anal play, as well as how to ease into it if you're feeling a bit apprehensive. We'll explore ways to make anal sex not only enjoyable for you, but also for your partner. And let's not forget about the emotional side of this experience, especially the concerns that might arise for women, though this discussion is not limited to any particular gender.

One of the main fears that people often have is the concern that anal sex will be painful. We'll address this fear head-on and provide practical advice on how to make it as comfortable as possible. We'll also touch on the societal stigma surrounding anal sex and remind you that your sexual preferences do not define your morality.

Additionally, we'll address the issue of differing desires within a relationship. What happens when one partner wants to explore anal sex while the other is hesitant? We'll offer guidance on navigating these conversations and finding a balance that works for both parties.

But where do you start if you've never tried anal play before? We'll guide you through a step-by-step process, starting with relaxation techniques and the importance of being physically and mentally turned on. We'll emphasize the vital role of lubrication - remember, it's lube, lube, and more lube! And for those interested in incorporating toys into their exploration, we'll explore different options and discuss the importance of selecting body-safe materials.

Lastly, we'll delve into the topic of hygiene and provide practical tips on maintaining cleanliness during anal play.

So, grab a cup of tea or your favorite beverage, sit back, and get ready to delve into the world of anal sex. This episode is jam-packed with expert advice, personal anecdotes, and valuable tips that will change the way you view and approach this intimate act.

TIME STAMPS

00:00:37 Anal sex fears: pain, discomfort, fear of liking it.

00:06:24 Options for toys: butt plugs, sizes, Enjoy brand stainless steel, weight, metal ball, movement, size, vibration. Consult toy store employees for advice.

00:08:05 Excrement on fingers can cause contamination during sex.

00:12:28 Communication and practice can enhance sexual experiences.

00:16:01 Embrace pleasure, communicate desires, find sweet spot.

EPISODE LINKS

NJoy products - njoy – Deluxe stainless steel instruments of pleasure.

The Pleasure Chest - Adult Sex Toys Store | The Pleasure Chest

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Want to be a better lover? Here are my top 5 ways to help your woman feel more desire for sex.

In this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' we explore the top 5 methods to help your woman feel more desire for sex. From simple reminders and genuine compliments to creating emotional safety and helping her relax, these expert tips are based on years of counseling experience. Watch to learn how to foster a closer, more intimate relationship!

00:00 Introduction to Increasing Sexual Desire

00:10 Top 5 Ways to Increase Her Desire: Overview

00:55 #5: Remind Her of Sex

03:26 #4: Compliment Her Appearance

07:06 #3: Be an Emotional Safe Space

10:29 #2: Help Her Relax

15:05 #1: Listen to Her

20:50 Recap and Final Thoughts

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

Heather’s Pathway to Passion- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway

Heather’s Courses- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Heather’s Amazon Storefront- https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc

SIMILARLY AWESOME / MENTIONED EPISODES:

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Libido Differences in Relationships: https://youtu.be/dI0mElkmPAw?si=oU3P2oi_R_c8_lvS

How to Have a Passionate Relationship Workshop: https://youtu.be/csFgP6zv_ck?si=h_3wLTPkuhL7DAk5

RATE & REVIEW US!

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🫂Are you non-monogamous or exploring non-monogamy? If so, join Heather's ENM Support Squad Wednesdays at 4pm Eastern starting on July 24th. You can register here --> https://www.eventbrite.com/e/922588806957?aff=oddtdtcreator

🧑‍🎓We are looking for a podcast intern (must be 18+)! Email hello@heathershannon.co if you're interested.

📱Download Heather's new iOS app here: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/heather-shannon-therapist/id6476728826

ABOUT THE EPISODE

Hey, lovely listeners! Today we’re tackling some deeply interesting listener questions about vaginismus, guilty pleasures, and sexual fantasies. Trust me, you don't want to miss this one--my cat even makes an appearance! 🌟🐾

We're chatting about practical strategies for managing vaginismus, letting go of guilt when it comes to pleasure, and exploring when sexual fantasies are helpful and when they're actually preventing connecting with your real life partner. Whether you're on the road or walking your dog, tune in for some enlightening and heartfelt advice. 💫

What You'll Learn:

🌬️ The importance of natural breathing and pelvic floor relaxation.

🌸 Navigating the sensitive topic of vaginismus and its emotional impact.

💭 What to do when you're attracted to your partner in your mind, but not in practice.

🤔 The importance of feeling emotionally safe when it comes to sex.

🪞 The beauty of letting go of shame and fully enjoying your pleasures.

Click play and let's make this episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist" a highlight of your week! 🎧❤️

00:00 Announcements including courses and community forum.

06:14 Difficulty achieving pleasure and anxiety over intercourse.

09:58 Options for treatment for vaginismus and resources.

11:58 Males have diverse sexual preferences and beliefs.

15:43 "Existential Kink" explores embracing and transforming shame.

19:31 Understanding and supporting partner with erectile dysfunction.

22:29 Emotional safety is crucial for libido.

24:28 Difficulty with sex might stem from emotions.

27:32 Free dirty talk guide for podcast listeners.

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GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE (discover what’s blocking YOUR sex life!)

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APPLY FOR HEATHER’S INTIMACY INFUSION PROGRAM 

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HEATHER’S WEBSITE

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ASK A SEX THERAPIST INSTAGRAM 

https://instagram.com/askasextherapist (Join the podcast’s broadcast channel!)

HEATHER’S INSTAGRAM (new!) 

https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather 

YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST 

https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach 

SIMILAR EPISODES

• 071: The Top 5 Sex Blockers - https://pod.fo/e/22a9d3
• 079 Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/23dfe4

THEMES EXPLORED

sex therapy, libido, masturbation, sexual intimacy, erectile dysfunction, vaginismus, endometriosis, internal family systems, podcasting course, sexual censorship, non-monogamy, sex education, sexual anxiety, clitoral orgasm, dilator therapy, pelvic floor physical therapy, sexual pleasure, relationship intimacy, fantasy during sex, sexual arousal, shame and stigma, attachment...

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  

Breaking Boundaries with Pepper Cat: Exploring Male Loneliness, Porn Myths, and Sex Work Realities

In this episode, we sit down with Pepper Cat, the host of Spicy Spectrum Podcast and founder of Design Your Dream Girl, to discuss her journey to the adult entertainment industry. We delve into the complexities of male loneliness, myths about porn, the human side of pornography, and how couples can navigate porn consumption in their relationships. Tune in for a refreshing and candid conversation about the realities of sex work and its impact on personal fulfilment and connection.

00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Introduction

01:20 Pepper Cat's Journey from News to Adult Entertainment

04:26 Discussing Myths and Misconceptions About Porn

07:29 Navigating Porn in Relationships

10:43 Exploring Fantasies and Kinks

21:03 The Human Side of Porn and Personal Growth

28:34 Final Thoughts and Where to Find Pepper Cat

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  

Heather’s Pathway to Passion- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway 

Heather’s Courses- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Heather’s Amazon Storefront- https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc 

Connect with Pepper Cat:

Podcast Website: https://www.spicyspectrumpodcast.com/ 

Design Your Dream Girl site: https://www.pepperkat.com/designyourdreamgirl 

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Sex and Disability Video

🌟 Are the stars aligning in your bedroom? Get ready for an illuminating journey through astrology and healing on this episode of Ask A Sex Therapist. Join us as we sit down with Jackie Tempera, the wordsmith renowned for her celestial insights on sexual health and more, and uncover the cosmic connections to intimacy. But there's more beneath the constellations – Speaker A courageously shares their potent story of trauma and triumph. Together, they explore the raw and real impact of sexual assault and the transformative path to reclaiming pleasure and safety. 🌌

📌 What to expect:

- Jackie Tempera’s insights on how astrology can influence our sex lives, plus tools for checking out your own birth chart.

- Strategies for coping with trauma and finding solace after assault, including Speaker A's personal healing practices.

- The power of acknowledging and normalizing challenging sexual topics to foster recovery and connection.

- Understanding consent and its fundamental role in creating a safe and enjoyable sexual experience.

- A candid exploration of setting boundaries and communicating with partners for a mutually fulfilling sex life.

TIMESTAMPS:

[04:19] Sun sign is least interesting. Planetary placements matter.

[13:11] Exploring sex love lifestyle brought unexpected transformation.

[23:21] Full circle moment turns into painful realization.

[27:58] Group experience affirmed universality of rape trauma.

[32:52] Realizing and accepting past sexual assault experience.

[34:38] Unpleasant experience at police station, JFK talk.

[38:42] Understanding consent and past experiences with sex.

[40:57] Slowly building comfort with intimacy and triggers.

[43:22] Fear of losing faith in humanity's goodness.

[47:33] Understanding partner's needs and creating safe space.

Connect with Jackie Tempera :

Check out her Website - www.jackietempera.com

Follow her on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jackietemp/

X - https://twitter.com/jacktemp

Follow her on tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@jackietemp

Connect with her on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacqueline-tempera-94895142/

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram -...

🔥 Ready to unlock the hidden chambers of intimacy with your partner? Episode 057 of Ask A Sex Therapist turns up the heat as Heather spills the sultry secrets of dom/sub dynamics and how they can electrify your connection. Forget the taboo; it's time to talk about the tantalizing world of kink with clarity and confidence. Whether you're curious about cuffs or simply seeking to spice up your playtime, Heather serves up some steamy insights that'll help you and your partner step into new realms of pleasure - safely and consensually. 🌶️

Tune in as we untangle the ropes of bondage basics and unravel the mysteries of kink. Here’s a sneak peek of what you'll uncover:

- The art of being a responsible dom, prioritizing your sub's desires.

- How kink can heighten mental engagement and address common sexual challenges.

- The significance of aftercare and why it's a non-negotiable in kink exploration.

- Defining kink: A spectrum of activities beyond the vanilla, and how "normal" is being redefined.

- Tips for dipping your toes into the world of BDSM and why education is your sexiest tool.

So, are you ready to explore a new dimension of your sex life? 🎧 Listen to this episode and let Heather guide you through it with expertise and enthusiasm!

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

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027: Listener Sex Questions: Differing Kink Levels, Vaginal Prolapse, Nipple Orgasms and Rimming! - https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist

028: BDSM, Play Parties & Queer Sexuality with Kesiena Boom - https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist

043: Exploring Findom Kinks with Dr Kate Balestrieri - https://pod.fo/e/1ecfaa

RATE & REVIEW US!

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Welcome to another exciting episode of Ask a Sex Therapist, the podcast that's here to change the way you look at sex. I'm your host, Heather Shannon, and I am thrilled to dive into another Q&A session with all of you amazing listeners. Today, we have some intriguing questions to explore, covering topics like fetishes, self-discovery, and embracing our desires. But before we get started, I want to take a moment to express my gratitude for the wonderful reviews and support we've been receiving. Your kind words and feedback mean the world to me. In fact, I'll be reading out a review later in this episode that truly touched me. Plus, we're only a few ratings away from hitting 100 on Apple Podcasts, so don't forget to show your love by giving us a five-star rating. Now, let's jump into these thought-provoking questions and discover the empowering insights they hold. Stay tuned!

Here are some highlights you can expect:

- Discussion of the importance of open conversations about sex and body exploration

- Acknowledgment of the role of the podcast in promoting self-care and spirituality

- Gratitude for listener reviews and a request for more ratings

- Introduction to the listener Q&A segment

- Addressing a question about a panty fetish in a male listener

- Encouragement to explore and understand personal thoughts and feelings about the fetish

- Suggesting positive and self-empowering interpretations and perspectives

- Discussing the potential reasons behind the fetish and its connection to attraction and exploration of femininity

- Highlighting the importance of being comfortable with oneself and being able to share the fetish with a partner in the future

- Emphasizing that there is nothing wrong or abnormal about having a fetish

- Recommendation of a book, "The Erotic Mind" by Jack Morin, for further exploration of eroticism and sexual desires

Timestamps:

[00:00:02] Get comfortable with yourself to improve relationships.

[00:03:04] Is it okay to be this way?

[00:08:12] Explore fetishes, communicate desires with partner.

[00:12:11] Explain sex's importance, discover compatibility, improve relationship.

[00:14:43] Querying sexual orientation, society's influence, and attraction.

[00:19:45] Focus on partner, be curious, show care.

[00:20:49] Sexual options are plentiful; you are more.

EPISODE LINKS

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a no-pressure $1 discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ 

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOw 

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

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Episode 27 - Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/17fd37 

Episode 19 -...

The topic of today’s episode is low libido or sex drive. It’s one of the most common issues that sex therapists see in their practice. Usually, it’s either the partner who doesn't have much of a libido and you miss feeling connected to it, or you're totally fine not being connected to your sex drive, but your partner is not. If you find yourself under the dry spell or in a sexless marriage and you wonder what the heck is going on, today I’m going to unpack the most common reasons behind the low libido and what you can do about it.

What You’ll Learn:

• Libido issue may be a quick fix, but it can also be complex and very holistic
• How to get to the deeper aspects of libido issues using Internal Family Systems
• My own experience with low libido following a breakup
• The brakes and accelerators of sex drives and how to discover your brakes
• Responsive and spontaneous desire and how to intentionally increase your responsive desire with “sexual reminders”  
• Accept your circumstances - it’s normal for things to slow down when you have kids, for example
• The difference between high libido and “sex addiction” or “out of control sexual behavior”

You’ll hear me often saying that I view sex drive and sexual energy as a life force energy. So, I invite you to get curious about it and check out my Mojo Magic guidebook for low libido at https://HeatherShannon.co/Freebies 

Resources:

FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDE

CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?

Book a discovery call ⤵️

https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page

• Come As You Are Worksheets — Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.
• Come As You Are Workbook
• Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead - Brené Brown

LET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:

Website

Instagram

Join the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group

Twitter

YouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)

LinkedIn

Join us for a fearless convo with kink-positive and shame-free content creator Alice Lovegood! She’s here to chat about the saucy side of cartoons (i.e. Princess Jasmine from Aladdin!), spill the tea on being neurodiverse and navigating love, and why those “oops!” moments in the sheets can actually be kinda hot. 💅🛌 Slide into a judgment free zone with Alice and host Heather Shannon where body confidence and exploring desires take the spotlight.

Here's the scoop on what's in this episode:

- Embracing the skin you're in, whether it's after a weight change or just owning your story 😌📖

- Why a little bedroom awkwardness isn't just normal—it's actually important for growth 🌺🤭

- Ditching shame like last season's fashion and why getting kinky might be just the self-care you need 🥀➡️🌹

- Finding the courage to let your freak flag fly, body confidence and all, with Alice's no-filter chat 💬 🚩

Hot timestamps you don't want to miss:

- [00:16:08] Alice gets real about body image post-weight loss

- [00:16:59] Heather and Alice talk about why that number on a scale shouldn't define you

- [00:17:42] Alice on people's surprise at her bold body confidence

- [00:18:09] Body appreciation vs. societal standards chat

- [00:19:10] A convo on loving your body against all odds

- [00:20:11] Alice and Heather tackle the S-word... Shame!

- [00:20:50] Unpacking unconventional kinks with zero shame

- [00:22:14] Finding enjoyment in what turns you on

- [00:23:11] Embracing the feels, the good, the bad, and the sexy

- [00:24:04] How societal norms can stir up those inner emotions

🎙💜 Catch the full vibe by checking out the episode now!

CURIOS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER:

Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session here- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

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Ep. 11 Attachment Styles - https://pod.fo/e/16340d 

Ep. 62 - Wild Nights with Dustin Rybka from Sex Party - https://pod.fo/e/2156e7

Ep. 47 - “Bottom Shame” and being a “Side” with Dr. Joe Kort - https://pod.fo/e/1f60c0 

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Heather’s guest this episode is Chris Trew. Chris is a comedian and improv coach living in New Orleans. He's been featured at over 75 comedy festivals in North America and seen on MTV, America's Got Talent, and GQ Magazine. He runs Comedy House New Orleans, Hell Yes Fest, and teaches improv comedy all over the world. Plus President Barack Obama follows him on Twitter, which Heather thinks is pretty cool!

In this episode, Heather and Chris talk about Air Sex–yes, you read that right! Chris was responsible for bringing the Air Sex Championships to the United States. In case you’re still like “Whaaaa?!”, the Air Sex Championships is a hilariously over-the-top competition that combines the concept of air guitar with pretend sex. Heather and Chris discuss the show and how it became an unexpected hit, while also delving into the incredible benefits of improv comedy for mental health, enhancing relationships and opening lines of communication. 

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• How to flirt, approach people, and handle mistakes like a pro
• How comedy can make you a brave emotional warrior & superior communicator
• Why it’s so essential to get over your fear of rejection and how improv can help you do it.

TIMESTAMPS

[00:00:01] Interview with Comedian and Air Sex Champion Chris Trew

[00:03:28] Connecting on Social Media: Air Sex Championships & Vulnerability

[00:06:47] The Two Types of Air Sex Performances

[00:09:57] Origins and Evolution of Air Sex Championships

[00:13:11] Benefits of Improv for Social Skills and Mental Health

[00:16:23] The Overlooked Fun of Improv

[00:19:26] “Yes And" Technique in Taboo Topics

[00:22:38] The importance of "Turning Towards" in Relationships and Improv and How Improv and Gottman Couples Counseling Research Have That in Common

[00:25:47] The Art of Flirting and Improv

[00:28:54] Improvisation for Improved Social Skills

[00:31:48] Overcoming Screen-Based Social Anxiety and Getting Over Fear of Rejection

[00:34:53] Benefits of Adopting Improv Mentality in Real Life–There Are No Mistakes!

[00:38:02] Improv Training Programs and Air Sex Championships

EPISODE LINKS

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a no-pressure $1 discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOw

CONNECT WITH CHRIS TREW:

Where you can find Air Sex Championships: 

Sturgis Music Festival (August, Buffalo Chip)

Richmond Virginia Tattoo Convention (October)

Follow Chris on Instagram - https://Instagram.com/ChrisTrew (Zoom classes, membership opportunities, 1-on-1)

Chris’ Website - https://hellyescreative.com (corporate training, etc)

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

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Join my Intro to Internal Family Systems (IFS) workshop https://shorturl.at/eS5rL this Wednesday for the chance to master your emotions, improve your relationships and get hot seat coaching with me!

In this episode, me and Todd Baratz (@YourDiagnonsense on IG) have a very REAL discussion on romantic relationships--the good, the bad and the ugly!

And be sure to check out his new--and very personal--book "How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind!" which is out in stores now!

Todd's Book - https://amzn.to/4euSJmp

Todd's IG - https://www.instagram.com/yourdiagnonsense/

🔥 Request an "Ignite Your Intimacy" breakthrough session with Heather https://heathershannon.co/video-page/. You’ll get her top 3 recommendations to enhance your sex life and learn if her Intimacy Infusion program could help you feel closer and more connected.

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Coming up on this episode, we dive into the complex world of addiction and compulsive behaviors. Our guest, JK Emezi shares his personal journey with addiction and explores the challenges of traditional recovery methods. From the impact of childhood experiences to the role of neurochemicals, we uncover the underlying factors that contribute to addictive behaviors. Join us as we delve into the nuances of addiction and discuss strategies for finding freedom, authenticity, and healing.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:

• Porn addiction recovery expert helps control behavior.
• City living limits choices; adulthood requires stability.
• Differentiating between libido and compulsive behavior.
• Hiding true self leads to shame, insecurities, and poor self image.
• New masculinity: embracing diverse expressions of manhood.
• Our bodies produce opiates, so anyone can be addicted to anything. People are addicted to various things.
• Withdrawal from pornography causes strong cravings and imbalances in neurochemicals it can be a learning experience, pleasant.

CONNECT WITH JK EMEZI HERE ⤵️:

Website - https://elevatedrecovery.org/ 

Claim your FREE Course - https://pornreboot.com/ 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/j-k-emezi-736457127/ 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jkemezi1

Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@ElevatedRecovery 

The Porn Reboot Podcast - https://apple.co/3Q9mRIs 

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Dirty Talk Guide - https://HeatherShannon.co/Freebies 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach 

SIMILAR EPISODES:

044: Healing Sexual Trauma Together - https://pod.fo/e/1ef5d3 

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*****

Ever thought about being in a throuple? Regardless of whether it's for you, I bet you're curious about this unique relationship structure!

Tune in with Heather's guests, Dr. Rachael Meir and her partners Aaron and Casey for a truly unique episode.

Get answers to your questions like:

• Is sex always a threesome?
• What's the biggest perk of being in a 3-person relationship?
• How do they handle living in a world made for 2-person relationsihps?
• Is doing household chores really easier with 3 people?

Plus, find out what monogamous people can learn from polyamorous relationships!

*****

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s coaching services. 

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 

@AskASexTherapist Instagram

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  

SIMILAR EPISODE

Episode 13 - Is monogamy realistic? https://pod.fo/e/166e5e 

CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS!

@TriadAndTrue TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@triadandtrue?lang=en

@TriadAndTrue IG - https://www.instagram.com/triadandtrue/?hl=en

Dr. Rachael Meir Website - https://www.drrachaelmeir.com/

Welcome to the Ask a Sex Therapist Podcast! This podcast will help you change how you look at sex. 

I'm Heather Shannon, a Certified Sex Therapist, Holistic Health Coach, and a Shambala meditation guide. I hold a Master's Degree in Counseling, but most of my knowledge and expertise comes from my lived experience, personal exploration, and constant seeking of knowledge. 

On this show, you can expect raw truth about pleasure and intimacy, how to enjoy your body and how to let go of any trauma, shame or stigma you might have about your sexuality, sexual expression or how you enjoy sex. 

If you are exploring non-monogamy, BDSM or kink, or feel that something might be wrong with your sexuality or that it is not as exciting as it used to be, then this show is perfect for you. It is also a space that celebrates diversity, a space that embraces all sizes, shapes, abilities, disabilities, races, religions, ages, sexual orientations, gender identities and relationship structures.  But this show is also for vanilla folks, sex workers, and those who might have judgment around sex or sexuality. 

Ask a Sex Therapist is not about being woke or cancel culture; it is a safe space where we respect each other's autonomy and personhood and learn from those who are different. 

Hop on and join me every week to remove the shame, conditioning and stigma around sex, and become a more conscious relationship partner.

Resources:

• Grab Your Free Dirty Talk Guide: https://heathershannon.co/dirty-talk/
• Website: https://heathershannon.co/ 
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherashannon/ 
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HeatherShannonLCPC/ 
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/HeatherAShannon 
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heather-shannon-7697235/ 

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/

In this episode, we welcome Dr. Jen Kennedy, a clinical sexologist and licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss low sexual desire in women. Dr. Jen explains how societal norms and lack of adequate sex education contribute to myths about women's sexual desire. She describes her journey from public relations and photography to sex therapy and the nuances of working with couples on their intimate lives. Dr. Jen also touches on techniques such as Sense8 Focus and discusses the importance of understanding one's own pleasure profile. Throughout the conversation, they debunk common misconceptions, emphasize the importance of addressing both physical and psychological barriers to desire, and highlight the need for open dialogue about sexual health.

Dr. Jen also hosts her own podcast called The Pleasure Project Podcast: Sex and Relationships. (https://www.youtube.com/@drjennkennedy) For more information, you can visit her websites at Riviera Therapy (https://riviera-therapy.com) and Pleasure Project (https://pleasureproject.us).

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

00:22 Meet Dr. Jen Kennedy

01:08 Discussing Low Sexual Desire in Women

01:44 Dr. Jen's Journey to Becoming a Sexologist

02:53 Training and Challenges in Sex Therapy

05:19 Understanding Sexual Attitudes and Fixations

07:39 Exploring Women's Sexual Desire

10:40 Cultural and Biological Factors in Sexual Desire

13:49 Reconnecting Through Sensate Focus

19:27 Therapist's Role in Normalizing Intimacy

20:19 Debunking Myths About Women's Desire

20:38 Exploring Fantasies and Initiating Desire

20:59 The Power of Open Conversations About Sex

23:28 Understanding and Enhancing Pleasure Profiles

29:25 The Importance of Play and Relaxation in Sex

31:56 Addressing Deterrents and Cultivating Stimulators

34:07 Seeking Help and Professional Guidance

35:38 Resources and Upcoming Programs

38:01 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

WORK WITH HEATHER

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/

LET’S CONNECT! Find warmth HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website: https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram: https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube: Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

Heather’s Pathway to Passion: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway

Heather’s Courses: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Heather’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc

Connect with : Dr. Jenn Kennedy

Email: Jenn@PleasureProject.us or jennkennedy@me.com

SIMILARLY AWESOME / MENTIONED EPISODES:

Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:

Age Play Video: https://youtu.be/TURlpFGTTOk? si=ISQI-s-TBuVo2xIm

Sex and Disability Video: https://youtu.be/jPKzoXg3-kI? si=6aQnWzlwWguXXIA8

Come As You Are Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1982165316?...

Don’t forget to follow the show. We have some amazing guests you won’t want to miss including Damona Hoffman from The Drew Barrymore show, Kelly Casperson from the You Are Not Broken podcast and surrogate partner Katherine Yeagel.

Reminder to you that the show notes are choc-ful of helpful links. You can submit your anonymous sex questions via our anonymous Ask A Sex Therapist link. I would love to hear from more of you about what you’re struggling with when it comes to sex or what you really want that you haven’t been able to figure out how to get yet. This will factor into which topics I cover on the show. In other words, not only will I answer all the questions, but you may even get your own episode!

🔥 Get ready to learn all about the art of initiating sex in this episode of Ask a Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon! Heather discusses the importance of clear communication, the different approaches to initiating, and the nuances of understanding your partner's desires. From playful seduction to setting the mood for intimacy, this episode is packed with tips and insights on how to get things going in the bedroom. If you're looking to add some excitement and connection to your sex life, you won't want to miss this candid discussion with Heather!

In this episode, you'll learn:

- The importance of clear communication when initiating sex

- Different approaches to initiating and seducing your partner

- Understanding your partner's preferences for getting in the mood

- Navigating the complexities of foreplay and arousal

- Tips for fostering intimacy and connection through initiating sex

🎧 Tune in to the episode for expert tips on how to initiate sex and bring passion back into your relationship!

Time Stamps:

- 00:54 - Heather introduces the topic of initiating sex and previews upcoming guests

- 03:25 - Heather shares a personal cringe-worthy story about a unique approach to initiating sex

- 08:08 - Identifying the different types of approaches to initiating and understanding your partner's preferences

- 12:29 - Overcoming the discomfort and challenges of initiating sex through open communication

- 16:43 - Exploring the nuances of foreplay, arousal, and navigating intimacy

- 19:54 - Heather discusses a free tool to help diagnose patterns in your sex life and offers a call to action for listeners

GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE

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CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH?

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FOLLOW THE SHOW (so you won’t miss a juicy detail AND this helps more people discover Ask A Sex Therapist!)

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LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES

https://HeatherShannon.co

YOUTUBE VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST & MORE 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!

LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES

https://HeatherShannon.co

SIMILAR EPISODES

067: Get Vulnerable & Get Laid! - https://pod.fo/e/221294

063: How to Communicate About Sex Openly

Submit your anonymous sex questions here! For our next Listener Q & A episode → https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/

🚀 Ready to liberate your inner WILD and explore the transformative power of sexuality? This episode of 'Ask A Sex Therapist' features the fierce and fabulous GG Sauvage, who shares her journey from trauma to triumph and how sex work has shaped her life and identity. It's a candid conversation filled with raw insights and helpful advice whether you're navigating your own self-discovery or simply curious about the nuances of relationships and sex work. Get ready to be inspired and empowered! 🌟🎙️💜

Listeners will learn about:

- Reclaiming one's identity post-trauma

- Exploring sexual identity after a conservative religious upbringing

- How sex work can lead to empowerment and financial stability

- The healing aspects of creating erotic content and art

- Navigating bisexuality and non-monogamous relationships

Time stamps for spicy bits & giggles:

[00:01:29] The significance behind the name Sauvage

[00:03:18] The wildness that comes from breaking free

[00:09:12] Exploration of the desire to engage in sex work

[00:19:36] Sharing what it's like to work in a Nevada brothel

[00:23:09] The broad and positive impact of legal sex work

[00:27:22] Advocating for pleasure education and understanding one's body

[00:34:52] Femme on femme energy and advice on non-monogamous relationships

[00:39:43] Reclamation in the context of romantic and working relationships

[00:43:17] The benefits and satisfaction in relationships between two women

Don't miss this episode – tune in now and unearth the wisdom hiding beneath the surface of your desires. And if you're vibing with us, don't forget to share the experience! 🎧💬

GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE

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CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH?

Request a free Ignite Your Intimacy Breakthrough Session (Limit 3 per week, so book now!)

FOLLOW THE SHOW (so you won’t miss a juicy detail AND this helps more people discover Ask A Sex Therapist!)

https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist  

LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES

https://HeatherShannon.co

YOUTUBE VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST & MORE 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!

FIND AND FOLLOW OUR AMAZING GUEST GG SAUVAGE:

GG’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/ggsauvage/ 

GG’s Website & Writing - https://www.sexandthesynchronicity.com/

SIMILAR EPISODES

1. Ep. 64 The Shame Free, Kinky Neurodivergent Episode with Alice Lovegood https://pod.fo/e/21a9f3 
2. Ep. 60 Navigating Sexual Relationships Post Trauma with Jackie Tempera https://pod.fo/e/211467
3. Ep. 56 Exploring FinDom Kinks with Kate Balestrieri https://pod.fo/e/1ecfaa...

Book an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ 

Join Heather Shannon in the 100th episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast as she reflects on the journey of podcasting, commitment, and consistency over the past two years. Heather shares the highs and lows, her experiences with guests, the importance of listener impact, and the challenges faced along the way. Celebrate with a special scavenger hunt featuring hidden Giphys in her YouTube episodes and learn about exciting prizes! Heather also delves into the significance of maintaining genuine human connections amidst today's tech-driven world. Don't miss this celebratory and reflective episode!

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Heather’s email to contact her or inquire about the internship: askasextherapistpodcast@gmail.com 

Scavenger Hunt Quiz Link: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/scavenger-hunt 

Episode 98 on Youtube: https://youtu.be/5QW9ZTZjC1A 

Episode 99 on Youtube: https://youtu.be/rx92U1khqMQ 

Similar Youtube Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS7ufNJ2h3T9DvT960cWbrCx&si=f5fZpPOyiH-_ZXEZ 

In this episode, you really get to Ask A Sex Therapist! Listeners asked Heather their most pressing sex questions including:

1. How can I have anal sex without it hurting and actually enjoy it?
2. I’m interested in sex with other women, but need some help with approaching women. Any advice?
3. I’m experiencing guilt with masturbation–my partner has said she doesn’t like it when I masturbate. How do I get past that?
4. I want to make my girlfriend squirt. Some women I’ve been with before have, but it’s the minority of them–what can I do to increase the chances?
5. I feel awkward with roleplay, but it’s something my boyfriend is interested in. How should beginner’s approach roleplay to make it less awkward?

Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon answers these questions with practical tips as well as mindset advice. Submit your questions for Heather’s next Listener Q & A via her free FB community or her website.

CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH?

Book a No-Pressure $1 Discovery Call 

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - HeatherShannon.co

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Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - @AskASexCoach

REVIEWER PRIZES!!!

Was it your review that was read on today’s episode? You get a free book bundle! Choose any 3 books from Heather’s Amazon Storefront and we will mail them to you. Reach out via email at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com to claim your prize. If you prefer audiobooks instead, we can gift you a 3-month Audible membership as your prize.

Ready to light the spark in your intimate life? Listen to our special guest Magda Kay as she uncovers the mysteries of Tantra and tackles the hot topic of mismatched libidos in relationships. Feeling like your bedroom dynamics could use a tune-up? Whether you're solo or partnered up, this episode has a lot of insights on sexual energy flow and practical takeaways for keeping that fire alive. 🛏️💕 

In this episode, you'll gain insight into:

- The transformative power of Tantra and how it's more than just what happens in the bedroom.

- Strategies for couples navigating libido differences and the secrets to maintaining a sizzling connection.

- Actionable advice for parents and new couples facing the all-too-common shift from passion to roommates. 

- Understanding the fluidity of sexual roles and energies in both heterosexual and queer relationships. 

- Tips for effectively communicating desires and how to reintroduce romance and anticipation into your relationship. 

Timestamps:

00:00 Challenging gender stereotypes in sex, finding solutions.

05:18 Men learning to embrace emotions and sexuality.

08:04 Curiosity led to discovery of sexual healing.

13:47 Female-focused workshops offer a safer environment.

15:50 Helping men with confidence and intimacy issues.

18:08 Gender dynamics affecting romance and passion in relationships.

22:38 Prioritize important things, accept consequences, be adaptable.

26:06 Men struggle with emotions and societal expectations.

31:13 Show dynamic, respect, and attraction in interactions.

33:34 Addressing emotional barriers to improve sexual intimacy.

37:42 Planning sex is important, especially for parents.

39:28 Curious about energy and gender fluidity.

CONNECT WITH MAGDA KAY:

Website - magdakay.com

Instagram -  instagram.com/magdakayofficial

Facebook - facebook.com/MagdaKayOfficial

Book - magdakay.com/book

Speaking - magdakay.com/speaking

The School of Intimacy - magdakay.com/school

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:

Episode 5 - The Clitoris - https://pod.fo/e/15ce78

Episode 15 - Unlearning Sex Negativity - https://pod.fo/e/16a6b6

RATE & REVIEW US!

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In the latest episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, Heather engages in a powerful conversation with guest and professional Surrogate Partner, Katherine Yeagel. Together they explore the nuanced and often misunderstood practice of Surrogate Partner Therapy. Katherine, a surrogate partner, somatic sex educator, and queer sex and relationship coach, shares her insightful perspective on the therapeutic journey, emphasizing the stepping stones of starting from a place of safety and gradually moving toward deeper connection. 

They highlight the importance of nervous system regulation, the impact of societal norms on personal relationships, and the need for authenticity in sexual encounters. Katherine's personal transformation and professional insights shed light on the intricate relationship between self-discovery and healing within the context of surrogate partner therapy. This episode offers listeners a thought-provoking examination of intimate growth, client experiences, and deliberately pacing yourself in intimate relationships to build trust and establish healthy boundaries.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

🧑‍🤝‍🧑What is Surrogate Partner Therapy? (3:41)

📑How does someone get started working in this field?

🙋 What types of people make a good client for Surrogate Partner Therapy?

🚷What are some myths about Surrogate Partner Therapy?

🚦Creating and noticing safety and green lights in your body when it comes to intimacy

TIMESTAMPS

03:41 Surrogate partners help clients practice relationship skills.

10:06 Learning to provide whole authentic relationship with clients.

13:14 Teamwork with therapists fulfills and enriches Katherine.

20:31 Creating a green zone space for yourself.

27:41 Surrogate partners navigate authenticity and attraction challenges.

37:46 Reflecting on experiences, avoiding regrets after sex.

42:00 Authentic expression leads to genuine confidence.

44:44 Deconstructing traditional views on sex and sexuality.

RESOURCES

GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE (discover what’s blocking YOUR sex life!)

https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit

APPLY FOR HEATHER’S INTIMACY INFUSION PROGRAM 

https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page 

HEATHER’S WEBSITE

https://HeatherShannon.co

ASK A SEX THERAPIST INSTAGRAM 

https://instagram.com/askasextherapist (Join the podcast’s broadcast channel!)

HEATHER’S INSTAGRAM (new!) 

https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather 

YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST 

https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach 

SIMILAR EPISODES (where I cover more obstacles that could be blocking your sex life!)

• 060: Navigating Sexual Relationships Post-Trauma with Jackie Tempera - https://pod.fo/e/213792 
• Ep 63 How to Communicate About Sex Openly & With Sensitivity - https://pod.fo/e/217d0a 

KATHERINE YEAGEL...

This episode was prompted by a recent audience question, but it’s an age-old debate in the sex therapy realm. Is it lame to schedule sex? If you don’t schedule it, do you wind up just being in a permanent sex rut? 

Of course spontaneous sex can feel extra hot and intense . . . and no one wants sex to feel like another appointment on their calendar. We want novelty and adventure in our sex lives to keep things spicy. 

But sometimes you and your partner want sex at different times of day or your schedules make you like ships passing in the night and it’s all conversations about logistics when you do have a moment together.

It doesn’t have to be that way!

Listen in to this episode to find out:

1. The pros and cons of scheduling sex

2. Who should and shouldn’t schedule intimacy

3. Whether you should schedule sex or just create the conditions for sex.

4. How to build anticipation when you’re scheduling sex. 

5. The importance of childcare for a great relationship

SEXY SUMMER BOOK CLUB:

Check out Heather’s new Sexy Summer Book Club. Sign up now and start reading Tell Me What You Want by Justin Lehmiller for our first meeting on July 11th. SaveYour Spot → https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/sexy-summer-book-club

LET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOw

REVIEWER PRIZES!!!

Give us a rating and review to help spread Heather’s feel-good messages about sexuality. https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist

Was it your Apple Podcasts review that was read on today’s episode? You get a free book bundle! Choose any 3 books from Heather’s Amazon Storefront and we will mail them to you. Reach out via email at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com to claim your prize. If you prefer audiobooks instead, we can gift you a 3-month Audible membership as your prize.

Enjoy this episode of wild audience questions (and I have more we didn't even get to!)

1. A husband dealing with disability turns to porn and his wife wants to know how to handle it.
2. A husband who isn't getting any at home tries to join a gangbang . . . but it doesn't go according to plan.
3. She loves her boyfriend, but he's got some odd behavior when it comes to sex and she wants some help navigating his surprising behavior.

Want to submit a question to be featured on our next Listener Q & A episode?

1. Leave a voice message at https://HeatherShannon.co/podcast. You can even use a fake name!
2. Write-in a totally anonymous message at https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/

P.S. Sorry for the late release time of this episode--we had a problem with the editors and had to switch last minute! If you are an experienced audio/video editor and want to take over production of this show, email Heather at HeatherShannonLCPC@gmail.com ASAP!

Erectile dysfunction is one of the most common issues I’ve dealt with as a sex therapist. Turns out there’s a lot of pressure on people with a penis! There’s the idea that they need to last super long and manage their erection. There’s the idea that they should always want sex and should really never say no to sex. And there’s the idea that they’re just sex machines who don’t have feelings or require emotional intimacy for sex to fulfill them. These ideas are mostly wrong and I just want to set things straight for you in this episode. 

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

1. The difference between physiological erectile dysfunction and psychological erectile dysfunction
2. Why viagra and cialis often don’t work
3. How partners typically respond to erectile dysfunction and why that’s unhelpful and inaccurate 95% of the time.
4. My tips on what to do when an erection goes away during sex. 
5. My unique insight about the penis and emotions.

Share this episode with your partner to get a healthy dialogue going about how you want to manage E.D. together. 

RELATED EPISODES:

003 The Emotions of Sex

012 Why Consent Is Sexy AF

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LET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website

Heather’s Instagram

Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!

REVIEWER PRIZES!!!

Was it your review that was read on today’s episode? You get a free book bundle! Choose any 3 books from Heather’s Amazon Storefront and we will mail them to you. Reach out via email at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com to claim your prize. If you prefer audiobooks instead, we can gift you a 3-month Audible membership as your prize.

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ 

Jonathan Aslay on Self Love: Transforming Grief into a Mission

In this episode, Jonathan Aslay, a leading midlife dating coach, discusses his journey from personal tragedy to becoming an advocate for self-love. After losing his son in 2018, Jonathan embarked on a spiritual and introspective path, leading him to discover the emotional health issues plaguing many singles. He now focuses on helping individuals cultivate self-worth, self-regard, and self-love. Jonathan also delves into the challenges of modern dating, the importance of emotional maturity, and how personal growth practices can transform one's dating experiences and interpersonal relationships.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

00:20 Jonathan Aslay's Journey to Self-Love

02:36 The Impact of Grief and Spiritual Exploration

08:30 From Grief to Dating Coach

11:58 Navigating Modern Dating Challenges

24:43 Sex and Empowerment

25:05 The Sacredness of Sex

25:37 Risks and Consequences

27:02 Compatibility and Emotional Maturity

27:24 Navigating Multiple Partners

28:25 Coaching and Self-Discovery

29:53 Emotional Awareness and Expression

31:54 The Layers of Human Programming

34:31 The Journey of Self-Love

38:06 Practical Steps for Self-Improvement

43:03 Jonathan's Personal Transformation

46:40 Connecting with Jonathan

JONATHON’S INFO:

Jonathon Aslay’s Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDOXs_34FF93o66Z-S0py1g 

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:

Episode 37 - Ever-changing gender roles with dating coach, Evan Marc Katz - https://pod.fo/e/19162b

Episode 13 - Is monogamy realistic? https://pod.fo/e/166e5e 

RATE & REVIEW US!

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Healthy boundaries are all the rage . . . and with good reason. Having them helps us feel empowered, reduces resentment and encourages self-respect. But what about when it comes to sex? How can you practice saying no and communicating your needs without pushing the other person away?

Do healthy sexual boundaries mean you’re never going to have casual sex (answer - no!)? How can sexual boundaries help you feel safer with your partner? 

Embodiment practices can help. By being in your body and not just your head (the brain head, not the other one), you’ll learn what a YES truly feels like and what a NO feels like. 

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

1. How Heather set boundaries in a dating situation & how it worked out.
2. Having sex more than you truly want to: Using sex for validation. Having sex early on so it’s not an issue. Getting sex out of the way.
3. Sexual boundary issues often stem from a disconnect in your body. Your mind could be bulldozing your body specifically. 
4. The ability to tune into your body is important to all this. Ways you can practice: Do a body scan guided meditation. Do a sensual massage with your partner and notice where you feel relaxed, if you feel self-conscious or squeamish anywhere. Practice feeling your emotions in your body. 
5. Not being vulnerable enough. Working through fear and aversion. If it’s a safe space and you’re committed to showing up for yourself, it’s ok to push the envelope a bit.

Resources Mentioned:

GRAB YOUR HEALTHY SEXUAL BOUNDARIES CHECKLIST HERE!

CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH?

Book a No-Pressure $1 Discovery Call 

LET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website

Heather’s Instagram

Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!

REVIEWER PRIZES!!!

Was it your review that was read on today’s episode? You get a free book bundle! Choose any 3 books from Heather’s Amazon Storefront and we will mail them to you. Reach out via email at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com to claim your prize. If you prefer audiobooks instead, we can gift you a 3-month Audible membership as your prize.

In this exciting episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, your host Heather Shannon interviews Dr. Laurie Mintz, author of Becoming Cliterate and an award-winning college professor with over 20 years of experience working with sexual issues. Join them as they share their passion for closing the orgasm gap, encouraging pleasure for vulva owners, and challenging the myths perpetuated by society about female pleasure. Learn about the importance of understanding female anatomy, proper hygiene, and seeking advice from a pelvic floor physical therapist. Discover the significance of mindfulness, positive thinking, and open communication with partners for a fulfilling sexual experience. Don't miss out on this enlightening conversation that empowers women to prioritize their pleasure and take control of their sexual health.

Timestamps

[00:00:01] Closing the Orgasm Gap

[00:03:45] Expert's journey in human sexuality

[00:07:23] The Orgasm Gap and Gender Conformity

[00:11:23] Debunking Myths About Orgasms

[00:14:54] Misconceptions about female genitalia anatomy

[00:18:42] Challenges in Educating about Women's Sexuality

[00:22:33] Realistic Sexual Communication in Media

[00:26:30] Importance of Masturbation for Female Sexual Health

[00:29:55] Optimizing Orgasms and Pelvic Health

[00:33:28] Mindfulness and Communication for Better Sex

[00:37:17] Revamping Sex: Tips for Enhanced Pleasure and Exploration

[00:40:56] The importance of sex positivity and genital hygiene

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website

Heather’s Instagram

Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!

FIND OUT MORE ABOUT OUR GUEST, DR. LAURIE MINTZ:

Laurie’s website (for books, bookings, etc)

Instagram

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:

Episode 5 - The Clitoris - https://pod.fo/e/15ce78

Episode 15 - Unlearning Sex Negativity - https://pod.fo/e/16a6b6

RATE & REVIEW US!

Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here.

You want to leave a review, but you’re tech challenged? Here’s a YouTube video of how to rate & review on Apple (iPhone/Mac) and here’s one for Spotify/Android.

All Apple written reviews are eligible to win a 3-book bundle of books (or audiobooks) from Heather’s Amazon Storefront. Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com to claim your prize!