Ancient Intelligence (Anya Shakh)

My theory is that the tension and imbalance we feel in society stems from one root cause - the disharmony between the masculine and the feminine in ourselves and with each other.

Over the years it’s become my mission to help restore that harmony the best way I can. I’ve been studying, researching, and having some powerful conversations with brilliant people from all backgrounds.

Conversations that I desperately want to share with you and through these conversations, we’re actively building a bridge.

Brick by brick.

A bridge that unites the masculine and feminine.

A bridge that unites men and women.

Join me on this journey of curiosity, empathy, and a desire to understand. If you or anyone you know would like to be on the show, please reach out to me at anyashakh.com

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In this episode Anya hosts life coach and generational trauma expert, Jamie Star Crawford. She is the founder of popular group program for women, Truth Serum for the Soul (next round begins on 4.26.22 and she is currently accepting enrollments).

Join Jamie and I as we uncover why the male gaze has become taboo in our culture. We begin with the origins of the male gaze and what the purpose of it is within the masculine/feminine dynamic. We then get into what went wrong and how we, as men and women, can co-author a new conversation together.

Links

Connect with Jamie https://www.instagram.com/jamiestarcrawford/

Check out Truth Serum for the Soul https://www.jamiestarcrawford.com/truth-serum

Ways of Seeing by John Berger https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2784.Ways_of_Seeing

In this episode Anya hosts entrepreneur and married couple, Ben and Chloe Gower. Chloe helps women find freedom in their skin through mindset and health coaching, while Ben is a sales expert that has run numerous successful businesses including High Impact Coach.

With divorce rates up and marriage being questioned more than ever, join me and the Gowers as we unpack what’s at the heart of the marriage crisis. Listen as Ben and Chloe let us into the vision, values, and systems that power their successful relationship. Learn about how they view the purpose of marriage so that you can be better equipped to determine what’s right for you.

Links

Connect with Chloe Gower https://www.instagram.com/chloegirl/

Connect with Ben Gower https://www.instagram.com/ben_gower_/

Luxury Beliefs by Rob Henderson https://quillette.com/2019/11/16/thorstein-veblens-theory-of-the-leisure-class-a-status-update/

In this episode, Anya hosts Compassion and Confidence expert, transformational coach, and CEO of Workplace Catalyst, Magalie René. Magalie helps individuals and corporations bring leadership, compassion, and well-being together into one package.

Join Magalie and I in this soul baring episode about our experiences with our fathers. Listen in as we give this term a much-needed rebrand by taking it from a place of defeat to one of empowerment.

Connect with Magalie René here

LINKS:

Attached by Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S.F. Heller M.A. here

The Book of Forgiveness by Desmond Tutu here

A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle here

In this episode, Anya hosts men’s coach Tommy Geary, aka The Dad Coach. Tommy owns We Embark, along with his wife, Brenda. He helps men who have seemingly “made it,” but still feel like something is missing find the internal freedom they crave.

Join us as we cover internal versus external validation, the life stages of men, male happiness, acknowledgment, and brotherhood. Tommy teaches a free course every week highlighting how quickly men can go from stuck to feeling energized and living on purpose each day. One last note, we talk about Will Smith’s new book and did not side step his recent actions. This was recorded prior to the Oscars (we both still love Will).

Connect with Tommy here

Sign up for coaching or join his men’s group here

Links

-Boys & Sex by Peggy Orenstein here

-Wild at Heart by John Eldridge here

-The 4-hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss here

-Atomic Habits by James Clear here

-Will by Will Smith here

In this episode, Anya hosts cop and gym owner, Nov Chowdhury. He works in the narcotics division of the NYPD and you can also find him at his gym, Coney Island Fitness, in Brooklyn.

Nov lets us into his personal experiences, observations, and desires with a masculine POV and no-BS approach. We cover the differences in how men and women date, the apps, action focused love, long-term partnerships, and even coping with grief.

-Connect with Nov here here

-Check out his gym here

In this episode, Anya hosts elite leadership coach, Omar Iribe. Join us as we dive into what masculinity is based on Omar’s personal experience as well as the numerous elements of yang (yin/yang) such as respect, kindness, and taking ownership for ones life.

This is to create a clear distinction between masculinity as a life-force versus the “”mask” of masculinity popularized in the US in the 1950’s by John Wayne films. We discuss ways to unlock true masculine fulfillment in love, purpose, finances, and family.

-Connect with Omar here

-Work with Omar here

In this episode, Anya hosts life coach, Bruce Languren. Bruce let’s us into a brand new way of thinking about curiosity that’s not what you might think. We tackle the topics of control, attachment, and the fear of rejection hindering the opportunity for curiosity in all aspects of life.

Bruce highlights the two most important things that men and women need from each other (hint: they are very different) and we end the conversation by discussing rites of passage and the way curiosity can help you live in a state of choice and freedom versus a state of limitation and lack.

Connect with Bruce here

Connect with his community here

In this episode, Anya hosts nurse, dance teacher, wife, and mother of three teen boys, Abelin Cedeno. Abelin is a pillar within the Brazilian Zouk dance community in Dallas and while she’s not working, wifing, or mothering, you can find her organizing the next dance event to bring people together.

Abelin lets us into her personal experiences, observations, and perspective on why “unconditional love” doesn’t work. She opens up about her divorce, her current marriage, and all she’s learned in between. We cover the difference between sacrifice and discipline, how resentments develops, and why conditionality within all relationships is something we should all consider.

Connect with Abelin here

Check out Dallas Zouk here

In this episode, Anya hosts expressive and magnetic musical artist, Chelsea Perkins. Chelsea makes upbeat girl-power music that gets you off your chair and into your body. Her style and energy is one-of-a-kind and sometimes when we think of artists, we think of them one-dimensionally (i.e. only cooking or singing or acting) but the truth is that it’s their personal lives that impact them the most creatively.

That’s exactly what I found out when I went behind the scenes with Chelsea. Listen in as she shines light on the personal journey that has made her who she is today. From dating to healing to modern womanhood, join Chelsea and I as we uncover how to express your creativity and unique YOU-ness through the properties of masculinity and femininity. We also do a live exercise that brings forth how to separate the two elements within you in a clear way that you can join in on. Once you meet Chelsea you’ll want to check out her music in all the places music is available:

Connect with Chelsea on IG here

Listen to her latest songs here

Follow her on Twitch here

In this episode, Anya fills a gap that we have in our culture by bringing to light a term that is missing, masculinism. Many times, we see feminism and masculinity being placed next to each other (or pitted against each other), but that’s not correct. Feminism is a movement, while masculinity is a life force (apples and oranges).

Etymology is extremely important, when we don’t have the right word or the right definition of a word in our culture, we get stuck. And currently we are stuck because we are missing the word and definition of masculinism. Listen in as Anya introduces masculinism, where it came from, and why we so desperately need to add it to our vernacular. In this short episode, Anya talks about Robert Bly (the father of men’s movement), Egyptian mythology, Indigenous storytelling, and how we can use masculinism in the modern context to help get us unstuck and move forward.

In this episode, Anya hosts game-changing elite life coach, Nick Tillia. He’s the go-to coach when Elite athletes and professionals want extraordinary support and the unfair advantage in their lives.

Nick has become an expert in understanding inner child work and during this episode he let’s us into the wisdom behind his teachings. We cover the multi- dimensional meaning behind the phrase, ‘heal the boy and the man will appear,’ in addition to the loneliness epidemic, understanding masculinity, unconscious dynamics between men and women, and parenthood.

-Connect with Nick here

In this episode, Anya hosts vibrant and expressive fitness coach and dancer Hannah Rose. Hannah’s passion for people find deep connection and freedom within their bodies is inspiring.

She’s got immense wisdom to share about how people’s body movement or lack thereof is directly related to the pain they hold within them. As a dancer and fitness coach, Hannah and I discuss both the strip club and fitness industries at length and unpack the wounded and healthy masculine and feminine dynamics that live in both spaces.  We highlight how different movement is for men and women and why so many women feel helpless in the hyper-masculine fitness industry because they don’t achieve the results they want.

We touch on the bodybuilder’s journey and the mental struggle that can exist there, in addition to highlighting the missing space for the feminine within fitness in general. We talk about men and the way they relate to their bodies through the training process and sexuality. Finally, we unravel the layers of validation and rejection that exists for both men and women within body movement.

We highlight some resources and cultural references during this episode including;

Strip Down, Rise Up - a must watch documentary on netflix for both men and women highlighting sensual expression and trauma

Shredded - An award winning short documentary from Israel that follows the mental struggle of a bodybuilder. (Link to watch only available for 48 hours after release of this episode)

Magic Mike - Understanding the sensual freedom and safety that fluid body movement creates for men (specifically the live shows)

Last but not least, connect with the wonderful Hannah Rose on instagram. She’s currently creating a beautiful new program for women that fuses the discipline of the gym with the fluidity of sensual dance.

In this episode, Anya hosts self-mastery coach and wise woman Julie Diaz. This is a special episode that was inspired by the awareness of the cultural narrative out there that no one cares about men. As two women who care about men deeply and are committed to shifting this narrative, we wanted to get together and go back and forth sharing all the reasons why we love men.

Gentlemen, this is for you, in honor of you, and inspired by all that you are and bring to the table as men. It’s 20 minutes long so listen in as Julie and I ping-pong finishing the sentence, ‘I love men because…’

Connect with Julie here

Connect with Anya here

In this episode, Anya hosts NY based psychotherapist Michael Shawe. Michael’s passion for helping people heal their traumas so they can create meaningful connections is infectious. He’s currently spending a lot of time coaching couples as well as leading a men’s group.

What I originally thought would be a conversation about unpacking what’s behind the term mama’s boy, we went much deeper. We ended up going on a hero’s journey where we unearthed what it means to actually love a person in their wholeness. We talk about how the key to making real connections is through our dark sides and how similar we all are in our experiences.

We talk about mama’s boys, emotionally absent fathers, power dynamics, and how sex and our wounds are inextricably linked until we make the subconscious conscious.

With plenty of personal references, anecdotes, and examples; this conversation is an invitation for everyone, man or woman, to ask themselves some important questions about their truest desires for love, sex, and connection.

References:

Connect with Mike on Instagram here

Check out Mike’s Zocdoc reviews here

Iron John by Robert Bly

Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliot

Trauma & Recovery by Judith Herman

In this episode, Anya hosts powerhouse mindset coach for women, Sidney Scott. Sid is the creator of the CURE coaching framework which is the process he uses to help women achieve their best breakthroughs. His company, Your Best Breakthrough, empowers women to break through physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. Having spent 8 years as a language analyst working in counter-intelligence, he uses a tactical yet spiritual approach to guiding women through the work to have them boldly step into the woman who creates all the outcomes she desires.

Sid is a man who truly understands women at the deepest level and it was an honor to share the space with him. This episode is a demonstration of what’s possible when men and women see each other and want the best for each other. With Sid focusing on helping women, and myself focusing on helping men we came together and broke down what’s really going on in the hearts, minds, and souls of both sexes.

We talk about partnership, the mistakes men and women make (and most importantly, why), and what it means to be seen by the opposite sex. We unpack the difficulty men and women have with giving and receiving, what emotional leadership looks like, and we paint the picture for a potential new vision for partnership.

Sid is based on Phoenix, AZ but works with women all over the world. He hosts workshops, has programs, and coaches 1:1. He’s currently enrolling for his upcoming 6 week course.

References:

Connect with Sid on Instagram here

Connect with Sid on facebook here

In this episode, Anya hosts wise woman and psychotherapist, Taune Lyons. Taune is devoted to interconnection and she helps people take that elusive journey from their head to their heart.

Taune’s empathy and openness paired with her clarity and realness made her the perfect person to discuss the very confusing state of relationship labels and buzz words that we find ourselves in today.

While options and labels for different relationship structures are growing, the level of personal understanding, integrity, and authentic alignment isn’t always…so I wanted to explore that.

To do that, I went back to basics to ask the simple questions; what is polygamy? what is polyamory? what is monogamy? what is consensual non monogamy? What is partnership? How do we know what is authentic to us?

Taune and I talked partnership, power-dynamics, sex, love and the role culture and history play in our relationships. Our intention was to give everyone listening an opportunity to discover what being in true-integrity might mean for them.

References:

Connect with Taune on Instagram here

Work with Taune here

Hold on to Your Kids by Gabor Máte here

In this episode, Anya hosts Confidence and Compassion expert, CEO of Workplace Catalyst, and host of “The C Word,” Magalie René. Magalie helps individuals and corporations bring leadership, compassion, and well-being together into one high-impact package.

This episode is called ‘Uncovering Femininity and Understanding Men’ because as women find their femininity, they begin to see men with greater love and compassion. Both Magalie and I didn’t really understand femininity until very recently and that journey of discovery is one we want to share with you - all in the name of healing men and women.

This is a continuation from our prior episode where we discussed Daddy Issues (aka the father wound). Women that have experienced daddy issues typically have a tough time with femininity and reclaiming it is a revolutionary experience. One that brings a brand new relationship with work, pleasure, receiving, confidence, and men of course.

This episode is live just in time for Maglie’s launch of her new miniseries, The “C” Word (no it’s not a 4 letter word)! It’s a 10 part miniseries about a 10-letter word with the power to change the world. Compassion is a game changer and no one teaches how and why quite like Magalie René. Her approach has changed my life and it is sure to change yours, connect with Magalie below:

References:

Watch The “C” Word here

Watch Magalie on Good Morning DC here

Connect with Magalie on instagram here

In this episode, Anya hosts dedicated Men’s Coach, Ewan Corlett. Ewan has been to battle with his own demons and has come out on the other side victorious with a powerful purpose to help men do the same. He supports men from all walks of life in finding their power, living from their hearts, and finding joy and fulfillment in their lives. His emotional strength and depth come through beautifully in this episode about understanding men and emotional availability.

An emotionally available man? In our culture this phrase buzzes around especially in women circles. Is he or isn’t he emotionally available? But we never stop to actually define the term, understand the variables, and ponder how different behaviors from women might impact emotional availably or the lack of it.

We discuss the arc of emotional availability and what that journey looks like for men. We explore what’s at play when men fall into lust versus concisely choosing relationship. We get into how and why men’s work is a prerequisite for emotional availability, a very paradoxical and important thing for women and men to understand. Since at the end of the day, we all want more emotionally available men right?

Tune into this beautiful exploration of manhood and womanhood right alongside it as we ebb and flow towards understanding what qualities are required for men and women to meet each other in a truly emotionally open place.

References:

Connect with Ewan on Instagram here

Work with Ewan directly here

We discuss the Shia Lebouf interview on Real Ones here

In this episode, Anya hosts devoted girl dad and entrepreneur, Teevee Aguirre. Teevee is many things to many people. By day he runs a marketing agency that helps small local businesses grow their revenue and presence in their cities.

By night, he’s a passionate kizomba dancer committed to growing Dallas’s community through his Kizpassion brand. His marketing and management experience has been integral in building Dallas as one of the top scenes in the nation. If you know, you know - as the kids say.

But what he’s most proud of being is a father and helping nurture two brilliant human beings. This little humans are now “adults” and independent thinkers and blazing their path in life.

Now he dedicates some of his spare time to sharing his stories and experiences on how he got here as a divorced father through his art, writing, podcasts, and videos.

Tune in as Teevee lets us into his personal experiences with fatherhood that take us from trauma to fulfillment in a story about how he chose to do fatherhood differently. We cover how by instilling confidence and self-love in his girls early, he gained their trust and love for the rest of their years together.

It’s my honor to highlight and feature such a wonderful man and dad. This was a heartwarming episode, I hope you all enjoy listening to it as much as I did recording it.

References:

Get in touch with Teevee on IG here

Connect with Teevee’s work here

Hold on to Your Kids by Gabor Maté here

In this episode, Anya brings to light the the top instincts men and women have when it comes to selecting a mate and/or being attracted to the opposite sex. Many times, popular culture tries to deny the biological urges that we’ve inherited from our hunter and gatherer ancestors but they are alive and well. Anya brings forth recent data to illuminate what’s really going in on the hormones of men and women in order to help people integrate their animal aspects with their greater and much more expansive spiritual side.

When we can lay our instincts out on the table and learn to accept and even love them, we can stop getting stuck in the tension that misunderstood instincts brings to men and women. Once we make peace with them, we come closer to the harmony and union that most men and women deeply desire. Anya touches on the terms hypergamy and misogyny in addition to sharing the results from one of the most popular studies in sex differences done by Evolutionary Psychologist, David Buss, called the 37 cultures study.

Upon listening to this quick little episode, Anya’s intention is for masculine men and feminine women to let out one big sigh of relief.

In this episode, Anya hosts passionate Men’s Coach, Mike Danson. Mike is a United States Marine Corps Veteran whose mission is now to bring brotherhood to young men so they can change manhood for the better. He’s now a teen coach for Uncivilized Nation, a men’s group dedicated to ending the suffering in men and the suffering caused by men. He has lived many lives and his dedication for supporting young men through it all comes through here.

I wanted to know, what are boys looking for these days? What do they need? How do we inspire parents to understand them? What do we do for the boys of today so we can help the men of tomorrow?

We dive into all of this and more in this episode titled, The Marine & The Magician. There are four main archetypes within masculine psychology; The King, The Lover, The Magician, and The Warrior. Here we get into the two most important ones at the beginning of a man’s life; The Magician and The Warrior (aptly named The Marine here in honor of Mike’s experiences in the Marine Corps).

Tune into this comprehensive look into the hearts and minds of boys and men as Mike and I explore the elements that are required for boys to become healthy and fulfilled men later in life.

References:

Connect with Mike on IG here

Reach out to schedule an intro call with Mike here

Check out his Teen program, Uncivilized Teen here

In this episode Anya hosts Men’s coach, father of 4, and oil and gas electrician of 13 years, Matt Halson. Matt is living in Australia and he pulled himself back from being a poor communicating unhappy, workaholic who was close to losing his family.

He now has a happy, fulfilling, and connected life with his family and lives as the man he deep down knew he could be. With almost a decade of experience in mens work and self development, Matt now helps men discover their values, vision, and purpose in life. He works with men who, like himself, have ticked a lot of the boxes for the “blue print” of life, yet find themselves unsatisfied, unhappy, and empty or with that thought of “there has to be more to life.”

I stand for men’s work, Matt stands for men’s work, but there’s still a confusion about what men’s work is in the mainstream. If you turn on CNN and hear “men’s work,” you might get it confused with some other words about male movements that are floating around. Terms like Manosphere, MGTOW, and Red Pill. In this episode Matt and I dispel any possible confusion about the relationship between men’s work and these other movements - they could not be in further opposition from each other.

Listen in as Matt and I dive into how what men’s work is, how it saved his life and impacted his family for the better, and how he helps other men do the same. We also cover different priorities that men and women have, how providing emotional safety expands the lives of men in infinite ways, and what union and partnership require from us.

References:

Connect with Matt on IG here

Reach out to schedule an intro call with Matt here

Check out his Forge Ahead coaching program here

In this episode, Anya hosts Doctor of Chiropractic, Mark Mathis. Mark loves contributing to people’s health through his passion for what he does and with that he hopes to inspire others to find their purpose.

What really lights me up about Mark is how committed he is to his vision to help people heal (which is in direct contrast to  what he saw around him as a kid). Mark opens up about his journey towards his purpose by completely defying the cultural paradigms that he was born into.

It’s a real hero’s journey of finding masculine fulfillment and peace of mind by being in service to others. We cover how interlinked relationships and health are to each other, understanding what purpose is and is not, and why filling a need and being of service is fundamental to finding peace as a man.

We end with a beautiful visualization exercise that everyone listening can do at home. A perfect way to jump start 2023.

If you are in the DFW area, get in touch with Dr. Mathis to book an appointment.

References:

Connect with Mark on IG here

Reach out to book an appointment with him here

Eat Smarter by Shawn Stevenson here

Atomic Habits by James Clear here

For more informative and educational content on understanding both masculinity and femininity follow your host on IG @anyashakh

In this episode Anya hosts Financial Coach and CPA, Husband, and father of 2, Dylan Bain. Dylan began his financial journey when he left his job as a math teacher to pursue a career in accounting while supporting his wife through grad school and raising two daughters. Determined to make it work and leave his former life of multiple jobs and welfare behind, he set out to rewrite the script of his life and find peace in financial security.

Dylan has gone from food stamps to financial sovereignty; down a path that involved five jobs, four addresses, three degrees, two kids, and one vision of an amazing life. He has learned how to live, love, lead, and learn with his wife and raise their kids through all the challenges of those times. Now, in addition to working as a CPA, he runs Fiscally Savage, a financial coaching practice focused on the emotions of money, budgets as statements of shared values, and how to take control of your financial life and live free.

Money is one of the most taboo topics we experience in the western world, I’d say even more than sex. Many of us don’t realize that the way we relate to money is usually the same way we relate to our relationships, our confidence, our self-worth, boundaries, and yes our even our sex lives. In this episode, Dylan takes us on his journey to personal sovereignty by debunking the biggest myths we have about money. We discuss exactly how the money we have relates to how we feel about ourselves, we get into covert contracts and intimate relationships and how money plays a massive role in both.

Listen in as Dylan and I uncover the emotions of money.

References:

Connect with Dylan on IG here

Enjoy his free tools here

Listen to the Fiscally Savage Podcast here

Discover Man Uncivilized here

For more content about how to understand men and women better - follow your host on IG @anyashakh

In this episode Anya hosts life coach and generational trauma expert, Jamie Star Crawford. She helps men and women with self- mastery in all aspects; mind, body, and soul.

In honor of the 25th episode of Venus and Mars, I have asked Jamie to join me for this part 2 that was inspired by the cultural narrative out that that no one cares about men. As two women who care about men deeply and are committed to shifting these narrative, we know that one of the most important tools to bringing more harmony between men and women is when women acknowledge, celebrate, and appreciate men.

In this episode, Jamie and I go back and forth (ping pong) style sharing all the reasons why we love men. Gentlemen, this is for you, in honor of you, and inspired by all that you are and bring to the table as men.

(See I Love Men Because…Part 1 episode episode 13 for more).

Connect with Jamie on instagram here

For more content about how to understand men and women better - follow your host on IG @anyashakh

In this episode Anya hosts 3rd Degree Black belt in Jiu-Jitsu and Certified Uncivilized Men’s Coach, Robert Wunderlich. Robert is building a method to combat isolation and loneliness by fostering a deep connection with oneself and others and his mission is to teach that to as many people as he can.

When I think of what a fighter is, I think of two things; the warrior and a lover. Not many people think about love in the context of fighting. Robert beautifully represents this duality and in this episode we came together to explore the topics of loneliness, connection, and some real talk on what we as modern humans are struggling with. We hit on blind spots, what ‘doing the work’ actually means, the industrial revolution, and modern feminism. Robert also lays out the 5 points of connection and how to combat loneliness in a very specific way.

Robert has a Master’s Degree in Anthropology and worked as a project archeologist for roughly 20 years primarily within the western United States. Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu in 2004 under Professor David Ruiz. He competed in local and international tournaments and traveled the country as a referee for F2W Pro. He currently operates the Shokunin Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Association and The Academy of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Arvada in Arvada, Colorado. 

Resources:

Of Boys and Men -  Book by Robert Reeves

Traver Boehm - Mentor & Founder of Uncivilized Nation

Duey Freeman - Mentor & Tenured Therapist

Get in Touch:

Connect with Robert on IG here

Schedule a call with Robert here

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In this episode Anya hosts Alex Resnick, he’s the CEO and Founder of his training and consulting company, Evolve Leadership. He teaches the skills that actually bring business the greatest Return on their investment; Self Awareness, Emotional Intelligence, and Communication Skills.

Alex spent the last 15 years in Sales, Consulting, and Training across the startup and corporate worlds. He’s got a wealth of knowledge in the fields of EQ and Leadership.

We cover male and female communication styles at work, and helping bosses/ceos relate to their employees better. We also dissect why it is that people get defensive in the first place and the invisible barriers that hold us back from being our best selves. An interesting topic we address is how to reach masculine men that are less in touch with their emotions at work. Alex identifies some simple actions for helping you get way more out of your life at work; which directly translates to your life at home.

Resources:

Connect with Alex on IG here

Learn about Evolve Leadership here

In this episode, Anya spends some time outlining what in our culture has us completely unable to answer the very simple question, what is a woman?

She dives into two psychological theories that are important to understand; The Chilling effect and The Abeline Paradox. From there listen to why the distinction between sex and expression needs to be made and how we are all born on a bell curve spectrum and what that means. She dives into some of the issues with the trans movement and how it’s popularity has driven kids that don’t have gender dysphoria to want to participate.

Finally she outlines what a woman means to her and why defining it matters in our culture.

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In this episode, Anya host psychotherapist and relationship coach, Leigh-Anne LoPinto. She helps people attract and maintain the relationships of their dreams, the ones they never thought were possible. Her mission is to heal the relationship between men and women so that we can experience happy, healthy partnerships for the benefit of humanity.

Leigh-Anne is also a mother and a few days before we recorded this episode was March 8th, Women’s Day. That entire day was filled with plenty of chaos and confusion about what womanhood is so with that I was inspired to dive headfirst into exploring womanhood and all it’s many facets.

Expect to learn about how to reclaim womanhood in this modern age. We cover motherhood, sexual awakening, the sacred menstrual cycle, Carl Jung’s work, polarity, and partnership with men.

References

Kaylor Betts

Iron John by Robert Bly

Irreversible Damage by Abigail Shrier

Hold on to Your Kids by Gabor Maté

Connect with Leigh-Anne

Via her instagram here

Work with here here

Free Workshop here

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About This Episode

What’s beneath male ego and pride? Usually, massive feelings of unworthiness and self doubt which then manifest as addiction. Addiction comes in many forms but because it’s a symptom to a larger root cause, when the root cause is healed - life changes for the better.

In this episode, Anya hosts recovery speaker Chris Howe as they dive into the male psyche. Chris’s hero’s journey is extremely meaningful for so many people. He’s gone from addiction to being a husband, stepfather, firefighter, and co-owner of his taboo shop (that he owns with his wife). Since overcoming his addiction, Chris has shared his story vulnerably and now is devoted to helping others share theirs through his podcast, Authentic Adversity.

Chris’s willingness to get real and share his greatest fears and feelings of inadequacy is a demonstration of fearlessness and strength that is beyond touching. Our collective mission with this conversation is to help those that listen liberate themselves through their own stories.

Connect with Chris

Via his instagram here

Check out Authentic Adversity here

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More than half of marriages end in divorce, less men are looking for relationships today than ever before, many men are afraid to approach women in public - we’re having a tough time and to help make some sense of what’s going on, I am joined by Igor Vasilevitsy.

Igor is a psychotherapist, healer, and writer with incredible insight into the depths of masculine and feminine psychology. Igor’s storytelling draws on mythology and captivates those listening and his writing is what drew me into his work first, it gets straight to the heart of the matter (linked below)

In this episode learn about why equality kills polarity and why polarity matters for men and women. We also uncover what’s behind rigid and controlling expressions of masculinity, why men love hierarchies, why hollywood ignores the mature masculine, and why men and women generally feel separated these days and what we really crave.

Connect with Igor

Read his writing on FB here

Apply to work with him here

Connect with him on IG here

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Anya breaks down why exactly criticism is one of the biggest killers of connection between men and women from an evolutionary perspective. When misunderstood, this dynamic can spiral quickly into a lot of resentment, disconnection, and brokenness but it happens gradually over time so many couples miss the signs. Individually, not many understand the major sex differences that cause men and women to relate to criticism differently so you’ll find that here.

In order to really paint the picture, Anya breaks down how men think of criticism, how women think of it, and what happens when criticism finds itself in between both sexes. Finally, She provides an alternate way of communicating that is far more effective at expressing needs, mishaps, and dislikes that will alleviate tension and confusion. But it takes courage, so I invite you all to be courageous as we journey further together on this quest to build more connection between men and women.

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Whether we want to admit it or not, sex runs most aspects of our lives so we might as well learn to master our sexual energy as a force for good in the world. For men, this is exactly what is known as sex transmutation or colloquially, No Fap. I have been really fascinated by this movement for years and in this conversation I got to learn so much more than I ever imagined thanks to the man they call, ‘the soldier of semen retention,’ Nakula Das.

Nakula is one of the most fascinating coaches in the personal development space and he’s responsible for the success of over 2000 men in less than two years. His voice and energy are infectious to everyone that listens to him because you can tell just how passionate and invested he in in helpful men (and by default helping women).

This is exactly what this episode is about, it answers the question why is no fap so good for women as well as for men? Expect to learn how no fap supports the masculine journey, how it can help men in both their purpose and their relationships. Learn about the three stages of sex, the five P’s of masculinity, and just why harnessing sexual power is good for our society.

Nakula has amazing resources, here they are:

Master your Sexual energy today here

Get your free sex transmutation guide here

Connect with Nakula on IG here

Nakula Recommended Books:

The Art of War by Sun Tzu

The Prince by Machiavelli

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

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Fatherhood is one of the most undervalued and misunderstood human experiences that we have today, in my opinion. That matters because as it turns out, when engaged and available fathers are lacking - all sorts of problems arise (macro and micro);

90% of all runaway children are from fatherless homes

80% of children who show behavior issues are from fatherless homes

71% of high school dropouts are from fatherless homes

there are dozens of these statistics…

That doesn’t even take into consideration the homes where fathers are physically present, but emotionally lacking. Lot’s of big problems there too.

The good news is that there are wonderful men stepping up every day all over the world to not only show up as exceptional dads, but teach other men to do the same.

One such man is Matt Halson and for this episode I put a challenge out to him to come up with the 10 biggest lessons he’s learned from dadhood.

He accepted and here are the results. Matt is a husband, father of four, and coach to fathers currently living in Australia.

Whether you are a dad, know a dad, want to be a dad, want to love a dad, or understand your dad - you’ll find some gold in here. Enjoy.

Resources:

Connect with Matt on IG here

Reach out to schedule an intro call with Matt here

Get your finances right with Dylan Bain here

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Anya breaks down the five life stages that men experience in their lives. Many misunderstandings between men and women happen because we don’t take into consideration which stage of life a man is currently in and based on that we don’t support what he is prioritizing. We know men are one task at a time people and though this is true on a micro scale, it’s just as true in the macro. What’s important to a man changes five times in his life and in this short episode I break down the five stages and what’s most important about them.

Upon listing to this episode think about what stage you are in (if you are a man) and what stage the men in your life are in (if you are a woman). Get curious about this and ask yourself the following:

Is there support I need (my man needs) that I can communicate?

Is there an assumption that has been made that perhaps isn’t true and we can confront?

If you’re listening to this than you are a man or woman that wants harmony with the opposite sex, but you may experience roadblocks. I’m here to help you clear out those roadblocks and learning the five stages of men is one of those.

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Why do so many couples fight about the trash? Is it really about the trash? Hint: It’s not. Listen to this episode where Anya hosts Alex Resnick in a part 2 episode where they dive further into the relationship secrets you need to know to live happier, healthier, and less tense lives both at work and at home. Because guess what? They are linked.

If you haven't caught our PT 1 episode, it’s here

Alex is the CEO and Founder of his training and consulting company, Evolve Leadership. He teaches the skills that actually bring business the greatest ROI; Self Awareness, Emotional Intelligence, and Communication Skills.

Alex spent the last 15 years in Sales, Consulting, and Training across the startup and corporate worlds. He’s got a wealth of knowledge in the fields of EQ, leadership, and communication.

Resources:

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Learn about Evolve Leadership here

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The nuances and obstacles of being a first generation immigrant daughter that wants to live a profoundly creative life. It’s a big journey and I was so excited to welcome talented multi-disciplinary artist and longtime friend, Zarina Karapetyan, to the show.

There was anxiety, daddy issues, heartbreaks, self-doubt and then a big journey to finding peace and pleasure with life, reciprocity and love from men, and creative fulfillment.

Enter into the beautifully creative and whimsical mind of Zarina as she dives into how she overcame her inner obstacles so that she could become the artist she always dreamed about being.

Expect to learn a lot about Soviet era parenting, Russia, attachments, father wounds, art, creativity, and so much more. I discussed the big lessons of what not to do with men, opening space for creativity through healing, and how we proved our moms wrong in life and how much they love it.

Zarina is a spectacular artist, check out her work below and follow her on instagram:

Resources:

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See her work here

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In this episode Anya hosts 3rd Degree Black belt in Jiu-Jitsu and Certified Uncivilized Men’s Coach, Robert Wunderlich.

Expect to learn why the phrase ‘happy wife, happy life’ usually ends in divorce, what’s behind male resentment, why a man’s relationship with his mom matters so much, and how you know when a man is actually ready to date as opposed to just falling into a comfortable situation-ship, and more.

Robert has a Master’s Degree in Anthropology and worked as a project archeologist for roughly 20 years primarily within the western United States. Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu in 2004 under Professor David Ruiz. He competed in local and international tournaments and traveled the country as a referee for F2W Pro. He currently operates the Shokunin Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Association and The Academy of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Arvada in Arvada, Colorado. 

Resources:

Traver Boehm - Mentor & Founder of Uncivilized Nation

Duey Freeman - Mentor & Tenured Therapist

Get in Touch:

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In this episode Anya hosts Dylan Bain:  Financial Coach, CPA and founder of Intuitive Finance. He’s a husband, father of two girls, and Men’s Work group leader.

Listen in as we discuss the tight rope walk that is modern relationships between men and women. Expect to learn about the difference in personal responsibility for men and women, why the sexual revolution has gone too far, and whether men and women feel pleasure in the same way? We touch on the root cause of immaturity in men and why does everything seem to be overly sexualized?

References:

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Listen to the Intuitive Finance Podcast here

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In this episode Anya hosts Gillian Pothier: a writer and the founder of Feminine Eros, which is a path and vehicle of Feminine Awakening. She holds a Masters Degree in Depth Psychology from the world-renowned Pacifica Graduate Institute and her work centers on what becomes possible when we understand Masculine and Feminine nature through the lens of psychology, beauty, fairytale, and Jungian archetypes.

Anya has been following the teachings of Gillian for a few years now therefore it was an honor to have her on the show. It blew past any expectations as the genius of Gillian cut through current paradigms and brought the real talk (for women and men alike).

Expect to learn what women really want? What is a woman’s eros? How do women and men connect today? What’s the real reason men ghost? How men can satisfy women? The age old question of whether men or women want sex more? How motherhood impacts intimacy? and many many more.

You do not want to miss this one.

Gillian is here to teach women how to understand, respect and love Men and the Masculine (within and without) so that they may create lusciously devotional yet highly functional partnerships with unapologetically Masculine men.

Gillian has many offerings on the horizon:

Links:

Free giveaway: 8 Ways to Cultivate Your Feminine Allure

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Check out here beautiful relationship Course: All For Love

About This Episode

My guest today is Dean Bentley, a mentor and coach helping people reconnect to their soul and dreams. He’s a leader in the Men's work space, associated with The Gathering of Men (an annual gathering that occurs within Australia), and believes each man has a gift to share with the world and in giving this, the world heals.

We spoke about the road towards self-discovery and maturation as a man and specifically what that takes.

Expect to learn about the archetypes at play between men and women, intuition within relationships, men's and women's work, the importance of myth in our lives, and more.

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The pod has just gotten a makeover. Venus & Mars has become Ancient Intelligence. Listen to learn the original intention behind Venus & Mars, why the change, and what Ancient Intelligence means for the future. You'll also get to learn a little more about me and my background, what led me to creating this podcast, and the biggest key to creating harmony between men and women.

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My guest today is Scott Harris, a certified NESTA Holistic Life Coach, ISSA certified Personal Trainer and Unmasked Man Facilitator. He has been deeply involved in the Health and Wellness industry as a coach, personal trainer, and meditation teacher for over 10 years. Scott is dedicated to helping men step back into their sovereign power. His goal is to empower men to embody their full potential while gaining emotional maturity and agility.

We spoke about the four main archetypes of manhood; King, Magician, Lover, and King. We discussed how balancing all four is the recipe to living a healthy and fulfilled life as a man.

Expect to learn why the media only shows us the nice guy or the bad boy, what it really mean to access the energy of a King, how women respond to these four archetypes, and more.

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A free flowing short solo episode about why dads are fundamental to creating happy and healthy kids. This episode is filled with plenty of examples from pop culture highlighting both what happens when dads are present and when they are not.

Expect to learn:

What is the question every young boy is asking throughout their lives? How men actually become emotionally literate? Why women cannot teach masculinity? The two distinct experiences every child must have to become a healthy, happy, adult. How can you tell when a mother and son are enmeshed? What is the right relationship between mother/son and father/daughter? How is respect built? What a parent’s job is? Why self-worth is the foundation of well being? and more…

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Maybe you’ve seen the Twin Flames Universe documentary? Maybe you’ve heard the ‘twin flame’ terminology before? Maybe this is your first time ever hearing those words. Over the years I’ve heard the term a few times, but never really understood what it was all about so I wanted to learn.

I sat down with Dionna Chambers to dive into what the whole ‘twin flame’ journey is all about. She made some really good points and I’m grateful for the conversation. Dionna is a coach that helps founders and entrepreneurs incorporate a more spiritual side to their business and she herself has been on the journey for four years. She went all in on sharing with us her experience, perspective, and takeaways. I honor her vulnerability here.

The idea of ‘Twin Flames’ was popularized in the 1970’s through Elizabeth Prophet’s book ‘Twin Flames and Soulmates.’ Some believe the concept originated in the Ancient Egyptian ‘Book of the Dead,’ while others say the Vedic text ‘Shiva Purana’ contribute to the idea. My big takeaway is that with religion waning in the western world many have turned to the notion of ‘twin flames’ as opposed to soulmates due to it’s more agnostic inclination. Tune in and learn the difference between the two as well as numerous other ways to think about this idea. As always, take what resonates and leave what doesn’t. Happy Listening.

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In this short solo episode I’m breaking down what I will be covering in a 90 masterclass that I’ve created and will be offering completely FREE Wednesday February 21st at 5:30pm Central.

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I’ll be breaking down the:

Foundations of male and female behavior

Traits men and women are most drawn to and why

Key motivations and priorities of men and women

All so you can become equipped with what you need to know to navigate dating and relationships with more confidence and ultimately attract the type of partner you are truly looking for.

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People want to change but give up quickly, not for lack of effort but because they are not tuned into what it takes to make lasting change. Then when they don’t get the results they want, they enter a cycle of shame.

The truth is there is a combination of science and emotional work required here and it all comes back to understanding human behavior. My guest today specializes in just that. His name is Mike Urso and he’s a mental performance coach.

Mike Urso is a versatile coach, teacher, and speaker, focused on coaching the unconscious mind. His expertise includes Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), embodied cognition, hypnosis, and practical neuroscience. Mike is dedicated to helping clients and students achieve profound and lasting changes, especially in areas they've long struggled with.

Currently, Mike mentors clients towards peak mental performance with his unique coaching methodology - The NeuroLeap Performance Blueprint, helping them overcome limitations and pursue their dreams. Some of his clients include prominent nationwide leaders in the veterinary field, and the CEO of a major fitness tech company.  He’s also a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu brown belt, nature enthusiast, traveler, and, most importantly, a devoted father to his two daughters.

This episode is a treat that will inspire you to do some deeper thinking about your inner world. Expect to learn why some ppl change and why others don’t, what your subconscious mind is telling you, how you actually change your life in any area, and more.

Connect with Mike on instagram @coachmikeurso

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I got two different emails from women asking me essentially this question - what do men want after all?

I get into a framework posed by Alison Armstrong in her book Making Sense of Men and really break down the way attraction works for men because it’s very different than it is for women. I hope you enjoy this short solo episode. Please leave a review if you do - this is the best way to help me grow.

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Women want to be healthy and fit, but are usually using a masculine set of systems and templates to achieve this. It doesn’t work. Women everywhere embark on diet and exercise routines only to be left gaining weight, feeling frustrated, and hopeless.

What’s really going on here and what’s the alternative?

We get straight into it in this episode with Health Coach to women and founder of Active & Attractive, Samantha Bell. We explore the concept of world-building and distinguishing between allowing and pursuing our desires. We uncover ancient wisdom about what it means to live a healthy life as a woman truly tuned in and experiencing joy, happiness, and ease.

Expect to learn the pillars of feminine health and how they differ from the masculine approach, how big a role intuition plays in wellness for women, what our relationship with provision says about us, and so much more.

Connect with Samantha on Facebook here and learn all about her community for women, Active & Attractive.

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What matters to me is men finding their worth.

Why? Because when they don’t, life is dark. As a daughter I lived it. I have always known that the answer is not to blame them, they do enough of that internally. The answer is simply to love them.

It took a while to get there, but over the last few weeks I realized I’ve been heading there before I even understood the why or how. I opened an old sketchbook from my time studying fashion design in Milan (around 2010) and inside is my interpretation of the masculine journey in the most abstract and ‘me’ way possible. His emotions, his desires, his needs, his pain, his joy.

I’ve always wanted to know what makes him feel fulfilled and satisfied in the world? Because when he is at peace, life is a paradise.

My resistance over the past few months has brought me to this place. The type of content I want to create is content that explores the masculine journey. In this 20 minute episode I get into the what, why, and more details about how I got here.

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About This Episode

Meet Renee Dick. She helps women finally get out of their own way and break through their limiting beliefs so they can create and build a life and business they love. She’s an expert in Human Design and Gene Keys and she uses those tools to help women unlock their gifts.

No fluff and woo-woo, Renee and I got right into the meat and potatoes of how human design can help people, specifically in their relationships which is where the focus of this episode was - how men and women communicate and what that means through the lens of human design.

Expect to learn what the different between and emotional versus sacral decision making, how understanding your partner’s human design can solve your problems, what a hypothetical husband is, and so much more.

Renee is such a blast, connect with her on Instagram here

Check out her work here

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What is a masculine container? Why does it matter? Why do women want to be in one?

I’m in a salsa container, for dancing, not for eating :) and it’s one of the best things in my life. It’s not a class, it’s not a one-off, it’s an experience that has helped me further uncover what it is that women are craving from men in their lives and how men can provide it.

 I get into detail about what makes this container so effective and how this salsa metaphor translates directly to intimate relationships between men and women.

 Expect to learn what the masculine container’s job is and why it works so well to earn respect and trust from the feminine (and what happens when it breaks).

 Question for you: Where in your life are you needing to set up a masculine container or get yourself into one? 

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Last week I watched Skywalkers: A Love Story, the new documentary about Russian daredevil couple, Angela and Vanya and how they got to where they are today: living their dream and in what looks like deep, passionate love.

Upon watching I realized this film presents us with the perfect template of themes and situations that can help us understand what is required to build a true bond between the masculine and feminine.

In this episode I break down the main themes and why they matter to each sex. Through my analysis I showcase how by understanding their importance and living them out loud, we can create a truly fulfilling bond between man and woman.

Question for you: Out of the seven themes mentioned, which feels most important for you in this season of your life?

Have a watch of the documentary, it’s on Netflix.

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We’ve all heard the classic line, “you’re a really nice guy but…”

And then he doesn’t get the girl.

So what’s really going on with the nice guy? Why is he like this and what does the cool girl have to do with it?

As a recovery cool girl myself, during this solo episode I break down what’s happening under the surface for people that exhibit nice guy and cool girl behaviors.

Expect to learn what was broken in the developmental process for nice guys and cool girls? What family and friends just don’t understand? What these personas just want more than anything? And very importantly what is needed to break these patterns of behavior and transform into a mature man or woman?

Question: Do you see yourself in any of these behaviors?

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The boss babe, the independent woman, the one that has her own back. We all know her, many of us were her once before, and many are still her today.

What’s going on beneath the tough girl exterior?

The truth is that our natural tendency is towards interdependence, but when we experience an injustice as children, in order to survive we have to build a shield to protect ourselves.

As we grow older, we don’t need that shield anymore but unfortunately it molds into our skin and it becomes the operating system with which experience the world.

In a way the feminist movement came in and found a way to justify that operating system and make it feel like empowerment. This is where we are today with many women finally waking up to a new possibility. A possibility of sovereignty and not independence. The possibility of a bridge instead of a shield.

I’m so pleased to have had wise woman and mental health practitioner Jamie Star Crawford on the podcast to discuss what it means to be a sovereign woman.

Expect to learn what is the purpose of being a woman? What does it mean to be a daughter of God? How can a woman feel safe in her life? Why women become defensive? and What’s possible for women when they wake up to their natural design?

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Is progress always a good thing no matter what? Mass culture seems to tell us that is is, but I’m not so sure. Especially how progress and our bodies intersect. One of the most important questions to ask is what is the right relationship between the human body and technology?

Inspired by Mary Harrington, author of Feminist Against Progress, I lay out some of her ideas and expand on them.

I focus on the birth control pill as the key technological shift that changed the way relationships between men and women work and how women view themselves and their bodies. Expect to learn what is a given? Politics aside, the key difference between progressives and conservatives and why we need to be at the same table? and why sex isn’t just sex?

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They say don’t date someone’s potential, but I actually think there is way more to it than that. What I believe they mean is don’t date someone based on who you believe they can be without them putting in much effort to be that person. That is completely different from meeting someone at the start or middle of their come up journey and seeing and believing who they are working towards becoming. A woman supporting a man in this way is one of the most powerful things she can do, if she is tapped into her intuition that is.

Expect to learn what holds women back from seeing a man’s potential? What’s a good way to define love win terms of action? What is the analogy of the garden and the gardener? What Beauty and the Beast has to do with it? and much more.

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Marriage has been losing popularity in the west for many decades now and what occurs to me is there is a big misunderstanding about the purpose of marriage and what it entails.

I had the honor of having Rebbetzin Mushka Plotkin on the show to discuss this within the context of a Jewish home. Her and her husband Rabbi Mendy run the Dallas Community Chabad and bring so much light and warmth everywhere they go.

Mushka has a phenomenal perspective on marriage in terms of being a co-creative duo. With Torah teachings and tons of personal examples expect to learn what the distinct roles of men and women are in marriage, how traditional partnership is misunderstood, common mistakes couples make, the four types of intimacy that must present in a thriving marriage, what is the separation and renewal ritual and why it matters, and so much more.

People from many religions and spiritual practices tune into the show, this episode is not meant to be prescriptive, but instead to inspire. This episode sheds light on a beautiful take on marriage that is meaningful and that has been in practice since the very beginning. Take what resonates and leave what doesn't.

A true blessing to have her on the show, enjoy.

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In this solo episode I break down exactly why and how we misunderstand each other as men and women so much by getting into the root cause: our difference in focus which affects how we process and behave in the world.

Expect to learn why it’s important to understand the differences between hunters and gatherers so that we can understand our differences in modern times. In addition learn about why men need transition time and women don’t, how women think about combining tasks while men focus on separating them, and so much more.

By understanding our ‘operating systems’ we can harmoniously find fulfillment and satisfaction in our modern world.

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This is part 2 of ‘The biggest difference between men and women.’ While in the preceding episode I dive into the root cause of misunderstandings and multiple examples of this, in this episode I double click on one specific difference that fascinates me greatly:

The difference behind why men and women tell stories.

Expect to learn why men tell stories for entertainment while women tell them to gather information, how storytelling raises levels of testosterone in men and creates camaraderie, why repeating stories is rude to women but expected and promoted for men, and so much more.

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We know men are one task at a time people and though this is true on a micro scale, it’s just as true in the macro. What’s important to a man changes five times in his life and in this short episode I break down the five stages and what’s most important about them.

I get into what men are prioritizing, what they want, and what they can provide in each of the life stages. I also share anecdotes we can all relate to and showcase how women can best support the men in their lives based on which stage they are in.

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I challenge the mainstream narrative surrounding ‘The Patriarchy’ and argue that its true essence is largely misunderstood. I explore what the Patriarchy actually is? How I see it from a female perspective? and What the true cause of dissatisfaction for both women and men is?

I explore how by embracing the benevolent patriarch, we can all better connect to our purpose, our harmony, and divine design as men and women.

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I’ll be starting Q&A episodes: if you want to submit a question and have it answered live please submit one on Instagram or Youtube or send an email to anyashakhcoaching@gmail.com

This is my first subscriber Q&A. I have a wonderful community of gentlemen that asked fantastic questions. For those that don’t know I do transformational coaching for men so most of my engaged community are gentlemen (with plenty of ladies listening to the podcast too). I go for about twenty minutes for this one, but will make them slightly longer moving forward to have time to answer more questions.

The three questions that I cover here are:

What is jealousy in relationships? What causes it? Is it normal to feel jealous? How can a man overcome these feelings?

What is absolute happiness for a woman?

Can you connect with a lot of modern day women on a personal level? Considering what you share is not synonymous with most women nowadays, do you feel they are not your tribe as you have less in common?

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The answer is yes - if men have two extremely important factors intact in their lives before being vulnerable. This is really important. Lots of men that talk to me say that vulnerability is hard for them to understand without the fear of being judged. They genuinely cannot foresee expressing vulnerability because in the past they have had it weaponized against them or the woman in question has lost attraction for them.

In this episode I try to highlight a few blind spots that can help paint the bigger picture of what being vulnerable with women can look like in a healthy way (and what might have been missing when vulnerability did not go well in the past).

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Hello - I am back with a solo episode and alas we have timestamps. Very excited to officially have those moving forward for all episodes, I know a few of the listeners have been asking.

This episode is an introduction to the masculine spiritual awakening and how a man can find his greatest sense of satisfaction and fulfillment. I utilize the yin/yang to showcase the four step process and how it works.

When done correctly this is the path towards:

A man’s purpose and potential

The relationships he deeply desires

Ultimately building his legacy

and it’s all about feminine integration because without that, the masculine cannot be his most potent self.

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Timestamps:

Intro - 00:00 - 01:06 

Yin and Yang Example - 01:06 - 05:00

The Ideal Partner - 05:00 - 10:21

Client Story - 10:21 - 14:29

Going Through Your Pains - 14:29 - 17:44

Overcoming Your Problems - 17:44 - 19:34

Becoming The Main Character - 19:34 - 21:51

Outro - 21:51 - 22:32

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In a recent study out of the Czech Republic, it’s reported that women are envious of men for their ‘lack of concern’(among other things). I recently had a few women mention to me that they feel so anxious all the time , meanwhile their partners seem to not be carrying as much ‘mental load.’

What’s actually going on here? It’s definitely not lack of concern. It all comes back to our differences as hunters versus gatherers. Women often experience heightened anxiety do to the way their brains constantly pull them in different direction, whereas men are focused and linear aiming for and executing one task at a time. I reframe some of the misconceptions women have about men and share some practical ways men and women can communicate more effectively.

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Timestamps:

Intro - 00:00 - 02:05

What Men and Women Envy - 02:05 - 05:11

Why we don't think the same - 05:11 - 12:08

How to communicate with men - 12:08 - 17:20

Talking with men - 17:20 - 18:52

How Women Think - 18:52 - 21:44

Outro - 21:44 - 22:57

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In this episode I dissect the meaning behind some hot-button words like hierarchy, authority, and patriarchy to showcase that many of our misunderstandings are a product of nomenclature discrepancies and misinterpretations, not malicious intent.

Danish Author Tor Nørretranders has an important insight in his work, The User Illusion, about how as humans we feel more than we know and we know more than we can say. Therefore based on the fact that what is said is a tiny fraction of a larger picture of feeling, misinterpretations happen so easily and consistently.

Based on that I get into some important questions including is hierarchy and authority a bad thing? a good thing? How do we interpret this?

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Timestamps:

Intro 00:00 - 03:34

A Women Court Writer 03:34 - 06:41

Your Interpretation vs Their Intentions 06:41 - 11:07

Are Hierarchy and Patriarchy Good? 11:07 - 17:40

The Power of Authority 17:40 - 20:53 

What is Patriarchy 20:53 - 22:42

We're all Different  22:42 - 27:18 

Outro 22:42 - 28:15

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In this episode I share a high level overview of the different ways that men and women experience attraction and pair bonding based on their respective hormones. I discuss the foundational pull between the masculine and feminine poles and how the instinctual desires men and women have are related to the hormones they release at different times within dating and mating. I highlight the core four hormones: serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin. I also address the perception that men do not desire commitment and get into what’s really happening in those situations.

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Timestamps:

Intro 00:00 - 01:07

Attraction and Bonding 01:07 - 05:32

Attraction difference in a man and woman 05:32 - 09:12

Why women want stability 09:12 - 15:58

Pair bonding  15:58 - 21:40

First stages of dating  21:40 - 23:44

Outro 23:44 - 25:39 

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With men ‘falling behind’ women in many aspects of life from university attendance to career success, the question being asked is ‘How do we help men find success and meet women where they are?” While valid, I believe it’s fundamentally the wrong question because it ignores a foundational principle about men and women: men don’t want to compete with women, they want to care for women.

I explore some history and including Agrarian times and the 1950s American housewife/breadwinner era. This episode discusses how Industrial capitalism actually played a much bigger role in the division of men and women than most people recognize. I also get into the foundational difference that acknowledges how men love things, while women love people and why that’s an important piece within this conversation of how to bring men and women back together.

When asking the question how do we get men to be great again? The answer revolves around coming back to an understanding that femininity thrives in a masculine container, and masculine containers thrive thanks to female inspiration and admiration.

Timestamps:

Intro 00:00 - 03:04

What do men need? 03:04 - 04:03

How families used to be structured  04:03 - 09:29

Feminism shift 09:29 - 11:50

What makes a happy couple 11:50 - 14:56 

Becoming a Better Man 14:56 - 17:17

Quote from an American writer  17:17 - 19:35

Outro - 19:35 - 22:01   

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I explore what I’m calling the art of masculine provision because it goes so far beyond finances and shelter. Men have a huge capacity to provide intellectual, spiritual, and emotional guidance that’s often missed and misunderstood. I get into the core desires of men and women, why understanding provision matters so much, and how this provision can be understood in modern relationship dynamics. Finally I describe how the connection women crave is tied directly into embracing and appreciating the full breadth of masculine provision

Timestamps:

Intro 00:00 - 04:05

How men obtain respect 04:05 : 06:38 

Why women need community 06:38 - 10:10

What provision consists of 10:10 - 14:08 

When men feel disrespected 14:08 - 17:08

The art of masculine provision: 17:08 - 19:59

Outro 19:59 - 23:21  

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There’s that moment in the film when the woman turns to the man during a crisis and says, “what are we going to do now?” Contrary to mainstream beliefs that say this makes women look helpless, this is actually the instinctual female desire to be guided at play here.

I get into our survival instincts and how and why relationships play such a big role for women. I dive into detail about diffused awareness and how it works in real life with a few examples. I cover an important yin/yang principle that celebrates the richness of both masculine and feminine strengths and weaknesses and how they help each other. Finally I identify some of the ways that men can step in and provide the guidance many women are looking for in the midst of overwhelm.

Timestamps:

Intro 00:00 - 01:23

Why women look to men  01:23 - 03:34

We have always been the same 03:34 - 05:21

Women can step up  05:21 - 08:43

Survival Instincts 08:43 - 11:03

Instinctual Drives 11:03 - 12:12

Sex differences 12:12 - 16:00

Diffused Awareness 16:00 17:58

The Feminine Experience 17:58 19:14

Men vs Women Focus 19:14 - 25:37

Outro 25:37 - 27:12

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It’s not trad wife or boss babe, but it’s something else entirely.

I had the privilege of hosting Courtney Ballard on the show to have a conversation about understanding masculine provision from a female perspective. She is a beautiful writer, creator, sourdough bread extraordinaire, homemaker, and friend. Author of the book Devoted, where she poetically describes how by becoming devoted to receiving and honoring masculine provision, she has become her true self.

We get to heart of why relationships are so dysfunctional these days? What’s the distinction between our gifts as women and our purpose? How different intentions create different results? What is masculine provision and how can women honor and receive it? What do many women misunderstand about provision? How do men and women mirror each other upon entering partnership? How do truly provisioning men care for women and their families? What does it mean for a women to walk through the fire before she can receive fully from a man?

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Timestamps:

Intro 00:00 - 03:18

Provision from our higher power 03:18 - 07:38  

Being a stay-at-home mom  07:38 - 12:35

Women in the work field 12:35 - 17:19

Spiritual connection with God 17:19 - 20:40

Surrounding yourself with good men  20:40 - 25:27

Finding a good man 25:27 - 31:29

Your partner bringing out the best in you  31:29 - 40:18

Finding yourself as a woman 40:18 - 48:29

Being in a good relationship 48:29 - 55:26

Who are you in your soul  55:26 - 01:01:09

Understanding Men 01:01:09 - 01:08:55

Masculine containers 01:08:55 - 01:10:48

Men plant the seed 01:10:48 - 01:15:54

Strength in provision 01:15:54 - 01:17:27 

Outro 01:17:27 - 01:19:01

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In this episode I share some of my findings on the mythology of matriarchies. I share some insights from late activist Russell Means (Lakota tribe) and some work from late Lithuanian Archeologist and anthropologist Marija Gimbutas. people throw around the words matriarchy and patriarchy these days without really defining what their intention is and how they ‘should’ function. I think it’s interesting to dive into what these really mean. True matriarchies as in societies ‘ruled by mothers’ have been written about by numerous scholars and writers and they all revolve around similar themes and attributes. While there’s a deeply beautiful reverence for motherhood within the mythology and literature, it leaves out men in a big way that is harmful.

Listen for insights about how ‘mother’ tribes are described? What were the politics and social structures in those tribes? What was missing? How do we honor and appreciate the father? Are men innately driven towards warrior-ship? And more.

Timestamps:

Intro 00:00 - 01:49

Questions about Men 01:49 - 05:43

Tribes ruled by mothers  05:43 - 09:40

Scholars and Authors on mother tribes 09:40 - 12:15

Why men and women are built for each other  12:15 - 14:37

What are men's true roles  14:37 - 17:03 - 

Outro 17:03 - 18:59

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With great power comes great responsibility.

In this episode I dive into the link between duty, honor, and accountability and how these are all uniquely male attributes that require reverence. I talk about how the masculine drive towards these things shapes our relationships in positive ways and when appreciated how much that grows. I also get into one blind spot men have when focusing on accountability and making big-picture plans. - women often feel unheard and not considered. I share an example for how men can help their women feel understood, considered, and connected while staying true to their boundaries and veto power through their ‘no.’ Ultimately this episode tries to paint the picture for how masculine veto power is linked to care, provision, and a devotion to the well being of others as opposed to control.

Listen to learn about how duty connects to accountability? What are the intangible male traits that matter most? Why have women been over-developing masculine traits? How does honor and accountability go together? and why that gives a man veto power? and more.

Timestamps:

Intro 00:00 - 01:13

Listening to Men 01:13 - 03:19

Mens Unspoken Accountability 03:19 - 06:09

Sex Differences 06:09 - 08:04

Trust and Accountability 08:04 - 09:05

A lesson from a Russian film 09:05 13:56

Women want to be heard  13:56 - 16:53

Men always have a plan 16:53 - 20:53

Women over-developing masculine attributes 20:53 - 24:24

Outro 24:24 - 25:56

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Were hunter gatherers patriarchal or matriarchal?

Neither.

I had the privilege of hosting Elena Bridgers on the show to have a conversation about understanding our evolutionary past as hunter gatherers. Elena is a science writer, content creator and mom of two with a special fascination in hunter-gatherer societies and human evolution, specifically as it relates to motherhood. Elena has published in peer-reviewed scientific journals and major media outlets on these topics, grown an Instagram following from 0 to over 50,000 in just a few months, and is working on a book.

We dove into how motherhood has always been at the heart of societal structures until very recently. What was motherhood like in our evolutionary past? Why does motherhood feel so hard for many women in the modern context? Exploring immediate return tribes versus those who stockpile resources. How much leisure time did our ancestors have? Understanding the beginnings of the warrior class and why were immediate return hunter gatherers serial monogamists? How we’re suffering in the modern world due to lack of communal support and more.

Connect with Elena on instagram here or her substack here

Timestamps:

Intro 00:00 - 06:07 

Our Evolutionary Past 06:07 - 11:17

Hunter vs Gatherer 11:17 - 15:46

Modern Society 15:46 21:20 

Patriarchal Society 21:20 25:42

Male and Female Roles 25:42 32:09

Women and Caretaking 32:09 -37:15

Highlighting Boys and Men 37:16 - 42:11

Outro 42:11 - 43:47 

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I’ve talked about how a man can integrate his feminine energy to find his zone of genius (episode 65 on Spotify) but what about how a woman can integrate her masculine energy in heathy way leaving behind the boss babe energy?

This episode is an introduction to understanding healthy female integration of masculine energy, when intact there is trust, logic, self-belief, and trust and appreciation for men.

Timestamps:

Intro 00:00 - 01:04 

Yin and Yang 01:04 - 05:41

The Opposite Sex Parent 05:41 - 07:46

Good Fathers 07:46 - 11:54

Lesson from a Story 11:54 - 15:52

Healing through Relationships  15:52 - 18:12 

What to Prioritize 18:12 - 21:02

Outro 21:02 - 24:18

“Beauty is the harmony of purpose and form.”  Scandinavian architect and designer Alvor Aalto, 1928

I love this quote because to me it represents the perfect harmony of yin and yang, yin being form and yang being function. Masculinity brings order, logic, and effectiveness while femininity fosters connection, intuition, and feeling. When one is missing we lose balance.

In this episode I start exploring why masculinity is the foundation upon which femininity thrives and why its absence is unraveling society. I talk about Zuckerberg’s comments on masculinity and corporate culture, a story about a workshop I hosted that paints the picture about the differences between men and women, the 99% of good men in the world that are often ignored, why we started to push away from femininity in the west, and more.

Timestamps:

Intro 00:00 - 01:34

Reacting to Zuckerberg 01:34 - 04:43

Masculine and feminine harmony 04:43 - 06:16

The difference between men and women 06:16 - 10:20

Misunderstood masculinity 10:20 - 14:26

Society and Masculinity 14:26 18:56

Female connection 18:56 - 21:50

Masculine and feminine collaboration 21:50 - 26:44

Outro 26:44 - 27:40

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I left off in PT 1 with the understanding that yin/yang principles precede us as humans. When they are functioning harmoniously, life thrives but when that harmony is severed there is a lot of disfunction.

In this episode I get deeper into those two principles and what they are made of. Listen in for a partner dance analogy that explains what happens when things are out of place, why femininity can’t thrive without a masculine container, understanding the bell curve of masculinity and femininity, and some great examples out on the world of masculine and feminine harmony.

Timestamps:

Intro 00:00 - 03:03

Masculine Principle 03:03 - 05:37

Feminine Principle 05:37 - 10:01

Living out our principles 10:01 - 12:41

Male and Female Bell Curve 12:41 - 16:38

Partner Dance Example 16:38 - 21:23

When Things get Mixed Up 21:23 - 23:26

Masculine and Feminine Working Together 23:26 - 27:05

Ads That’s Trivialize Women  27:05 - 29:03

Harmony 29:03 - 35:05

Outro 35:05 - 35:27

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