All About Relationships (Bob and Audrey Meisner)

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It’s important to differentiate between outside and inside conditions. Your tangible exterior conditions could be good or bad, but your respond-ability is much more susceptible to your inside condition. By taking responsibility and developing respond-ability, we have been able to alleviate about 90% of the negativity and erroneous programming in our lives, which are our limiting heart beliefs, which have given us the gifts of calmness, serenity, love, contentment, peace, and joy. This is our inside internal condition.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Living by default and just hoping your feelings will change is dangerous. Those feelings that get you frustrated can eventually turn into feelings of disgust and disdain. The complaining eventually turns into a relationship where you say: I love you but I don’t like you right now. I'm committed to you and this family, but I feel stuck. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

We find that most people who come to us for help are dissatisfied. They’re struggling with disappointment, a sense of lack and a restless desire for something more. They are stuck in the place of “waiting” for something or someone to change: their bank account; their spouse; their children; their health... they are convinced that they can’t have joy until circumstances and people line up. Many face challenges in their relationships of unresolved conflict and have even given up on having honest conversations that end up being constructive. It’s not exactly easy to laugh when your heart is full of depression, anger or fear. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

You’ll learn in today’s episode that apologies like that are not a true effective apology, and there are simple layers of an apology that have the potential to radically heal the unresolved conflict that you are living with. Becoming an expert at truly apologizing is a life-long journey, but it’s worth every second of investment.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

How much do your attitude and mood affect your relationships? People avoid negative people! Throwing away all negative thoughts is to release all doubt and reject all fears. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

When it comes to disappointment, what’s the first thing you should do when someone has overlooked you and not considered your feelings? What do you do when someone is not living up to your hopes, dreams or expectations?https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

A life dream includes relationships that are easy, natural and meaningful. When it comes to accomplishing dreams, most people use force, hard work, drive and fear to make it happen. We love the approach of doing the internal work to live our dreams, and feel the ease and rest of co-creating with God. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Brainstorming is a stimulating exercise where you get together to generate new ideas and solutions. Instead of just having a night of Netflix, consider the outcomes that could happen if you take an hour to brainstorm together! The fun part about this concept is you decide (ahead of time!) that this is a safe space to be uninhibited, and no ideas are criticized or scrutinized. This takes relationship adventure to the next level. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

There’s good news in your relationships: There is always something to celebrate even if you don’t always agree! Getting to the place of openness, honesty, and truly enjoying each other doesn’t require having the same opinions. Differences are what keep the relationship interesting. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

If you have been taught that “marriage is hard” there is a very good chance that you are experiencing that self-fulfilling prophecy. At your core, you have beliefs that direct your life. Whether good or bad, empowering or disempowering, your subconscious has been programmed with opinions and experiences and it is validated with layers of evidence. You will continue to get more of what you already have, simply because your beliefs have brought you to where you are.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Investing in establishing your identity is one of the best gifts you can bring to the people around you. Your identity affects your sense of security, and when we are truly secure and stable, we can see and feel beyond ourselves and love those around us without being self-serving. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

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Jamaican Retreat 2025 January 11-18

with Bob & Audrey Meisner

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Things to Note:

• Daily Sessions with Bob & Audrey
• Afternoons and evenings are yours to enjoy at your leisure
• Reserve your spot early as availability is limited to 10 couples
• This is a beautiful and luxurious All-Inclusive Experience
• Experience the Joy of Life and Love!  Laughing and cherishing every moment together as a couple isn’t just a wish—it can become your reality!
• Anticipate the heartfelt Renewal of Your Vows, a truly unforgettable moment.
Plus, enjoy ample free time to bask in the sunshine, reconnect, and dream big for your marriage!
• Space is limited, so secure your spot soon!

 

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What have you been waiting for?

1. For my big break

Empowering belief suggestion: I am not desperate for I know God as my source. I am not in lack for He has promised to provide all that I need, I choose and I live in peace for he keeps me as the apple of His eye and hides me under the shadow of His wing, Psalm 17:8.  

             2. For a God moment

Empowering belief suggestion: I have access to my friendship with God every moment. I am not a disappointment to God. My God-given imagination serves me and I find courage to walk in harmony with /god and His design for my life.

3.  For my spouse to stop________

Empowering belief suggestion: My spouse (loved one) is not my limitation or problem or obstacle. I choose to focus on the strengths and gifts of my spouse.  

4. For my spouse to start ____________

Empowering belief suggestion: I am at peace knowing he/she is not my source, I am complete and have everything I need in my relationship and friendship with God.

5. For my child/parent to start _____________

Empowering belief suggestion: I trust that God is pursuing him/her with His unfailing love, I easily let go of my agendas for others.

6.  For the perfect opportunity

Empowering belief suggestion: I am surrounded by countless opportunities every day. I swim in the seas of possibilities. I easily hear Goed’s voice for inspiration, and direction and act on them.

7. For financial security

Empowering belief suggestion: I am secure and don’t worry about money. I trust God for wisdom and how to use my time and finances wisely. God is my provider.

 

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As daily routines are grinding to a halt for so many, the strain on our relationships can feel paralyzing and overwhelming. This quantum switch has the potential to change the trajectory for your future. Times like March 2020 become a defining moment in history where circumstances are shaken and sifted resulting in a huge reset. This is a huge opportunity to take advantage of the moment and make a fresh start when it comes to your relationships.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

How come words affect us so much? Why do we take words so personally? How does a little word change everything? Our words have so much power, in both directions! To destroy and damage and break people down, or to mend, and heal and comfort and bring joy and assurance. If words are that powerful, why aren’t we more careful with them?https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Have you ever wanted someone to tell you how? You understand that harbouring bitter pain is harmful, but letting go is easier said than done. You want to get rid of the pit in your stomach, but it seems to have a stubborn mind of its own. You admit that your relationships would be less complicated if you could let go of resentment, but how is that even possible?https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Problems arise when we don’t understand. Every problem can be solved when we truly understand. Seeking to understand and the willingness to listen is a choice that will lead to engaging relationships! As Stephen Covey says, “It’s critical: Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

To ask anyone to be everything you need isn’t realistic, and can lead to sadness and hopelessness. Expanding your sense of security and worth apart from any relationship (other than God) is empowering and leads to healthy attachments. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Why is it in relationships we tend to treat those we love the most… the worst. Why do we say things… mean things, to those we’re close to that we would never say to someone at work, at church, or in a grocery store. Where’s the logic in this? I want to share with you some thoughts that can lead to some real-life application so you’re not living life by default but rather with intention and purpose. Being aware of what you’re doing and how others experience you is invaluable in making the needed course correction for you...and the more you’ll enjoy your life and relationships.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

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Don’t you love it when everything seems to click into place, and having a relationship together is easy? If an effortless connection is bliss, then why do married couples give up so easily and settle for frustration and sometimes even indifference?https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Happy people all have something in common. It’s not that they’re all rich, thin, successful, good-looking, or famous. Nor is it that they’re the ones with the fastest cars, the best toys, the routine spa days, or the best bodies. They don’t have the biggest houses or experience the most exotic vacations. They didn’t win the lottery or marry the perfect spouse. They don’t have the most important job, the most Facebook likes, the best YouTube channel, or the best-behaved children. Honestly, we don’t need to have any of these things to be happy. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Having a confident understanding of your “personal communication goals” sheds so much light on every relationship! A common question that readers ask is, “What if I’m different when I’m with my spouse than I am with everyone else? Which goal is my true authentic self?” We ask you to base your results on how you are with the majority of your relationships, not just the person closest to you. Another method of exploring your goals is thinking back about when you were a child, and what was most important to you.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Suffering is experiencing anything we absolutely DO NOT want to experience. The difference between suffering and longsuffering is: To suffer is to be a victim, blaming those around you wallowing in self-pity. To be longsuffering is to free! To make the deliberate and intentional choice to live indefinitely with something we hate. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

We are hosting a Marriage Getaway 2025 on the beautiful beaches of Jamaica from January 11-18, and we want you to join us!

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If you are feeling oversensitive, unsupported or misunderstood, it’s likely that deep down, you’re really scared, and not being loved where you need it the most. Everyone has “fear buttons”, but they go unnoticed when things are going well in the relationship. We call these “core fears” and we love helping people find the love they need to courageously conquer their fears. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Every week, we meet with individuals and couples that are open and willing to re-write "the story" of their lives. They have decided that it’s time to flip the negativity of their past and choose a new beginning. In order to truly let go of the past, and the power of the memory that just doesn’t go away, it starts with experiencing the love God. You’re worth having a new beginning and freedom from what's behind you!https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Fight fire with fire. The phrase “fight fire with fire” is an idiom that dates back to the middle 1800s. ... To fight fire with fire means to use the same weapons or tactics that an aggressor is using on you. Even though that’s the natural and logical reaction, it doesn’t work well in relationships. Taking personal responsibility for your responses is one of the fastest ways to revolutionize security and ultimately joy in your relationship.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

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Desiring headway in the quality of your relationship is admirable. What happens when you’ve been waiting a long time to move forward and you can’t get the other person to do their part? What if you’re doing everything you can think of yourself to enrich your life together and the other person doesn’t seem to be making an effort? These scenarios can become frustrating. Becoming desperate in the lack of progress can lead to fixation and an unhealthy attachment to measurement and control and can sabotage true connection. So what do you do?https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Our lives are controlled by our beliefs, which result in feelings, which fuel our thoughts and actions, and establish our habits. If you're in pain, it makes you self-focused. If you are satisfied and find your pleasure and fulfillment in life, you automatically give to others and respond well. Everything you have today is the sum total of what you have believed up to this moment.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Love endures all things. A skewed perception of enduring is hunkering down in a crouched position until the storm passes through, but endurance is much more. Under pressure, endurance digs into taps into your source, remembering your higher purpose. Instead of hiding, enduring is expanding and growing through the experience, fixing your eyes on the enthusiastic enjoyment that lies ahead. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

We have also become highly charged by the benefits and joy that come from being tender. Without judgment, relationships thrive and move towards peace and ease. We will discuss how labels aren’t inherently bad, yet when used to project them onto people they can become tools of harm. And you’ll be encouraged to let the inner movement of your heart always be to love one another. When you love you don’t lose!https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

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Sometimes it feels easier to ignore the small conflicts, the dirty looks, or the simple misunderstandings in hopes that they will simply stop happening. Even forgetting an errand, or something trivial can turn into conflict and after a while, we stop enjoying each other like we once did. Most arguments stem from the refusal to own or take responsibility for the small things and many times we lose the ability to create resolve that feels mutual and kind. Most conflict is the result of endless mutual accusations over trivialities that emotional maturity and honesty would have prevented in the first place. So instead of ignoring the small things, consider developing a connection plan.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

The New Year is full of new potential. When you start a new project or season in your life, you seem to notice opportunities suddenly appearing ahead of you. I like to think that the New Year marks a perfect time to explore NEW. Take hold of that excitement you feel within you and direct it toward a purpose, a passion and dream soon to be realized.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Dwelling on an offense hoping for it to somehow make sense simply reinforces the problem and doesn’t usually end in relief. You have the choice to feed the negative thoughts or interrupt them and align with a heavenly perspective.If you’re ready to stop stewing and suppressing your agitation, the agony can end immediately. Imagine if you were less afraid, more healed from your past hurt, and able to let go of all the things you know you can’t or shouldn’t control! You would be a different person and you would attract different things. More opportunities and healthier versions of your present relationships.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Like the chemical reaction or fuel to a fire, your thoughts towards a person propel reaction and outcome. Whatever we choose to focus our attention on will automatically multiply in our lives. If our attention is on everything we don’t have, those very things will become more… or worse... If our attention is on our troubles or the injustice of the past, they will become our trials of the present also. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

What will keep you stuck, suffering and feeling alone is an offense that leads to resentment and a hardened heart. What will get you out is a renewed mind. When your inside world experiences a turnaround. Instead of white-washing your past, and just hoping for the best, we believe it’s an necessary to deal with your offenses. When you hang on to an offense, you will likely reason your position. And when it feels and sounds reasonable you’ll just hold on to it. Not a good idea. Laying down the right to be offended sets you up for an instant feel good. And it is powerful. So are you ready to move towards a renewed mind? You don’t have to let the troubles or failures of the past disqualify you for the INSTANT change. But you have to take action - to be aware of your feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and values. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

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Being lovable is a gift to those around you. Investing in loving yourself, enables you to love others. You can love others to the same capacity as you have to love yourself. Loving yourself is not referring to vanity or arrogance, but agreement and alignment with the wonder of God’s creation. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll be looking for someone or something or some circumstance - to fulfill your dreams and cause you to feel complete. If you expect someone to fix your life, or make you happy, you will be disappointed. When you have a great relationship with yourself, you don’t need a relationship to be happy! Today is the perfect day to explore new ways to love life, love each other, love ourselves, and love being loved by God.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

When you have resolved the real you, you can “get planted” anywhere...good or bad, and you will thrive. When you have resolved the real you, you can live with difficult people, survive scenarios, and enjoy peace, joy, and fulfillment. Nothing can take it away from you!https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

The thought of standing at the crossroads of life isn’t anything new. But if you’re consumed by questioning the direction of your career, relationships, and overall life purpose—don’t worry. It’s actually more normal than not.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

The rush of everyday life, the pressure of red lights, buzzing phones, messy houses, unanswered emails, and needy people around you are real. But please recognize the peace that is available to you. There is peace in every step. Every thought. Every choice. Every single breath.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Turn your venting into a prepared conversation of verbal processing can bring renewed understanding. In many circumstances, habitual venting is a poor coping mechanism. It dives into negativity when you’re upset and is a poor way to treat your loved ones. We believe there is a wise way to release pressure through verbal processing.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Whenever we feel like our dreams have crashed, it’s important to realize that your current experience is a piece in a larger puzzle, a chapter in a larger story. There is a way to find strength when you’re discouraged. If you feel like the desires of your heart have been hijacked by an injustice, don’t give up. Your difficulty and tragedy are not the end of you. There is hope ahead if you’ll find understanding. In this podcast, I describe what happened to me this last week. It didn’t make any sense. I had zero understanding. I felt tricked. I had done the heart work for months. This was the manifestation of everything I had been believing for. It was an exact and direct answer to prayer.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

The person who is responsible is the one that has the ability to respond. Respond-ability is Responsibility. If there’s someone around you making excuses, the best person to confront first...is yourself. Taking responsibility for your reactions protects you from judging, complaining, and continuing the nonsense of dysfunction. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

After being the featured guests on many podcasts, and hosting over a hundred episodes of Live Transformed podcasts with Dr. Jim Richards, we finally sat down and began recording our own podcast, “All About Relationships.” Just the two of us in our office, face to face with honest hearts and a desire to help others. We pushed the “record button” and immediately something extremely vulnerable and personal started to happen. We have shared our lives on stages around the world, written many books and even hosted our own on-air live daily television program for two decades, but this is different. The uniqueness of being alone together in our home with you makes this a precious opportunity of closeness. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Have you ever felt disrespected in your relationships? If that’s the case, you are not alone. It is likely that the person who is acting disrespectfully towards you may have issues of insecurity and feels highly misunderstood and unheard. Their reactions and pushback are demonstrated in a way to diminish others to feel empowered and good about themselves.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Our emotional distress can arise from our expectations of others. They can be spoken or unspoken. Either way, there is an expectation that is not being met leading to a disappointment.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

If you have ever felt like one person is doing all the giving and receiving nothing in exchange, it’s natural to feel the injustice and move towards feeling misunderstood. At this point, it’s nearly impossible to develop empathy. Yet, most relationships fail not because of a lack of understanding (as most psychologists make us believe), rather it is due to the deficiency of adequate empathy (emotional connection) between our family and friends.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

You were created to live in a state of hope, joy, and peace... these aren’t just emotions but can become your abiding feelings, based on your beliefs about who you are, why you were created, and who your Creator really is. There are no hopeless circumstances, just hopeless people, and you can choose to be full of hope. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Dreams, hopes, and anticipation can quickly turn into expectations, and expectations can turn into our greatest disappointments. One of the most positive, powerful and transforming skills you can develop for relationships, is how to navigate a disappointment quickly to bring resolve, understanding, and connection. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Even though we had read countless books and studies on the topic of communication, we wanted to get to the heart of the matter. Sure, we understand that we have different styles and personalities, but what is the motivation behind our communication? Why are we so determined to get our point across? Why do some people in our family have (it seems like) zero tolerance for certain conversations?https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

If you are feeling the tension of life and the pressures are squeezing the life out of your relationships, don’t be dismayed. There are practical things we can implement to retrieve the flow of “giving and taking” and enjoying love together. Depth and substance coupled with the lightness of life is the sweet combination that breeds instant life into your relationships. Choose to process life differently and your focus will change…just imagine the positive outcomes! https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

When you have repetitive thoughts and feelings towards a certain person or life situation, they ultimately become automatic and form an attitude. If you experience the same reality over and over your attitude expands into how you perceive and see others, and even reduce them to their greatest offense. Your perception of others is worth noticing, and in many cases, worth re-evaluating!https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

It may be about disappointments, differences, disagreements, or a host of other possibilities, but confrontation is critical – and inevitable. However, the key is to use confrontation to develop a deeper connection, not to prove yourself right at the expense of the other feeling unloved or unheard.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Commitment says: “I have come into this relationship to lay down my life so that you will have life.” Being steadfast makes you trustworthy and safe. What does it take to give this incredible gift to those you love?https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Experiencing tragedy, loss or hardship is inevitable, and yet hope is available no matter how difficult it is to face the harsh dose of reality. Nobody is immune from hearing bad news of sadness, loss, or potential disaster at some point, but you can be prepared for the unexpected, and even take a step forward into something new! https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

There are independent people and codependent people and they usually find each other! We tend to be in one of those camps - even if mildly, and knowing how this affects us under stress is an important lesson. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

What do you do when you’re not feeling rewarded for your investments in a relationship? We all love to feel the rewards and benefits when we put effort into another person’s heart and life. There is a way to set yourself up to get the prize! https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

True success is marked by what you’re in love with. If you’re obsessed with your plan, your ideas or your path, you can miss the joy of life and the ways of wisdom. What sets you apart in this upcoming year, will be your willingness to let go of your agendas and prioritize peace. Your dedication to edit your private-self-talk will stimulate life-filled relationships with those around you. Your consuming desire for authentic transparency will be the perfect setup for courageous joy and dreams come true. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

It’s easy to trust when things are working. Feeling secure in a place of trust encapsulates the dream of unconditional love! Trusting others is almost inseparable from loving others. True intimacy can only be achieved through honesty and trust. What are the steps in nurturing and developing a trust-filled relationship even after betrayal or layered disappointments? We are so glad you asked:https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Episode #160

Attention is a Big Deal! 

We naturally pay attention to what we are interested in. Take a look at your current life… the fact is, this is not the end of your story! If you still have breath, you are a story that’s being told! Happy moments and happy memories are a gift, but they can also be directions. If you’re interested in a life full of abundance, then let’s stoke the fire of momentum and invest in deciding your intention, attention, and vision for your every day.  

Intention, Attention, and Vision

Here are ten intentions that you may want to set for yourself that would really help your relationships move forward together. When you build momentum in your relationships, you’ll be in an ongoing state of moving forward together, making memories, and sharing meaningful moments. Even when you face obstacles together, you're able to take them in stride as you work together to keep going. Momentum propels you towards fulfilling relationships. It all starts with intention.  

1. Show kindness: “I’m going to be warm towards you and value your perspective and your needs. I’m going to give you the strongest version of me, without reminding you of your weaknesses.”
2. Love unconditionally: “Whether the current conditions are favorable or challenging, I’m going to be consistent and stable in my love for you.”
3. Participate in open and vulnerable communication: “I remember that when I’m vulnerable, it establishes a deeper bond between us and makes us feel closer. When I share my personal journey with you, I am giving you a gift.”
4. Share passion, affection, and intimacy: “I prioritize being affectionate…like trust, it’s something that grows and develops over time. I want you to feel wanted.”
5. Support and appreciation: “Part of supporting you is being enthusiastic when you share your journey with me. Part of appreciating is using words, and being specific with what I’m grateful for! 
6. Compliment and admire: “I don’t settle for stagnation, assuming our relationship is fine because we’re not having conflict. Complimenting and admiring you keeps our relationship fresh and alive.
7. Avoid criticism, complaints, and correcting: “Even when our preferences, values, and convictions are different, I’m not going to bring constant attention to them. Instead, I find a playful and creative way to reach your heart.
8. Personal space without guilt: We are together (in our family, our friendship, our marriage) but we are also individuals, so I am secure enough to allow you space and self-expression.” 
9. Seasons of feeling stuck: “I don’t want to defend, argue, debate, or impose my convictions or my preferences, so I will re-evaluate my expectations, accept you, and be easy to get along with and carefree.” 
10. Don’t question the nature of our relationship: “I won’t judge your intentions or presume you’re against me, even when my feelings are hurt.” Often times I just working through “my own stuff”.

When it comes to attention begin to notice what you pay attention to in your life. The things you feed your attention with will tend to grow (both positive and negative). What you withhold attention FROM, tends to wither and fall away. Nothing drives people up a wall faster than being ignored. 

We all love attention because it provides validation. Whatever has your attention has your power. See your attention as currency and spend it on what you value. You have a choice, be decisive and it’s in your power to select what you’re giving your attention to. It’s a big deal! It’s useful to inventory what we are feeding with our attention. 

Vision is the willingness to see.  Take a look at your past and “see” the best. The times together that felt close and fun. There have been a lot of things that have gone really well in your life, but they might be living dormant. Stoke the fires of good times in the past. Remember what you first loved about each other! Talk about your favorite memories!  

The practical definition of faith is simply “Seeing the end from the beginning”. Whatever you’re praying for? See it and feel it now. Smile when you think of your future and your dreams coming true. Journey to find the momentum that will propel you forward. 

A healthy relationship should be easy, smooth, and carefree. That's not saying there will never be challenges or difficulties. That's part of having a passionate, long-term partnership. Don't settle for stagnation there is a surplus of enthusiasm (momentum) available for you! Enthusiasm breeds hope which leads to the dreams of your heart revisited and a future of freedom and joy realized.

 

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How do you switch into a turnaround when unexpected news wants to ambush your life? When you put your shoulders back and refuse to cower in challenging circumstances, you are displaying trust and resolve that God’s promises never change. Maybe things didn’t turn out like you dreamed or imagined, but that doesn’t change the foundation of His goodness!https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Why do some relationships survive storms, and some don’t? Giving attention and intention to your foundation sets the stage for limitless opportunities. The first step to building a secure bedrock is looking at yourself, and what you are willing to give. An amazing life isn’t just about what you are getting, but what you are willing to offer without restraint.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Can you remember a challenge in your life that you faced, and you didn’t have the playbook? What was the situation, and what did you develop or learn about yourself? How is that character trait necessary for what you are facing today?https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Imagine bursting at the seams with hope, thus releasing continuous joy into your heart and life. This is the perfect posture for receiving strategy for problem-solving, and strength to withstand any disappointing circumstance or challenge in relationships. Living in hope allows others to experience your best. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

If you feel distant from someone you love, how can you start playing nice with each other? As soon as someone feels they can’t be accepted as “completely themselves” in a relationship, self-protection begins to erode true connection. How can you nurture relationships that are simply enjoyable and meaningful? https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Can we become too comfortable? Comfort and nurturing love are vital in every relationship, but on the other side of that spectrum, we all crave growth which is only ignited through new challenges. Places of comfort are where we find healing. Times of challenge and new opportunities stimulate progress.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

When we are low-functioning and under stress or duress, we automatically tap into our strong suits and push down the gas pedal and go into overdrive. We do it without conscious thought, and the results have the potential to sabotage your relationships. What makes it worse, is it's so hard to detect or understand because deep in our hearts, "we're just trying to make things better!" We can be experienced as being forceful or resistant. So, it really is true: Your strengths overused turn into weaknesses.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

When you are weary and stressed, your relationships are usually the first to take the hit. But how do we stop our minds from spinning into overdrive, sending out waves of “I need to fix this!” or “I just want to quit!” We call like to call this, “The scenario of the Quitters and Controllers”. And we have all spent time in both camps! It’s true that relationships and family dynamics are hard work, but as we all know, they result in the greatest reward. We all want the same thing: safety, laughter, peace and just plain ole “enjoying each other”. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Will your current daily habits eventually take you to where you want to be? There are myths about consistency that make it feel like a sacrifice, but let’s focus on the rewards because consistency gives people around you reason to trust you. And that’s a great big invitation into an uncomplicated and enjoyable relationship.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

God has given us gifts to enrich our lives and the lives of those around us. It is through giving and receiving gifts that we can experience security, comfort, ease, and enjoyment in our relationships. In this series, you will learn how reframing our relationships and perspectives can lead to a profound shift in how we experience life. Foundational to our growth steps is to recognize and experience that our joy comes from the life of God within, and not from external sources, we can find happiness and contentment in every moment. With intention and regaining our power of choice, we can reframe our thinking, we can develop and grow in our journey towards a life of promise full of abundance.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

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When we are scared, or essentially don’t feel safe, we will control our behaviors and our conversations. We may even filter information and withhold information that may cause conflict. The result is a disconnect that seems impossible to recover from. If someone you love isn’t telling you the “whole truth” maybe you haven’t been in a safe place to be vulnerable. It’s easy to blame the other and take sides, but taking a close look at your level of mercy is always a great place to start when you’re ready to bring true resolve.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

How do you respond well when you're in the middle of hurt and offense? When emotions are whirling, and your buttons are pushed, how in the world do you turn this around? We’re glad you asked. We are so grateful for you. Your investment in listening to this podcast displays your willingness to develop greater ways to love those around you. Our series on respond-ability continues. This week it’s super practical as we walk through the process of working through hurt and offense. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Conversations with God about your relationships can be the most energizing and valuable encounters. Nothing feels better than a really good talk with someone who loves, cares, and is willing to understand what you’re thinking and possibly going through. Being understood and gently guided along in a better direction brings a lot of peace. It’s always the perfect time to engage in conversation with God.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

If you have ever felt ignored you’re not alone. There’s a desire in every person to feel like they are being prioritized. In this episode, we want to validate the person who easily feels deserted and sometimes pressures their loved ones to feel secure. Physical circumstances will never be perfect enough or safe enough for you to feel 100% secure. We are all subject to the unknown. The good news is, resolve, security and answers are available. Take the powerful journey that will lead you to a place of feeling wanted, nurtured, and cherished. You are first choice, and you’re not alone. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Breakthrough starts with conquering fear and the limiting beliefs that sabotage our lives. If you want the power to truly change your circumstances, you carry the authority to open the door to the fullness of peace, joy, and alignment. But circumstances follow your beliefs. Beliefs come first..and they are either based on love or fear.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Being sensitive to surroundings, people’s feelings, and even the mood of a room is a gift when it comes to relationships. Your ability to feel and evaluate gives you the ability to respond to needs and provide comfort and adjustment. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Resentment keeps us focused on a perception of unfairness, and justice wants to scream out for equilibrium. The “wronged” person feels that they are not getting the help, appreciation, reward, or affection that they deserve. They feel like the betrayal is too deep, and the other person hasn’t “paid” enough for their dishonorable behavior. Even though there may be substantiating evidence to prove those very points, justifying resentment only strengthens and prolongs it. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

The gift of sight is a big deal because seeing through the eyes of faith opens the door between heaven and earth. Our ability to see affects our family for generations, as we create and choose the life we want as we agree with God.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Infectious Joy!

We all “high-function” in life and our relationships when we are full of joy and peace.  

The profound and simple strategy of Whatever we focus on gets bigger and bigger and stronger and stronger has the potential to change the story of your life.   

Anything you’re not wanting to experience “more of” simply stop looking at it and obsessing over it. Anything you ARE wanting to experience more of….redemptive qualities in your children and spouse, good news, beauty, and hope, look and focus on those things, and you’ll experience a turnaround!

We truly are shaped by our thoughts

Scripture makes it so clear, and offers a clear map to infectious joy: 

4 Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again—rejoice! 5 Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do. Remember, the Lord is coming soon.

6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

8 And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. 9 Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you (Philippians 4:4-9).

Troubling Times

What do we do when circumstances and appearances look grim? This is your day to change the story of my life, and encounter peace. If you continue to tell yourself the same story, It’s just a matter of time until there’s another injustice, and life will keep being too serious and there is no fun.  

Try some of these practical steps: 

1. Remind yourself: I can (and will) find joy in this journey. I will not blame anybody for my current circumstances or disappointments. I’m going to give up trying to change anybody. I refuse to measure other people’s progress.  

2. I chose to smile as I imagine the possibilities ahead, even if it isn’t what I first imagined it would be. I give, I consider others, and I sacrifice for others, and therefore discover the art of true giving. It’s more blessed and rewarding to give rather than receive!  

3. Listen with patience, listen like a sponge, and absorb those around you, and any troubles they have incurred. Learning to truly listen expresses love, acceptance, and compassion in a way that will turn circumstances around. Everyone loves to feel heard! 

What do I do to foster infectious joy?

Celebrate even when there isn’t a big event! It's important to mark small, daily successes and things “going well”. Even if it’s about getting off work earlier than expected or starting an exercise regime. These are positive events that gain strength and significance when we make time to recognize them with excitement and affection. Celebrate good news together. Search for good news! You will find what you’re looking for. And “match” the excitement and celebration of others.

Enjoy listening to God’s voice, and consider developing this skill. Hunches are the hounds of heaven! Every simple step makes a big difference in your relationships. Don’t underestimate what you can do today!

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Change is inevitable but growth is optional. Within every changing season, there is the opportunity for growth. Within every challenge there is an invitation to deepen and enrich our lives, if we refuse to agree with defeat. Proverbs tell us that a wise son or daughter knows their season. Let’s be creative and wise with the season we are in! Let’s be “aware of the elements” and prepare for them and search for the treasures within our moments!https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Many relationships revert into ruts, where nothing changes, and everything remains the same. And it’s not necessarily fantastic. This happens with our spouses, kids, parents, and even friends. Is there something I can do today? (you may ask) and the answer is a resounding yes.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

One word. Hope. Those who are hopeful can untangle negative outcomes. Thankfully, you don’t have to wait for circumstances to get better and THEN have hope. Feelings affect our spiritual life because Jesus is love and light, so when we choose feelings that agree with hope, healing, possibilities, and making allowance for other’s faults, we come into agreement with His opinion. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

A great way to give yourself a break, and truly replenish your heart and soul is to remind your heart of the truth. Instead of spiraling into all the questions that are looming, you can focus on what you know to be true. At this point of (what it feels like) personal dilemma, we can either numb our minds through entertainment or, crash and sleep, find some form of distraction from reality. While none of these are necessarily wrong, they may not satisfy what you are craving the most.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Have you ever heard yourself saying “I don’t care anymore” even though you know you do, but you just can’t handle the frustration any longer? This is what happens when we have been carrying too many cares for way too long. We snap. We can’t care anymore, because it hasn’t helped, and nothing seems to be changing. Caring ends up leading to anxiety and worry. So, in order to survive, we either stop caring as much, or we receive the invitation from Jesus where he invites us into a life of being “carefree” and full of hope.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

After so much emphasis on respond-ability, and taking personal responsibility for your choices and direction in life, we have come to understand that there are times when we simply crave rest and need to receive. It’s the opposite side of the same coin! That’s when we develop our ability to depend on Him and stop depending on our human strength. Depend-ability.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Emotional pain does not have to be wasted. It can serve as a map leading you to healed heart, hope, and effortless joy. Can you imagine your pain helping you? Leading you to the place where you need to be? Instead of avoiding pain, we suggest that you notice where you are experiencing emotional sensitivity or heartache and ask God to meet you there.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Unconditional love is a weighty term for something that most of us don't really understand, and it simply means "I offer you my love freely without condition.” Otherwise, we are offering love with "strings attached." This creates power struggles and control issues. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

When you are safe, others will trust you with their heart, and be willing to be vulnerable and transparent. Being a safe person sets us up for fulfilling relationships that are authentic without pretense. What will it take to be safe? Start with contentment. https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

Are you ready to revise your story? Your content can be improved and life can get better and better without anyone or anything changing in this physical world! If you want “new”, start by telling yourself the story of this past season. Use your voice, talk out loud and describe the narrative.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

“Behind every decision you make, is a value, something you believe is worth holding to that is now being advanced in some way by your choice of action.” - Bob Your personal values are influenced by your upbringing, gender, personality, experiences, conscious choices and your emotional needs, fears, desires, and ambitions. While there are some ‘universal’ values, like the pursuit of being loved, living in peace, knowing the truth, however, the ‘value set’ that you carry is unique to you.https://www.audreyclub.com/ https://www.bobandaudrey.com/   Music by lemonmusicstudio from Pixabay.

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