ADHD Mums (Jane McFadden)

In this episode Jane McFadden tackles WHY we keep hearing, "Nah, you don't have ADHD," and where masks come into play. Lots of personal examples on masks such as: school pick up, driving and general directions and working in a canteen. If you have have no idea if you've been masking, or what it is and if you have been doing it then this is the episode for you.

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In this episode Jane McFadden interviews Lucy Holister on her life with several misdiagnosis' until she suspected her child had ADHD and finally got diagnosed. How Lucy balances it all and what strategies she uses to help her with three children and a FIFO husband. We also discuss how we can as Mothers impact the world to be more friendly to those people who are neurodiverse.

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Do you ever catch yourself wondering, “Is this just the chaos of mum life, or could it be something more?” 

Amanda (ADHD mum) and Sarah (neurotypical mum) share what life really looks like behind the scenes - messy mornings, endless to-dos, and those moments where it all feels too much.

It’s an honest, funny, and eye-opening conversation about the differences and similarities between ADHD and neurotypical motherhood experiences.

In this episode (approx. timestamps):

• 2 mins: Amanda and Sarah’s 24-year friendship
• 6 mins: The reality of chaotic mornings: time blindness, transitions, and stress
• 16 mins: Meal prepping, visual calendars, and why “just make a list” doesn’t always work
• 21 mins: Parenting with neurodivergence: the added layers 
• 27 mins: Work, life admin, and navigating the mental load
• 36 mins: Medicated vs unmedicated life
• 39 mins: How neurotypical strategies compare with ADHD approaches
• 42 mins: The key differences between mum life stress and ADHD challenges

Resources:

• Sarah's organisation business: www.zenspacesbysarah.com.au
• Free ADHD and Autism Self-Assessment Tool recommendations here
• ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook: Clear the confusion and discover your type 
• ADHD Planner + Values Workbook: A system built for hyperactive brains

What to Listen to Next: 

• S02E22: Is it ADHD or Motherhood? Spotify or Apple Podcasts
• S02E29: 6 Practical Tips for ADHD Mums to Reduce Stress and Create a Calmer Home - Spotify or Apple Podcasts
• S02E37: ADHD, Autism or Both? Kara’s Story of Burnout and Sensory Overload - Spotify or

As mums, we want to protect our kids, but when it comes to ADHD or other neurodivergent diagnoses, silence can sometimes send the wrong message. This episode dives into the why behind having this big conversation with your child - why it’s important, how it can shape their self-confidence, and what happens when they don’t have the right information.

If you’ve ever felt unsure about when or how to talk about ADHD with your child - or if you’re worried about labelling them - this episode is for you.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why some parents hesitate to disclose a diagnosis and how to overcome this fear.
• The risks of leaving your child in the dark and how they might create their own (often harsh) narrative.
• How empowering your child with knowledge can build their confidence and self-compassion.
• The emotional journey of processing a diagnosis as a parent and finding the right time to talk.

Resources mentioned:

• Episode: How to Tell Your Child About Their Diagnosis - Spotify / Apple
• Episode: Re-release Camouflaging ADHD + Autistic Traits in Girls - Spotify / Apple
• Episode: Stop People-Pleasing - Spotify / Apple
• Recommended Books: Empower your child with relatable stories about ADHD and Autism.
• A Mum’s Guide to Supporting Your Child’s Diagnosis and Helping Others ‘Get It’: HERE

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Jane interviews Michele Toner who has been supporting people with ADHD since 1995 and she was the first ADHD coach ever in Australia in 2003. Michele has now mentored over 100 ADHD coaches and promotes ADHD Awareness. Michele was awarded an OAM in 2021 for her work in ADHD.

Highlights

- How did Michele begin in this industry?

- What training is involved with ADHD coaching?

- How does it differ from Psychologists?

- How do you pick a good ADHD coach?

- Adult diagnosis and that journey and how it relates to ADHD coaching.

- Can the NDIS fund ADHD coaching?

- Sometimes the smallest achievements for ADHD people are really hard. ie. getting to work on time.

- Self esteem and ADHD - ongoing dialogue about what we aren't good at from ourselves and others.

- The validation that someone needs when they are considering going to get a diagnosis

- How can we make the world more inclusive? Jane shares taking her kids to Australia Zoo which ended in security coming

as her 4 x year melted down in the canteen because the customer service person poured his drink into a cup.

- Does parenting cause ADHD or does ADHD make parenting very difficult?

- Michele shares about how it felt receiving an OAM.

- How can we encourage people to be more inclusive?

- Family coaching with an ADHD coaching

- What would Michele say to someone who has just been diagnosed as an adult?

Directory on how to find a ADHD coach as below:

https://www.adhdcoachesaustralasia.online

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Jane invites Renee Dela Cruz to discuss the changing the perception around Positive Behaviour Support (PBS), emphasizing its importance and the impact it can have when approached correctly. Renee shares her insights on how PBS is misunderstood and provides a more empathetic and effective perspective on understanding and addressing behaviors.

Key Points:

Understanding PBS: Changing the lens on PBS, its roots in applied behavioural analysis and misconceptions around it.

Toolkit Approach: Viewing PBS as a toolkit to understand and address distressing behaviours by understanding the individual’s environment and triggers.

Empathy and Empowerment: The importance of empathy, understanding, and empowerment in creating effective Behaviour Support Plans under NDIS.

Misconceptions about Behaviour: Challenging the idea that behaviours are merely choices and instead highlighting them as responses to distress.

Family Focused: Using PBS to help families understand and support their loved ones better, rather than just controlling or managing behaviours.

If you'd like to connect with Renee here is her website:

https://www.themindspot.com.au/about

In this episode, Jane interviews Dr Justin Coulson, one of Australia's most trusted parenting experts and the co-host of Channel 9's Parental Guidance. Dr Coulson is also the founder of Happy Families and has a PhD in psychology from the University of Wollongong. He shares his lived experience with neurodivergence, offering valuable insights into the challenges of parenting ADHD children.

Key topics covered include:

• The pros and cons of using iPads as a morning motivator for ADHD kids.
• Justin’s personal strategies for managing ADHD traits and avoiding burnout.
• The importance of structure and routine in neurodivergent families.
• The benefits of unstructured outdoor play for building resilience and self-regulation.
• How to navigate the highs and lows of neurodivergence in both parenting and personal life.

**Setting your morning up starts at 13 minutes in**

**iPads before school starts at 15 minutes in**

The conversation highlights the importance of understanding your child’s needs and creating supportive environments to make parenting a bit easier.

If you’d like to know more about Dr Justin Coulson and Happy Families, visit https://www.happyfamilies.com.au

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Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not.

The holiday season is supposed to be magical, but for many ADHD mums, it can feel like a chaotic, relentless sprint. Between managing school events, last-minute gift shopping, and endless holiday prep, it's easy to become overwhelmed and exhausted. In this episode, I go beyond the usual holiday tips and dive into proven strategies tailored for neurodivergent mums to help you reclaim your sanity and rediscover joy during the festive season.

What I cover in this episode:

• Outsmart your brain’s tendency to underestimate tasks and avoid the classic holiday scramble.
• Simplify gift wrapping, school event prep, and more - all without burning out.
• Identify the three key tasks that truly matter this season and feel empowered to let go of everything else (including the spring cleaning!).
• Learn how to sidestep common pitfalls like overcommitting, freezing under pressure, and chasing unrealistic expectations.
• Discover how to delegate effectively, use basic tools without falling into the "perfect app" trap, and leverage your support network.

What To Listen To Next: 

• S02E47: ‘Tis the Season to Overspend: ADHD Mum vs. Impulse Shopping [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden 

Resources Mentioned: 

Buy Prepaid Satchels Online - Australia Post: Simplify your holiday shipping by purchasing prepaid satchels in bulk (not sponsored or affiliated).

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Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/

Key Topics covered in this ep: ADHD mums Neurodivergent parenting Holiday overwhelm Christmas planning tips Time management strategies Gift wrapping hacks Managing...

In this solo episode, I talk about a topic that's highly relevant for anyone navigating life as an ADHDer: the differences between stimulant and non-stimulant medications. Whether you're considering medication for yourself or your child, understanding your options and how they work is crucial.

For detailed info, check out A Guide to ADHD Medication on my website. This is for the mums who are fed up with the confusing advice and just want the facts about ADHD medication – no fluff, no jargon. Discover the different types of medications, how to choose the right one, and what to expect during the process. Learn how to monitor effectiveness, tackle common issues, and work with your healthcare provider to find the best fit for you or your child. This guide also addresses what to do if ADHD medication starts to make you more sensory sensitive, teary, or withdrawn, helping you recognise when it might be unveiling underlying Autistic traits. 

Timestamps (approx):   

• 2 mins: An overview of common stimulants like Adderall, Ritalin, and Vyvanse and how these medications affect the central nervous system to improve focus and energy
• 3 mins: Debunking myths surrounding stimulants and addiction 
• 6 mins: Options for those sensitive to stimulants or dealing with anxiety
• 11 mins: Balancing trial and error in finding the right treatment
• 13 mins: Common side effects of both stimulant and non-stimulant medications
• 14 mins: Preparing for appointments with healthcare providers

Related Episode: From Skeptic to Advocate – Hear more about Jane’s journey in deciding to use ADHD medication for her children. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. 

Mentioned in This Episode: DNA Testing – for listeners interested in learning how their body might respond to different medications. (Note: This is an informational mention, not an endorsement)

Please note: The information provided in this episode is for informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. While the content is based on current knowledge and research, it may not reflect the most recent developments and does not consider individual medical circumstances. Always consult a qualified healthcare provider or medical professional before starting, stopping, or changing any medication or treatment plan.

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In this episode Jane McFadden interviews Lucy Holister on her hyperfocus after having her first child and how she turned this into a large scale business. Whilst hyperfocus can have such positive and negative consequences, this episode is an uplifting and funny listen. 

**I want to acknowledge that I'm still learning how to podcast and edit - so please be patient as each episode I'm learning how best to record to minimise interruption and background noise**

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In this episode Jane interviews regular Aussie Mum Jenny on her traumatic past and the complex web of trauma and ADHD. Jenny talks about her past and how she only began exploring it after she became a Mum and how that has impacted her parenting and children. We also discuss Neurofeedback therapy and EMDR therapy.

*This podcast doesn't recommend any types of therapies, we just discuss our experiences - you should always discuss treatment options with your GP*

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 The ADHD MUMS podcast is a safe place where real people with real stories can discuss their struggles with ADHD, motherhood, and life. In this episode, host Jane McFadden talks about the growing awareness of ADHD in women, particularly mothers, and the challenges they face in their daily lives. Jane shares her story of being diagnosed with ADHD in her mid-thirties after experiencing severe burnout and feeling overwhelmed. Research has shown that ADHD symptoms can present differently in women than in men, and many women with ADHD may have gone undiagnosed or misdiagnosed in the past. The demands of motherhood can exacerbate the symptoms of ADHD, and as awareness grows, more women are seeking diagnosis and treatment. Join us today…

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In this episode, I’m joined by Claire Britton, an ADHDer, mum of two, and paediatric Occupational Therapist. Together, we dive into the often confusing and frustrating world of executive function. You know the feeling - struggling to keep it all together, constantly questioning why everything feels so hard. We’re breaking down what executive function really is, why ADHD mums feel like they’re always on the back foot, and how we can start managing the daily chaos with more compassion and less overwhelm.

Key Takeaways: 

• Claire’s “Admin Team” Analogy: Claire describes executive function as your brain’s “admin team,” and for ADHD mums, that team is often understaffed and struggling to keep up. It’s not failure - your brain is simply overworked and needs help.
• The Real Mental Load of Motherhood: ADHD mums carry an unseen, exhausting weight that goes far beyond school lunches and appointments. If you’ve ever ended your day feeling burnt out and wondering why you can’t do it all, this is for you - you’re not lazy, just carrying more than most can imagine.
• Practical Strategies for Mums Who’ve Tried Everything: Claire shares real tips like body doubling, habit stacking, and visual schedules - simple yet powerful survival tools for ADHD brains trying to stay on track.
• Medication, Self-Compassion, and Letting Go of Guilt: From Claire's personal perspective, she shares how medication can create mental breathing room, allowing you to manage more effectively, while self-compassion is key to releasing the guilt that so many ADHD mums carry.

Why This Episode is a Must-Listen:

This episode is a lifeline for mums feeling overwhelmed and like they're not measuring up, offering practical tools, a deeper understanding of your ADHD brain, and most importantly, the reminder that you are not alone in this journey.

Resources Mentioned:

• Follow Claire on Instagram: @neuroinclusion.au
• Learn more about Claire's work at Neuroinclusion: https://www.neuroinclusion.com.au/ 

Related Episode: 

Episode with Lael Stone on Building Resilience in a Neurodiverse Family:  Apple | Spotify

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Jane interviews Sharon Collin from 'The Functional Family' on relationships.

Sharon has a ADHD husband and three sons with ADHD, she herself is neurotypical.

Sharon has studied ADHD heavily and built a coaching business and family membership around it.

Highlights

- Sharon and Jane discuss the frustration, anger and common problems that occur between two different

brains managing a house hold.

- Sharon discusses the changes in her attitude over time, how she looks at her husband with curiosity not

frustration. There is always a danger to nag or 'mother' an ADHD person - this is a romance killer!

- What attracted Sharon to her husband

- What Sharon's husband went through as a child at school - being labelled 'naughty'

and the kid that no one wanted to hang out with. Sharon is determined this will not happen to her sons.

- Sharon talks on forgiveness and patience and learning to accept the whole person.

- Sharon talks on 'Predictable Problems,' what they are and how they impact a relationship.

- Jane and Sharon talk about dynamics that can eat away at your relationship.

- The invisible mother load and how having ADHD impacts this.

- Jane and Sharon talk about 'family meetings' once a week (template available on Sharon's website)

- Jane and Sharon talk about how different brains listen and solve problems.  

- What are you good at - let's all play to our strengths.

- Tap in and out with your husband or partner 

- Horrifying example of Sharon husband selling car out from underneath her LOLZ!!

- Jane shares a personal struggle she is struggling with and Sharon helps sorts her out. 

Serious question: Can Sharon marry me ?? Why is she so accepting? I need to be more like that.

Episode Notes

Check out Sharon at https://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/

 https://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/blog/letscallafamilymeeting (family meeting template)

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The ADHD MUMS podcast is a safe place where Aussie Mums with relatable stories can discuss their struggles with ADHD, motherhood and life. In this episode Jane McFadden talks on the popular topic that is hitting the ADHD Mum's inbox, "Am I just making excuses, or do I really have ADHD?" She explores the myth that ADHD is a set of excuses that people use for their children or for themselves. As well as how ADHD Mums can take back their own power, take responsibility for their symptoms and make changes to live the best life possible.

**Jane also tells half a story about how she almost fostered a cat and its 6 kittens from a local shelter last time she was on holidays as her impulsive brain was bored by not working and spending time with her kids **

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Jane has Millie Carr joining for this episode on diagnosis. She is a passionate neurodivergent educator, coach and now published Author, who writes children's books about diagnosis. Recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 35, Millie was inspired to tell her story and spread the word to young girls.

In this episode, we delve into the significance of early intervention, the need for open dialogue about neurodiversity, and the crucial role teachers play in identifying and supporting neurodivergent students.

Episode Highlights:

• Why the Need for Diagnosis
• Negative Impact on Self-Perception
• Long-Term Implications for Adult Life
• Building Understanding and Acceptance
• How to Disclose the Diagnosis to a Child

Check out Millie's previous episodes below:

Highly Camoflauged and masked ADHD in the classroom

The Neurodiverse Classroom

Check out Millie Carr's books on ADHD at https://milliecarrbooks.com/

In this solo episode, I’m sharing 6 practical tips that have helped me reduce stress and create a calmer, more connected home as a neurodivergent mum. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the daily chaos or struggled to find a balance between parenting and navigating ADHD, this episode is for you. These strategies aren’t about perfection - they’re about finding what works for you and your family to bring a little more peace and ease into your days.

Key Takeaways:

• How to set up simple, consistent routines to make mornings less stressful and reduce daily friction.
• Why natural consequences can be a powerful tool for teaching responsibility without constant power struggles.
• Tips for managing big emotions with empathy, fostering stronger connections between you and your child.
• The importance of setting clear, consistent rules to create a sense of stability and harmony at home.
• Ways to involve your kids in problem-solving, helping them build independence and giving you more breathing room.
• Proactive strategies to stay ahead of potential conflicts, making your home feel more peaceful and supportive.

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Christmas - it’s the season of joy, right? Well, not always. Between the family drama, overwhelming sensory triggers, and the constant pressure to create magical moments, the holidays can feel more like chaos than cheer. For neurodivergent mums, it’s even trickier to juggle routines, expectations, and everything in between.

Timestamps (approx):

• 1 min: Why family tensions skyrocket at Christmas - and how to handle unspoken expectations before they spiral.
• 2 mins: Guilt-free boundaries that actually stick: How to say no with kindness and protect your energy.
• 6 mins: Beating sensory overload: Quiet corners, calm kits, and simple strategies to keep things manageable.
• 10 mins: Picky eaters and Christmas lunch. 
• 14 mins: Handling criticism with confidence: What to say (or not say) when Aunt Karen gets passive-aggressive.
• 18 mins: Simplifying the season: Why connection and small traditions matter more than picture-perfect holidays.

This isn’t about creating a Pinterest-worthy Christmas - it’s about making the season work for your family, with all its quirks and chaos.

Resources

• Mel Robbins’ "Let Them" Concept: A mindset tool to let go of controlling others. Learn more on the Mel Robbins Podcast.
• Calm Kits for Sensory-Friendly Holidays: Stock up on fidget toys, headphones, and weighted blankets. Shop on Jane’s Affiliate Amazon Shop.

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Your review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit’s end).

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EXTRA RESOURCES:

Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resources

Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/

Key Topics covered in this ep: Christmas family drama Holiday sensory overload Picky eaters at

Jane talks about the pressures that parents feel to do many early intervention therapies on their kids, which comes right

at the same time as the diagnosis does. The overwhelm and indecision about what is the best thing to do for your kids

which often comes at the same time as the physical demands on parents are the highest (kids under 7).

- Jane discusses how she spent 50min + with a psychologist to discover she can only see one sibling.

- Jane talks about her experience taking just two kids to the podiatrist and what taking ADHD kids to appointments really looks like.

(Thanks old love in the corner for your judgemental face).

- How can we balance therapies and fun? Our children need and deserve the same opportunity to play sport and relax

- How can we work and drive our children around to these services every day of the week?

- Jane discusses how she engaged a Psychologist to do a parenting plan for each child so she can learn the skills to help her kids

regulate their emotions.

- Jane also talks about getting her 4 year old to sleep in his own bed YES!! Products mentioned are Jett Proof and compression sheets for

sensory regulation.

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In this episode, we’re exploring why so many ADHD Mums are drawn to entrepreneurship with Paula Maidens, a business consultant and a mum of two. Paula has been helping entrepreneurs build high-performing teams in her own business for over 14 years. Paula shares her personal experiences as an entrepreneur and a mum, offering practical advice on how ADHD entrepreneurs can thrive in business without burning out.

Key topics covered:

• Jane and Paula discuss why ADHD brains are so suited to entrepreneurship, from the creativity and fast-paced thinking to the desire for independence.
• Paula explains why clarity is critical for ADHD entrepreneurs and shares simple strategies to get clear on your goals and avoid overwhelm.
• Struggling to let go of tasks? Learn how to hire the right people, set clear expectations, and build a team that supports your vision without feeling like you have to do it all yourself.
• Paula opens up about her own journey as a mum of two and entrepreneur, sharing how she defines success and sets boundaries to maintain work-life balance. Jane adds her own experience about the impact of clear communication in business and home roles like cleaners. 
• ADHD entrepreneurs often have a constant stream of ideas. Paula talks about how to prioritise, handle multiple projects, and avoid burning out your team.

Resources:

• Learn more about Paula Maidens: www.paulamaidens.com.au
• Check out Paula’s Courses: Kick Ass Interviewing, Fundamentals of Leadership, Hire Your First Team Member 

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Friendships can be tricky, especially when navigating neurodivergence. As parents, we often wonder how to help our kids make meaningful connections, set healthy boundaries, and deal with social challenges.

That’s why I brought in the one and only Bec Sparrow A.K.A. Australia’s Friendship Whisperer. With two decades of experience as a writer, speaker, and advocate for connection, Bec has helped countless parents, teens, and schools understand what it takes to create meaningful, lasting friendships. Her passion for belonging shines through in this episode, where she shares insights drawn from both her professional expertise and her lived experiences.

We explore:

• Friendship as a skill: Why friendships aren’t instinctive for everyone and how to teach kids (and yourself) to build meaningful connections step by step.
• Setting boundaries with confidence: Practical tips for helping kids say no and communicate their needs without guilt.
• Spotting red flags in friendships: Bec uses Dr Brené Brown’s BRAVING framework to break down the key elements of trust and healthy relationships.
• Handling conflict with kindness: How to navigate disagreements without creating unnecessary drama.
• Expanding social circles: Why building friendships outside of school is essential for resilience and avoiding negative peer pressure.

More resources can be found here: https://adhdmums.com.au/resources/ 

Related Episode:

S02E35: ADHD and Autistic Friendships with Prof Tony Attwood and Dr Michelle Garnett

Resources Mentioned:

• Follow Bec on Instagram: @rebeccasparrow72
• Find more resources, articles, and info on Bec’s online programs: https://rebeccasparrow.com/ 
• Get Bec Sparrow’s latest book: Out of the Box
• Dr Brené Brown’s Podcast about the BRAVING acronym: The Anatomy of Trust
• Listen to Bec on the Parental as Anything TEENS podcast

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In this first part of my two-part series on autistic burnout, I’m sharing how I came to realise the impact of burnout on my life – something that had been affecting me for years without my knowing.

From reflecting on childhood conditioning to understanding how societal pressures pushed me into burnout, I unpack the key moments that shaped my experience. I also share why this realisation was life-changing for me and why I’m passionate about helping other neurodivergent women and girls avoid the same struggles.

I talk about:

• How the realisation of autistic burnout changed my life
• Reflections on growing up in a world where “doing your best” meant pushing through exhaustion for external praise and validation
• How societal expectations shaped my default settings of people-pleasing and pushing myself beyond my limits
• Why I believe so many women feel the same way and how I hope sharing my experience validates yours too

This episode is for anyone who feels like they’ve been running on empty, not realising the toll it’s taking. It’s about recognising the early signs and validating your experience, so you can stop the burnout cycle before it starts.

Listen [HERE] to Part 2 - “Preventing Autistic Burnout: Practical Tips for Neurodivergent Mums and Their Children”

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On this episode of The ADHD Mums Podcast, Jane is joined by Shantelle Poynter! Jane and Shantelle explore the popularity of Shantelle’s previous episodes, touching on topics like self-hatred, ADHD, and relationships. The engaging banter between Jane and Shantelle sets the tone for a candid and relatable conversation about the challenges and triumphs of being an ADHD mom.

Jane and Shantelle delve into the theme of "mum experiences," reflecting on the concept of "mum fails" and how the term may not accurately capture the essence of parenting mishaps. They share personal anecdotes, highlighting the humorous side of neurodivergent experiences, including an amusing yet potentially serious incident involving Shantelle leaving her car running for four hours in a busy shopping centre.

If you'd like to hear Shantelle's other episodes here they are:

Self Hatred and ADHD

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5aI7T0w0WtdrbZjYn0S1Az?si=ff1074f491684d72

Relationships and ADHD

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1sP3yrwjEDE3SYlTYhmQrA?si=xmIISazqRfGhl9DEQc_FKg

TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including domestic violence, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. It includes real-life accounts from survivors that may be distressing. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.

In this Mini Series, we dive into the complexities of domestic violence, touching on how these often hidden forms of harm affect countless lives. While it’s impossible to cover everything, our goal is simple: to shed light on these critical issues, help those who may see themselves in these situations, and point toward where support is available.

Let’s be real: we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.

Support and Help Lines:

If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of domestic violence are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.

Support and Help Lines:

If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of DV are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.

- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website

- Relationships Australia: Offers counselling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364 277

- Men’s Referral Service: Support for men using family violence, offering confidential counselling and resources. Call: 1300 766 491

- Family Relationship Advice Line: Offers information and support for family separation, parenting arrangements, and more. Call: 1800 050 321

- Women’s Health Centres: Specialised support for women affected by domestic violence, including counselling and medical services. Contact your local centre.

- In Immediate Danger: Call: Triple Zero (000)

Legal Protection Orders

If you need protection, apply for legal orders such as Apprehended Domestic Violence Orders (ADVOs) or similar orders in...

Jane's back with Sharon Collin from 'The Functional Family'

Sharon is neurotypical (supposably) Jane says she is now dubious on this one. Sharon has a ADHD husband and three sons with ADHD.

Highlights:

- What to do with a sensory seeker

- What to do with an antagonist child

- What kind of attitude do we have?

- How can we find the joy even when there is just a second of it.

- Do we need to fix our kids?

- What are our family values

- What systems can we implement

- What are predictable problems

- Jane gives Sharon her most frustrating problem, the 10min period in her afternoon that ruins her. Sharon SOLVES it!

Check out Sharon's other episode here:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2jSsYji6hrnVZ5rv793VlI?si=syC9H-DaR7GD1xN_CQwf9g

Check out Sharon's website here:

https://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/

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Jane interviews Jess Burgess (Psychologist) on this expert view on Anxiety and ADHD.

(Fast forward first 5mins if you don't want to hear about Jess and Jane friendship and surfing careers lolz).

Highlights:

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- How are anxiety and adhd are linked

- Jess explains working memory about why people with ADHD struggle with it.

- How beliefs form

- Why people are often treated for anxiety instead of ADHD and what benefits that has.

- Where does anxiety begin ? 

- Environment vs genetic 

- Stress on the ADHD Mum to do early intervention whilst digesting their own diagnosis.

- Jess discusses strategies for anxiety for Mum's and also families.

- Boundaries and how they impact on anxiety.

- Why self care is important for our kids to SEE us do.

- Jane discusses one of her largest problems, her to do list, her need to be productive

and her to do list obsession and the anxiety that goes hand in hand with that.

- Jess discusses the cycle of anxiety and how we can get out of it.

App suggested by Jane

Ourpact —> Jane uses this app to use parental controls on her kids iPads .

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If you’re constantly running on empty, dealing with chronic pain, weird health symptoms, or crushing fatigue - this isn’t just mum life, and it’s not all in your head. ADHD doesn’t just affect the brain; it impacts the entire body. Add the mental load of motherhood, and it’s no wonder so many ADHD mums feel like we’re barely hanging on.

In this episode:

• Why ADHD is linked to inflammation, chronic pain, gut issues, and immune dysfunction.
• How the mental load of parenting neurodivergent kids can physically impact your health.
• Why women with ADHD are more prone to conditions like fibromyalgia, hypermobility, and lipidemia.
• How stress, hormones, and burnout can leave you feeling broken - and what you can do about it.
• The real reason so many mums feel dismissed by doctors when they ask for help.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re falling apart while everyone else seems fine, this episode will help you understand why - and how to start advocating for your health.

From here: 

Join the conversation in our private Facebook group where other ADHD mums share what’s worked for them.

Follow me on Instagram for updates on my personal journey with lipidemia and my upcoming surgery.

Amen Clinics (referenced in ep - not affiliated or sponsored)

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For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au.

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

Topics Covered in This Episode: ADHD, ADHD mums, ADHD and health, ADHD and chronic illness, ADHD and inflammation, ADHD burnout, ADHD fatigue, ADHD and stress, ADHD and physical health, ADHD and emotional wellbeing, ADHD and chronic pain, ADHD and gut health, ADHD and autoimmune disorders, ADHD and hormones, ADHD and perimenopause, ADHD and menopause, ADHD and mental load, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD mum exhaustion, neurodivergent health, neurodivergent mums, ADHD and trauma, ADHD and immune system, ADHD and migraines, ADHD and hypermobility, ADHD and fibromyalgia, ADHD and lipidemia, ADHD and brain fog, ADHD and stress response, ADHD and nervous system, ADHD and mental health, ADHD and women’s health, ADHD and emotional burnout, ADHD coping strategies, ADHD self-care, ADHD and lifestyle changes.

Mentioned in this episode:

ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook: A Guide for Women and Mothers

Wondering if it’s ADHD or mum life? The ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook is your survival guide, helping you untangle your thoughts and explore ADHD traits - perfect for those curious about self-diagnosis or preparing for an assessment.

ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Worbook

In this episode Jane McFadden takes her own advice on 'Is ADHD just an excuse?' and deals with a conflict situation by acknowledging her ADHD in a work situation. She then shame spirals through most of the week and struggles to move forward. However ADHD Mum's are nothing but resilient and we will continue on - this episode is to highlight - you are not alone in this. We all feel this, let's break down the stigma and talk about it.

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Jane discusses her personal experience with medication and psychiatrists and answers FAQ:

- How do I access medication quickly?

- Should I see a psychologist or a psychiatrist what is the difference?

- I can't get into a psychiatrist - should I see a Telehealth one?

- What is the difference between a Telehealth psychiatrist and an in person one?

- What is this going to cost me?

- Can I get Medicare rebates?

- I have medication but I don't know if its working?

- If I'm hyperactive why would I take a stimulant?

- What medication should I ask for?

**This episode only exists because of the huge waitlist to get into see a psychiatrist and how difficult it is to get reviewed by any

health professional on ADHD medication. This isn't an expert point of view, it is a personal experience, everyone should seek medical advice or see their treating prescribing for their professional opinion when varying their medication**

**www.someone.health/ is a resource you can go to if you need speedy professional opinion**

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Jane is joined by Deanna Reynolds, an ADHD Tutor and student teacher. Deanna has ADHD herself, lives on the Sunshine Coast with her husband (teacher) and her two kids. They discuss the difficulties kids face in the classroom when learning the same material as other neurotypical kids.

- The impact the classroom has on self esteem for children.

- The reason people with ADHD share with their own personal stories rather than just listening.

- Irrelevant thoughts in kids, why kids come off as 'unfocused' - when actually their sharing makes complete sense to them and actually shows them

trying to understand.

- How can we create more confidence in our children to ask teachers for help when they don't understand.

- Therapy and ADHD Tutors can be expensive, time consuming and draining. How do we find the best solution for our children?

- What can we do as parents to help our children in the classroom?

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Wondering if there’s more to your neurodivergence beyond ADHD? In this episode, Clinical Psychologist Dr. Jacinta Thomson breaks down the overlap between ADHD and autistic traits in mums. Learn how masking works, why it’s so hard to tease them apart, and how to explore your identity with curiosity and self-compassion. This is the episode for you if you’ve ever thought, “Could I be autistic too?”

This episode was originally released on 26th February 2024, and it’s one of our most popular episodes.

Key Takeaways:

• Understand how ADHD and autistic traits can overlap and mask each other.
• Explore the unique challenges of high-masking neurodivergent mums.
• Discover the subtle signs of autism that aren’t on Google.
• Learn why self-identification is valid and when a formal diagnosis might help.
• Get Jacinta’s neuro-affirming insights on embracing your identity.

Important Resources:

• Learn more about Jacinta’s work at www.timetountangle.com.au.
• Read the blog version of this episode.

Disclaimer: This episode is for informational purposes only. Please consult a qualified health professional for personalised advice.

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Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resources

Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/

Key Topics covered in this ep: ADHD in women Autism in women Overlapping traits of ADHD and autism High-masking mums Neurodivergent parenting AUDHD meaning ADHD traits in adults Autism traits in adults Sensory sensitivities in neurodivergence ADHD vs. autism Neurodiversity in mothers ADHD and autism overlap Routine and sensory challenges Supporting neurodivergent mums

On this episode of The ADHD Mums Podcast, Jane introduces Fiona McIntyre from Face Your Flaws Coaching, an expert on addiction and ADHD. Fiona, a life coach with over 20 years of experience, was diagnosed with ADHD at 47 and has successfully overcome addiction challenges. She shares her personal journey of losing 35 kilos and embarking on a sober lifestyle after 30 years of binge drinking. Fiona, a mother of two neurodivergent children, emphasises that a diagnosis is not an identity and is passionate about helping others facing alcohol, weight loss, and ADHD management challenges.

Jane and Fiona delve into the complexities of addiction, specifically focusing on food and alcohol, which they believe are prevalent challenges for ADHD mums. Fiona discusses her struggles with binge eating and binge drinking, highlighting the connection between ADHD, dopamine deficiency, and the pursuit of substances that provide a dopamine hit. Fiona emphasises the importance of addressing emotional issues, trauma, and self-esteem concerns that often underlie addictive behaviours.

Fiona speaks about her ADHD diagnosis journey, her experience with medication, and the role of self-beliefs in triggering addictive responses. Fiona advocates for narrative therapy to challenge and reframe the stories individuals tell themselves about their addiction. They explore alternatives to traditional support groups like AA, suggesting individualised approaches such as alcohol coaching, online communities, and personalised strategies tailored to each person's unique situation.

Fiona shares her motivational mantra, "I love myself enough to stay sober," and stresses the significance of understanding and challenging the narratives one creates around addiction. She concludes by encouraging individuals to seek support, embrace their personal strengths, and recognise that lapses are a normal part of the recovery process.

Find out more about Fiona here:

⁠https://www.faceyourflawscoaching.com/

This episode I reflect on my experiences shared over the past year in the ADHD Mums podcast, I am reminded of the challenges and success faced by neurodiverse families like mine. Throughout the episodes, I have emphasized the importance of neuro affirming approaches, acceptance, and understanding for individuals with ADHD and Autism. My journey has been marked by insights into the NDIS process, therapy fatigue, and the impact of medication on behavior and family dynamics.

One key takeaway from my podcast journey is the significance of self-awareness, compassion, and individualized approaches in supporting neurodiverse individuals and families. I have learned to trust my instincts, prioritize self-care, and seek professionals who align with my values and beliefs. Through sharing personal experiences and insights, I aim to empower other parents navigating similar challenges.

As I continue to explore topics such as advocating for children with ADHD, navigating school environments, and promoting self-care, I hope to provide a safe space for discussions and reflections on neurodiversity. My journey with the podcast has been enlightening, challenging, and ultimately rewarding, and I look forward to continuing to share my learnings and insights with the ADHD Mums community.

Resources:

The Untold Struggles of Motherhood (Part 2) with Kaitlyn Faulkner

Advocating for your child’s success at school with Tania Waring

ADHD and Parenting with Sharon Collins

High Camouflaging ADHD and ASD with Millie Carr

Therapy Fatigue

Addiction and ADHD (Food and Alcohol) with Fiona McIntyre

Medication and Psychiatrist episode

Unique Differences of ADHD and Autism in Women with Dr. Jacinta Thomson

The Episode That Led Jane to Choose Homeschooling with Nicki Farrell

Life as an Inattentive Mum with Bessie Campbell

From Skeptic to Advocate: Medication for Children with Jane McFadden

On this episode of The ADHD Mums Podcast, Jane engages in a vulnerable conversation with Sarah, a 30-year-old mother of two under three, who was recently diagnosed with ADHD. Jane and Sarah delve into the unspoken struggles of motherhood and Sarah opens up about the challenges she faces, from the embarrassment of her toddler's behaviour to the societal judgments she feels, particularly when dealing with public tantrums. Sarah talks about losing her dream job when she was heavily pregnant and being told (verbally) that it was because she was pregnant.

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*Be aware I mention suicidal thoughts briefly in this episode*

In this solo episode of ADHD Mums, I share my personal journey of how ADHD medication led to the unexpected discovery that I was Autistic. As more women receive an ADHD diagnosis later in life, many are realising there’s more beneath the surface. I discuss how stimulant medications like Vyvanse helped me manage ADHD symptoms, but also highlighted sensory sensitivities and social struggles that pointed to autism.

I open up about feeling overwhelmed and the importance of seeking support as a neurodivergent mum. Whether you’re newly diagnosed or have been managing ADHD for years, this episode explores the complexities of living with ADHD and autism, and the emotional impact it can have on your life.

Key Takeaways:

• ADHD medication can help manage symptoms, but it may also reveal underlying autism, especially in late-diagnosed women.
• Navigating the healthcare system for ADHD and autism can be challenging, but seeking the right support is essential.
• Putting yourself first as a mum is crucial for your well-being and your family’s.

Links Mentioned:

• ADHD Mums Facebook Group – Join our community to connect with other neurodivergent mums.
• ADHD Medication Guide – A helpful guide on different ADHD medications and how they work.
• Previous Episode: Jane’s Medication Journey – Listen to my earlier episode discussing my ADHD diagnosis and experience with medication. Listen on Apple or Spotify

What to listen to next:

S2 E37 ADHD, Autism, or Both? Kara’s Story of Burnout and Sensory Overload: Listen on Apple or Spotify

S2 E13 ADHD & Sensory Overwhelm: Identifying Triggers and Finding Relief with Rebecca Torpie: Listen on Apple or Spotify

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Jane is joined by Tania Waring, a lawyer and advocate/care coordinator mum of three neurodiverse boys. Tania is very experienced in advocacy for her children to get what they need at school. Tania has also completed her honours in Psychology and is passionate about inclusive education and improving outcomes for children in the schooling system.

Jane and Tania share personal experiences and highlight the need for more understanding and support from educators, as well as emphasising the importance of normalising these experiences and finding hope through the stories of others who have faced similar challenges.

Highlights

• What should you do if you find your classroom teacher doesn't match your child's personality?
• How to handle teacher parent meetings
• What can you do to get the best result
• Does the squeaky wheel really get the oil?
• How does allocation work?
• What can we do at home to make it easier on our kids?

Check out Tania’s melt down episode here

https://open.spotify.com/episode/7IdNqpCHo8IFLWAJ9axEFC?si=glZJspt5RLGpxSVknytqLg

and Tania's episode on Boys and the Australian School System

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0os4ZsrjXEY9yTyWJqmf6M?si=GmkIpm5zRKu8GlmBe6HZBQ

Here is the book I mentioned I LOVED:

All the pieces of me by Libby Scott

Rose Callaghan, ADHD Ambassador and Australian Comedian - the first person I have interviewed who was diagnosed with ADHD BEFORE getting pregnant. Check out her complex ride as I interview her on:

- Multiple psychiatrist visits to get a muddy answer on meds and pregnancy.

- Multiple psychiatrist visits to get a even muddier answer on meds and breastfeeding.

(But don't worry there's a study on rats and meth)

- How C-sections are the only operation when you are then handed a baby and told to prioritise

that over your own recovery.

- We get feminist on how unfair the gender roles are

- We get agro about misdiagnosis of teenage girls, wrong medication, wrong therapy.

- Rose has been considering doing a podcast for a long time but realises the commitment. Jane realises she probably should have thought about the

commitment before she started hers LOL.

*We both swear and also talk openly about medicating children in our uneducated opinion - any listeners should get medical advice*

Check out Rose's website at http://rosecallaghan.com/

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In this episode of ADHD Mums, I chat with Vanessa Anlezark, a 39-year-old Registered Nurse and Mum, about her experiences managing chronic health conditions, including EDS (Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome) and POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome). 

Vanessa's journey highlights the importance of self-advocacy, finding the right healthcare team, and connecting with a supportive community. Her story sheds light on the realities of navigating multiple diagnoses and the resilience it takes to manage neurodiversity alongside chronic conditions.

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding EDS and POTS: Vanessa breaks down what Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and POTS are, explaining their impact on the body and their connection to neurodivergent conditions like ADHD and Autism. 
• The Diagnosis Journey: With no genetic markers for hEDS, diagnosis can be difficult. Vanessa discusses the 2017 diagnostic criteria, the challenges of misdiagnosis, and the empowering nature of knowledge, even when no cure exists.
• Advocacy in Healthcare: From facing medical gaslighting to seeking specialised care, Vanessa shares practical advice on advocating for yourself or loved ones in the healthcare system.
• Finding Support and Community: Vanessa emphasises the importance of connecting with others, whether through online support groups or specialists knowledgeable in hypermobility and autonomic disorders.
• Self-Diagnosis and Validation: For those struggling to get an official diagnosis, self-diagnosis can still provide validation and help in managing symptoms effectively.

Mentioned Resources:

• The Ehlers-Danlos Society – Visit Website
• EDS Diagnostics 2017 (Note: This criteria can be used by any doctor for diagnosis) – Visit Website
• The Dysautonomia Project – Visit Website
• The Australian POTS Foundation – Visit Website
• Mast Cell Action – Visit Website
• Mast Attack – Visit Website
• Mast Cell Activation Syndrome & Dysautonomia - Dr. Lawrence Afrin – Watch Video

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I post more content, insights and help on my social media accounts. Follow along for more ADHD mum content.

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhd_mums

- Facebook: https://facebook.com/100091850469503/

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In this episode, Kara Lynch, a neurodivergent mum and teacher from Sydney, shares her late ADHD diagnosis at 41, following her daughter's diagnosis. Kara opens up about her struggles with burnout, sensory overload, and the challenge of setting boundaries, which led to a breakdown late last year. Her candid account of how anxiety and sensory sensitivities affected her daily life, work, and parenting will resonate with neurodivergent mums navigating similar experiences.

Kara also discusses how she continues to question whether she might be autistic, given her heightened sensory sensitivities and the impact that masking has had on her mental health and social life. This episode explores the often-overlooked realities of balancing motherhood, work, and personal well-being as a neurodivergent woman.

Key Topics Covered: 

• Kara shares the emotional and physical toll of burnout and anxiety, as well as the life-changing support she received from her GP.
• You'll hear about the role of sensory sensitivities in Kara's life, from work environments to parenting challenges, and how ADHD and potential autism overlap.
• Kara provides insights into people-pleasing at work, setting boundaries, and managing the relentless noise and chaos of everyday life with children.
• If you've ever struggled with masking in social situations, Kara's experience with a new friendship group will feel familiar.
• This episode offers practical tips for managing sensory overload, communicating your needs, and setting boundaries to avoid burnout.

Timestamps (approx.):

• 2 mins: The buildup to burnout: juggling family, work, and sensory overload
• 8 mins: Sensory overload: managing noise, visual clutter, and daily triggers
• 15 mins: Exploring potential autism: sensory overload and medication effects
• 21 mins: Burnout recovery: reducing workload and setting healthy boundaries
• 30 mins: Tips for navigating neurodivergent parenting and social situations

What to listen to next:

S2 E13 ADHD & Sensory Overwhelm: Identifying Triggers and Finding Relief with Rebecca Torpie: Listen on Apple or Spotify

S2 E22 Is it ADHD or Motherhood? [Solo Episode]: Listen on Apple or Spotify

Helpful resource: Check out my Pre-diagnosis assessment workbook 

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Jane interviews Kylie Smart, Naturopath and ADHD Mum on supplements and ADHD - a question WE all want answered.

In this episode of The ADHD Mums podcast, Jane welcomes naturopath Kylie Smart to discuss how naturopathy can complement ADHD management. Jane and Kylie dive into the complexities of ADHD, exploring neurotransmitters like dopamine, serotonin, and others that play a crucial role in the condition. Kylie speaks about how naturopathy can be used alongside medication while emphasizing the importance of personal choices in managing ADHD.

Kylie highlights some common supplements often recommended for ADHD management, such as Omega-3s, iron, saffron and turmeric. Kylie also underscores the significance of proper testing to tailor treatments effectively, as ADHD varies significantly between individuals.

Throughout this insightful conversation, Kylie provides valuable guidance on supplements and emphasizes the importance of seeking professional help rather than attempting self-diagnosis and treatment. Kylie encourages self-care for ADHD moms, recognizing that investing in their health benefits not only themselves but their entire family.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to leave a rating on the streaming platform of your choice so that this podcast series is boosted in the charts, to help us reach more ADHD mums! 

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The ADHD MUMS podcast is a safe place where Aussie Mums with relatable stories can discuss their struggles with ADHD, motherhood and life. In this episode Jane McFadden interviews Dr. Jacinta Thomson who is a clinical psychologist and has a PhD in clinical neuropsychology. Jacinta concisely and clearly maps out the pathways available for adults to be diagnosed with ADHD in Australia. Jacinta is also an Australian mother to two children under four years old who has been diagnosed with both ADHD and ASD and speaks from her own perspective as well as a professional one. Jacinta is very passionate about supporting adults from their early stages of querying their neurodivergence to providing formal diagnostic evaluations and reports, and supporting them through strengths-based therapy and coaching programs to pursue their most meaningful lives.  She has a special interest in supporting adults with ADHD and ASD, and especially women and people with more “internalising” or “high-masking” subtypes. 

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In this episode, we discuss the challenges of navigating and managing ADHD medication while travelling across different states in Australia. Rebekah Howard, a neurodivergent mum of two and teacher, shares her experiences of living on the road for eight months and dealing with ADHD medication rules and regulations between states. 

Free Guide: Travelling Interstate with ADHD Medication - download here

We get real about the frustrations of navigating state-based medication regulations and the struggles of getting ADHD meds filled when you're far from home. If you’re a neurodivergent mum thinking of travelling interstate (even just for a family holiday), this episode is packed with practical advice and real-life experiences to help you avoid the stress of being caught without your meds.

Time stamps (approx):

• 3 mins: Rebekah’s ADHD Journey
• 6 mins: Managing ADHD Medication on the Road
• 11 mins: Regulation 49 Explained + State Restrictions
• 18 mins: Why Is Getting Medication So Complicated? 
• 23 mins: Tips for Travelling with ADHD Medication (incl. Short trips)
• 30 mins: Final Tips for Travelling Families

Episode Mentioned: S1 E65 From Skeptic to Advocate: Medication for Children with Jane McFadden (listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify)

Please Note: This episode is based on personal experiences and general advice. It does not constitute medical advice. Always consult your healthcare provider or a qualified medical professional before making any changes to your medication, treatment, or travel plans. Rules and regulations around ADHD medication may vary by state, and it's essential to verify this information with your doctor and pharmacist before travelling.

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This episode of the ADHD Mums Podcast features an engaging interview with AuDHD Mum Eliza Harris, where Jane and Eliza delve into the unique challenges and experiences of neurodivergent females, especially focusing on the nuances of ADHD and autism diagnoses in girls. Through personal stories and insights, they explore the impact of societal expectations, the struggle for a timely diagnosis, and the power of advocacy and understanding in navigating motherhood and life as neurodivergent individuals.

In this episode, Jane interviews Lindsay Keating who is an ADHD Mum who has battled for over 20 years with Anorexia.

**Trigger warning, this episode discusses Anorexia Nervosa**

Jane and Lindsay tackles common misconceptions about eating disorders, specifically the tendency to minimise them as mere attention-seeking behaviors.

The discussion emphasises that dismissing these signs can be harmful, and instead suggests giving the affected individuals the attention they may need. The conversation underscores the importance of taking such signs seriously, as each person's experience with an eating disorder is unique.

If you'd like to know more about Lindsay and Nature Moves visit https://www.naturemoves.com.au/

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EXTRA RESOURCES:

Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/self-tests/

Can I access the NDIS? Use this link to get a free guide to the NDIS to start you on your journey. https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/768431/114109386760128004/share

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Body and Mind Online

A dedicated team of neuro-affirming psychologists, occupational therapists, counsellors, and speech pathologists that you can trust and who have been specifically trained to support your family's journey with compassion, expertise, and individualised care.

In this episode, Jane is joined by Monique Mitchelson, a clinical psychologist specialising in autism, ADHD, trauma, chronic illness, and pain. Monique, co-director of Divergent Futures and co-host of the Neurodivergent Woman Podcast, shares her experiences of late diagnosis and the reality of self-advocacy for autistic and ADHD adults.

Key Topics Covered: 

• The need for neurodiversity-affirming care and shifting away from outdated practices
• Practical ways to support children with different brain types in schools and at home
• Destigmatising medication and fostering self-acceptance for ADHD and autism
• Real-life examples of how Monique navigates life as an autistic and ADHD adult
• Insights into creating supportive environments for neurodivergent individuals

If you want to understand what it means to be neuro-affirming or how to support yourself or your loved ones, this episode is a must-listen. It provides practical advice, real-life examples, and a clear understanding of why neurodiversity-affirming practices are crucial - not just for autistic and ADHD individuals but for fostering a more inclusive and supportive environment for all.

Resources Mentioned

• Monique's Book: The Neurodivergent Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHD available on Amazon and Audible
• Neurodivergent Woman Podcast co-hosted by Monique: listen on Apple and Spotify
• The Brain Forest by Sandhya Menon

Connect with Monique

• Visit Divergent Futures for training and consulting opportunities with Monique
• Follow Monique on Instagram @neurodivergent_women_podcast or @moniquemitchelson.nd.psych  for updates and insights

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In this solo episode, I discuss a hot topic that affects so many women: PMS and ADHD. If you’ve ever felt like your ADHD symptoms become a chaotic mess during certain times of the month, you’re not alone. Hormonal fluctuations can significantly impact mood, focus, and productivity, and we’re here to help you make sense of it all.

Additional Free Resource: Download my free guide on PMS and ADHD: Making Sense of the Chaos for practical tips, insights, and tools to help you navigate the impact of PMDD on neurodivergent symptoms. Download here.

Key Topics Covered:

• Learn how hormonal changes throughout your menstrual cycle can intensify ADHD symptoms like irritability, forgetfulness, and impulsivity.
• Discover the benefits of tracking your menstrual cycle to identify patterns in your symptoms and understand how hormonal shifts affect your mood and executive function.
• Get actionable tips on how to adjust your daily activities, work schedule, and self-care practices based on your hormonal fluctuations.
• Explore ways to manage those challenging days when ADHD symptoms spike before your period, including setting boundaries, communicating with loved ones, and planning ahead.
• This episode is all about recognising and validating your experiences with PMS and ADHD. Understand that you’re not alone in feeling this way and that your fluctuating symptoms are a genuine part of your experience.

If you’re tired of feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, or out of control every month, this episode offers validation, examples, and a clearer understanding of how to navigate the rollercoaster of ADHD and PMS. It’s about learning to recognise your patterns and finding reassurance that your experiences are real and valid.

Resources Mentioned:

• Season 1, Episode 43 - PMS and ADHD with Kylie Smart: For a deeper dive into PMS and ADHD, including supplement treatment options.

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Ever walked away from school pick-up mentally exhausted from awkward small talk, unspoken social rules, or overthinking what you said? You’re not alone.

For ADHD and autistic mums, pick-up isn’t just about collecting your child - it’s a social minefield that can leave you feeling wiped out, anxious, or like you somehow “got it wrong.”

But what if school pick-up didn’t have to be so exhausting?

In this episode:

• How to stop replaying conversations in your head for hours after pick-up.
• A simple way to handle small talk without draining your energy.
• When masking is helpful and when it’s just not worth it.
• How to know who’s worth your energy (and when to let go of the guilt).
• What to do when rejection sensitivity kicks in and you start spiralling.

If school pick-up feels awkward, exhausting, or just too much, this episode is for you.

👉 Grab my guide Navigating School Pick-Up: A Guide for ADHD Mums - it’s full of real-life scripts and strategies to help you feel more confident. Get it for $30 on my website.

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

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Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

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Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au.

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

Topics Covered in This Episode: School pick-up, ADHD mums, autistic mums, social exhaustion, overthinking social interactions, small talk anxiety, masking, rejection sensitivity, social burnout, managing social energy, neurodivergent parenting, awkward social situations, playground dynamics, navigating school pick-up, ADHD social skills, ADHD and masking, social overwhelm, avoiding small talk, decoding neurotypical communication, school pick-up anxiety, ADHD mum life, neurodivergent communication, ADHD-friendly strategies, ADHD and social interactions, ADHD and social anxiety, ADHD mum struggles, ADHD-friendly parenting tips.

Mentioned in this episode:

A Guide to Navigating School Pick-Up

If school pick-up feels like an Olympic sport you forgot to train for, this guide is for you. Packed with relatable stories, actionable tips, and easy-to-use scripts, Navigating School Pick-Up is designed to help...

In this episode, I'm joined by Rodney Whyte, a highly experienced pharmacist specializing in the effects of medications on pregnancy, breastfeeding, pediatrics, and women's health. We dive deep into a topic that's close to the hearts of many of our listeners: ADHD medication and its impact during pregnancy and breastfeeding.

We tackle your burning questions head-on:

• Is it safe to take ADHD medication during pregnancy? Rodney shares the latest research findings and dispels some common myths. Remember, every pregnancy is unique, and it's crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your doctor to weigh the potential benefits and risks for you and your baby.
• What about breastfeeding? This is where things get a bit more complex. We discuss the information provided by the Infant Risk Center and emphasize the importance of consulting with your healthcare provider, especially considering the age and health of your little one.
• To medicate or not to medicate? We understand that this is a deeply personal decision. Rodney and I stress the importance of taking an individualized approach, factoring in your specific medication, health history, and the potential impact on both you and your baby.
• Prioritizing your well-being as a Mum. It's easy to forget about ourselves when we're caring for a new life, but your mental and emotional health matters. If ADHD medication is a vital part of managing your symptoms and functioning well, don't hesitate to talk to your doctor.

This episode is packed with valuable insights and resources for all you incredible ADHD mums out there who are navigating pregnancy and breastfeeding. Remember, you're not alone in this journey.

Reach out to your medical team for personalised guidance, and don't forget to connect with our supportive community of fellow mums. We're all in this together!

The Facebook community is here

**This podcast episode is not to replace individual advice, and is general education only**

Rodney mentions  www.infantrisk.com and https://www.jeanhailes.org.au/

Jane is back with Dr. Jacinta Thomson with Overwhelmed Mum Syndrome and whether it is real or not?

- What are the key areas that create this?

- How does executive function dysfunction impact this?

--> Jacinta gives a great example on just simply buying 3 x things from supermarket and how that can go wrong

- How does sensory overload create the perfect storm?

- What are some of the tips/strategies that we can use to reduce the impact on ourselves.

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Feeling like you’re carrying the weight of the world? Whether it’s the invisible scars of trauma, the daily juggle of ADHD, or the pressure to hold it all together, this episode dives into what happens when life gets overwhelming - and how to start healing.

Jess shares her deeply personal journey from life in the ADF to facing PTSD, navigating ADHD, and rebuilding her life with the help of EMDR therapy. This isn’t just another survival story - it’s about breaking free from the cycle of burnout, asking for help, and relearning how to live a life that feels more like you.

The ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook: A Guide for Women and Mothers for if you're curious about self-diagnosis or preparing for an assessment.

Important to note: This episode contains personal reflections on trauma, mental health, and brief mentions of suicidal ideation. Jess’s story is deeply personal and reflects her unique experiences in both her life and career. Please remember that individual journeys and circumstances vary. If you or someone you know is struggling, reach out to a trusted mental health professional or support service.

In this episode:

• How Jess went from military service to healing through therapy.
• The challenges of balancing ADHD and parenting after trauma.
• What EMDR therapy really feels like - and why it might help you too.
• Tips for recognising when it’s time to ask for help.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, exhausted, or unsure how to move forward, this episode is for you.

Listen to Next:

• Episode - Where does the trauma start and ADHD begin? Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.
• Episode - Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria - Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
• Episode - How ADHD Medication Revealed My Autistic Traits - Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

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Jane welcomes Emma Rose Parsons from Spectrum House in Melbourne.

Emma, a psychologist and fellow ADHD Mum shares insights into building resilience in children while managing the urge to act as a problem-solver.

This episode dives deep into practical strategies for teaching children to cope with challenging situations, the importance of feeling safe for resilience-building, and discusses the nuances of navigating neurodivergent children's needs in various environments.

**Key Topics**

- Definition and components of resilience

- Building resilience in both children and adults

- The impact of environment and perceived safety on resilience

- Distinguishing between harmful challenges and positive resilience-building opportunities

- Strategies for helping children navigate and overcome challenges

- Balancing compliance and respect in parenting

- Dealing with sensory preferences and other neurodivergent needs

- The importance of allowing children to experience safe failure

- Addressing bullying and creating supportive school environments

- Parenting approaches to resilience in neurodivergent children

**Disclaimer, this is general advice only and must be used in conjunction with your own medical team**

Check out Emma at

https://emmarosepsychologist.com.au/

Feeling like traditional planners just don’t work for your ADHD brain? You’re not alone. This episode dives into why typical systems fail us and how value-aligned planning can help you ditch the guilt, reduce overwhelm, and focus on what really matters.

👉 Grab the ADHD Mums Planner – designed to work with your brain, not against it. It’s packed with tools for task management, guilt-free resets, and value-based planning. Get it here.

Timestamps (approx.)

• 1 min: Why traditional planners don’t work for ADHD mums.
• 3 mins: The moment I realised my values weren’t guiding my decisions.
• 7 mins: How to simplify planning and focus on what truly matters.
• 12 mins: The science behind value-aligned living – and how it boosts happiness.
• 18 mins: Easy strategies for building a flexible, ADHD-friendly planning system.

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Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

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MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

Key topics covered in this ep: ADHD mums Value based planning Overcoming overwhelm ADHD friendly planners Flexible planning strategies Prioritising what matters Guilt free resets ADHD mental load Task management for neurodivergent mums Reducing burnout Aligning actions with values Building an ADHD-friendly life Practical planning tips Neurodivergent productivity hacks Balancing family and priorities Simplifying daily routines

On this episode of The ADHD Mums Podcast, Jane is joined by Tammie to discuss her journey of receiving a late-stage ADHD diagnosis at the age of 40.

Tammie shares her experiences with different medications, highlighting the positive impact of Dexamphetamine and the challenges she faced with Vyvanse, as well as how Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) became instrumental in managing her ADHD-related struggles.

Tammie shares on how Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria has impacted her life and how she manages it day to day.

In this episode, Jane is pleased to welcome back Tanya Hicks from Neurodivergent Empowered! Tanya is a neurodivergent woman and mum who brings a wealth of experience across many fields, from national management to neurodivergent-affirming therapy. She founded Neurodivergent Empowered to meet a real need in our community, creating a space that exclusively hires neurodivergent team members. Through her work, Tanya helps neurodivergent children, teens, and adults embrace their unique selves, build confidence, and find genuine happiness.

**Trigger warning, this episode discusses sensitive topics, including sexual assault and domestic violence**

Key Takeaways from this Episode:

• Discover how early societal pressures cause neurodivergent women to disassociate, increasing vulnerability in relationships.
• Learn why interpreting social and romantic cues is challenging for neurodivergent women, often leading to misunderstandings and harm.
• Uncover how financial dependency and social isolation trap neurodivergent women in unhealthy relationships and explore ways to break free.
• Get practical strategies to help neurodivergent children and teens build confidence, find their voice, and thrive.
• Understand the importance of a supportive community where neurodivergent individuals can feel safe and valued.
• Be inspired to challenge societal norms and advocate for greater inclusivity and acceptance.
• Find reassurance in stories of solidarity, knowing there’s a community that understands and supports you.
• Gain actionable advice for helping neurodivergent children trust their instincts, speak up, and build resilience.

Links and References:

• Listen to Tanya's previous episode on masking: Apple | Spotify
• Learn more about Tanya's work at Neurodivergent Empowered: https://www.neurodivergentempowered.com/  
• Episode with Emma Rose Parson on problem solving and self-advocacy:  Apple | Spotify

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On this episode of The ADHD Mums Podcast, Jane is joined by Jules from William Ready as they delve into the theme of genuine inclusion, connecting it to the often deceptive notion of "child-friendly" spaces.

Jules, a proud mother, shares her poignant journey, highlighting the challenges her son faced with school rejection and the isolation during his early autism diagnosis. 

Jules' shares her personal journey with an ADHD diagnosis, providing relief and validation. She shares insights from her diagnosis report, detailing the impact of inattentive ADHD and recommended strategies, including medication and high-intensity exercise. Jules also reflects on her relationship dynamics with her undiagnosed autistic husband, underscoring the importance of embracing differences.

Jane and Jules explore neurodiversity, sharing their experiences in parenting neurodivergent children. Jules emphasises the transformative impact of a supportive community, highlighting the importance of understanding and patience in navigating the challenges.

The conversation delves into recent research, revealing that nearly 50% of the population is neurodivergent, advocating strongly for increased inclusivity in schools and workplaces. Jules passionately champions the need for tailored environments, drawing attention to misdiagnosis issues and urging greater acceptance.

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In this episode of ADHD Mums, I chat with Georgia Poletti Moulds, co-host of the Going Loco podcast. Georgia candidly shares her journey with bipolar and her recent realisation that she likely has inattentive ADHD, discovered through her son's diagnostic process. 

Jane and Georgia discuss the challenges of distinguishing between bipolar and ADHD, especially when symptoms like hyperactivity, hyperfocus, and mood fluctuations can appear similar. They also touch on the impact of family history, the nuances of managing mental health during pregnancy, and the importance of advocating for oneself within the healthcare system.

Please Note: There is a brief mention of suicide in this episode.

Listen to Georgia on her Going Loco Podcast here

What’s next? 

• Connect with like-minded mums in my FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/777102743903210
• Browse my free downloadable guides: https://adhdmums.com.au/resources/
• Looking for more in-depth resources? Check out my newly launched ADHD Mums Shop: https://adhdmums.com.au/shop/

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On this episode of The ADHD Mums Podcast, Jane is joined by Ange as they explore the theme of perfectionism and its relationship with ADHD. They share personal experiences, starting with a humorous account of their chaotic mornings, highlighting the imperfect aspects of their lives. Ange, an ADHD coach, reflects on her perfectionist tendencies, rooted in childhood, where she would tear out entire pages if not perfect.

 Ange delves into her ADHD diagnosis at 35, sharing the challenges she faced in transitioning from one-on-one client work to leadership roles. The conversation navigates through various dimensions of perfectionism, discussing its impact on tasks, work, and self-worth. Both Jane and Ange emphasise the connection between perfectionism and shame, exploring how negative feedback and societal expectations contribute to this mindset. They discuss the difficulty of breaking the cycle and the importance of self-compassion, self-discovery, and courage in the recovery process.

Ange highlights the need for individuals to recognise their values, strengths, and preferences, encouraging authenticity. Ange shares a coaching example where challenging ingrained beliefs about laundry allowed a client to reclaim her Wednesdays. This episode sheds light on the complexity of perfectionism, its intersection with ADHD, and the steps toward recovery and self-acceptance.

Find out more about Angie here:

⁠https://angenennie.com.au/

This episode of ADHD Mums features Ceri Sanford, an ADHD compassion coach who shares her journey of self-discovery, acceptance, and how she embraces her neurodiversity.

Ceri discusses the challenges and humorous mishaps she faced while attempting to schedule the interview, highlighting common ADHD traits like forgetfulness and lack of attention to detail. She delves into the importance of compassion towards oneself, particularly for those with ADHD, and provides insights on navigating life's daily challenges without succumbing to shame or unrealistic standards.

Ceri also talks about her educational background, her decision to pivot her career towards helping people with ADHD, and the conception of her Compassion Project and aimed at fostering a more compassionate and understanding relationship with ADHD.

The conversation emphasizes self-awareness, the importance of making life adjustments that cater to ADHD needs, and advocating for a realistic portrayal of ADHD and motherhood on social media.

The episode wraps up with Ceri encouraging listeners to embrace their ADHD challenges with compassion and understanding.

Check out Ceri on her below website:

https://www.cerisandford.com/

If your ADHD traits feel like they’ve gotten worse - with more anxiety, brain fog, rage, and exhaustion - you might be dealing with something no one warned you about: perimenopause.

For late-diagnosed ADHD mum Haylee, hitting 40 brought a wave of unexpected struggles that left her questioning everything. Doctors dismissed her. Anxiety came out of nowhere. Her executive function took a nosedive. And the rage? Next level. It wasn’t until she became her own advocate that she found answers.

In this episode: 

• Why ADHD mums experience perimenopause more intensely
• The warning signs doctors miss (or dismiss)
• How hormone shifts impact ADHD traits like executive function & mood regulation
• Why brain fog, intrusive thoughts & anxiety can hit harder in your late 30s+
• The truth about hormone therapy & how to advocate for yourself

Why this matters: 

Perimenopause isn’t just “the lead-up to menopause” - it can massively impact your brain, emotions, and daily life, especially if you’re ADHD or autistic. Yet, most doctors aren’t trained to recognise it early. This episode arms you with the knowledge and tools to push back, get the right support, and stop feeling like you’re losing yourself.

Resources mentioned: 

ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook

ADHD Mums Facebook Group

Beyond the Likes with Amy Gerard

Australasian Menopause Society

WellFemme

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Topics Covered in This Episode: ADHD, perimenopause, ADHD mums, ADHD women, ADHD and hormones, ADHD burnout, brain fog, ADHD anxiety, ADHD rage, executive dysfunction, hormonal changes, menopause, early menopause, neurodivergent women, late-diagnosed ADHD, ADHD symptoms worsening, medical gaslighting, ADHD and estrogen, hormone replacement therapy, ADHD overwhelm, intrusive...

Jane interviews Millie (one of her favourite guests) on masking and highly camoflaging ADHD and ASD in females. Millie is a teacher based in Melbourne, she has ADHD and has neurodiverse children herself.

Highlights

- Can labelling be positive, why is there the hesitation?

- Should we talk to our kids about their ADHD?

- The trend towards successful celebrities or sports people being labelled neurodiverse.

- The correlation between success and neurodiversity.

- What is the personal cost of perfectionist behaviour and ADHD.

- Highly perfectionist children (or typically girls) who are conscientious are hard to identify.

- Physical 'symptoms' of being unwell for girls are often presented as anxiety such as stomach aches.

- Children's perception vs reality negative view on their lives

- Girls presenting with social issues can be an indicator

- Where can you find people who understand how ADHD presents in females? What can we do to improve that?

- Jane goes out of scope as per usual and speculates on prescribing rights and the Australian medical system which she has no business speculating on.

*Jane and Millie are not medical experts and you should always seek your own advice*

Check out Millie's other episodes here:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2Q3lfxlmvcaFVRuYkaxzHl?si=dmWW1YlbTk-PtgHgH_buRA

Masking ADHD in girls questionnaire

https://www.additudemag.com/self-test-adhd-symptoms-women-girls/

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In this episode of ADHD Mums, host Jane welcomes back Psychologist Jessica Burgess to discuss the benefits and misconceptions of hypnotherapy for individuals with ADHD and their families.

They explore how hypnotherapy can address issues such as anxiety, emotional regulation, and motherhood challenges, including 'mum guilt'.

The conversation delves into how hypnotherapy can help reprogram subconscious beliefs, improve focus, and offer strategies for dealing with daily stresses.

Jessica also shares personal insights and practical tips for incorporating hypnotherapy into daily routines and how it can be a tool for positive change not only for individuals but for their children as well.

Highlights

01:31 Demystifying Hypnosis: How It Works and Its Benefits

07:28 Exploring Hypnotherapy for ADHD and Its Potential Benefits

16:24 Addressing Trauma with Hypnotherapy: A Deep Dive

21:19 Personal Experiences and Myths Around Hypnotherapy

23:52 Who Should Consider Hypnotherapy?

25:22 Unlocking the Power of Hypnosis: Benefits and Personal Growth

27:08 Transforming Parenting: Hypnosis for Moms

29:37 Hypnosis for ADHD: Real-life Applications and Success Stories

30:00 The Hypnotherapy Process: What to Expect

32:38 Finding the Right Hypnotherapist: Tips and Advice

33:46 Exploring the Emotional Roots of Physical Illness Through Hypnosis

41:18 Self-Hypnosis: A Practical Guide for Everyday Empowerment

41:18 Incorporating Hypnosis in Children's Lives for Positive Change

42:26 Concluding Thoughts: Accessibility and Personal Journeys in Hypnotherapy

Check out more on Jess Burgess here:

https://www.mypeacefulmind.com.au/

Jess's other episodes on ADHD Mum's are listed here:

Relationships and ADHD here

High Performance Women and ADHD here

Anxiety and ADHD here

In this episode, I’m joined by internationally recognised experts in autism, Professor Tony Atwood and Dr. Michelle Garnett, to explore the often misunderstood condition known as Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). Together, we dive into what PDA really is, how it differs from Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), and what it means for neurodivergent children and their families.

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding PDA vs ODD: Discover the critical differences between PDA and ODD. Tony and Michelle explain how PDA is rooted in anxiety and a need for control, rather than oppositional behavior. If your child’s refusal feels irrational or emotionally charged, it could be PDA, not ODD.
• Why Neurotypical Parenting Methods Don’t Work: Traditional approaches like rewards and punishments often fail when dealing with PDA. Learn why neurotypical parenting methods can damage relationships and what strategies work better for children with PDA.
• Real-Life Examples You Can Relate To: From the anxiety behind refusing simple tasks like brushing teeth or getting dressed to avoiding even activities they love, Tony and Michelle share real-life examples that will resonate with any parent navigating these challenges.
• Support That Works: We discuss the importance of creating a safe and flexible environment for your child, reducing their anxiety, and building a relationship based on understanding and cooperation.

This episode is a must-listen if you’ve ever struggled with a child who refuses simple tasks, even when they want to do them. Tony and Michelle’s insights will not only validate your experience but also offer hope and actionable strategies for managing PDA in a way that nurtures your relationship and reduces anxiety for your child.

Resources Mentioned:

• Season 2, Episode 5: What Every Mum Needs to Hear from Top Autism Expert with Prof Tony Attwood: Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
• Tony & Michelle's Course on PDA: Learn more here
• Connect with Tony & Michelle on Instagram here

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Jane's back with one of her favourite guests Shantelle to discuss relationships and ADHD.

Shantelle is a neurodiverse Mother of two neurodiverse children who is a nurse in Brisbane.

Highlights include:

-       Knowledge is power – the awareness of diagnosis is so important for ourselves and our children.

-       Shame that we carry in our lives “Stop talking!” “You’re too loud or too much”

-       Why do we people please instead of asking for what we need in relationships.

-       Should we disclose to our children ‘labels’ – does it combat self hatred – is it better for kids to know, would we have preferred to know?

-       Do we people please because we are so grateful to have a friend?

-       Compliance at school = more responsibility at school. But can our girls handle it?

-       If you put extra curricular activites or opportuntiies in front ADHD females/girls we will DO IT but at our own expense. 

-       Are ADHD females so far behind socially that we grow up late, how can we navigate friendship without learning the basics?

-       All the assumed knowledge of social situations that ADHD females are supposed to learn as teenagers but some of us come into marriage or mid 30s still having no idea of how to navigate social situations.

-       Boys get diagnosed more often and earlier so they have more chances to learn to regulate emotions than girls.

-       Do we get so emotional because we can’t regulate our emotions so we cry or yell instead of being assertive?

-       Thrill of new relationships, new jobs – starting again so often! Then we miss the chance to navigate conflict in friendships and partnerships.

-       How do we say no to unreasonable things?

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**Trigger warning: there is discussion of a child disclosing suicidal tendencies**

This episode of the ADHD Mums Podcast features a heartfelt and enlightening conversation with Alana Mannix about the complexities of co-parenting children with additional needs, particularly in the face of diagnosis disagreements.

Jane and Alana delve into their personal experiences with ADHD, the importance of seeking documented evidence and working collaboratively with schools, and the challenges of navigating relationships with ex-partners who may not be on the same page regarding their children's needs.

Key Highlights:

-Alana shares the challenges she faced in getting a diagnosis for her children due to disagreements with her ex-partner.

- The importance of documented evidence from schools and medical professionals in supporting children’s needs.

- Strategies for effective communication with ex-partners, including keeping communication open and factual, and inviting them to participate in medical appointments.

- Personal insights into managing ADHD as adults and parents, including medication experiences and the impact of ADHD on daily life and decision-making.

- The role of supportive communities and professional advice in navigating the journey of parenting neurodiverse children in a co-parenting setting.

The discussion also covers the broader implications of diagnosis and acceptance within families, offering valuable advice and solidarity to parents facing similar struggles.

This episode of ADHD Mums features a conversation with Bessie Campbell, a typical Aussie Mum ADHDer who shares her journey of being late-diagnosed with a combined presentation of ADHD, Autism and complex PTSD. Bessie, a mother and a professional in social services, discusses the challenges of managing ADHD inattentiveness, incorporating rigorous systems to stay organized, and the identity crisis following her diagnosis.

The conversation touches upon the intersectionality of autism, ADHD, and complex PTSD in Bessie's life, highlighting struggles with identity, motherhood, and the exhaustive effort required to maintain semblances of organization.

Additionally, they delve into the societal perceptions of Autism and ADHD, discussing the implications of labelling these conditions as disorders versus differences.

Biggest guest I've ever interviewed as I nervously welcome Professor Tony Atwood, a true pioneer in the field of Autism, for an intimate and revealing conversation about the complexities of understanding and diagnosing neurodiversity in children, with a particular emphasis on the often-overlooked experience by those who internalise rather than externalise (often experienced by girls and women).

Tony shares his unparalleled expertise on how professionals can become more attuned to the subtle signs of neurodiversity that may be masked or internalised, ensuring that no child slips through the cracks. We delve into the critical importance of thorough preparation and documentation in achieving a successful assessment, and explore potential groundbreaking changes to the DSM criteria that could revolutionise the way we diagnose and support neurodivergent individuals.

Don't miss this rare opportunity to gain invaluable insights from Tony's unique dual perspective as both a seasoned clinician and a compassionate parent. This promises to be a conversation that will leave you informed, empowered, and inspired to create a more inclusive and understanding world for all children.

I highly recommend all Dr Tony Attwood's courses - he runs Attwood and Garnett Events. Dr Michelle Garnett was unfortunately unwell the day of the interview and she is the second half of this incredible educational company.

https://attwoodandgarnettevents.com/

Jane interviews Tamara and Shanelle from Motherhood a Beautiful Nightmare. 

Highlights

- We discuss why women take on the mental load of housework, child care and all household duties even if they have ADHD?

- Should we stage a protest?

 -Tamara wonders whether she should have just let her husband do her daughter's make up for the dance concert?

- Why do we prepare for armageddon if we are going away for the weekend and our husband is taking over?

- Shanelle talks Brene Brown and her speculation that the split will never be 50/50. Each partnership is different.

- Jane recounts how her and her hubby divided up the duties when she went back to work.

- How can we more often ask ourselves questions about why are we feeling frustrated or angry?

- No one talks about self care - that's like giving sip of water to a dehydrated person in the desert. Mum's need way more than a massage one time.

- Jane shares she has previously always felt like she 'fails at therapy' because she couldn't do any of the interventions.

- Tamara and Shanelle don't have ADHD but wonder if we can celebrate the similarities of us all being people and raise awareness of inclusion instead of seeing the differences.

Gottman Method for Couples

https://www.gottman.com/about/the-gottman-method/

You can check MABN out on:

https://motherhoodabeautifulnightmare.com

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In this solo episode, I take you on a personal journey, sharing my experiences of living with undiagnosed ADHD while juggling the demands of motherhood. 

Key Topics Covered:

• Life Before Diagnosis: I open up about the chaotic mornings, constant overwhelm, and the never-ending feeling of being behind. From missing library days to forgetting crucial school events, I share the realities of trying to manage a household and kids without understanding why everything felt so hard.
• The Turning Point: Discover how the challenges of managing my children's school and daily routines eventually led me to seek a diagnosis. I talk about the impact of finally understanding my brain and how it has renewed my confidence in being a mum.
• ADHD and Motherhood: The episode delves into how ADHD can affect every aspect of life, especially for mums. I discuss the unique challenges of managing both personal and family responsibilities, the struggle with imposter syndrome, and the importance of self-care.

This episode is a heartfelt exploration of the struggles many mums face when living with undiagnosed ADHD. It’s a reminder that you’re not alone and that understanding your ADHD can be the key to thriving in both motherhood and life.

Resources Mentioned:

ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook: Available now on my website, this workbook is designed to help you confidently navigate the diagnostic process. This resource provides practical advice, step-by-step instructions, and insights into how ADHD presents in women, helping you prepare for your diagnosis appointment.

Related Podcast Episodes:

• Season 1, Episode 35: Do You Have ADHD or Is This Mum Life?
• Season 1, Episode 38: My Diagnosis Journey with Jasmine Meek (Part 1)

If this episode resonated with you, I encourage you to explore the resources mentioned and, most importantly, to take the time to care for yourself. Putting your oxygen mask on first isn’t selfish - it’s essential for your well-being and your family’s success.

Join our ADHD Mums Podcast Facebook Community to connect with other mums who understand the unique challenges of ADHD, share your experiences, and find support.

Research:

**Note some of these statistics are based on US figures, primarily because Australian research into ADHD is still a developing area**

The Prevalence and Correlates of Adult ADHD in the United States: Results From the National Comorbidity Survey Replication

https://psychiatryonline.org/doi/10.1176/ajp.2006.163.4.716

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Ever feel like you're the default manager of every school-related task - lunches, library books, permission slips, and last-minute costume days? The mental load of the school year is relentless, and if you're a neurodivergent mum, it’s even harder.

This episode dives into why the school-year mental load feels so overwhelming and offers practical strategies to help lighten it - without burning out.

In this episode: 

• Why the mental load is so exhausting - the invisible, never-ending tasks that pile up
• Batch planning and automation tips to reduce decision fatigue and keep things running smoothly
• Sharing the load with partners, kids, and even external systems to avoid carrying it all alone
• Breaking free from perfectionism and letting go of unrealistic societal expectations
• Preventing burnout by setting boundaries, redefining priorities, and making space for you

ADHD Mums Facebook community

Follow ADHD Mums on Instagram

ADHD Planner and Personal Values Workbook

Stop People Pleasing episode 

Dr Winnicott: “Good Enough” Parenting

The Fair Play Deck Game

A Guide to School Pick-Up for ADHD Mums

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Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

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Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

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MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

Topics Covered in This Episode: ADHD mums, mental load, school stress, executive dysfunction, decision fatigue, batch planning, school routines, working mum overwhelm, school organisation, ADHD parenting, school year survival, time management, mum burnout, shared parenting, invisible labour, emotional load, ADHD executive function, school admin stress, automation for mums, family calendar, school lunches, permission slips, neurodivergent mum, ADHD overwhelm, mum guilt, mental load strategies, household management, school planning hacks, ADHD-friendly...

In this episode, I’m joined by internationally recognised experts in autism, Professor Tony Attwood and Dr Michelle Garnett, to explore the unique dynamics of friendships in neurodivergent families. We dive deep into the complexities of ADHD and autistic friendships, offering actionable advice for both children and adults. Whether you're navigating these challenges for your child or yourself, this episode provides valuable tools and insights to help you nurture and support meaningful social connections. 

Time Stamps (approx.): 

• 3 mins - How ADHD and autistic friendships differ from neurotypical friendships
• 8 mins - The double empathy problem 
• 13 mins - Adult friendships and rejection sensitivity 
• 15 mins - Building friendship skills for children & embracing neurodivergence
• 21 mins - Strategies for adults struggling with friendships
• 24 mins - Managing social overload 

Resources Mentioned:

Tony and Michelle’s courses on exploring friendships for children in the primary school years and high school  

S2 E5 What Every Mum Needs to Hear from Top Autism Expert with Prof Tony Attwood: Listen on Apple or Spotify

S2 E30 Could it be PDA? Exploring the signs and why it’s different from ODD with Prof Tony Attwood and Dr Michelle Garnett: Listen on Apple or Spotify

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On this episode of The ADHD Mums Podcast, Jane is joined by guest, Matilda Boseley who recently released the book 'The Year I Met My Brain.'

Matilda was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and she shares her tumultuous journey and the inspiration behind writing a guide based on her personal experiences. Jane and Matilda navigate the unique challenges of completing a project with an ADHD brain, and discuss the unexpected support Matilda received from her partner.

The conversation delves into the gender dynamics of ADHD, illuminating how societal expectations shape the experience differently for men and women. Matilda sheds light on the challenges faced by women in managing the mental load and the intersection of ADHD with gender roles and norms. They explore broader implications beyond individual experiences, offering valuable insights into the complexities of ADHD.

Matilda passionately critiques the hurdles in accessing proper ADHD diagnosis and treatment, highlighting the societal expectations contributing to the struggle. Jane and Matilda reflect on the resilience cultivated while navigating life with ADHD, emphasising the importance of embracing imperfections. 

 Thank you for listening! Make sure to check out Matilda’s book, ‘The Year I Met My Brain’, and leave a 5-star review if you enjoyed this episode!

Order Matilda's book here:

⁠https://www.penguin.com.au/authors/matilda-boseley

Today, we're diving into an important yet often difficult topic - what women need to consider for safety and support when thinking about leaving an abusive relationship. Laurie from White Ribbon Australia is a leading voice in domestic violence prevention and intervention. At White Ribbon Australia, she manages the Workplace Accreditation Program, fostering safer spaces for women and families. Laurie has dedicated her career to reducing violence, supporting survivors, and holding perpetrators accountable. Laurie’s here to walk us through those essential first steps, sharing insights that could make a world of difference.

Timestamps (approx):

• 1 min – Key steps to consider before leaving an abusive relationship, including understanding the risks and preparing for safety.
• 4 mins – Creating an escape plan with essentials like a “go bag” and securing digital privacy.
• 7 mins – The role of support networks in combating isolation and offering safety when planning to leave.
• 10 mins – Legal protections: applying for intervention orders and working with domestic violence officers for added safety.
• 12 mins – Importance of seeking legal advice and considering mediation as an alternative to family court.
• 17 mins – Exploring options to remain in the home safely by legally removing the partner through sole occupancy orders.
• 20 mins – Recognising manipulation tactics like “love bombing” and the importance of reaching out for guidance.

TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including child abuse, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.

Let’s be real - we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.

Important Links

Daisy App – A free app developed by 1800RESPECT that provides local support service information while protecting user privacy.

Escaping Violence Payment – Financial assistance up to $5,000 for women experiencing family violence, available through organisations like Uniting and Wesley Mission.

Government Financial Assistance – Support payments like Parenting Payments, Single Income Family Supplement, and Family Tax Benefits A and B for single parents and families.

Support and Help Lines

If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be...

In this episode Jane interviews Leonie Dawson, an ADHD mum, bestselling author, and entrepreneur from the Sunshine Coast. Leonie shares her experiences with ADHD and autism, discussing her late diagnosis and how these traits have influenced her life and business success. 

She highlights her work-life balance strategies, managing a thriving business while working only ten hours a week. Emphasising the importance of setting boundaries to prevent burnout, Leonie offers insights into maintaining mental and physical health, and shares practical advice for neurodivergent individuals balancing work and family life.

Interested in Leonie's courses? Visit https://leoniedawson.com/

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EXTRA RESOURCES:

Still not sure if you have ADHD or Autism? Get access to my recommended self tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/self-tests/

Can I access the NDIS? Use this link to get a free guide to the NDIS to start you on your journey. https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/768431/114109386760128004/share

Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/

Being diagnosed with ADHD can bring a mix of emotions - grief, relief, confusion, and a whole lot of questions. It’s a lot to process, and you’re doing the best you can.

In this episode:

• Grief, overwhelm, and imposter syndrome.
• Practical strategies designed for ADHD brains.
• Unmasking, managing the mental load, and finding what works for you.
• Most importantly, you’re not failing - you’re learning how to thrive.

Resources Mentioned:

• ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: ADHD-friendly calendar
• A Guide to ADHD Medication
• The Gottman Institute

This episode is here to share experiences, insights, and strategies, but it’s not a substitute for medical advice. If you have questions about your ADHD diagnosis or treatment, chat with a trusted healthcare professional. Take what works for you and leave the rest - this is your journey!

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Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

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Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

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Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

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MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

Key Topics Covered in This Episode:

ADHD diagnosis as a mum Emotional impact of ADHD diagnosis Strategies for ADHD management Grieving after ADHD diagnosis Rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) ADHD and emotional regulation Masking and burnout in ADHD mums ADHD friendly tools and systems ADHD and relationships Neurodivergent parenting challenges ADHD strengths and superpowers Tips for ADHD mums ADHD friendly calendar tools Practical advice for ADHD mums

I'm joined by Joe Peters, a husband and father who's discovered a whole new perspective on ADHD within his family.

Trust me, you won't want to miss Joe's incredible story of supporting his wife through her recent ADHD diagnosis. He'll reveal the challenges, the breakthroughs, and the incredible growth they've experienced together.

Joe will be opening up about his own "aha" moments when he started to recognize ADHD traits not just in his wife, but also within their family. It's a raw and honest conversation about empathy, taking responsibility, and becoming a better husband.

So, don't miss out on this invaluable conversation! Tune in to the full episode to gain a deeper understanding of their shared journey and discover how you can navigate the world of ADHD with love, support, and understanding.

I was supposed to be interviewing Shantelle but we became instant friends and went OFF TOPIC hardcore.

Part 2 in the Coffee chats with Shantelle- I'd go to Part 1 first.

Topics covered:

- Are ADHD Mum's the WORST at self care? and why is that?

- Who created all the expectations on families to have dinner with their kids every night as a family and how bloody hard is that to do.

- We can create a safe haven for our kids to come home to after experiencing a world unfriendly to neurodivergent people.

- If we had of known about our diagnosis earlier, would we have natured ourselves or squashed ourselves? are we just TOO MUCH?

- Is ADHD hyper focus a super power or is it like a were wolf where it only comes out when the stars align, moon is full, wind is blowing right. The rest of the time ADHD is an absolute pest.

- Is there any group of people that looks after themselves LESS than ADHD Mums?

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On this episode of The ADHD Mums Podcast, Jane welcomes Lael Stone, an educator, TEDx speaker, author, and parenting counsellor, to discuss raising emotionally intelligent children in neurodiverse families. Lael's extensive background in working with families for over 20 years, especially in the realm of birth education, postnatal trauma counselling, and parenting education, makes her a valuable resource for this topic.

Jane and Lael dive into a conversation about the challenges parents face in maintaining emotional intelligence in neurodiverse families. Lael emphasises the importance of self-compassion, acknowledging the difficulties of parenting in today's stressful environment, and the need to release judgment and self-criticism. The discussion touches on permissive parenting and the struggle parents face in setting boundaries, especially in neurodiverse families where emotional regulation can be challenging. Lael advocates for building a tolerance for handling children's big feelings and the significance of modelling healthy ways to express and move emotions.

 Jane and Lael also explore the concept of self-care for parents, acknowledging the difficulty of finding time for oneself. Lael suggests embracing micro-moments of self-care throughout the day, involving children in these moments, and redefining self-care beyond traditional expectations. The conversation highlights the importance of creating supportive communities and breaking the myth of perfect parenting, aiming for a realistic and compassionate approach.

Check out more about Lael Stone here:

https://laelstone.com.au/

(I love her book!)

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Thousands of families are being blindsided by the latest NDIS cuts, with children losing essential support before new systems are in place. Parents are being told their child has “achieved their goals” - only to be left scrambling for therapy they still desperately need. If you’re feeling frustrated, exhausted, or just plain angry, you’re not alone.

In this episode, Nicole Rogerson joins me for a straight-talking, no-nonsense conversation about what’s happening, why it matters, and what we can do right now to fight for our children’s support.

Nicole is the founding director of Autism Awareness Australia, a trusted, independent source of information for our community since 2007. For over 18 years, she’s cut through misinformation, fought for real change, and helped families like ours navigate a system that too often leaves us behind.

She is one of Australia’s leading spokespersons for autism awareness and understanding. She has appeared on 60 Minutes, The 7.30 Report, Today, A Current Affair, Australian Story, and The Australian Women’s Weekly, using every platform possible to make sure our voices are heard.

But above all, Nicole’s an autism mum. Her eldest son, Jack, is the reason she does this work - and why she’s so committed to making sure we have the information and support we need.

📌 Learn more about Nicole and her work here: Autism Awareness Australia

If your family has been impacted by these cuts, submit your experience here:

👉 NDIS Changes Impact Form

Resources mentioned:

Autism Awareness Australia - email office@autismawareness.com.au 

Nicole Rogerson on ABC News 24 | National Autism Strategy

Autism Awareness Australia - In the media 

Email templates to local MP

ADHD Mums Facebook Group 

Jotform - https://form.jotform.com/242968415771871

Related Episodes:

The NDIS Shake-Up and National Autism Strategy: What Jane Really Thinks. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

Explaining ADHD to Your Child: Why It Matters (Part 1). Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

Episode

We tell ourselves we won’t do it again - won’t reach for that glass of wine after the kids go to bed, won’t fall into an hours-long scroll hole, won’t spend another $300 on a hyperfocus obsession we’ll drop in a month. And yet… here we are.

Our ADHD brains crave dopamine, and sometimes that means turning to habits that feel good in the moment but leave us stuck in a cycle. This episode isn’t about willpower or self-blame - it’s about understanding why ADHD makes these habits so sticky and what we can do to shift them for good.

In This Episode, We Cover:

• Why our ADHD brains chase instant gratification - and how to hack it
• How emotional regulation struggles fuel habits like binge eating, impulse spending, and avoidance
• The power of micro-delays, habit tracking, and reframing negative self-talk
• Simple dopamine-boosting alternatives that actually work 
• How to make impulsive habits harder to access - so we don’t have to rely on willpower

Resources mentioned:

• Mummy Needs More Than Wine
• ADHD Mums FB Group
• ADHD Planner and Personal Values Workbook

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

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Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

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MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

Topics Covered in This Episode: ADHD, unhealthy habits, breaking bad habits, ADHD and impulse control, ADHD and addiction, ADHD and dopamine, ADHD binge eating, ADHD emotional regulation, ADHD and overspending, ADHD hyperfocus, ADHD and alcohol, ADHD and social media, ADHD habit tracking, ADHD-friendly strategies, ADHD procrastination, ADHD and executive function, ADHD self-sabotage, ADHD and willpower, ADHD and instant gratification, ADHD coping mechanisms, ADHD and routines, ADHD-friendly self-care, ADHD burnout, ADHD mindfulness, ADHD and cognitive behavioural therapy, ADHD and stress management, ADHD brain rewiring, ADHD and lifestyle changes.

Mentioned in this episode:

ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD Mums

Simplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook....

On this episode of The ADHD Mums podcast, Jane shares her personal journey with ADHD and her commitment to offering valuable insights and support based on extensive research.

Jane delves into her own experiences with NDIS (National Disability Insurance Scheme) and the determination to provide assistance to others navigating similar challenges. Jane shares her experiences with her daughter, Gigi, and her developmental delays, along with the pivotal moment when specialised medical advice led to NDIS support.

Jane sheds light on various support avenues, including Centrelink options and early intervention programs for young children.

Jane also underscores the significance of early intervention for children, particularly those with developmental delays.

Jane stresses that a formal diagnosis isn't a prerequisite for accessing early intervention services through the NDIS, with NDIS now extending eligibility for early intervention services up to the age of nine.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to leave a rating on the streaming platform of your choice so that this podcast series is boosted in the charts, to help us reach more ADHD mums!

Episode Notes

Connecting with your local NDIS early intervention provider

https://www.ndis.gov.au/understanding/families-and-carers/early-childhood-approach-children-younger-9/connecting-early-childhood-partner

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Not sure how people can enjoy school holidays?

- Jane talks on the the hit of depression as she rode her bike to the park with her son after 3 + weeks with kids at home.

- The huge melt down her son had at kindy over a ripped painting

- Jane applies to NDIS for funding and goes through adding ADHD as a secondary diagnosis

- Jane talks on how she sees labelling as positive to get NDIS funding and awareness in your parenting even

if you don't communicate it to children.

- What do you do for Grandparents day with no grandparents for kids?

- Jane's experience of Vyvance and how it helps with her anxiety and rage

- Jane's loved Vyvance then lost it about 2 days in

- Jane's last family holiday Noosa and what a disaster that turned out to be.

- Jane didn't actually ask her husband to help with school holidays then was pissed off when he didn't

help out.

- Influenza hit the house and in the recovery phase the ADHD from not doing anything for weeks hit hard

- Jane reaches out and asks for some help, what do you do in your school holidays? What works?

Please if you have some tips send me a VM and I'll play it next episode or send me a DM.

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A LOT of listeners have been asking for a 'Day in a Life of an ADHD Mum' however I haven't had anyone keen as yet.

I've gone through a few days of my life to shine a light on inattention and how it presents in full families of inattention.

- Jane talks openly about her severe depression in her teenage years and how that has lead to her wanting to raise awareness

about what ADHD looks like in young girls, if they can get the right treatment and medication perhaps it will change the incidence

in suicide in teenage girls.

- Jane talks about a friend's inattention who under pressure couldn't find her keys in a very inopportune moment

- ADHD Mum's have not just a bad day, they have a series of unfortunate events every single day.

- Jane either has 150 tampons or none and then immediately loses the box she just bought.

- We only had eggs to eat and had no gas bottle for 4 days.

- One of my kids lost his hat for the colour run in under 12 hours (10 of those he was asleep).

- Mum guilt and school holidays.

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This episode of ADHD Mums features a deep, insightful conversation with the renowned Autistic and ADHD clinical psychologist, researcher, and advocate, Marie Camin.

Jane and Marie dive into a variety of topics including the importance of neurodiverse representation, the challenges of autistic burnout and ADHD, and the intricate dance of balancing motherhood with neurodivergent traits.

The discussion moves towards personal experiences with imposter syndrome and the journey to embracing an autism diagnosis. Marie emphasises the importance of diverse representation within the autistic community and the challenges of going public with her diagnosis. They discuss the controversial approach of Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA) and both Marie and Jane's passionate stance against it, favouring more affirming practices.

Marie recounts her early interests in psychology, struggles with undiagnosed neurodivergent traits, and significant challenges in school leading to autistic burnout. The episode covers the unique social dynamics for neurodivergent individuals, including in parenting and professional environments.

Jane and Marie discuss the often-overlooked experiences of neurodivergent mothers, including competing sensory and emotional needs between parent and child.

Marie wraps up with an empowering message about trusting one’s instincts and experiences, especially when navigating life as a neurodivergent individual.

Links & Resources

Marie Cannon's Professional Website: https://www.mariecamin.com/

- The AS Detect App for Early Autism Identification AS early detection app

- Conversation Piece Co-authored by Marie on Early Autism Identification https://www.latrobe.edu.au/news/articles/2022/opinion/discussing-autism-diagnosis-with-kids

Sarah Hendrickx channel on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwhwVRXUWw_gi8jjFAbcNxqiU39ajUVB_

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On this episode of The ADHD Mums Podcast, Jane welcomes Dr. Jacinta Thomson, a clinical psychologist with expertise in ADHD and autism, for a discussion on the intersection of these neurodivergences. Jacinta introduces the complexity of distinguishing between ADHD and autism, emphasising the unique challenges faced by individuals who may exhibit traits of both conditions. Jane and Jacinta delve into the outdated stereotypes associated with autism and how these perceptions can hinder accurate recognition.

Jacinta sheds light on the DSM criteria for autism, highlighting differences in relating to others, communication, and interacting with the environment, and advocates for a neuroaffirming approach, emphasising identity-first language to acknowledge that neurodivergent conditions are intrinsic parts of an individual's identity. The conversation touches on how neurodivergent brains process information, sensory sensitivities, and the need for routine.

The discussion takes a personal turn as Jane shares her experience with a friend's autism diagnosis and the nuances of social interactions. Jacinta explains the subtle ways ADHD and autism traits may manifest in social settings, exploring the challenges of non-verbal communication, understanding implied meanings, and navigating sensory overload. The conversation highlights the importance of recognising the individualised nature of these neurodivergences and tailoring support accordingly, fostering a deeper understanding of the complexities involved.

If you'd like to know more about Dr Jacinta Thomson check her out here: www.timetountangle.com.au/

Disclaimer from Dr Jacinta Thomson

It is crucial to note that the information shared in the following episode is for general educational and informational purposes only. The content presented here is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any condition, and may not fully capture the nuances of your experience. This conversation does not constitute medical or psychiatric advice and is not a therapeutic session. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for personalised guidance from your treating health practitioner.

If you or someone you know is seeking assistance or clarification regarding ADHD or Autism, we strongly encourage you to consult with a qualified healthcare professional who can provide tailored advice based on a thorough assessment of your specific circumstances.

In this episode, Jane interviews Nikki Johnson, an HR consultant and ADHD mum diagnosed at 45 years of age. Nikki shares her personal journey with ADHD, discussing the challenges of disclosing ADHD in the workplace, legal protections, and the potential risks and benefits.

Nikki explores her struggles with time management, impulsivity, RSD, and the impact of ADHD on her career and personal life. She shares about how important the environment of the workplace is regarding true inclusivity and the flexibility to accommodate the changes needed.

The conversation emphasises the importance of open communication, advocating for neurodiversity, and seeking support, aiming to provide understanding and guidance for other mothers facing similar challenges.

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EXTRA RESOURCES:

Still not sure if you have ADHD or Autism? Get access to my recommended self tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/self-tests/

Can I access the NDIS? Use this link to get a free guide to the NDIS to start you on your journey. https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/768431/114109386760128004/share

Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/

TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including lived experience recordings of attempted suicide. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.

We cover the harrowing reality of maternal suicide, which tragically accounts for up to 20% of maternal deaths in Australia. You’ll hear deeply personal stories from two women, who bravely share their experiences with postpartum depression and suicidal thoughts. These stories are not just for mothers but for anyone who supports or knows a mother who may be struggling in silence.

We explore:

• The overwhelming pressures of motherhood, especially for neurodivergent women.
• The silent struggles many mothers face, hidden behind smiles and societal expectations.
• How hormonal shifts, financial stress, lack of sleep, and relationship changes contribute to maternal depression.
• The importance of community, connection, and asking for help.
• How reaching out or recognising warning signs can prevent tragic outcomes.

Let’s be real—we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of suicidal thoughts in a friend or encourages a mother to go and seek help then this has been worth it. It’s not about me perfectly covering all aspects of suicide, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.

Related Episodes:

Mini Series: The Untold Struggles of Motherhood Series

• S1E45 The Untold Struggles of Motherhood Series (Part 1) - Anonymous Guest who gets real about what motherhood is for her and how little she enjoys it
• S1E64 The Untold Struggles of Motherhood Series (Part 2) - Kaitlyn Fawlkner 
• S2E11 The Untold Struggles of Motherhood Series (Part 3) - with Lucy Hollister

References:

Statistics

What does depression look like in Mums?

Support and Help Lines:

Here are some helplines and support services in Australia specifically for mothers struggling with suicidal thoughts or experiencing mental health challenges:

National Helplines for Suicidal Mothers:

Lifeline: Phone: 13 11 14 - Website: www.lifeline.org.au - Lifeline offers 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services for anyone in distress, including mothers experiencing suicidal thoughts.

Beyond Blue: Phone: 1300 22 4636 - Website: 

On this episode of The ADHD Mums Podcast, Jane is joined by Tania Waring, lawyer and advocate/care coordinator Mum of three neurodiverse boys. As they delve into the challenges faced by parents of neurodiverse children during school holidays. Tania, a mother of three boys, one with autism and ADHD, shares her journey and highlights the importance of celebrating small victories amidst the daily stress of school life. Jane and Tania cover the impact of neurodiverse children on family dynamics, addressing strains on marriages and mental health.

Tania provides hopeful insights based on her experiences, emphasising the positive impact of growth and maturity in neurodiverse children. The conversation also explores practical tips for holiday planning, collaborative problem-solving, and involving the child in discussions about potential challenges and solutions. Tania shares insights into traveling, accommodations, and planning activities, stressing the need for downtime and flexibility.

Tania encourages all mums to finding joy in moments amid the challenges as well as to plan with their child's needs in mind, which will help create a positive holiday experience for neurodiverse children, their siblings and parents.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to leave a rating on the streaming platform of your choice so that this podcast series is boosted in the charts, to help us reach more ADHD mums! 

Tania's other episodes are here:

Australian School System

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0os4ZsrjXEY9yTyWJqmf6M?si=DMkgSQWtTQO-Dc0KIWL-6g

Melt Downs

https://open.spotify.com/episode/7IdNqpCHo8IFLWAJ9axEFC?si=2f7BD7L0R1K-nF13zl8K4g

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On this episode of The ADHD Mums Podcast, Jane is joined by Lou Fitz, founder of the Anxiety Project. Lou speaks about the significance of understanding anxiety, especially for women and their daughters. Drawing on her 20-year battle with anxiety and a subsequent four-year struggle with depression, Lou advocates for a deeper self-awareness to build confidence and authenticity. Lou narrates her experience of wearing masks, presenting a facade of strength while crumbling on the inside. Lou's journey involved self-reflection, uncovering root causes, and confronting the societal stigma surrounding mental health.

The conversation delves into Lou's personal life, touching on her two boys and her recent diagnosis of ADHD. Lou candidly describes her struggles with focus, energy management, and the acceptance of her ADHD diagnosis, and reflects on how her ADHD diagnosis, received earlier this year, brought clarity and understanding to her life. Lou also speaks about how her prescribed medication brought about a transformative calmness, allowing her to be more productive and accomplish tasks without the constant noise of anxiety and distraction. 

Throughout the podcast, Lou and Jane discuss the challenges of seeking help, societal expectations, and the journey towards self-discovery. Lou's raw and relatable storytelling aims to inspire others to confront their own struggles and find the strength to overcome them.

The Anxiety Project

https://theanxietyproject.com.au/

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Jane interviews Millie Car from Millie Carr Books. Millie has ADHD, three neurodiverse children and is a primary school teacher in Melbourne.

Highlights

- Millie talks about proactively setting up the classroom for neurodiverse learning from day one, let's not wait for something to happen,

let's get ahead of it.

- This is great for diagnosed kids, pre-diagnosis kids or undetected kids by just NOT expecting all kids to act neurotypical.

- Can we cater to multiple diagnosis' with one approach ie. small changes in the classroom can make a big difference.

- Expectations on parents vs expectation on teachers.

- Home work expectations - can we all just do the bare minimum please?

- The changes to inclusion being implemented in Australia.

- Millie talks passionately about creating a culture of accepting all different students, how can we change the culture in schools?

- Teachers need time set aside for professional development for ADHD, ASD and neurodiversities. We can't expect them to just know.

- Jane calls for an overhaul of the education system (yet again).

- Millie discusses the teacher shortage and Jane discusses how it feels to be a parent where it feels the principal is always on the teacher's side.

- Jane loses her shit and gets on the high horse and regrets some of her wording about schooling system and the mental health crisis in our young

people.

- Primary vs secondary education and how inclusion works.

- Millie and Jane discuss how yelling at neurodiverse kids just doesn't work.

- Why have we moved forward with inclusion in the workforce but not in schools?

- Are we getting to a place now that we know the system isn't working but we don't know what to do differently?

- Millie gives advice on how she personally would pick a school for her child, what to look for, what to avoid.

- Millie and Jane discuss private vs public (controversial topics lol)

Check out Millie Carr's books on ADHD at https://milliecarrbooks.com/

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TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including domestic violence, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. It includes real-life accounts from survivors that may be distressing. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.

In this episode, I speak with Elyse Nauta, who has supported DV families across both metro and regional areas, and is a mum to a neurodivergent daughter. Elyse shares her professional knowledge from working in child protection for over 15 years to talk about the tough, often hidden reality of life after leaving an abusive relationship:

• Leaving Isn’t Always the End: Even after women find the courage to leave, some abusers still find ways to control from afar, especially through kids or by twisting legal systems in a tactic called systems abuse. Elyse helps us understand what that looks like in real life.
• The Power of a Good Support System: From Elyse’s experience, having just one trusted friend or family member to lean on can make a world of difference. We talk about why support can be the key to helping women rebuild their confidence and sense of security.
• Financial and Legal Hurdles: Family Court and co-parenting come with their own challenges, especially when the ex has more financial control. Elyse shares insights on why this can feel like an uphill battle for many women.
• Raising Boys with Better Tools: We dive into why teaching boys healthier ways to handle emotions matters. Elyse believes that showing them what positive relationships look like can help create a safer future for everyone.

Let’s be real: we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.

Important Links:

Dr. Billy Garvey - From Boyz II Men: Listen to Dr. Billy Garvey talk about the importance of guiding boys toward positive masculinity on The Imperfects Podcast: Billy Garvey - From Boyz II Men

Support and Help Lines:

If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of DV are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.

- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website

- Relationships Australia: Offers counselling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364 277...

TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including domestic violence, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. It includes real-life accounts from survivors that may be distressing. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.

In this Mini Series, we dive into the complexities of domestic violence, touching on how these often hidden forms of harm affect countless lives. While it’s impossible to cover everything, our goal is simple: to shed light on these critical issues, help those who may see themselves in these situations, and point toward where support is available.

Let’s be real: we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.

Important Links:

• Dr. Billy Garvey - From Boyz II Men: Listen to Dr. Billy Garvey talk about mental health and masculinity on The Imperfects Podcast: Billy Garvey - From Boyz II Men
• An Imperfect Chat About Men: Discussing the role of men in understanding and preventing violence: An Imperfect Chat About Men

Support and Help Lines:

If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of DV are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.

- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website

- Relationships Australia: Offers counselling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364 277

- Men’s Referral Service: Support for men using family violence, offering confidential counselling and resources. Call: 1300 766 491

- Family Relationship Advice Line: Offers information and support for family separation, parenting arrangements, and more. Call: 1800 050 321

- Women’s Health Centres: Specialised support for women affected by domestic violence, including counselling and medical services. Contact your local centre.

- In Immediate Danger: Call: Triple Zero (000)

Legal Protection Orders

If you need protection, apply for legal orders such as Apprehended Domestic Violence Orders...

Life feels like I've gotten on a one way rollercoaster to hell half the time and I can't get off. Where's the eject button?

All my life I've been either speeding on a highway or my car is still trapped in the garage. Where's

the balance?

Angie Nennie has ADHD, is a mother of two and a professional ADHD coach we discuss:

- Why is parenting so incredibly bloody boring but also so tiring?

- What ADHD Mum friendly activities you can do with your child and actually have a good time?

- If and how much our children are developmentally behind all the other children

- Are ADHD children just 'harder' than other peoples?

- The surge of diagnosis of ADHD in Mother's and Angie's view on why that is.

- The spoon theory

- Angie's personal experience with burnout and how she turned it around.

- How Angie shares the mental load with her husband.

- What strategies and tools we can use right now to try prevent burnout

If you'd like to work with Angie then please reach out to her here:

(Angie does a complimentary first session) and she is available for NDIS clients as

well as private.

https://angenennie.com.au

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Jane is joined by Tania Waring, a lawyer and advocate/care coordinator mum of three neurodiverse boys. Tania is very experienced in advocacy for her children to get what they need at school. Tania has also completed her honours in Psychology and is passionate about inclusive education and improving outcomes for children in the schooling system. Jane and Tania share personal experiences and highlight the need for more understanding and support from educators, as well as emphasising the importance of normalising these experiences and finding hope through the stories of others who have faced similar challenges. Tania also provides us with an insight into her passion of creating change within the school system to create a more inclusive environment and reduce the impact that schools have on children’s self-esteem. 

*This episode specialises more in the externalising presentation of ADHD/ASD - which is seen more in boys than girls, but can occur in both genders. Where these kids are seen as 'disruptive' or 'problems.' *

Episode Highlights:

Þ   Common challenges faced by families with children who have ADHD and autism

Þ   Pushing through the grief and adjustment required when realising that the school experience may be different from what was imagined

Þ   The lack of accommodations and understanding within the Australian school system

Þ   The detrimental effects of segregating children with learning differences and the perpetuation of negative attitudes towards differences

Þ   Highlighting the issue of gatekeeping and suspensions in schools, especially for children with ADHD and autism

Þ   The pressure and lack of resources on teachers, which can lead to reactive responses and neglecting certain students

Þ   A discussion around schools being focused on managing students rather than providing adequate support, and gathering evidence to justify suspensions and expulsions

Þ   Highlighting how change can occur when and where adults reflect on their actions and hold themselves accountable where appropriate within a child’s meltdown 

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In this episode Jane McFadden interviews Dr. Jacinta Thompson who is a clinical psychologist and has a PhD in clinical neuropsychology. Jacinta speaks about her own experience with misdiagnosis, where she was wrongly diagnosed with narcolepsy when really she had ADHD/ASD. We talk about what services/therapies we can receive in Australia through Medicare/NDIS and private health funds and what you CAN do to help yourself if you are not yet able to receive a diagnosis.

For more information or a session with Dr. Jacinta Thomson. Please go to www.timetountangle.com.au

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Whether it’s the start of a new school year or a mid-term reset, managing routines and transitions as an ADHD family can feel overwhelming. From chaotic mornings to emotional regulation challenges, this episode is packed with practical strategies to support your family anytime you're looking to create a smoother school experience.

This episode is here to help you:

• Reflect on what’s working and what needs adjusting.
• Simplify morning chaos with micro-routines and visual aids.
• Manage sensory sensitivities in uniforms, supplies, and environments.
• Build resilience and emotional strategies for kids and parents.

Resources mentioned:

• Episode - How ADHD medication revealed my autistic traits. Listen here on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.
• Episode - Raising Strong Children: How to Support Without Always Solving Their Problems. Listen here on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

Surviving School Pick-Up: A Guide for ADHD Mums: 75-page guide full of scripts, strategies, and practical tips to navigate school pick-up as a neurodivergent mum.

The Essential De-Stress Planner for Hyperactive Mums linked here.

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Jane interviews Shantelle Poynter (her most regular guest) on Holidaying with ADHD and ADHD kids.

This is a follow up interview from 'Self Hatred and ADHD' where Shantelle mentions at the end about

an upcoming holiday to Maryborough and that she would be holidaying differently this time.

Jane catches up with Shantelle after the holiday to see how it went.

Highlights:

- Why are holidays (with kids even more so) so hard?

- The impulsivity behind 'extending the break' by adding together public holidays

- What is the perfect amount of time to holiday?

- Creating an itinerary vs 'letting go'

- Medication juggle - Shantelle teaches Jane about a delivery system that changes her world

- Shantelle discusses how she left for the holiday differently, travelled differently and whether it worked.

- Shantelle 'let it go' in terms of food - how did that go - and being hangry impact on kids.

- Jane and Shantelle discuss quantity of time vs quality of time

- Jane discloses a terrible impulsive holiday decision she made - that is non refundable and now panics

at the thought of it.

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Domestic Violence is one of those topics that’s so much more complicated than it seems from the outside. This week, I sat down with Elyse Nauta for a second time, and as always, she brought incredible insight. Elyse has 15 years of experience in child protection, working everywhere from metro areas to remote regions like the Kimberleys. We explored the big question: why don’t women just leave? Spoiler: it’s not as simple as it sounds.

Key topics covered:

• The Complexity of Staying
• The Subtle Grip of Coercive Control
• The Cycle That Keeps Victims Hoping
• Understanding Why Perpetrators Act
• Barriers That Make Leaving So Hard
• How We Can Help

Elyse paints a vivid picture of what life can look like for women caught in these situations. Her insights remind us that understanding the ‘why’ behind someone staying in an abusive relationship is key to offering real support.

TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including child abuse, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.

Related Episodes

Coercive Control and Lived Experience Episode

Let’s be real - we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.

Statistics Referenced

Who are the Perpetrators? Why am I using the term men? The Australian data shows that 75% of domestic violence perpetrators are men: Perpetrator Statistics

Support and Help Lines

If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of DV are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.

- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website

- Relationships Australia: Offers counselling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364...

The ADHD MUMS podcast is a safe place where real people with real stories can discuss their struggles with ADHD, motherhood and life. In this episode Jane McFadden interviews Katie Underwood on whether the world is ready to accept that women and girls can have ADHD too. Katie discusses her misdiagnosis which took 36 years to be correctly diagnosed with ADHD and what strategies and tools she is using to thrive with ADHD four years on. Jane and Katie also discuss if life would have been different if she was correctly diagnosed earlier. 

**Trigger warning, suicide ideation is briefly mentioned in this episode**

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We tell ourselves it’s just one glass - we deserve it after a long day. But somehow, that glass turns into the easiest way to switch off. And if we’re honest, we’re not sure it’s working anymore.

ADHD mums aren’t drinking just for fun - we’re drinking to cope with the mental load, the overstimulation, the relentless pressure to do it all. And while a glass of wine might feel like a quick fix, it could actually be making everything harder.

This isn’t about guilt or never drinking again. It’s about understanding what’s really going on - so we can make choices that actually help, not just temporarily numb the chaos.

In this episode:

• Why ADHD mums are more likely to struggle with alcohol use
• The dopamine trap - why that first drink feels amazing but leaves you worse off
• Alcohol & anxiety - the connection no one talks about
• The role of perfectionism & stress in why we drink
• How to reset your brain (without feeling like you’re missing out)

If you’ve ever poured a drink and wondered, “Do I actually need this?” - this episode is for you.

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Topics Covered in This Episode: ADHD mums, alcohol and ADHD, mummy wine culture, ADHD and binge drinking, ADHD and addiction, ADHD and dopamine, ADHD and anxiety, ADHD burnout, ADHD overwhelm, coping strategies for ADHD mums, stress and ADHD, perfectionism and ADHD, ADHD and self-medication, ADHD mental health, ADHD and emotional regulation, alcohol and dopamine crash, ADHD executive dysfunction, ADHD and social anxiety, ADHD and impulsivity, ADHD mum life, neurodivergent mums and alcohol, alcohol and overstimulation, ADHD-friendly coping strategies, breaking drinking habits, ADHD mums mental load, ADHD and self-care, ADHD and substance use, ADHD women and drinking, ADHD and habit change, sober ADHD mum, reducing alcohol ADHD, ADHD-friendly relaxation techniques.

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On this episode The ADHD Mums Podcast, Jane delves into the intricate relationship between ADHD and binge eating alongside guest Denise Stojceski, who was diagnosed with ADHD at 42.

Denise openly shares her transformative journey, emphasising the significant impact of ADHD medication on her approach to food. From coping with emotional eating during COVID-19 lockdowns to reflecting on childhood sweet tooth habits, Denise sheds light on the emotional dimensions of ADHD and its connection to unhealthy cravings. 

Denise gives us an insight into her diagnostic path, sharing the immediate effects she felt from ADHD medication as well as navigating the emotional layers of a late ADHD diagnosis. As Denise shares her journey post-diagnosis, the conversation expands to encompass executive function challenges, ADHD symptoms, and coping strategies. Denise emphasises the positive impact of meal kit services like HelloFresh, simplifying the cooking process and reducing stress, especially when combined with medication. 

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